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41 _________ ___ _____________________________________________ OCTOBER 6, 2006 COMPLETE SPIRITUALITY AND NONMETRO LISTINGS AVAILABLE ONLINE AT WWW.JUSTOUT.COM Portland Lesbian Choir is a nonaudition community Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures choir open to all that emphasizes musical excellence gardens and gardening. They exchange plants, seeds, for women Participants are responsible for providing and fun. If you like to sing, make new friends and learn their own equipment and choosing outings appropri about music, this is the spot for you! Rehearsals start advice and encouragement while having a good time. Call for a copy of the newsletter and information about Oct. 4 at Ainsworth United Church of Christ. (6:30 pm upcoming events. (Linda 503-909-2002.) welcome (503-772-1860 imnoregon@comcast net Wednesday 2941 NE Ainsworth St. 503-727-3306. Lesbians with Degrees is a social group for intellec portlandlesbianchoir@hotmail. com www plchoir org) All skill levels ate for their skill and fitness level www geocities com/ncc 1127/forestpdx) tual women and those who want to meet them. (Lam Gay Men s Walking Group invites gay, bi and ques Rosa City Gay Freedom Band is a performance group 503-233-3557. Join listserv at LesbianswOegrees- tioning men to stroll in various neighborhoods around for queers and supportive friends of varying musical subscribe@yahoogroups. com.) Portland for fun, friendship and exercise. (7 pm skill levels with annual fall and spring concerts. Lulu’s Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self- Subgroups include the Rose City Swing band and a marching band with flag corps. Come join identifymg women who are into S/M. Play parties are us! on held (503-790-2170. info@rcgfb.org. wwwrcgfb org.) the Saturday second of the month. (503-231-3992. dykedadi@comcast net www lulus Satori Men's Chorus welcomes new members of all pervyplayhouse org.) ages and races, regardless of sexual orientation or meets second and fourth Thursdays (503-777-1376.) No audition necessary. (503-2^9-4454 www.satori chorus.org.) Asian b Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a nonprofit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi Asian Pacific and Islanders. include Activities Gay Women's Golf Group welcomes all levels of players, (www.turfgirlz com.) Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for equestrian in the (Denise Northwest. Pacific 503-654-3865 Lynn 503-777-2339 kelrav@rdrop com.) Net Rippers is a gay men s indoor soccer team that’s Monamorous bi group forming for women in their just starting up in Portland 40s who are single and professionally employed gmail com www. myspace. cominetrippers) (monogirls06@yahoo. com) General (bendoverbeckham@ Out Dancing teaches dancing for same-sex couples Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club at Ankeny Street Studio. Classes for different dance are the first and third Friday of each month at Gail's styles start the first Friday of each month country, Dirty Duck Tavern. (9 pm-midmght 439 NW Third Ave swing, 503-224-8446 orleatherfrat@yahoo com. I (503-236-5129 cha-cha, tango, etc. Call for schedule out dancmg@yahoo com home att. net/—outdancing) potlucks, recreational outings and cultural events. Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organization Friendly environment to meet and connect with other for gay male naturists^nudists Social gathenng second OutKayaking, Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak Saturday of every month. (omenpdx@omenpdx org group, www omenpdx.org.) northwest API. (PO Box 12661, Portland. 97232 OR aplg _pdx@yahoo.com.) explores the Oregon rivers and lakes, and bays of Washington. southwest (www. outkayakmg org.) Bad Girls is a social and educational leather and PDX FTM is a social group for female to-male trans B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an men and their significant others, friends, families and Portland emphasis on safety and education Workshops, dis allies (groups yahoo com/group/POXFTM.) Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays at cussions, events and parties. Women of all orienta PDX tions can connect and ask questions during the Kinky Women's Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social 120 NW Third Ave Mike always welcome. (6 pm 503-641-7224.) yahoo.com.) Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both geocities com/casflyers.) (games groups Come play cards and meet the gang. New players brmcprez@ southern British Columbia Dinner meetings in Portland intelligent interesting, The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's. motorcycle touring and promotes education on safe area. (503-701-7922 casflyers@yahoo.com. www invite yahoo com/group/PdxLesboNerds I opportunities for gay men interested in recreational private and professional, in Washington, Oregon and Nerds games like Scrabble and Spades Tuesday. (503-972-2233. www.pdxbadgirls net.) and legal machinery. (503-281-4488 Lesbo women 35 and older to socialize while playing board , group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reach es out to Latinos and Latinas by organizing events and retreats and advocating HIV prevention. Meets every other Monday at Outside In (6:30 pm 1030 SW 13th Ave. Hugo 503 997-8615 orAudencio 503 261 5463.) A Common Bond is a social support network for former or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are queer, (acbportland@webtv.net.) Portland Leather Alliance isone of the largest pansex ual, nonprofit B/D/S/M. leather and fetish lifestyle organizations in the Northwest. Regular social and edu Bowl Hollywood (3:30 pm b Gay Lesbian Community Drop ms welcome 4030 NE Halsey St Bowling anytime. Mailing address: PO Box 42034, Portland. OR 97242 503-722 0438 pdxbowl@comcast. net www pdxbowl com.) Portland Gay Basketball Association practices at Tubman Middle School. All skill levels welcome! (7:30-9:30 pm Monday. 