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november 5,2004 * J — « t ( M i l 3 ^ S P I R I T UAL IT Y Metro: Spirituality Aiwwim Community of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer (7 3 0 pm Thursday 503-281-0722) (VOS) Atkinson Memorial Church a Unitarian Umversalist church, provides a spintual home for those looking for a liberal-minded, supportive and canng con gregation m Oregon C ity (10 30 am Sunday 710 Sixth St 503-656-72% HT/05) Bridgeport United Church o f Christ is a com munity of progressive, political people explonng and celebrating the Christian faith We are sexual minonty and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our chil dren are valued members. (10:30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-258-0992. www bndgepor*ucc org.) (7/05) Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian, Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland Meets several times a month at Portland State University Campus M inistries (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242-0187. 503-248-4500 www.pnaiorpdx.org.) (7/05) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education. (10.30 am. 1133 NE 181st A v e . Gresham 503-665-2628 office@eastrose.org www eastrose.org.) (7/05) Eckankar— Religion of the Light and Sound of God holds worship services and maintains a library of materials Leam how the Divine Spint works throughout your own life in today's world (10 am Sunday 7904 SE Mitwaukie Ave. 503-233-1595. www.eckankar org ) (7/05) The Enneagram Community of Portland offers mentonng, therapy spintual direction, classes, work shops and retreats (enneagrampdx@aol com. www enneagramportlandcom.) (7/05) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offering a wide range of programs to nurture spintual growth, communi ty and social justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave. 503 2286389 www hrstumtananportiand.org.) (7/05) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass fol lowed by a social (7 30 pm Friday Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503231-4955 )0 /0 5 ) Integrity is a group of sexual minority Episcopalians and friends Various locations throughout Oregon (Steven Norcross or Bruce 503286-9111 brucepdxor@comcast net www mtegntyusa org ) (7/05) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spiritual direc tors from various world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave. 503-233-2026. ext. 3 www mterfaithspiritualcenter com ) (7/05) Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Euchanst at Bridgeport United Church of Christ A wel coming congregation. Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical in membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-699-0473. www koinoniacommumty org.) (7/05) Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a “ house church" that bnngs gay and straight together. Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship (503-281 3697. www. tearsoup com/metanoia) (7/05) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and I I am Sunday school for children is held during the 11 am service. (2400 NE Broadway 503-281 8868 mfo@mccportlandcom. www.mccportiand.com ) (7/05) Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland offers several weekly gatherings Everyone welcome! (10 am Sunday. 730 am Tuesday and Thursday. 7:30 pm Wednesday meditation. 2025 SE Yamhill St 503-232-8064 wwwnichiren-shu.org/portland.) (7/05) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming congregation that values and affirms the sacredness of all people We invite and encourage everyone to find a place in the family of God. (10:15 am Sunday. 27400 SE Stark St.. Troutdale. 503-661 -4520) (7/05) Peace Church of the Brethren s a welcoming congregation. (11 am Sunday 12727 SE Market St. 503-254-6380) (7/05) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Christian tradition Church school and nursery care (10:25 am Sunday. 1126 SW Park Ave 503-228- 7219.) (7/05) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a center for worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all-inclusive spiritual philosophy similar to 12-step, Unity and Religious Science Impromptu wedding ceremonies available (503-777-0727. wwwportlandcenterorq.) (7/05) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon. Open to all men seeking alternative spintual growth and community. Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 SE 12th Ave. (503-235-0826 otter@pcez.com.) (7/05) Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support organization for former and current Adventists who are queer as well as their family and friends. (PO Box 49375. Sarasota. F I 34230-6375 866-732-5677. office@sdakinship. org www sdakinship org.) (7/05) Southminster Presbyterian Church is an active member of the Community of Welcoming Congregations Sunday school, nursery care, classes, community service activities and events for all ages and inter ests (9 am Sunday chapel service. 