Image provided by: University of Oregon Libraries; Eugene, OR
About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (May 18, 2007)
MAY 18, 2007 justjout> Expiration Date Film discussion group fonning tor gay. bi and trans men Share your perspective regarding portrayals of sexual friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets monthly for minority men in current films. Monthly activities include 503 226-7079. ext 14, or Mike 503-331-1111.) team. Be part of the fun and fitness with this dynamic Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love group, (wwwamarondragons org.) group outings to see films. /Wmta«r(<i>venzw> ner / potluck dinners special and events. (David Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16 and older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon boat Portland Gay Men's Chorus is open to singers, gardens and gardening They exchange plants, seeds, The Forest Group outings aro cooperative adventures support members and volunteers. 1503-226-2588 wwwpdxgmc org.) advice and encouragement while having a good time. Calf for a copy of the newsletter and information about for women Participants are responsible for providing Portland Lesbian Choir is an informal, nonaudition upcoming events (Linda 503 909-2002) community chorus for women of all ages to sing, socialize and share songs, melodies and talents Directed by Ray Elliot, a talented and experienced Lesbians with Degrees is a social group that was started for degreed women, but no degree is necessary Just come and join the fun! Pool parties, Scrabble and leader. New members welcome to rehearsals at Ainsworth United Church of Chnst on an open more (Lam 503-233-3557 Join listserv at LesbianswDegrees subscribe@yahoogroups com.) enrollment through fall 2006. 16:30-8:30 pm Wednesday 2941 NE Ainsworth St 503-727-3306 portlandlesbianchoir@hotmail com. www plchoir org I Lulu's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self- . identifying women who are into S/M. Play parties are held on the second Saturday of the month Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a performance group (503-231 -3992 dykedadi@comcast.net . www lulus for queers and supportive friends of varying musical pervyplayhouse org) skill levels with annual fall and spring concerts. Subgroups include the Rose City Swing band and a marching band with flag corps. Come join us! 1503-790-2170 info@rcgfb org www.rcgfb.org.) Satori Men's Chorus welcomes new members of all their own equipment and choosing outings appropnate for their skill and fitness level All skill levels welcome (503-772-1860 imnoregon@comcast.net wwwgeo cities com/ncc 1127/forestpdx) Gay Men s Walking Group invites gay, bi and ques tioning men to stroll in various neighborhoods around Portland for fun, friendship and exercise. (10 am Saturday Tom 503 984-4549) Gay Women's Goff Group welcomes all levels of play ers (wwwturfgirir.com.) Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for equestri an Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that meets second and fourth Thursdays. (503-777-1376) activities in 503-654-3865 Pacific the (Denise Northwest kelrav@r 503 777-2339 Lynn drop com.) Night in Black Leather and The Leather Ouck Club Net Rippors is a gay men's indoor soccer team that's are the first and third Fnday of each month at Gail's Dirty Duck Tavern. (9 pm-midmght 439 NW Third Ave just starting up in Portland (bendoverbeckham@ gmail.com. wwwmyspace.com/netnppers) ages and races, regardless of sexual onentation or musi cal background, to join Wednesday rehearsals No audi 503-224-8446 orleatherfrat@yahoo.com.) tion necessary. 1503-299-4454 wwwsatonchorus.org.) Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organization for gay male natunsts/nudists. Social gathenng second at Ankeny Street Studio Classes for different dance Saturday of every month, (omenpdx@omenpdx.org. swing, tango, cha-cha, etc. Call for schedule (503-236-5129 out dancmg@yahoo.com home att Out Dancing teaches dancing for same-sex couples www omenpdx org) General Asian b Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a non profit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi Asian and Pacific Islanders. Activities include potlucks, recre PDX FTM is a social group for female-to-male trans styles start the first Friday of each month: country, OutKayaking Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak allies. (groups yahoo com/group/PDX FTM I group, explores the lakes, rivers and bays of northwest Oregon and southwest Washington (wwwoutkayak The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's ment to meet and connect with other API. IPO Box 12661, Portland, OR 97232. aplg_pdx@yahoo.com.) always welcome. 