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JANUARY 20. 2006 Complete spirituality and nonmetro listings available online at www.justout.com General Asian b Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a nonprofit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi Asian and Pacific Islanders. Activities include potlucks, recreational outings and cultural events. Friendly environment to meet and con nect with other API. IPO Box 12661, Portland, OR 97232 aplg j)dx@yahoo.com.) Bad Girts is a social and educational leather and B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an emphasis on safety and education. Woikshops, discussions, events and parties. Women of all orientations can connect and ask questions dur ing the Kinky Women's Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second Tuesday. 1503-972-2233. www. pdxbadgirls. net.) Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both private and professional, in Washington, Oregon and southern British Columbia. Dinner meetings in Portland area. 1503 701-7922 casfly ers@yahoo. com. www.geocities com/casflyers.) A Common Bond is a social support network for former or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are queer, (acbportland@webtv.net.) Coqsure is a social group for people who were assigned a female sex at birth but identify other wise (female-to-male, genderqueer, drag king, etc.). First Sunday meetings are open to partners and families of any configuration. 1503-471-1515. groups.yahoo.com/group/coqsure.) 50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm. 503-642-3360 or 503-286-3575.) Fem2fem social group forming for feminine singles between 30 and 50. (fem2fempdx@yahoo.com.) FTM Pacific NW OR b WA is a social and dis cussion group for female-to-male trans men. (groups, yahoo. com/group/FTM PacificNW.) Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 and older as well as their friends and loved ones, holds potlucks on the second Saturday of each month. (503-639-7488 flataps@yahoo.com.) Genealogy group forming. Gather with other lesbian researchers to trace your family tree and tackle "backwall" female ancestors. (famhistnw@aol. com.) Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the oldest gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund- raising organization in the state of Oregon. Meetings are the first two Mondays of each month, (www.rosecourt.org.) Jewish Gay Men's Group— please call for meeting time and place. (503-246-5939. efraimlevi@aol. com.) Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews and their spouses, partners, significant others and good friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets monthly for potluck dinners and special events. (David 503-226-7079, ext 14, or Mike 503-331-1111.) Leather Night and Red Hanky Social are the first and third Friday of each month at Gail's Dirty Duck Tavern. (9 pm-midnight. 439 NW Third Ave. 503-224-8446. earl@leathercigarboy. com.) Lesbians Enjoying Nature and Science (LENS) is a fun-loving group of women who enjoy explor ing all aspects of the environment. Activities include bird watching, nature walks, archaeology, camping, kayaking, star gazing and an occasion al "lecture." No experience necessary. (6:45-8:30 pm second Thursday planning meeting Laurie 503-977-2903 lensnews@yahoo.com.) Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love gardens and gardening. They exchange plants, seeds, advice and encouragement while having a good time. Call for a copy of the newsletter and information about upcoming events. (Linda 503-909-2002) Lesbians with Degrees is a social group for intellectual women and those who want to meet them. (Lant 503-233-3557 Join listserv at LesbianswOegreessubscnbe@yahoogroupscom.) Lulu’s Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self-identifying women who are into S/M. Play parties are held on the second Saturday of the month. (503-231-3992. dykedadi@comcast.net www luluspervyplayhouse. org) Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that meets second and fourth Thursdays. (503-777-1376.) Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organization for gay male natunsts/nudists Social gathering second Saturday of every month. (omenpdx@omenpdx. org. www omenpdx org.) POX FTM is a social group for female-to-male trans men and their significant others, friends, families and allies, (groups yahoo com/group/PDX FTM) PDX Lesbo Nerds invite interesting, intelligent women 35 and older to socialize while playing board games like Scrabble and Spades (games groups yahoo com/group/PdxLesboNerds) The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's. Come play cards and meet the gang New players always welcome. (6 pm. 120 NW Third Ave Mike 503-641-7224.) Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reaches out to Latinos and Latinas by organ izing events and retreats and advocating HIV pre vention. Meets every other Monday at Outside In. (6:30 pm. 1030 SW 13th Ave Hugo 503-997-8615 orAudencio 503-261-5463.) come anytime. (3:30 pm 4030 NE Halsey St. Mailing address: PO Box 42034, Portland, OR 97242. 503-722-0438 pdxbowl@comcast net. www.pdxbowl. com.) Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay, lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and interests. (Gary mfo@portlandfrontrunners org www. portlandfrontrunners org) Portland Bisexual Women is a discussion, social and support group for bi and questioning women (503-347-5817 portlandbtwomen@comcast net www.portlandbiwomen. freeservers com.) Rosetown Ramblers, Portland's gay and lesbian square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus levels. (PO Box 5352, Portland, OR 97228-5352 www. rosetownramblers, com.) Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pansexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish lifestyle organizations in the Northwest. Regular social and educational opportunities, including KinkFest, Leather Ball, kind auctions and Fall Vendors Fair, (www.pdxleatheralhance.org.) Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scuba divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific Northwest waters, (rubyredflip pers@yahoo com. www rubyredflippers org.) Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday for potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather lifestyle and keep abreast of leather happenings. No dues, no formal organ ization, no officers or board, just leather social ization for the past 21 years. (360-896-6665 plm@direcway. com.) Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for mature gay men and those who appreciate them, coming together for social, educational and cultural purposes. (PO Box 5884, Portland, OR 97228 503-286-4613 or 360-693-5506 pdxprimetimers@yahoo. com. www. geocities com/pdxprimetimers.) Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the Roxy. Ride your bike or just come meet the group. Everyone welcome. (10 am Sunday. 1121 SW Stark St. www.pdx-rrmc.com.) Rose City Discussion Chib, the largest open pan sexual/altemative sexuality club in the Northwest, is open to all orientations, fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensual. Monthly meet ings, workshops and newsletter. (503-972-1869 rcdc@teleport.com. www.rcdc.org.) Soyboys Vegetarian Men s Group is a fun, social gathering for gay and bi men who are inter ested in a healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle. A variety of activities and monthly potlucks on the last Friday, (veggieguys@aol.com.) Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chapter of the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club, meets monthly at Elmer's, sponsors rid ing clinics and takes day trips. (7:15 pm second Thursday. 9848 N Whitaker Road www. hevanet. com/chama/wow.) Physical Recreation Adventure Group organizes a variety of activi ties year round, including hiking, walking, cross country and downhill skiing, rafting and moun tain biking. (PO Box 2201, Portland, OR 97208-2201 www adventuregroup. org.) Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16 and older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon boat team. Be part of the fun and fitness with this dynamic group. (www. amazondragons, org.) The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures for women. Participants are respon sible for providing their own equipment and choosing outings appropriate for their skill and fitness level. All skill levels welcome. (Dawn and Tami 503 659 2782 nccl 127@yahoo com. www. geocities com/ncc 112 7/forestpdx.) The Gay Women's Golf Group welcomes all levels of players, (turfgirlz@yahoogroups.com.) Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for equestrian activities in the Pacific Northwest. (Denise 503-654-3865 Lynn 503-777-2339 kel- rav@rdrop.com.) National Gay Basketball League is forming a chapter in Portland to represent Oregon in the 2006 Gay Games, (www.ngba us/portland/pdx.htm.) Out Dancing teaches dancing for same-sex cou ples at Ankeny Street Studio. Classes for different dance styles start the first Friday of each month: country, swing, tango, cha-cha, etc. Call for sched ule. (503-236-5129 out dancmg@yahoo.com. home att. net/—outdancing.) OutKayaking. Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak group, explores the lakes, rivers and bays of Northwest Oregon and Southwest Washington. (wwwoutkayakmg org.) Pacific Coast Boating Club provides opportuni ties for gay and lesbian boaters to come togeth er for fun on local rivers and promotes safe boat ing. (paccoastboatclub@comcast.net.) Portland Avalanche rugby team is always seeking new players for practices Mondays and Wednesdays Aug 29 Nov. 12 at East Delta Park (6:30-8:30 pm 10737 N Union Court. 503-715-3122 wwwavalancherugby org) Portland Gay b Lesbian Community Bowling Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays at Hollywood Bowl Drop-ins wel Team Oregon, the umbrella sports group coordi nating efforts for Outgames 2006 in Montreal and Gay Games 2006 in Chicago, holds monthly meetings for those wanting to participate. (503-736-3292 www teamoregon2006. org.) Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland. All levels of play welcome. First time is free, subsequent times are $7. Please join us! (8 am-noon. 503-788-8192 teamportiandtennis@yahoo com.) YOUTH Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) is the only international organization specifically supporting young people with sexu al minority parents, (colage@lmfamily.org. www.colage.org.) Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of every school community is valued and respected, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. (12700 SW North Dakota St., Suite 180 If 129, Tigard, OR 97223 503-525-1177. glsen@glsenoregon org. www. glsenoregon. org.) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hormones. Provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger and for those HIV-positive and younger than 23. Need volunteers of all ages. (10 am-6 pm Monday- Friday. 1132 SW 13th Ave 503 535-3800 www. outsidein. org.) Pride Project brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also infor mation, referral and advocacy services in Washington County. (Austin 503-260-5792. austin@prideproject org) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger. Drop in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Weekly trans, leadership and art support group meet ings. (4-9 pm Wednesday, 4-11 pm Friday. 