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If you identify as gay or lesbian, would you date
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who identifies as bisexual? Why or why not?
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es, and I have. W hy not? It’s the ultim ate
in hypocrisy to fight discrim ination only
to practice it yourself. W h at m atters in a rela
tionship is how you relate to the other person
and w hether you enjoy sex w ith him. If you’re
worried about who else he's attracted to,
you’ve got bigger problems than “gay" or
“hi"— there’s always someone cuter than you,
no m atter what gender or genders your partner
is attracted to.
A lan B atie
Bern <cr ton
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ain a lesbian. Yes, 1 would date someone who
is bisexual, hut it depends too on the rela
tionship that we have and the level of com m it
ment. It really depends on the person, not the
“label’’ she gives herself.
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C erene A drienne
Beaverton
in the past who have taken a hack step when
they found out I’m bisexual, she said, "They just
don’t see what I see in you.”
L ucia M arie
Portland
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es! W hy is there so much emphasis put on
someone’s sexual orientation? It is not right
when the gay/lesbian community feels judged by
their sexual orientation by the heterosexuals,
and IT IS N O T RIG H T for anyone to judge the
bisexual community, either. I believe in the old
adage "To each his own’’!
T he mere fact that someone acknowledges
his or her attraction to the opposite sex should
he seen as a step toward acceptance for the
gay/lesbian community. We all need to accept
each other based oil W H O a person is, N O T
who he or she sleeps with! Live and let live.
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M arjorie M artinez
Victorville, Calif.
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t would he a possibility if I were single. The
cases I wouldn’t are: if she feels the need to
have both a female and a male partner concur
rently and doesn’t feel they conflict, if she
believes she will marry a man to have the “legal
and societal benefits” at some point in time, or
it would he delayed if she has had relations
recently so I could be sure of no STDs.
K im F otheringham
Vancouver, Wash.
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I
am bisexual and am seeing a lesbian. She sees
me as the woman she loves. She knows that
when I am with someone, I am with them. No
one else. She has seen/hcard me get discouraged
over my bisexuality. She understands that it’s
not easy for me. W hen I told her about lesbians
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ost likely 1 wouldn’t date a bi woman.
Having had that experience in my life
before, I found much hurt. I was in a long-term
relationship with a bi girl who 1 adored. Unfor
tunately for me, she liked to sleep with men
behind my back. At one point she became preg
nant. (I knew it wasn’t me.)
I had hopes at the time of starting a family
with her, regardless of her infidelities. She chose
the father over me. It was an extremely gut-
wrenching experience. I know logically that one
woman shouldn’t affect my feelings toward oth
ers, but it has.
Be this as it may, love is love. If the woman I
fall deeply, passionately and completely in love
with identifies as bi, then so be it.
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ideal methcxl if our goal is to “predict the gender
of newborns with ambiguous genitalia.” Clearly,
the Reuters story is way, way off at many levels.
E mi K oyama
Intersex Initiative
Power surge
T o the E ditor :
\ f any black people think the white man
iV A conquered us with Christianity. I believe
whoever is in power realizes that giving the peo
ple religion was the biggest mistake they made.
People are coming out of penitentiaries and off
skid row realizing that a higher power is working
miracles in their lives. Keep this up, and jails
might have to close. Skid row might smell like
flowers. W hat’s wrong with this picture? W hen
people start to become financially free, the peo
ple in power really don’t have control. This is
the reason for taking religion not just out of our
sch(x>ls but out of our culture.
W hy the attack on the gay and lesbian com
munity? If ymi’re not sleeping with me, why
should I care? Money means power. If you have
too much money, you could one day have too
much power. T he people in power haven’t
learned how to share that power. 1 would say the
people in power are paranoid schizophrenics,
and they are dangerous to society.
M inister T yrone W illiams
Portland
corrections
n the Dec. 5 article “Breaking the Binary
Barrier,” a statem ent hy Scott Dillinger was
misattrihuted to Laury Weiss. Dillinger said:
“M any gay and lesbian people, myself included,
have identified as bisexual at one time or
an o th er...in an attem pt to dip my toe in the
water to gauge |my friends’) reaction to the idea
that I may he attracted to men. I continued to
pursue women, hut I was also able to begin
being more comfortable and open about my
same-sex attraction.”
In the Dec. 5 Just O ut Holiday Gift Guide,
N ext A dventure should have been listed as
Deek and Bryan’s, not Derek and Bryan’s.
Just O ut regrets the errors.
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