16 pm Come play cards and meet the gang New players 120 NW Third Ave Mike ing.org.) Portland b Gay Lesbian Community Bowling 503-641-7224) Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays at B/D/S/M club for self-identifled women with an empha Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice Hollywood Bowl Drop-ins welcome anytime. (3:30 pm 4030 NE Halsey St Mailing address Bad Giris is a social and educational leather and sis on safety and education. Workshops, discussions, group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reaches events and parties. Women of all orientations can out to Latinos and Latinas by organizing events and connect and ask questions during the Kinky Women's Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second Tuesday retreats and advocating HIV prevention. Meets every other Monday at Outside In. (6:30 pm. 1030 SW 13th \ 1503-972-2233 www.pdxbadgirls.net.) Ave. Hugo 503-997-8615 or Audencio 503-261-5463) Tubman Middle School. All skill levels welcome! Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social oppor Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pan tunities for gay men interested in recreational motor sexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish lifestyle (7:30-9:30 pm Monday. 2231 N Flint Ave pdxgay hoops@yahoo com ) cycle touring and promotes education on safe and legal machinery. 1503-281-4488 brmcprer@yahoo com.) organizations in the Northwest Regular social and edu cational opportunities, including KinkFest, Leather Ball Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned and Fall Vendors Fair, (www pdxleatheralliance org.) lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and interests. (Gary mfo@portlandfrontrunners org wwwportland Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both private and professional, in Washington, Oregon and Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday for in potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather lifestyle southern British Columbia. Dinner meetings PO Box 42034, Portland, OR 97242 503 722-0438 pdxbowl@comcast net www pdxbowl com.) Portland Gay Basketball Association practices at marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay, frontrunners org.) Portland area. 1503-701-7922. casflyers@yahoo.com. and keep abreast of leather happenings No dues, no Rosetown Ramblers, Portland's gay and lesbian www. geocities, com/casflyers.) formal organization, no officers or board, just leather socialization for the past 21 years. (360-896 6665 square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus levels. (PO Box 5352, Portland, OR 97228-5352 plm@direcway.com.) www rosetownramblers, com.) A Common Bond is a social support network for former or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are queer. (acbportland@webtv net.) Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to chat Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scuba Coqsure is a social group for people who were assigned about a chosen book or to attend selected events. (6:30 pm third Tuesday groups.yahoo.com/group/port- i divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and a female sex at birth but identify otherwise (female-to- male, genderqueer, drag king, etc ). First Sunday meet ings are open to partners and families of any configura tion. 1503-471-1515 groups yahoo com/group/coqsure ) Dungeon Men PDX hosts a men's S/M party every other month in a Portland dungeon. Masters and landlesbianbookclub) on in the area (PDXLesbianNetwork-subscribe@ yahoogroups com.) 503-788-8192 teamportlandtenms@yahoo com.) Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for FAG. PDX (Femme Affinity Group Portland) a radical mature gay men and those who appreciate them, coming together for social, educational and cultural promote femme visibility and combat femmephobia in the community at large. (wwwnotsorryorg/fagpdx.) 50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm 503-642-3360 or 503-288-1870 sutaytig@aol com.) (rubyredfhppers@yahoo.com. Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland All levels of play welcome. First time is free, sub novices always welcome 1503-281-2076 bighnboy@ of all genders, seeks to create solidarity among femmes, waters, www rubyredflippers org.) and movie nights and keeps you aware of what’s going aracnetcom.) activist and social group open to setf-identified femmes takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific Northwest Portland Lesbian Network organizes brewpub visits, golf events, hiking, kayaking, cycling. Scrabble games purposes (PO Box 5884, Portland, OR 97228. YOUTH Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) is the only international organization specif yahoo com www geocities, com/pdxprimetimers) ically supporting young people with sexual minority Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the Roxy. Ride your bike or just come meet the group. parents. (colage@lmfamily org www colage org ) wwwpdx-rrmc.com.) Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of every Rose City Discussion Club the largest open pansexuaL school community is valued and respected, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. alternative sexuality club in the Northwest, is open to all (12700 SW North Dakota St . Suite 180 *129, Tigard, OR 97223. 503-525-1177. glsen@glsenoregon org Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 and onentations, fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensual. Monthly meetings, workshops and newslet , older as well as their friends and loved ones, holds ter. (503-972-1869 rcdc@teleport.com. wwwrcdc org.) ' House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy b Aware) Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years and is a group of gay/bi/same-gender-loving men of color older building community through social and cultural between 16 and 25 who want to engage in activities, activities. (thesapphosocialclub@yahoocom.) socials and community events among their peers FTM Pacific NW OR b WA is a social and discussion group for female-to-male trans men (groups yahoo. com/group/FTMPacific NW) potlucks on the second Saturday of each month. (flataps@yahoo. com.) Gay Men Who Have Lost Their Partners meets at the West Cafe to provide an opportunity for conversation and socializing The death need not have occurred recently. (7:30 pm second Wednesday Jefferson St 503-701-9376.) 1201 SW Genealogy group forming Gather with other lesbian researchers to trace your family tree and tackle "back- wall" female ancestors, (famhistnw@aol.com.) Happy Ours Productions is a grassroots group dedicat ed to building the visibility, community participation and collective leadership of lesbian women of color through a wide variety of social, networking, consciousness- raising and action-onented activities, events and protects (www happyoursproductions com ) Social OUTings is a social group for all interested in Mondays of each month. Iwww.rosecourt org ) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can’t Soyboys Vegetarian Man s Group is a fun, social gath exchange services that include those who inject hormones. Provide transitional housing for youth 20 Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chapter of the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club, meets monthly at Elmer's, sponsors riding clinics and takes day trips. (7:15 pm second Thursday 9848 N Whitaker Road www womenofthenvers org ) Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the old est gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-raising organ ization in the state of Oregon Meetings are the first two (Kourtni 503-417-7991 wwwbrotobropdxorg) qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle vegetanan or vegan lifestyle. A variety of activities and monthly potlucks on the last Saturday (veggieguys@ aol.com.) Physical Recreation and younger and for those HIV-positive and younger than 23 Need volunteers of all ages (10 am 6 pm Monday-Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503-535-3800 www outsidein org.) Pride Project brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information, referral and advocacy services in Washington County. (Austin 503-260-5792. austm@pridepro/ect org) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Drop- Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out Weekly trans, leadership and art Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews and year round, including hiking, walking, cross country and downhill skiing, rafting and mountain biking. (PO Box 2201, Portland. OR 97208-2201 support group meetings (4-9 pm Wednesday, 4-11 pm Friday. 2100 SE Belmont St 503 872 9664 their spouses, partners, significant others and good www adventuregroup org) www.smyrc.org.) Jewish Gay Men's Group - please call for meeting time and place 1503-246-5939 efraimlevi@aol.com.) Just Out s publ shed on the first and thud Friday of every month The deadl submissions is 14 days prior to publication OutReach 1 stings of up to 50 words are prov (led fret (• charge to orgamzat ons and groups specifically serving the sexual minorities community All listings are subject to editing and inclusion is subject to spare limitations relevance and receipt by deadline Listings expire once a year (in July) and submissions run from ll»e date received until the next scheduled expiration date Listings ate automatically deleted upon Ms. Behavior BY MERYL COHN You should always believe the subtle or not-so-subtle warnings that people offer about themselves, often even on a first date. If someone says, “I’m bad with money" or “When I get drunk I wear my panties on my head and pick fights" or “After six months of dating, I usually need to fuck someone new,” it’s not a good idea to think, “The power of my love will help her to rise above that itty bitty issue." It’s