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______________________________________ july 15. 2005» J—t «f [33 ADVICE SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer. (7:30 pm Thursday. 5032810722.) Atkinson Memorial Church a Unitarian Universalist church, provides a spintual home for those looking for a liberal minded, supportive and canng congregation in Oregon City. (10 30 am Sunday 710 Sixth St. 503 656 7296) Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a community of progressive, political people explonng and celebrating the Christian faith We are sexual minority and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children are valued members (10:30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503 258 0992 www bndgeportucc. org.) Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian, Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland. Meets several times a month at Portland State University Campus Ministnes. (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242 0187. 503 248 4500 www pnaiorpdx. org.) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education (1030 am. 1133 NE 181st Ave.. Gresham. 503 665 2628. office&eastrose. org. www. eastrose org.) Eckankar—Religion of the Light and Sound of God holds worship services and maintains a library of materials. Learn how you can work daily with the Divine Spirit in your own life. (10 am Sunday. 7904 SE Milwaukie Ave. 503-233-1595 www eckankar org.) Elevation a gay Christian rock band, invites you to join us for energetic, inspiring jams and powerful, spiritual messages at Metropolitan Community Church of Portland. (6pm Sunday 2400 NE Broadway 503-281 8868) Enneagram Community of Portland offers mentoring, therapy, spiritual direction, classes, workshops and retreats (enneagrampdx@aol.com www enneagramportland. com.) to 12 step. Unity and Religious Science Impromptu wedding ceremonies available (503-777 0727. www portlandcenter org.) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon. Open to all men seeking alternative spintual growth and community Coffee hours start 9:30 am Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 SE 12th Ave. (503-235 0826 otter@pcez com) Rose City Park Presbyterian Church a member of the Community of Welcoming Congregations and the Covenant Network of Presbyterians, is a vibrant, inclusive community of faith All God's children are welcome to join in our life and worship. (10 am Sunday 1907 NE 45th Ave www. rosecityparkpres org.) Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support organization for former and current Adventists who are queer as well as their family and friends (PO Box 49375. Sarasota. FL 34230-6375 866- 732-5677. office@sdakmship org www sdakinship. org.) Southminster Presbyterian Church is an active member of the Community of Welcoming Congregations Sunday school, nursery care, classes, community service activities and events for all ages and interests. (9 am Sunday chapel service. 10 am Sunday mam worship service 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton. 503-644-2073. staff@southmm. com www. southmm.com) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites aH to join a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (9:30 am Sunday: Noon Spanish language service 806 NEAlberta St. 503 281 4429) St. Brigid Celtic Anabaptist Community is a newly developing group connecting ancient traditions and future visions to manifest liberty, peace and justice Now meeting for discussion, study and meditation (Sarah 503 757 7545 www stbngidcac. co. nr) St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Christ congregation, welcomes all people for traditional, liturgical worship where we experience God's reconciling love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday. 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439 www.stjameslutheranportland.org) liberal religious community offenng a vanety of enrichment programs in addition to community and social action opportunities. (9 and 11 am Sunday 22785 NW Birch St.. Hillsboro 503 648 1720 www.uuccwc org.) University Park United Methodist Church is a small, diverse, open and progressive community of faith that extends a warm welcome to all people (10 am Sunday 4775 N Lombard St 503-289-7843 www.upumc.net.) Waverly Heights United Church of Christ is open and affirming with worship, children's school and child care. (10 am summer. 11 am school year 3300 SE Woodward St 503-238 1337 pastor@waveriyucc org www waverlyucc.org) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offenng intergenerational services and religious education for youth and adults. We welcome gay. lesbian, bi and trans members and nurture spiritual growth living by Unitarian Universalist pnnciples. (5 pm Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St 503-777-3704 www wyeast pnwd uua. org.) Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Chnst centered. warm, caring, multiage/race/cultural faith community (11 am Sunday 110 30 am summerl. 2025 NE 23rd Ave. Gresham 503 665 8741) Central Oregon: Spirituality United Church of Christ Congregational is an open and affirming congregation in The Dalles. (9 20 am adult Sunday school. 10 30 am worship [9 30 am summer) 111 E Fifth St. 541 2962909 ucccongl@netcnct. net www formimstry com/usorucofcucocc.) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center issists the community in spiritual growth (10 am Sunday 111 W 39th St.. Vancouver The Rev. Kathleen Verigin 360-573 2626 www.abundantlifecenter.brg.) First Congregational United Church of Christ has been an open and affirming Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming congregation that values and affirms the sacredness of all people We invite and encourage everyone to find a place in the family of God. (10:15 am Sunday 27400 SE Stark St.. Troutdale 503-661-4520 ) congregation since 1992, extending God's extravagant welcome to all people, no matter who they are or where they are on life's journey (1220 NE 68th St. Vancouver 360 693 1476 www. vancouverucc org.) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the Longview United Methodist Church is liberal Chnstian tradition. Church school and nursery care (10 25 am Sunday 1126 SW Park Ave 503 228-7219.) welcoming and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave. Longview. 360 425 4927.) First Congregational United Church of Christ of Hillsboro is an open and affirming Metropolitan Church of the Gentle Shepherd welcomes you Bible study follows congregation explicitly welcoming everyone into its Chnstian community, fellowship and worship Bible and book study groups. Sunday school and nursery care. (10 30 am Sunday 494 E Mam St. 503-648 4341 www hillsboro-ucc org.) morning worship (10 30 am and 630 pm Sunday. 2200 Broadway St.. Vancouver. The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360 695 1480) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offering a wide range of programs to nurture spiritual growth, community and social justice. Sunday service 9 and 11 am. (1011 SW 12th Ave. 503 228 6389 www firstunitarianportland org) a home for the liberal religious spirit. (9 30 and 11.15 am Sunday. 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver. 360-695 1891) Michael Servitus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides Seattle drag punk pioneers Jackie Hell and Ursula Android celebrate Sissyboy's first anniversary July 20. Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip Neri Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass followed by a social. (7 30 pm Friday Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503-231-4955 ) Integrity is a group of sexual minonty Episcopalians and friends. Various locations throughout Oregon (Steven Norcross or Bruce 503-2869111. brucepdxor@comcast net www integntyusa org.) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spintual directors from vanous world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second Poor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503 233 2026. ext 3 www interfaithspihtualcenter.com.) Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Euchanst at Bridgeport United Church of Chnst A welcoming congregation. Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical in membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503 6990473. www. komoniacommunity org.) Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "house church" that brings gay and straight together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship (503 281 3697 www tearsoup com/metanoia.) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am service (2400 NE Broadway 503 281 8868 mfo@mccportlandcom www. mccportland com.) Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland offers several weekly gatherings Everyone welcome! (10 am Sunday. 7 30 am Tuesday and Thursday 730 pm Wednesday meditation 2025 SE Yamhill St 503 232-8064 www nichiren shu org/portland) Peace Church of the Brethren is a welcoming congregation (11 am Sunday 12727 SE Market St 5032546380) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a center for worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all-inclusive spintual philosophy similar St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been welcoming all people since 1863 (12:10 pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am 1432 SW 13th Ave 503 2236424) SisterSpirit offers women's spmtuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome (Suite 102, 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address PO Box 9246. Portland, OR 97207. 503 736-3297 sistersp@teleport com.) Unitarian Universalist Community Church of Washington County is an open and affirming YOUT H Metro: Youth 1 — — .».—.JI QiMLxk* fTrtsxj- atiim VMyi MJWHiin ano ovraign* GQUvtHivn Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of every school community is valued and respected, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression (12700 SW North Dakota St . Suite 180 4129 Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177. glsen@glsenoregon org www glsenoregon.org) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can’t qualify for the Oregon Health Plan ¿s well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hormones. Provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger and for those HIV positive and younger than 23. Need volunteers of all ages (10 am-6 pm Monday-Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503-5353800 www outsidein org) Pride Project brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also information, referral and advocacy services in Washington County (Molly 503 260 5792 moHy@pndeproject.org.) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to gay. lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and St. Luke's Episcopal Church has welcomed all people since 1853 Traditional but never stuffy (English: 8 and 10 30 am Sunday. Spanish: 1 pm Sunday Child care at 10:30 am 426 E Fourth Plain Blvd. Vancouver The Rev John Allen 360-696-0181 www stlukeschurch info.) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation offering worship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 30 am Sunday learning hour. 10 30 am worship 700 Manon St NE. Salem 503-363 3660) Metropolitan Community Church Two Rivers is a Chnstian church with pnmary outreach in the sexual minonties community (6 30 pm Sunday 1166 Oak St . Eugene ) younger Drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Weekly trans, leadership and art support group meetings (4-9 pm Wednesday. 4-11 pm Friday 2100 SE Belmont St 503872 9664 www.8myrc.org.) Eastern Oregon: Youth Living offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in Eastern Oregon (1021 SWFifth Ave.. Ontario 541 889 3119 or 866 248 8369 eocil@eocil.org www.eoct.org) Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay, lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in Vancouver Meets every Tuesday in the basement of Youth House (6-8 pm. 1112 Columbia St John 360-695 1325 ) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, information and fun in Eugene Free, confidential, adult facilitated (Drop in 4 6 pm Friday Amazon Community Center. 2700 Hifyard St 541-684 3466) Addicted to love How can I stay in the moment and take it slow? D ear M s . B ehavior : I am a 45-year-old gay man and have had many long-term relationships. For the past few years, I’ve dated a closeted man who has no interest in anything gay. In fact, he could happily live without sex. 1 think grxxl, healthy sex is one of the greatest things in the world. This relationship has been an enerjjy drain; seeing other gay couples in positive and accepting relationships has made me sad. 1 met two psychics last year at a healing expo. Both said they saw me meeting a compatible man this spring. When I asked how meeting this man would affect the guy I’m dating, they both said he'd understand and remain a loyal friend. So, a few weeks ago, 1 met a man who I clicked with from a soul level. The sex made me feel like I was 21 again—we had a three-hour love making session! I can’t believe this was predicted. He and 1 have been e-mailing every day; he is gracious and complimentary and into me. I am trying to stay in the moment and just enjoy this new man. 1 forgot how intense a new relationship is and am worried about not communi cating properly or putting out t<xi much too soon. All my past relation ships happened quickly. I want to go slow, but we’re already e-mailing daily. I’m feeling nervous. My question is: When the sex is stxxxi hot, the man is scxx> cute and you haven’t had attention like this for sooooo long, how do you keep it in perspective? I know about addiction and do not feel this is sex addiction. But I need to know how to go slow. I’m addicted to doing things too fast. I am writing you first, then con tacting my psychics. I’d also like to know if you consider yourself a psychic. —Need to Slow Down ’Cause I Move Too Fast D ear N eed to S low D own ’C ause I M ove T oo F ast : What’s more thrilling than a sexy new relationship? Some would suggest that you take off your clothes and drift in the buoyant current of new love. But maybe your history tells you that you’re likely to get carried away and drown. If you typically behave like a junkie in a new relationship, try to impose a few external rules to ground yourself. For example, see your other friends a couple of times a week; don’t give up your physical exercise just because you’re having strenuous sex; don’t sleep over more than twice a week or talk on the phone or e-mail more than once a day. Lxik in the mirror a lot to affinn that you’re still there. Touch yourself. Feel your own separate skin and bones. Say these words aloud: “1 will not abandon my own life and become a parasitic growth on his body.” Please be kind to the closeted and somewhat asexual man who you’re dumping. Even with your psychics’ assur ances that he’ll be OK, you need to treat him with compassion. Ms. Behavior does not consider herself I to be psychic. When she foresees the future, it’s only because people tend to behave in fairly predictable ways. D ear M s . B ehavior : My boyfriend and I are longtime readers of your column but have never needed your counsel so badly. We are a sex-friendly couple living in an apartment building. About six weeks ago, a lesbian moved into the apartment above ours. Since then, she’s been having the loudest orgasms. These aren’t run-of-the-mill, oh-oh-oh-it’s- overgasms but bed-rattling, floor shaking, ap<x:alyptic, shrieking-till- the-cows-come-home orgasms. At 6 every morning. And then again at 7. 1 am agitated, my boyfriend is cranky, and our ceiling plaster is chipping. How can we tell our sapphic friend to muffle the noise without making the obvious carpet jokes? —Sleepless in 5 -J D ear S leepless in 5-j: If you’re shy about gently con fronting the screamer in the elevator, try a friendly note under her door: D ear M uffy (I nsert H er A ctual N ame H ere ): We’re delighted that you have such an enjoyable sex life, complete with multiple orgasms. However, we are sleep-deprived and need your help. Could you please put casters and a rug under your bed? We’ll happily help you lift your bed to install them. Also, have you considered hindage? A well-placed gag, stuffed into your mouth just before aiming, would heighten both your orgasmic experience and our sleep experience. We are not creepy people getting off on your lovemaking or threatening you. We’re queer, too, but desperate for some early morning quiet. —Your Friends in 5-J If that ckiesn’t work, you might have to combat the moans with an electronic noise machine. You can choose among various sounds such as rainfall, ocean waves, forest sounds and lesbian moans. Perhaps you’ll chixise rainfall. jm M eryl Q ihn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette. Send questions to mshehavior@aol.com.