2231 N Flint Ave pdxgay hoops@yahoo.com.) Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay, les (Gary info@portlandfrontrunners org wwwportland frontrunners org.) Rosetown Ramblers Portland's gay and lesbian square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus levels (PO Box 5352, Portland. OR 97228 5352 www rosetownramblers com.) Coqsure is a social group for people who were cational opportunities, including KinkFest, Leather Ball Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scuba and Fall Vendors Fair (wwwpdxleatherallianceorg.) divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and (female-to-male, genderqueer, drag king, etc ). First any configuration. (503-471-1515 groups yahoo corn! group/coqsure) Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday for potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather lifestyle and keep abreast of leather happenings. No dues, no formal organization, no officers or board, just Dungeon Men PDX hosts a men's S/M party every leather other month in a Portland dungeon. Masters and (360-896-6665 plm@direcwaycom) novices always welcome. (503-281-2076. bighnboy@ aracnet.com.) for socialization the past 21 years. takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific Northwest waters. (rubyredflippers@yahoocom. www rubyredflippers org. I Team Oregon the umbrella sports group coordinating efforts for the Outgames and Gay Games, holds monthly meetings for those wanting to participate. Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to chat (503-736-3292 www teamoregon2006 org) about a chosen book or to attend selected events Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland F.A.G. PDX (Femme Affinity Group Portland), a (6:30 pm third Tuesday All levels of play welcome First time is free, subse radical activist and social group open to sett-identified portlandlesbianbookclub.) femmes of all genders, seeks to create solidarity among femmes, promote femme visibility and combat femmephobia in the community at large, (www not sorry, org/fagpdx) groups yahoo com/group/ quent times are $7. Please join us! (8 am-noon Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for 503- 788-8192 teamportlandtenms@yahoo. com) mature gay men and those who appreciate them, com mg together for social, educational and cultural purpos YOUTH es. (PO Box 5884, Portland, OR 97228 503 286 4613 50-1- lesbian social group for women meets on the third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm 503-642-3360 or 360-693-5506. pdxprimetimers@yahoo com Children www geocities com/pdxpnmetimers) of Lesbians and Everywhere Gays (COLAGE) is the only international organization specif or 503 286-3575 ) FTM Pacific NW OR b WA is a social and discussion Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the ically supporting young people with sexual minority Roxy. Ride your bike or just come meet the group parents (colage@lmfamilyorg. www colage org.) group for female-to-male trans men. (groups.yahoo Everyone welcome. (10 am Sunday. 1121 SW Stark com/group/FTMPacificNW) St www.pdx-rrmc.com.) Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 and Rose older as well as their friends and loved ones, holds pansexual/alternative sexuality club in the Northwest, ■ of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. potlucks on the second Saturday of each month is open to all orientations, fetishes and lifestyles that (12700 SW North Dakota St , Suite 180 ft 129. Tigard, (flataps@yahoo. com.) are safe, sane and consensual. Monthly meetings, OR 97223. 503-525-1177. glsen@glsenoregon org Gay. Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of every Gay Men's Garden Club meets at a different garden every month to enjoy the diversity of plant materials City workshops Discussion and Club, the newsletter. largest open (503-972-1869 school community is valued and respected, regardless www. glsenoregon org) rcdc @teleport. com. www. rcdc. org) House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy b Aware) that Portland offers the avid gardener Meet others, Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years is a group of gay/bi/same gender loving men of color share ideas, trade plants, show off your garden, and and older building community through social and cut between 16 and 25 who want to engage in activities, have some fun outdoors! (11 am-1 pm first Sunday. tural activities. (thesapphosocialclub@yahoo com) socials and community events among their peers Soyboys Vegetarian Men's Group is a fun, social (Kourtm 503-417-7991 wwwbrotobropdx org.) 503-347-5477 rogermosser@comcast.net.) Genealogy group forming. Gather with other lesbian gathering for gay and bi men who are interested in a Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can’t researchers to trace your family tree and tackle "bnck healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle. A variety of qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle activities and monthly potlucks on the last Saturday. exchange services that include those who m|ect hor (veggieguys@aol com) mones. Provide transitional housing for youth 20 and est gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/lund-raismg organ Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chapter younger and for those HIV-positive and younger than ization in the state of Oregon Meetings are the first of the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club, meets two Mondays of each month, (wwwrosecourt org.) monthly at Elmer's, sponsors riding clinics and takes wall" female ancestors, (famhistnw@aol.com.) Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the old Jewish Gay Men's Group please call for meeting time and place. (503-246-5939 efraimlevi@aolcom.) day trips (7:15 pm second Thursday 9848 N Whitaker Road www hevanet com/chama/wow ) 23 Need volunteers of all ages (10 am 6 pm Monday Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503 535-3800 www. outsidein org) Pride Project brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews Physical Recreation monthly social events Also information, referral and and their spouses, partners, significant others and good friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets month Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities year 503-260-5792. austm@pndeproiect.org) ly for potluck dinners and special events round, including hiking, walking, cross country and (David 503-226-7079, ext 14, or Mike 503-331-1111) Lesbians Enjoying Nature and Science (LENS) is a fun-loving group of women who en|oy exploring all downhill skiing, rafting and mountain biking. IPO Box 2201, Portland, OR 97208-2201. www adventure group org) advocacy services in Washington County. (Austin My ex Alexia and 1 are still friends. I’ve moved on to a new happy relationship with Rena. I still visit Alexia every summer, when Rena goes on her own personal retreat and spends time with her guru. The problem is that during my visits, Alexia tends to act very intimate with me: She wants to watch movies in her waterbed because she says it’s more comfortable. It’s not like she’s putting any moves on me; besides, the bed is chock full of her cats (seven of them), so it’s pretty platonic. Still, she asks me to rub her feet or her back, and sometimes she rubs mine. 1 sometimes feel weird about this, like I’m cheating on Rena, even though I have absolutely no sexual interest in Alexia anymore. At least 1 don’t think so. Well, maybe a little, but I’m conflicted about it and guarding against it and would never act on it. Should 1 feel guilty about this? The whole thing kind of creeps me out, and I am thinking about canceling my trip this year. Do you think I’m overreacting? —Uncomfortable Houseguest D ear U ncomfortable H ouseguest : Yikes! You inhale dander from multiple felines and receive back rubs from a touchy-feely ex on a waterbed while your girlfriend frolics in the woods with her guru. Sounds like a scary right-wing depiction of a squalid lesbian existence. And yet you keep going back for more, which begs the question: Which part of this annual date do you like? Perhaps it’s the arousal that you claim not to expe rience, at least not too much? Might you actually enjoy spending time with your ex, were it not in her fur-laden, seasickness-inspiring crib? Perhaps you’re not thinking out of Alexia's box. 1 fere are a couple of alternatives you might consider, before canceling your visit or submitting to Alexia's feelfest: 1) Visit Alexia but refuse to lie down with her and her bevy of pussies. Hang out in her kitchen instead, where she’s no doubt growing sprouts and composting smelly vegetable skins, but where there’s less risk of an unwanted grope. 2) Watch movies in Alexia’s waterbed, but only after loudly announcing that you have absolutely no interest in getting jiggy with her. Sustain your boundaries by refusing to rub her various parts, even if she begs you or shoves her toes into your lap. In either case, you’ll need to tell her that your body is your temple and that she has to find another place of worship. It doesn’t sound like you have reason to feel guilty, unless you succumb to the lovefest with your ex that you claim can’t happen, based on your lack of attrac tion to her. Sort of. Your uncertainty about this could be a landmine, as you prob ably know (deep inside). If you do happen to find yourself going the other way and watching movies in the catbed while eating snacks, drinking cosmopolitans and rubbing scented oil into Alexia’s breasts, you should begin to consider what might be missing in your relationship with Rena, and why you need a diversion to feel fulfilled. D ear M s . B ehavior : Jim’s new teddy bear is living with him for free in his apartment. At a party recently, the little cub was mouthing off that he didn’t like living with Jim because Jim was messy and not focused enough on his own life. Jim is our best friend. We know how great he is and what a catçh. Should we tell Jim that his little bear has a big stupid mouth and is talking out of turn? Or should we warn the cub to shut up and know how good he has it with Jim? —Papa Bear Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Drop- in computer access, pool tables and an informal aspects of the environment. Activities include bird Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16 place to hang out. Weekly trans, leadership and art watching, nature walks, archaeology, camping, kayak and older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon support mg, star gazing and an occasional "lecture." No expe boat team Be part of the fun and fitness with this 4 11 pm Friday 2100 SE Belmont St 503-872 9664 rience necessary. 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Let your best friend figure out on his own that his cub lacks a certain verbal loyalty. Meanwhile, try tending to your own den, unless you’re in the mood to be clawed by both Jim and his nasty little cub. That’s just the law of nature. G MERYL C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author Send questions or correspondence to msbehavior^aol.com.
