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Ì a ADVICE SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multi racial, multicultural, open and affirming church Sunday worship is at 10 am. church school for children runs concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503-284 8767 aucc@teleport com ) (7/04) Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer (7:30 pm Thursday 503 281-0722.) (7/04) Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a commu mty of progressive, political people exploring and cele brating the Chnstian faith We are sexual mmonty and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children are valued members. (1030 am Sunday. 621 NE 76th Ave 503-258 0992 www bndgepoducc o rg ) (7/04) The City Church. Portland s "oldest gay affirming Chnstian church." offers a spmt-dnven church for today s diverse generations. (10 am Sunday commu mon and worship service, 6:30 pm Sunday worship sermce 3830 SE 62nd Ave 503-775-5024X7/04) Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "house church" that bnngs gay and straight together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship. (503-281-3697. www.tearsoup.com/metanoia.) (7/04) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am. Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am service (2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868 mfo@mccportland com www mccportiand com ) (7/04) The Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland offers several weekly gathenngs Everyone welcome1 (10 am Sunday, 7.30 am Tuesday and Thursday 7:30 pm Wednesday meditation 2025 SE Yamhill St 503-232 8064 www nichiren shu.org/portland)(7/04) Northwest Two-Spirit Society of Portland welcomes new members from the native queer (Two Spint) community to join our council and organize or attend monthly meetings (Amanda 503-869 0076 thesebraids@gocom) (7/04) Peace Church of the Brethren <s a welcoming congregation. (11 am Sunday 12727 SE Market St 503 254-6380 ) (7/04) Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian. Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland. Meets several times a month at Portland State University Campus Ministries. (PO Box 42187. Portland, OR 97242-0187. 503 248-4500 www pnaiorpdxorg ) (7/04) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education (10 30 am Sunday 1133 NE 181 st Ave , Gresham 503 665 2628 eastrose&teleport com www eastrose o rg ) (7/04) St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for tradition al. liturgical worship where we expenence God's recon ciling love that sets all people free (9 and I I am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439 www stjameslutheranportland o r g X l/04) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wei- coming all people since 1863. (12.10 pm Wednesday and 745 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at Warn 1432 SW 13th Ave. 503-2236424 ) (7/04) University Park United Methodist Church believes in giving to the community, canng for one another and making a difference one person at a time Come celebrate God's diversity with usl (10 am Sunday 4775 N Lombard St The Rev Jeanme Knepper 503 289 7843 ) (7/04) Waveriy Heights UCC is open and affirming with worship, children's school and child care. (10 am Sunday. 3300 SE Woodward St 503 238 1337. www waveriyucc org.) (7/04) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offering intergenerational services and religious education for youth and adults We wel come gay. lesbian, bi and trans members and nur ture spmtual growth living by Unitarian Universalist principles (4 pm Sunday. 3915 SE Steele St 503-777-3704 www wyeast pnwd uua org.) (7/04) Zion United Church of Christ, an ooen and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Chnst-centered. warm, canng, multiage/race/cultural faith community ( I I am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd A v e . Gresham 503 665 8741X 7/04) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming community of Chnstians in Troutdale that values and encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family of God Sunday worship at 10:15 am; Adult Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10 30 am Wednesday Prayers 6-6 30 pm (27400 SE Stark St- 5 0 3 6 6 1 4520 ) (7/04) Central Oregon: Spirituality United Church of Christ Congregational is an open and affirming congregation in The Dalles (9 2 0 am adult Sunday school. 10 30 am Sunday worship. I l l E Fifth St. 5 4 1 -296-2909 ucccongl@netcnct. net www formimstry.com/usorucofcucocc. ) (7/04) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spmtual growth, community and social justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SVV 12th Ave 5032284)389 www firstunitananportland org ) (7/04) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St. Philip Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass fol lowed by a social (7 30 pm Friday Pauhst Center, 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503 231-4955) (7704) All hail the “Puppet Master" at Guardino Gallery through Jan. 27 Washington: Spirituality Gay Men's Labyrinth Protect meets quarterly for a walking meditation and wisdom circle on the labynnth (www gaylabynnth.com.) (7/04) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a center for worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all inclusive spmtual philosophy similar to 12-step. Unity and Religious Science. ( 503-777-0727 www portlandcenter.org ) (7/04) Abundant Life Center is A New Thought Community for spmtual awakening and transforming lives through love. A safe place where children leam to embody spiritual pnnciples (10 am Sunday. 10006 NE Ninth Ave.. Vancouver Rev Kathleen Vengm. 