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141 ADVICE ........... ▼................ SPIRITUAL IT Y Metro: Spirituality Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday 503 281 0722.) Atkinson Memorial Church, a Umtanan Universalist church, provides a spintual home for those looking for a liberal-minded, supportive and caring congregation in Oregon City. (10:30 am Sunday 710 Sixth St. 503 656 7296 ) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon. Open to all men seeking alternative spiritual growth and community. Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave (503 235-0826 otter@pcez.com.) Rose City Park Presbyterian Church a member of the Community of Welcoming Congregations and the Covenant Network of Presbytenans, is a vibrant, inclusive community of faith All God's children are welcome to join in our life and worship. (10 am Sunday 1907 NE 45th Ave www. rosecityparkpres org ) Sunday 110:30 am summer) 2025 NE 23rd Ave. Gresham 503 665 8741.) United Church of Christ Congregational is organization for former and current Adventists who are queer as well as their family and friends (PO Box 49375, Sarasota. FL 34230-6375 866 732-5677. office@sdakinship.org. www. sdakinship. org.) spiritual growth. (10am Sunday. Ill W39th St.. Vancouver. The Rev. Kathleen Verigin 360-573-2626. www abundant life-center. org.) Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a Southminster Presbyterian Church is an First Congregational United Church of Christ has been an open and affirming vibrant, egalitanan, Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland. Meets several times a month at Portland State University Campus Ministries (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242 0187. 503 248 4500 www.pnaiorpdx org.) active member of the Community of Welcoming Congregations. Sunday school, nursery care, classes, community service activities and events for all ages and interests (9 am Sunday chapel service. 10 am Sunday main worship service. 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton. 503-644 2073 staff@southmin com. www southmin.com.) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education. (10:30 am 1133NE 181st Ave.. Gresham. 503665 2628 office®east rose,org www.eastrose org.) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (9 30 am Sunday; Noon Spanish language service 806 NE Alberta St 503-281-4429 ) Eckankar—Religion of the Light and Sound of God holds worship services and maintains a St. James Lutheran Church, a Reconciled in library of materials. Learn how the Divine Spirit works throughout your own life in today's world. (10 am Sunday. 7904 SE Milwaukie Ave 503-233-1595 www eckankar. org.) Christ congregation, welcomes all people for traditional, liturgical worship where we experience God's reconciling love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday. 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439 www. stjameslutheranportland org.) Enneagram Community of Portland offers mentoring, therapy, spiritual direction, classes, workshops and retreats. (enneagrampdx@aol com www. enneagramportland. com.) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming congregation that values and affirms the sacredness of all people. We invite and encourage everyone to find a place in the family of God. (10:15 am Sunday. 27400 SE Stark St.. Troutdale. 503-661 4520 ) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Christian tradition. Church school and nursery care. (10:25 am Sunday. 1126 SW Park Ave. 503-228-7219) First Congregational United Church of Christ of Hillsboro is an open and affirming congregation explicitly welcoming everyone into its Christian community, fellowship and worship. Bible and book study groups. Sunday school and nursery care. (10:30 am Sunday. 494 E Main St. 503-648-4341. www.hillsboro-ucc.org.) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offering a wide range of programs to nurture spiritual growth, community and social justice. Sunday service 9 and 11 am. (1011 SW 12th Ave. 503-228 6389 www firstunitarianportland org.) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip Neri Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass followed by a social. (7 30 pm Friday Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503 231-4955 ) Integrity is a group of sexual minority Episcopalians and friends. Various locations throughout Oregon. (Steven Norcross or Bruce 503-286 9111 brucepdxor&comcast net www. integrityusa org.) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spiritual directors from various world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats. (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503 233-2026, ext 3 www.interfaithspiritualcenter.com.) Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Euchanst at Bndgeport United Church of Christ. A welcoming congregation. Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical in membership (6 pm Sunday. 621 NE 76th Ave 503-699-0473 www koinomacommunity. org.) Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "house church" that brings gay and straight together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship (503-281 3697. www tearsoup com/metanoia.) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am service. (2400 NE Broadway 503 281 8868 mfo&mccportland com. www mccportland com.) Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland offers several weekly gatherings Everyone welcome1 (10 am Sunday. 7 30 am Tuesday and Thursday 7:30 pm Wednesday meditation. 