2100 SE Belmont St. 503 872-9664 www.smyrc.org.) just out is published on the first and third Friday of every month. The deadline for submissions is 14 days prior to publication. outreach listings of up to 50 words are provided free of charge to organization^ and groups specifically serving the sexual minorities community All listings are subject to editing, and inclusion is subject to space limitations, relevance and receipt by deadline Listings expire once a year (in July), and submissions rum from the date received until the next scheduled expiration date. Listings are automatically deleted upon expiration. To ensure uninterrupted listing, please submit updated information at least a month prior to the expiration date. Complete listings are available online at www.justout.com. Send listings to: Just Out (attn: Calendar), PO. Box 14400, Portland, OR 97293-0400 Fax submissions to 503-236-1257 or e-mail iustout@justout.com. Submissions cannot be accepted over thé phone Please type your announcements and include full contact information. JUStOUt 33 Hung Up Patiently Waiting needs to build a bridge and get over his ex D ear M s . B ehavior : My ex and I were together for two years. We had our share of problems and finally split up two years ago. Since about a week after we broke up, he has been with his current partner. For about a year, my ex and 1 have become friends and work at the same company. From the sounds of it, he and his current partner are on the edge of breaking up, or at least that is how it looked a month ago. I know, because he told me. At that point 1 confronted my ex and asked him if there would be a chance of us getting back together. The question was never answered. BY MERYL COHN Now that the holidays are close, they seem to be much better, doing home improvements and things that couples who are going to stay together for a while would do. 1 have been hung up on this guy ever since we broke up. 1 have dated a few people, but nothing feels as right as when 1 was with him. This small chance of us getting back together is gnawing at me. Should 1 try to confront him again, or should 1 just sit back and wait? —Patiently Waiting Ms. Behavior D ear P atiently W aiting : Go check your driveway. Do you see your ex’s car? Check the bathroom. Does his tooth brush inhabit the spot next to yours? Have you seen his brand of wine in your fridge? Ms. Behavior didn’t think so. If your ex wanted to get back together, you’d have already found his boxer-briefs on your floor. (Sadly, you’d probably have stuffed them under your pillow.) But your floor is woefully devoid of someone else’s boxer-briefs, isn’t it? So, it all adds up to zero evidence and/or probability that your ex is coming back; he hasn’t given you the slightest suggestion that he’s even entertaining the thought. Ignoring your question about getting back together was an answer: No. Here’s what’s true: Your ex is with someone else, and he’s apparently not leaving. Even if he does leave, he’s not coming back to you. So, do not “confront your ex” and do not “sit back and wait.’’ It’s time to focus your energy on someone new, someone who might return your feelings. D ear M s . B ehavior : My girlfriend and 1 were very close to another couple; 1’11 call them Viv and Bette. The four of us did everything together, until one day Viv and Bette simply stopped returning our phone calls. We have no idea why, and though we tried to get them to talk with us like rational adults, they refused. Through phone call messages and e-mails, they finally replied that we “simply weren’t for them in terms of friends anymore.” This was a bruising experience, though we suspect the issue had to do with the fact that we don’t drink much—Viv and Bette can really tie one on. The problem is that we are going to go to a series of women's potluck dinners for the holidays, and we expect that Viv and Bette will be at some of them. My girlfriend says she’d rather not go. But I say we have nothing to be ashamed of, so we should go and not be intim idated. What do you think? —Dumped by Viv and Bette D ear D umped b V V iv and B ette : Let’s assume that you’re not leaving out the juicy part of the story, where you slept with Viv or your girlfriend slept with Bette (or you slept with Bette or your girlfriend slept with Viv...). And let’s assume that you didn’t insult their families or steal their bathroom soaps or borrow their favorite signed btxiks without returning them and that neither you nor your girl friend has a vulgar mealtime habit you haven’t mentioned. If all of these assumptions are true and your story about Viv and Bette is perfectly straight forward, you might merely be dealing with women who need drama with others to keep their relationship alive. For such drama-hungry people, recycling friends is par for the course; nothing you could do would keep you in their go<xl graces. However, don’t stay in hiding for the holidays just because two dour old lesbians have decided not to be your friends. Plenty of dykes will happily hang out with you at the holiday potlucks, whether or not you get drunk with them. And so what if you do run into Viv and Bette? What’s the worst that can happen? They’ll ignore you over the tofu loaf ? They’ll make faces at your three-bean salad? You and your girlfriend have the opportunity to do exactly what you’d do when you run into an ex after an ugly breakup: Be happy. Have fun. Make them sorry that they dumped you. © MERYL C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavior@aol.com.