10 am Sunday mam worship service 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073. staff@southmm com www southmin com.) (7/05) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (9 30 am Sunday: Noon Spanish language service 806 NE Alberta St. 503-281-4429 )0 /0 5 ) Lawrence Gallery presents plates and prints by Pablo Picasso inspired by Carmen Nov. 12- Dec. 15 YOUTH Metro: Youth The Gay, Laeb lsn and Straig ht Education Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each mem ber of every school community is valued and respect ed. rqgardfeos of eexuai orientation or gender identity/expression. (12700 SW North Dakbta S t. Smte 180 *129 Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177. J • sen@gtsenotagon.org. www gteenoregon org.) 0/051 Outside le operates a dmic for anyone who can t qualify for the Oregon Heafih Plan as well as neede exchange services that indude those who inject hor mones. Provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger and far those HV-posdve and yowxjar than 23 Need volunteers of a l ages (tO am S pm Monday- Friday 1132 SW 13th Awe 903-535-3900. www outstdeHorgJ (7/05) rfW s P n o p n Dongs tog&ner wesnmgton oounry queer end questioning youth to plan and «tend monthly St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Christ congregation, w el comes all people for traditional, liturgical worshp where we experience God's rec onciling love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439 www stjameskjtheranporttand o rg ) (7/05) social events. Also information, referral and advocacy services m Washington County. (MoHy 503260-5792. rnaéy@pnÓeprOfect o rg ) (7/06) (9 M YR O offers support and recreation to gey, les bian. bi m i trans youth 23 and younger Drop-in com puter access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Weekly support meetings include Trans Youth Group and the creative group Personal Deity Pioxy (4-9 pm Monday and Wednesday, 4 pm-midnight Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St 503672-9664. TTY 503231-9296 w w w .snvrdrp.7i7/05} St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel coming all people since 1863 (12:10 pm Wednesday and 745 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at Warn 1432 SW 13th Ave. 503-223-6424 ) (7/05) SisterSpirit offers women s spmtuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome. (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. 503- 736-3297. sistersp@teleport com ) (7/05) Trinity Episcopal Cathedral a welcoming and affirming congregation, invites all to worship services and ongoing programs in spiritual development, com munity outreach, music and arts education. (8 am Sunday Rite I chapel service 10 am Sunday Rite II cathedral service 147 NW 19th Ave. 503-222-9811. www trimty-episcopal.org.) (7/05) Unitarian Universalist Community Church of Washington County is an open and affirming liberal religious community offering a vanety of enrichment programs in addition to community and social action opportunities (9 and 11 am Sunday 22785 NW Birch St., Hillsboro. 503-648-1720 www.uuccwc.org.) (7/05) Waverly Heights United Church of Christ is open and affirming with worship, children's school and child care. (10 am summer. 11 am school year 3300 SE Woodward St 503-238-1337. pastor@ waverlyucc org www.waverlyucc.org.) (7/05) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offenng mter- generational services and religious education for youth and adults We welcome gay. iesbian. bi and trans members and nurture spintual growth living by Unitarian Universalist principles (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St 503-777-3704 www wyeast pnwd uua.org.)(T/05) Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi, trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Chnst-centered. warm, caring, m ultiage/race/cultural faith community. (11 am Sunday 110:30 am summer!. 2025 NE 23rd A v e . Gresham 503-665-8741.) (7/05) Central Oregon: Spirituality United Church of Christ Congregational s an open and affirming congregation in The Dalles (9. 20 am adult Sunday school. 10.30 am worship 19.30am summer!. I l l EFifth St 541 -2%-2909 ucccongl@netcnct net. wwwforministrycom/usorucofcucocc.) (7/05) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center assists the community in spiritual growth (10am Sunday 111 W 39th St., Vancouver. The Rev Kathleen Vengin 360-573-2626 www abundant-life-center org.) (7/05) Longview United Methodist Church is welcom ing and reconciling. (10 am Sunday 2851 30th A v e . Longview 360-425-4927.) (7/05) Metropolitan Church of the Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver welcomes you (10:30 am and 6 3 0 pm Sunday worship. Bible study follows morning worship 2200 Broadway St The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360-695 1480)1.7/05) Michael Servltus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spint (9 30 and 11:15 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St . Vancouver 360-695-1891.) (7/05) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church school. Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 30 am Sunday learning hour. 10 30 am worship 700 Manon St NE. Salem 503-363-3660.) (7/05) Metropolitan Community Church Two Rivers is a Christian church with primary outreach in the sexual minonties community (6 30 pm Sunday 1166 Oak S t. Eugene) (7/05) Washington: Youth Iripte Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lestxan. W, trans and questioning youth In Vancouver Meets every Tuesday in the benement of Youth House. <6-8 pm. 1112 Columbia St. John 360695-1325X 7/05) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay. Lesbian. Bi. Q u M d auh ig Youth G cosp for ages 13 to 18 offers . ¡ -jt. information and fun in Eugene Free confiden- . aduk-facitated. (Drop in 4 -6 pm Fnday. Amazon Community Center. 