2025 SE Yamhill St 503 232 8064 www. nichiren-shu org/portland) Peace Church of the Brethren is a welcoming congregation (11 am Sunday 12727 SE Market St. 503 2546380) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a center for worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all inclusive spintual philosophy similar to 12 step. Unity and Religious Science Impromptu wedding ceremonies available (503 777-0727. www portlandcenter org) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been welcoming all people since 1863. (12:10pm Wednesday and 7:45 and 10 am Sunday. Sunday school and child care at 10 am. 1432 SW 13th Ave. 503223-6424) SisterSpirit offers women's spintuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes. Schedule of events available All women are welcome. (Suite 102, 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address PO Box 9246, Portland. OR 97207 503-736-3297 sistersp@teleport. com.) Unitarian Universalist Community Church of Washington County is an open and affirming Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center assists the community in congregation since 1992, extending God's extravagant welcome to all people, no matter who they are or where they are on life's journey. (1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver. 360 693 1476. www. vancouverucc org.) Longview United Methodist Church is welcoming and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave.. Longview. 360425 4927 ) Metropolitan Church of the Gentle Shepherd welcomes you. Bible study follows morning worship (10:30 am and 6 30 pm Sunday. 2200 Broadway St., Vancouver The Rev Hamet Barshofsky 360-695-1480) Michael Servitus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spirit. (9 30 and 11:15 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver 360-695-1891) St. Luke's Episcopal Church has welcomed all people since 1853 Traditional but never stuffy (English: 8 and 10:30 am Sunday Spanish: 1 pm Sunday. Child care at 10.30 am 426 E Fourth Plain Blvd., Vancouver. The Rev John Allen 360-696-0181 www stlukeschurch. info.) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church. United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church school. Child care provided and wheelchair accessible. (9:30 am Sunday learning hour. 10 30 am worship. 700 Marion St. NE. Salem. 503-363 3660) liberal religious community offering a variety of enrichment programs in addition to community and social action opportunities (9 and 11 am Sunday 22785 NW Birch St.. Hillsboro. 503 648 1720. www.uuccwc.org.) Metropolitan Community Church Two Rivers is a Chnstian church with pnmary outreach University Park United Methodist Church is in the sexual minorities community. (6 30 pm Sunday 1166 Oak St . Eugene ) a small, diverse, open and progressive community of faith that extends a warm welcome to all people (10 am Sunday 4775 N Lombard St 503-289 7843 www.upumc.net.) Waverly Heights United Church of Christ is open and affirming with worship, children's school and child care. (10 am summer. 11 am school year 3300 SE Woodward St 503 238 1337. pastor@wavedyucc.org www.wavedyucc.org.) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offering intergenerational services and religious education for youth and adults. We welcome gay. lesbian, bi and trans members and nurture spintual growth living by Unitarian Universalist pnnciples (5 pm Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St. 503-777-3704 www. wyeast.pnwd uua. org.) Zion United Church of Christ, an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, tn, trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Christ-centered, warm, canng. multiage/race/cultural faith community. (11 am YOUTH Metro: Youth Wyt U1VW WUUl^fl* hUWWCiWVfl Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of every school community is valued and respected, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression (12700 SW North Dakota St . Suite 180»129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177. glaenOglsenoregon.org. www.glsenoregon.org.) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Ran as well as needte exchange services that include those who inject hormones. Provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger and for those HIV-positive and younger than 23 Need volunteers of all ages. (10am6pm Monday-Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave. 503 535-3800 www.outsidein.org) Pride Prajeet brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information, referral and advocacy services in Washington County (MoKy 503260-5792 moHyOpndeprojectorg.) Gym buddy wants to show lesbian couple his equipment an open and affirming congregation in The Dalles (920 am adult Sunday school. 10:30 am worship 19.30am summer). Ill EFifth St. 541 2962909 ucccongl@netcnct net www forministry. com/usorucofcucocc ) Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a community of progressive, political people explonng and celebrating the Chnstian faith. We are sexual minority and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children are valued members. (10 30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503 258 0992 www.bridgeportucc.org.) Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support Three's a crowd Central Oregon: Spirituality Profile Theatre Project shows us The Full Monty June 14. Wednesday. 