better to ask yourself, “Could I live with this problem, or will it make me lie on the fkxsr in a snotty puddle and cry?” Not wanting to have children with you isn’t a personal problem like the others, but it’s a clear indication that Sheila doesn’t think that you and she are suitable life partners. Perhaps she doesn’t feel chemistry or can’t imagine waking up together 50,000 days in a row. But be honest with yourself: Is there anything concrete and specific about you that makes you a bad parenting prospect? For example, if you refuse to get a job or wear a seat belt or if you’re a crack whore, it’s easy to see why Sheila doesn’t regard you as a good co-parent. But if you’re a fully functioning adult and a loving partner but just not right for Sheila, you need to find a way to accept that fact. (News flash: A success ful relationship requires that both members believe the relationship can work and that both are willing and able to nurture it.) If Sheila isn’t in love with you, it doesn’t mean that you’re not lovable or that you wouldn’t make a gixxl mother. But it does mean that your relationship has an expira tion date and that you should probably move along rather than wait for it to sour. D ear M s . B ehavior : Jack, my hoyfriend of the past six years, has had problems with drinking and drugs. I’ve sent him to rehab twice, and he was actually sober for two years. He started drinking again a few weeks ago. I’m filled with dread because I’ve already cleaned up more than my share of vomit and have hailed him out of jail a couple of times. Jack confessed that he also went out on a crystal meth binge last month and slept with a hustler while I was out of town. Now he promises he’s cleaning up again. My friends think 1 should dump him, but! still love him. Should I stick around or bail out? —Gerry www. glsenoregon org) meeting people and doing activities other than bar hopping. (kyleinportland@yahoo. com) enng for gay and bi men who are interested in a healthy I moved in with my partner, Sheila, a few months ago. I’m 35 and Sheila is 38; we both want children. The problem is that Sheila told me early on that she loves me but doesn’t see me as someone she’d want to have kids with. I thought Sheila would change her mind, but so far she hasn’t. This puts me in a strange position, because when I’m really honest with myself, it seems that maybe the relationship has no future. On the other hand, I keep hoping for a happy ending, which depends on Sheila changing her mind. What do you think I should do? —Scaredy Cat sequent times are $7. Please join us! (8 am noon 503-286-4613 or 360-693-5506 pdxprimetimers@ Everyone welcome (10 am Sunday 1121 SW Stark St D ear M s . B ehavior : D ear S caredy C at : net/-outdancing) men and their significant others, friends, families and ational outings and cultural events. Friendly environ Ms. Behavior advises readers stuck in doomed relationships expiration To ensure uninterrupted listing, please submit updated information at least a month prior to the expirat on date Complete listings are available online at www justout com Send listings to Just Out lattu Calendar) PO Box 14400 Portland. OR 9 7293 0400. Fax submissions to 503 236 1257 or email justout justout com Submissions cannot he accepted over tire phone Please type your announcements and include full contact information. D ear G erry : First, it’s time to drag your own sorry butt to Al-Anon. Meetings are geared toward supporting the loved ones of alcoholics and addicts. Second, think about your relationship five years from now: What if each time you think things are going well, it unfurls into a similarly horrible mess, where you can’t count on anything hut the chaos? There’s nothing wrong with wishing or hoping for your boyfriend to change—and mayhe, with the support of Al-Anon, you’ll learn ways that you can support Jack without enabling him—but you also need to recognize the possibility that he might bounce from one crisis to the next, perhaps with periods of sobriety in between. That kind of relationship actually works for some people. Mayhe Jack needs to feel like a screw-up and you need to clean the rugs a lot to feel useful. Can you live with that? If you can, fine; perhaps you have a strong constitution. Perhaps you don’t mind wiping up vomit or getting to know the cops at the local slammer. If you truly feel that you have the patience and endurance to manage repeat ed crises as they arise, then feel free to ignore your friends’ advice. But if your ability to tolerate the relationship now is based on the expectation that Jack will change, or if you secretly believe your life is meant to be glamorous, you might end up feeling resentful, disappointed and tired after a while. It won’t be pretty. © M f .RYL C ohn is the author of Do What 1 Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavun@aol.com. ♦