2700 H fym ) St 541-694-3406.) ( 1 / 06 ) LMfeg offers support and advocacy to gay. tesben. bi, trans and questioning youth *1 Eastern Oregon (1021 SW 5tf>Ave . Ontario 541899-3119o r866-248-8369 eoo9@eoc0.org. www eoctf .015 M 7/06Í ADVICE ............... ▼ ............... Creep for ages 25 end younger meets every Monday m Eugene (5 pm Koinonia Center. 1414 Kkrtud St 541346-11347(7/057 Hopelessly devoted Straight woman seeks advice for her jaded cousin D ear M s . B eh a v io r : My gay male cousin and I were talking the other day about his difficulty in finding lasting rela tionships. Upon hear ing his frustration, I couldn’t help feeling a little out of my league. I am a heterosexual female who can give great girl-has-trouble- with-boyfriend advice hut seems to he falter ing on the boy-has- trouhle-with-boyfriend advice. My cousin is really the sweetest of the sweet and hopelessly romantic, which can have its pitfalls. He vents about all the problems that dating gay men can have, and 1 am giving him the best advice 1 know, and he comes hack to me with, “It’s just dif ferent.” So I want to know: how different? He has been dating a long time and is becoming really jaded, and I don’t want him to lose hope. 1 do not believe that lasting relationships are a rare thing in the gay men arena (which he proclaims). Hope you can help or lead me in a better direction. — Irene D ear M s . B eh a v io r : Isn’t there a line between fantasy and adultery? If I’m in a committed relation ship, is it wrong for me to think about someone else? I’m a 51-year-old woman; I’ve been with my partner, Brenda, for the past 12 years. I’ve felt guilty ever since I confessed to my best friend, Ellen, that I fantasize about Joanna, a woman from work. Ellen says fantasies take you away from your partner. She asked if I ever masturbate while thinking about Joanna. I admitted that I do. Ellen wants me to confess my sins to my girlfriend and promise never to do it again. I say fantasies are harm less, as long as they remain fantasies and you don’t act on them. What do you say? — Worried D ear W o r r ie d : Your description of masturbating while fantasizing about your co worker leaves a lot to the imagina tion, so it’s hard to assess whether it’s hurting your relationship with D e a r I r e n e : Brenda. It may he true that boy-on-boy For example, does Joanna just pop relationships are “just different” from into your head when you happen to straight ones in some crucial and he engaging in solo sex? Or do you put aside special time in your day, subtle ways (like mating techniques and expectations), hut it doesn’t run a bubble hath, light candles and mean you couldn’t understand the plan a sex date with her in your differences. That sort of statement is mind, knowing she’s the catalyst to usually designed to he a conversation help you come? How long have you stopper, which may mean that your been fantasizing about her? Do you cousin doesn’t want your help. It’s have any other sexual fantasies, or nice that you’re invested in your are they all about Joanna? Have your cousin’s happiness, hut he may not fantasies about Joanna affected your he receptive to your advice, however interactions with her (so that you’re well-intentioned it may he. flirtatious with her, for example, or It’s true that there aren’t many so that you’re tempted to turn the cultural models for lasting queer rela fantasy into reality)? Are you still tionships, at least not in the public getting jiggy with Brenda? Do you eye, hut it doesn’t mean they aren’t superimpose Joanna’s face over relatively common. Right now many Brenda’s when you’re having sex? happily coupled men are eating Are you in danger of calling out the Chinese food together, or taking wrong name when you come? showers, or playing Scrabble with If you answer these questions their friends. You’re not likely to find honestly, you should he able to tell if these happily coupled men out at the your hot fantasy is interfering with bars, however. your relationship. If it is, try telling Your cousin will find his way to a Brenda what’s going on in your head, lasting relationship, if that’s what he with the hope of diffusing it. At first really wants. Lots of gay men want ; she’ll probably have a fit and you’ll the same thing. In fact, Ms. Behavior he sorry you told her. Bur ultimately, receives countless letters from men honesty is the better choice for your who want enduring relationships. relationship. J H Little by little, these men do manage to find one another. © Meryl Cohn 2004 Ms. Behavior hopes to develop a special song or scent or hair gel so M e r y l C o h n is the author of Do that these relationship-inclined men What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide could more easily recognize one to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette another, hut in the meantime, they’ll (Houghton Mifflin). Signed copies are just have to rely on ordinary verbal available directly from the author. communication and carefully written Send questions or correspondence to personal ads. msbehavior@aol. com.