4-11 pm Friday 2100SE Belmont St. 503 872 9664 www.smyrc.org) Eastern Oregon: Youth Eftstem Oregon Contor for Indopondont Living offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in Eastern Oregon. (1021 SW Fifth Ave.. Ontario 541 8893119 or 866248-8369. eocKOeocH.org. wwweocil.org.) Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and adwcacy to gay, lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth m Vancouver. Meets every Tuesday in the basement of Youth House. (68 pm. 1112 Columbia St . John 360-695-1325 ) Willamette Valley: Youth Gey. Lesbian, Bi. Tronogonder and QaeaNaniag Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, information and fun in Eugene Free, confidential, adult facilitated (Drop m 4-6pm Friday Amazon Community Center. 2700 HKyardSt. 541-684-3466.) Sexuai Minority Youth Reeouroe Center (SMYRQ offers support, recreation counseling and referral to gey. lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger. Drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal piece to hang out. Weekly trans, LaoMan, Gay, BieoxuaL Transgender Youth Group for agee 25 and younger meets every Monday m Eugene (5 pm Koinonia Canter. leadership and art support group meetings (4-9 pm 1414 Kincaid St 541 3461134 ) D ear M s . B ehavior : another person’s body against yours, My sweetie and I so you don’t expect are hardworking much. You’ve ladies in our early probably had to form and mid-40s who a hard little like to keep in shape protective shell so hy hitting the gym you don’t take things at least three times a too personally. week. A potentially About six disappointing sexual months ago, T.K., experience won’t a buff, 38-year-old crush you; you’ve straight guy, started already lowered your hanging around with standards anyway. by Meryl Cohn us and joining in our (I'irinking, in this workouts. T.K. is scenario, decreases fun, irresistibly good the likelihood of looking and mature, and he’s bragged caring if something goes wrong but about his experience and skills in increases the risk of vomiting.) “pleasing lesbians in bed.” If, at the other extreme, you’re in We’re both attracted to him. Last a relationship, bringing your partner week he winked and said to us, “Let to the table as part of your hookup me know when you’re ready to raises the stakes a lot. It increases the continue this workout up at my likelihood of jealousy and apartment—I’ve got some equipment competition and offers your partner I think you’ll like.” We’re tempted. the opportunity to witness (and We’ve had a few threesomes in our remind you about) anything weird or day, but never with a guy. awkward that might happen. But T.K. is divorced, and his ex- Could an actual sexual act ever wife, who is very nice and quite hot live up to your steamy fantasy? In herself, is a member of our gym. He your mind’s eye,.sex is always smooth also has a 9-year-old daughter he says and sweet and pretty; everything he wants us to meet. looks and tastes delightful and goes With these complications, T.K’s just as expected. not exactly the stud-for-hire, no- But once you go home with the strings-attached, dildo replacement object of your fantasy, you risk of our occasional fantasies. Still, it’s encountering all sorts of things an offer too hard (if you know what I you’ve never imagined: an elbow in mean) to turn down. the eye, an aversion to his bcxly hair, What’s your advice? What would jealousy between you and your you do? Thanks! We love your girlfriend, body-building posters on column. the walls, scary family photos on the —Three on a Treadmill mantel, cat fur on the sheets, an unhygienic bathroom, weird body D ear T hree on a T readmill : smells, performance anxiety, On the right kind of sultry disappointment or subsequent social summer day, Ms. Behavior might awkwardness. encourage you to go for it. A Worse, after you and your GF threesome could be a fun romp. Sex have sex with your gym buddy, you with your gym buddy could spice up may find yourself reluctant to put on your relationship, and if it turns into your sneakers and your sexy little a disaster—with T.K.’s ex-wife trying sweatpants. Your gym nights could to slap you in the sauna and his become American Idol nights, and 9-year-old spitting whenever she sees your thighs could turn to cottage you—you always have the option of cheese. Is it worth it? switching to Lucille Roberts. T.K. might be a great guy, but he’s But today, perhaps influenced by likely a better friend than dyke damp weather, Ms. Behavior can’t pleasing stud. If you don’t believe help but be a wet blanket: Why blow Ms. Behavior, it sounds like you have a good thing? Your attraction to T.K. immediate access to his ex-wife, who is a great incentive for you and your may enjoy the opportunity to be partner to get to the gym, work out candid about T.K.’s sexual skills and and enjoy the attention and fun. whether he’s overstated them. And if A threesome with the dude will the ex-wife happens to like probably be far less fulfilling than the threesomes.... fantasy. As for what Ms. Behavior might Why? Well, anytime you do in this situation, only her contemplate having sex with personal trainer knows for sure. n someone new, there’s a cost/risk analysis you should automatically do M eryl C ohn is the author of Do in your head to decide whether it’s What 1 Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette. worth it. If, for example, you’ve been single Signed copies are available directly from the author Send questions or for several months or longer, the stakes are relatively low; you barely correspondence to msbehavunQaol. com. remember what it’s like to feel Ms. Behavior
