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___________________ January 21. 2005 * just OUt 29 ADVICE ......... ▼........... SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Christian meditation and prayer (7:30 pm Thursday 503-281 -0722.) (7/05) Atkinson Memorial Church a Unitarian Universalist church, provides a spiritual home for those looking for a liberal-minded, supportive and caring con gregation in Oregon City. (10 30 am Sunday 710 Sixth St 503-656-7296) (1/05) Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a commu nity of progressive, political people exploring and cele brating the Christian faith. We are sexual minority and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children are valued members. (10 30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-258-0992 www bridgeportucc org.) (7/05) holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am. Sunday school for children is held during the 11 am service. (2400 NE Broadway 503-281 8868 mfo@mccportland com wwwmccportlandcom) (7/05) classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome. (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207 503-736-3297 sistersp@teleport.com.) (7/05) Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland offers Trinity Episcopal Cathedral a welcoming and several weekly gatherings. Everyone welcome! (10 am Sunday. 730 am Tuesday and Thursday. 7.30 pm Wednesday meditation 2025 SE Yamhill St 503-232-8064 www mchiren-shu org/portland) (7/05) affirming congregation, invites all to worship services Peace Church of the Brethren is a welcoming congregation (11 am Sunday 12727 SE Market St. 503-254-6380.) (1/05) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a center for worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all- inclusive spiritual philosophy similar to 12-step, Unity and Religious Science Impromptu wedding ceremonies avail able. (503-777-0727 wwwportlandcenter.org.) (7705) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitanan, Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland Meets several times a month at Portland State University Campus Ministries. (PO Box 42187, Portland. Ofí 97242-0187 503-248-4500 www.pnaiorpdx.org.) (7/05) potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon. Open to all men seeking alternative spiritual growth and community Coffee hours start 9:30 am Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 SE 12th Ave (503-235-0826. otter@pcez.com.) (7/05) Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship s a support orga Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and chil dren's religious education. (10:30 am 1133NE 181st Ave . Gresham 503-665-2628 office@eastrose org wwweastroseorg.) (7/05) nization for former and current Adventists who are queer as well as their family and friends (PO Box 49375. Sarasota. Fl, 34230-6375 866 732-5677. office@sdakinship.org. www sdakinship org) (7/05) Soul Quest— a men's group exploring soui spirit, Eckankar—Religion of the Light and Sound of God holds worship services and maintains a library of materials. Learn how the Divine Spirit works throughout your own life in today's world (10 am Sunday 7904 SE Milwaukie Ave 503-233-1595 wwweckankar org.) (7/05) Enneagram Community of Portland offers men toring, therapy, spiritual direction, classes, workshops and retreats (enneagrampdx@aol com. wwwenneagramportland.com.) (7/05) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming congregation that values and affirms the sacredness of all people We invite and encourage everyone to find a place in the family of God. (1015 am Sunday 27400 SE Stark St. Troutdale 503-661 4520.) (1/05) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Christian tradition. Church school and nursery care. (10:25 am Sunday. 1126 SW Park Ave 503-228- 7219.) (7/05) First Congregational United Church of Christ of Hillsboro is an open and affirming congregation explicitly welcoming everyone into its Christian commu nity. fellowship and worship. Bible and book study groups, Sunday school and nursery care. (10:30 am Sunday 494 E Mam St 503-648-4341 www hillsboro-ucc org.) (7/05) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spiritual growth, communi ty and social justice. Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave 503-228-6389 www.hrstunitananportland.org.) (7/05) inner transformation and authentic living—will meet weekly starting this spring. (Lincoln 503-730-2347 •soulrites@yahoo.com) (7/05) Southminster Presbyterian Church is an active member of the Community of Welcoming Congregations. Sunday school, nursery care, classes, community service activities and events for all ages and interests (9 am Sunday chapel service. 10 am Sunday main worship service. 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073. staff@southmin com www.southmin.com.) (7/05) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (9 30 am Sunday: Noon Spanish language service 806 NE Alberta St 503-281 4429 ) (7/05) St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Christ congregation, welcomes all people for traditional, liturgical worship where we experience God's reconcil ing love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave. 503-227-2439 www stjamesluther anportlandorg.) (7/05) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel coming all people since 1863. (¡2:10 pm Wednesday and 745 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am 1432 SW 13th Ave 503-223-6424 ) (7/05) SisterSpirit offers women's spirituality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and and ongoing programs in spiritual development, commu nity outreach, music and arts education. (8 am Sunday Rite I chapel service 10 am Sunday Rite II cathedral service 147 NW 19th Ave 503:222-9811. www.trinity-episcopal.org) (7/05) Unitarian Universalist Community Church of Washington County is an open and affirming liberal religious community offering a variety of ennchment pro grams in addition to community and social action oppor tunities. (9 and 11 am Sunday. 