360-573-2626X7/04) Gay Men's Spirit Group is open to all men expen- enced or interested in alternative spmtual practices such as New Age. shamanism, meditation, psychic/intuitive. energy work and healing (503-230 7949 ) (7/04) Integrity is a group of sexual mmonty Episcopalians and friends. Various locations throughout Oregon. (Bruce 503-286-9111 brucepdxor@attb.com www mtegntyusa org.) (7/04) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spmtual direc tors from various world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503 2332026. ext. 3 wwwmterfaithspintualcenter.com.) (7/04) Keshet Portland is a potluck group for Jewish mem bers of the sexual mmonties community and their part tiers, spouses and supporters Its purpose is to help build bridges with the larger Jewish community Monthly social, religious and cultural events (David or Laney 503 226 7079. ext. 14X 7/04) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spiritual growth and community. Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave (503 235-0826 otter@pcei.com.) (7104) Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support organization for LGBT people, their families and fnends (PO Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 92607-7320 866-732-5677. office@sdakinship org www sdakinship.org.) (7/04) SisterSpirft offers women's spmtuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address PO Box 9246. Portland, OR 97207. 503 736-3297 sistersp@teleport com.) (7/04) Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Euchanst at Bridgeport United Church of Christ A wel coming congregation. Catholic m tradition and Ecumenical m membership. (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503 699-0473 www kcxnoniacommunity org )(7/04) Southminster Presbyterian Church is an active member of the Community of Welcoming Congregations Sunday school and nursery care Classes, commurniy service activities and events for all ages and interests (9-930 am Sunday chapel service. 10 am Sunday community worship service 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503 644 2073 staff@southmm com www southmm com ) (7/04) Longview United Methodist Church is welcom mg and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave 360 425 4927) (7/04) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (930 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 503 281 4429X7/04) YOUTH Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center a program o f Cascadia Behavioral HealthCare, offers support and recreation to gay. lesbian, bi and trans youth 23 and younger O ffers drop-in com puter access, pool tables and an inform al place to hang out. W eekly support meetings includes Trans Youth Group and the creative group Personal D eity Proxy. (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Friday and Saturday. 2100 SE Belmont St 503-872-9664. TTY503-231-9286www.smyrc.org ) O ther programs include; Clackamas County Sexual Minority Youth Connection (COS- MYCJ provides opportunities for queer and ques tkxung youth ages 23 and younger to get together fo r free, fun and supportive social activities O ffers one-on-one support, referrals and inform ation on HIV and STD prevention and resources fo r adults who work w ith queer youth (503-969-0060 cosmycyouth@yahoo com.) Pride Project brings together W ashington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also inform ation, referral and advocacy services in W ashington County (Molly 503 2605792. molly@pndeprolect.org.) (7 /04 ) Metro: Youth Flavors, a social support group for sexual minority youth o f color 21 and younger, meets on weekends for food and socializing. Regular events and activities Flavors is a protect o f Love Makes a Family's MultiQueer program and is supported by Ekother to Brother (Jaye 503-228-3892 taye&mfamity o rg ) (7/04) The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) fights to end anti-gay bias m K-12 schools. (12700 SW North Dakota St.. Suite 180. * 129. Tigard, OR 97223 503-5251177. gtsen@glsenoregonorg www.glsenoregon org.) (7/04) MultiQueer a program of Love Makes a Family, pro vides advocacy to sexual mmonty youth Offers resources and support in the community and the school systems, with a focus on support for queer youth of color (Jaye 503-2283892 /aye@UnfamHy o rg ) (7/04) Outside In operates a cfcve for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hor mones Can provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as we* as for those WV+ and younger than 23 Needs volunteers o f all ages (10 am 6 pm Monday Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503-535-3800 www outstdem o rg 7(7/04) Eastern Oregon: Youth C a n t m ■■ i Q i f , .■ r , ,a C a 113 9 10 1 I I V / n K J O O . — I f , m 1 I r t m*- ^ *4 » — A I L , ! n r , TO* i n o p p t i f W W m i.iv ir K J offers support and advocacy to gey lesbian, bt. trans and East Vancouver United Methodist Church is reconciling and welcoming (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Blvd 360-693 4 761. ) ( 7/04) First Congregational Church United Church of Chnst. holds services in an open and affirming congre gation (10 am Sunday worship. 11:15am adult educa tion 1220 NE 68th St . Vancouver 360-693 1476. vanucc@aolcom ) (7/04) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd m Vancouver welcomes you (1030 am and 6 3 0 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360-695-1480 ) (7/04) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spint (9 30 and 11:15 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St . Vancouver 360-695-1891.) (7/04) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church. United Church of Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (930 am Sunday learning hour. 10 30 am worship 700 Manon St NE. Salem 503-3633660)17/04) questioning youth in Eastern Oregon (541-8893119 or 866-248-8369 eocikkocH org www e o d org.) (7/04) Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay, lesbian, h . trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. Wash. Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the base ment of Youth House. 1112 Columbia S t m Vancouver (John 360-695 (325 7(7/04) Willamette Valley: Youth Gey, Lesbian, Bi, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, infer- metion and fun n Eugene Free, confidential, adult fa ci- tated (Drop r 4-6 pm Friday Amazon Community Center. 2700 HUyard St. 541664 3466X7/04) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday in Eugene (5 pm Kotnona Center. 1414 Kmcaxd St. 541 346- f 734.3(7/04) Rainbow Youth « a safe, confidential support group for young gay men. lesbians bisexuals, transgender, question ing and fnends (6 8 pm Wednesdays Meha fluking. 69C State St . Salem www satemrmnbowyouth org) (7/04) ....................▼ .................... Sex and marriage, sex and marriage... Go together like...er, well, we w ouldn’t know, we’re a little new to this all being legal ! D ear M s . B ehavior : My boyfriend doesn’t ! want to have sex with me anymore. We’ve been j together for several years, and he seems to have sim ply lost interest, although he doesn’t say so. The best 1 ever get out of him (after j lots of cajoling) is for him j to lick my sack while I spank the monkey. At this point, it’s better than nothing, although he pouts about the effort involved. We always said that if we stopped having sex, we’d open the relationship - up. Do you count sack-licking as sex? What about mutual masturbation? Please give me a list of what counts and what doesn’t, so I’ll know when I’m officially free to get out and get some hot sex, which I’ve been missing now for several years. I’ll con sider your word the final word. —Sam D ear S am : Licking your “sack” doesn’t count and licking just the base of your penis doesn’t count and sucking just the head doesn’t count, either. In fact, anal sex doesn’t count if you thrust for less than five minutes. And if you drop a ctx)kie on the flcx>r and pick it up within five seconds, there are no germs on it. Oh, wait. You’re not asking what counts as cheating (like lesbians usu ally do); you want to know if you’re still having sex with your boyfriend. Well, sort of. Not really. If you and your boyfriend had started out with a sex life limited to mutual masturbation, hall-licking and other such delicate snack-like activi ties, you might he able to count what you’re doing now as sex. But if you’ve gone from full-fledged fucking and sucking to some occasional testicular nibbling, the sad news is that you’ve taken the plunge into the ice-cold waters of Homo Bed Death. As for whether that entitles you to open up your relationship, Ms. Behavior doesn’t know. If you’re not open to going to couple’s therapy, Ms. Behavior would happily encourage you to swallow your sorrow hy sucking off the entire Lxzal gay swim team. Unfortunately, the decision about opening your relationship to others must he made hy you and your sad sack boyfriend. D ear M s . B ehavior : I’m st) happy that my girlfriend and I can officially tie the knot in Massachusetts that I’ve been literally talking about it with everyone I know: family, friends, co-workers. I never thought I’d live to see the day that two happy lesbians could walk down the aisle together and he recog- mzed as wife and wife hy the state and, i of course, hy the gtxxJ and gracious Goddess! How lucky we are. Here’s my problem. Louise, my “wife" of 17 years, couldn’t care less about getting married. It hurts me deeply because I have always wanted to he a bride, and I have always wanted to marry her. . How can l convince Louise to say “I do” ? I’m serious. 1 fear the Supreme Court decision that declares denying mar riage to homosexual couples un constitutional will soon he over turned, and I’ll miss my chance. — Running (N ot Walking) Down That Aisle D ear R unning (N o t W alking ) D own T hat A isle : Ms. Behavior joins with you in celebrating the Supreme Judicial Court decision and suspects the num ber of queers reveling in the happy news far surpasses the number pulling each other’s hair out over who to invite or whether to hook a rabbi, minister or judge. Being able to convince Louise to marry you will depend on why she’s opposed. If she’s politically distressed hy the notion of marriage (e.g., if she believes that enacting this freedom actually involves succumbing to oppression hy the pushy white male patriarchy), she’s less likely to flip to your way of thinking than if she’s just feeling a bit too chubby to wear a white dress hy late spring. (Think Atkins mid-February.) You say Louise “couldn’t care less about getting married,” which sounds more hopeful than if she were mania cally opposed. You may not he able to make her care about getting hitched, hut it doesn’t mean she won’t do it. The question is really, How do you convince Louise to do anything she doesn’t feel like doing? How do you get her to walk the dog at midnight or to go to your mother’s house for yet another holiday dinner? If you’re like most other people, the mutual deci sions in your relationship are fueled hy some combination of flattery, bribery, blackmail and love. O f course, manipulating someone into marrying you d<x)sn’t feel as ful filling as having her fall to her knees and propose, hut you’ve had her for better or worse for 17 years, so maybe just her reluctant presence at the altar will he enough. JHl © Meryl Cohn 2004 M eryl C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Cuide to Gay arid Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mifflm). Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavun@anl.com.