22785 NW Birch St.. Hillsboro 503-648-1720 www uuccwc org.) (7/05) Waverly Heights United Church of Christ is open and affirming with worship, children's school and child care. (10 am summer. 11 am school year 3300 SE Woodward St. 503-238-1337. pastor@waverlyucc org www waverlyucc org.) (7/05) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offering inter- generational services and religious education for youth and adults. We welcome gay, lesbian, bi and trans mem bers and nurture spiritual growth living by Unitarian Universalist principles. (5 pm Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St. 503-777-3704 www.wyeast.pnwduua.org) (7/05) Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirm ing congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi, trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Christ centered. warm, canng. multiage/race/cultural faith community. (11 am Sunday 110 30 am summer! 2025 NE 23rd Ave. Gresham 503-665-8741) (1/05) Central Oregon: Spirituality United Church of Christ Congregational is an open and affirming congregation in The Dalles. (9 20 am adult Sunday school, 10 30 am worship 19:30am summer!. Ill EFifth St 541 -296-2909 ucccongl@netcnct. net. www. formimstry com/usorucofcucocc ) (7/05) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center assists the community in spiritual growth. (10am Sunday 111 W39th St., Vancouver The Rev Kathleen Vengin 360-573-2626 www abundant-lifecenter org.) (7/05) Longview United Methodist Church is welcom ing and reconciling. (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave Longview 360 425 4927) (7/05) Metropolitan Church of the Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver welcomes you. (10 30 am and 6 30 pm Sunday worship Bible study follows morning worship. 2200 Broadway St. The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360-695-1480.) (7/05) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip Michael Servitus Unitarian Neri Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass fol lowed by a social (7 30 pm Friday. Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503-231-4955) (7/05) Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spirit. (930 and 11 15 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St . Vancouver 360-695-1891. 7(7/05) Integrity is a group of sexual minority Episcopalians and friends. Various locations throughout Oregon. (Steven Norcross or Bruce 503 286-9111 brucepdx- or@comcast net www integrityusa org) (7/05) Willamette Valley: Spirituality Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spintual direc tors from various world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats. (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503-233-2026. ext 3. www mterfaithspintualcenter com) (7/05) First Congregational Church United Church of Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offering worship and church school. Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9:30 am Sunday learning hour. 10 30 am worship 700 Marion St NE.Salegi 503-363 3660.)(1/05) Koinonia Catholic Community s a progressive, small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Eucharist at Bridgeport United Church of Christ A wel coming congregation. Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical in membership (6 pm Sunday. 621 NE 76th Ave 503-699-04 73 www koinomacommunity org.) (7/05) Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a “house church" that brings gay and Metropolitan Community straight together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship. (503-281-3697. www tearsoup com/metanoia) (7/05) Church Two Rivers is a Metropolitan Community Church of Portland Portland gay fiber artist Leroy Klausmeyer uses barbed wire and deadly thorns to voice his feelings about the 2004 election Feb. 1-26 at Ogle social events Also information, referral and advocacy services in Washington County. (Molly 503-260-5792. mofy@prideproject.org) (7/05) The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each mem ber of every school community is valued and respect ed. reganfesa of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression (12700 SW North Dakota St. Suite 180fl29. Tigard. OR97223 503-525-1177 gisen@glsenoregon org. www glsenoregon org.) (1/05) Outside In operates a cfekc for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needs exchange services that include those who inject hor mones. Provide transition^ housing for youth 20 and younger and for those HlV-posttw and younger than 23. Need volunteers of aS ages. (10 am-6 pm Monday- Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503-535-3800 www outsidem org) (7/05) Pride Project bangs together Washington County (peer and questioning youth to {fen and attend monthly Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) offers support and recreation to gay, les- ban, bi and trans youtn 23 and younger. Drop-in com puter access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Weekly support meetings include Trans Youth Group and the creative group Personal Deity Proxy. (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St 503-872-9664. TTY 503-231-9286 www smyrc org.)(l/05) Eastern Oregon: Youth Christian church with primary outreach in the sexual minorities community (6 30 pm Sunday 1166 Oak St. Eugene)(1/05) Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. Meets every Tuesday in the basement of Youth House. (88 pm. 1112 Columbia St John 360-695-1325.) (7/05) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bl, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, information and fun in Eugene. Free confiden tial. adult-facilitated (Drop in 46 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center. 2700 Hiiyard St 541 -684-3466 > (7/05) Eastern Oregon Center for Independent Living offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth trans and guestioruno youth in Eastern Oregon (1021 SW5thAve, Ontario 541889-3119or866-248-8369 eocf@eodorg www.eod.org >(7/05) Group for ages 25 and younger meets every .Monday kt Eugene (5 pm Koinoma Center. 1414 Kincaid St 541-346 1134)11/05) Homocoming queen Ex-cheerleader expects to relive her glory days at high school reunion D ear M s . B ehavior : I am a lesbian looking forward with nervous excitement to attending my 15-year high school reunion. Unlike many of my gay friends, 1 had a great time in high school. 1 was a cheerleader, had boyfriends, played sports and was even homecoming queen. My girlfriend, Margo, refuses to go to the reunion with me. She is a bit older and went to her reunion a long time ago and hated it. She says my so-Called friends will not be as perky and happy to see me as I am to see them. She says they are straight and suburban and “not very imaginative.” 1 expect to connect with them intellectually and emotionally, even though many years have passed. But Margo says I need to prepare myself for disappointment, and she seems judgmental that I want to go. Margo wa*a bit of a stoner/ outcast in high schrxil, and I think she still takes it all too personally. She seems to want me to be hurt and angry like she is. She’s told me straight out that she’d prefer 1 stay home with her because I’m in for a sorry awakening. What do you think, Ms. Behavior? Should 1 press Margo to go with me? Should I expect a wanr» welcome...or should I stay home with Margo and stew in my sour les bian juices? —Queen in 1989 D ear Q ueen in 1989: If you feel compelled to attend your high schrxtl reunion, dust off your pompoms and go, but don’t drag your recovering‘outcast girlfriend with you. Let Margo stay home and relive her unhappy high sch(x>l mem ories, perhaps after smoking some weed and eating a few fluffernutters. Don’t expect your reunion to feel like a homecoming. You may have fond memories of wearing your tiara and presiding over the prom, but if you were doing the nasty with boys back then, you probably weren’t quite the same person you are now. Despite your fantasy, reunions are not typical ly a place where people connect at a deep level. (For this experience, you must enroll in yoga camp or a tantric sex workshop.) Your old friends will probably squeal a bit and then comment on everyone’s hair and weight and chil dren, but you probably won’t get much intellectual or spiritual camaraderie from your old pals. Try not to be crushed if people don’t remember you, perhaps because you used to pluck your eyebrows and don’t anymore. If you do have a lousy time, you can praise Margo for being right. Then, as a healing exercise, you can I write a little essay in your blog about visit ing the foreign land of your somber adoles cent past. Aching dis appointment and hazy adolescent memories are the stuff that blogs and memoirs are made of. D ear M s . B ehavior : My girlfriend Andrea left me a few months ago because I’m ready to have a baby and she’s not. It wasn’t an impulsive decision; we’ve discussed it endlessly, and we’re just in different places. I’m sad about los ing Andrea, but I understand how she feels. We ended it well, for what that’s worth. Now I’ve lined up a sperm donor (through a sperm bank), and I’ve changed my job enough to accommo date child care. I’m a little apprehen sive about doing it alone—this isn’t exactly what I’d imagined—but I’m Jsasically ready. The problem is that I’m suddenly meeting all kinds of resistance from my mother and my friends, who are begging me not to rush—as if 1 am 25 and haven’t spent the past 10 years talking about having a baby— and warning me that a baby will put the kibosh on any romantic possibili ty 1 might have for the future. I hope that’s not true. But if 1 were pushed to make a choice, I’d probably ch<x)se the haby over some theoreti cal girlfriend. Am I crazy? Should I listen to my mother and wait a few months? —Nervous D ear N ervous : Ifon’t let your mother’s spinster fears influence your decision. Your plan hardly sounds impulsive, and you can’t exactly put your life on hold while waiting for a new partner to ring your buzzer. Besides, a baby isn’t quite the scourge on a relationship that some people like to imagine. Many of your luscious lesbian dates will actually find your bouncy, drooly infant rather alluring. Some even welcome the idea of a ready-made family. Of course, having a baby does reduce your mean number of relation ship prospects, but that’s not necessar ily a bad thing because you wouldn’t have wanted to be with someone who loathes little ones, anyway. The trick will be finding someone sane and lovely and crazy about babies, who’d he delighted with the package deal of you and your spawn. M eryl C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavu rr@aol. com.