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ADVICE SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multi racial, multicultural, open and affirming church Sunday worship is at 10 am church school for children runs concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503284 8767 auccQteleporl com) (7/03) Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday 503 281-0722X7/03) Atkinson Memorial Church i$ a Unitarian Universalist welcoming congregation si Oregon City (710 Sixth St 503656 7296 wvwv athnsonchurch com) (7/03) Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a commu nity of progressive political people exploring and cele bratmg the Chnstian faith We are sexual mmonty and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children are valued members (10 30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 5032580992 www bndgeportucc org) (7/03) The City Church Portland's "oldest gay affirming Chnstian church," offers a spint driven church for today s diverse generations (10 am Sunday commu nion and worship service. 6 30 pm Sunday worship service. 7 pm Wednesday Bible study 3830 SE 62nd Ave 503 775 5024X7/03) Congregation Neveh Shalom, an open and pro gressive Conservative Jewish synagogue, extends a warm welcome to all sexual minonties Shabbat serv ices 8:15 pm Fnday and 9 am Saturday (2900 SW Peaceful Lane 503 246 8831 7 (7/03) Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian. Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland Meets several times a month in vanous loca tions (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242 0187 503 248-4500 wwwpnaiorpdx org )(7/03) Dignity Portland meets for Mass on Sundays (503 262 6947X7/03) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children s religious education (1030 am Sunday 1133 NE 181st Ave . Gresham 503 665 2628 eastroseQteleport com www eastrose org) (7/04) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming community of Chnstians in Troutdale that values and encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family of God Sunday worship at 1015 am; Adult Education at 9 am. children and youth at 10 30 am Wednesday Prayers 6-6 30 pm (27400 SE Stark St 503 661 4520 X7/03) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spintual growth, community and social justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SIV 12th Ave 5032286389 wwwfirstuntananportlandorg) (7/03) First United Methodist Church of Portland, a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God's family Sexual mmonty potlucks held monthly (10 30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St 503 228 3195 www fumcpdx org ) (7/03) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass fol lowed by a social (730 pm Friday Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503 231 4955 7(7/03) Gay Men's Labyrinth Project meets quarterly for a walking meditation and wisdom circle on the labynnth (Dale 503 233 2026. ext 3 www gaytabynnth org ) (7/04) Integrity is a group of sexual mmonty Episcopalians and fnends Vanous locations throughout Oregon (Bruce Mason 503 286 9111 brucepdxorQattbi com www mtegntyusa org) (7/03) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spiritual direc tors from vanous world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503 233 2026 ext 3 www interfaithspmtualcenter com) (7/03) YOUTH Metro: Youth Flavor« a program of MultiQueer and Brother to Brother. Is a social support group for sexual mmonty youth of color 24 and younger Meets every other Sunday for food and socializing Regular events and activities (Jaye 503 228 3892 or yrye&mfamily org) (7/03) The Gay. Laeblan and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) fights to end anti-gay bias m K -12 schools. (12700 SW North Dakota St. Suite 180. »129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177. glsenOglsenoregon org www glsenoregon org) (7/03) MultiQueer, a program of Love Makes a Family, provides advocacy to sexual minority youth Offers resources and support m the community and the school systems with a focus on support for youth of color (Jaye 503 228 3892 or piyeQlmfamity org) (7/03) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can t qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hormones Can provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for those HIV+ and younger than 23 Also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group fix queer youth Needs volunteers of all ages (10 am-6 pm Keshet Portland is a group for Jewish members of the sexual mmonties community and their partners spouses and supporters Monthly social, rekgious and cultural events (Dawd or Laney 503 2267079. ext 14 7(7/03) coming ail people snee 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Eucharist at Bridgeport United Church of Chnst A welcoming congregation Catholic m tradition and Ecumenical m membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503 699-0473 www komoniacommunity org ) (7/03) Trinity United Methodist Church is an open Chnstian community where faith and life intersect AH invited* ( 10 30 am Sunday 3915 SE Steele St The Rev Wendy Joy Woodworth 503 777 3901 7(7/03) Lesbian Christian Fellowship meets for study and social outings Committed Chnstians and stiH unsures welcome (Barbara 503-760-5791.) (7/04) Longview United Methodist Church is welcom ing and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave 360 425-4927) (7/03) Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "house church" that bongs gay and straight together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship (503-281-3697 www tearsoup com/melanota) (7/04) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am worship service (2400 NE Broadway 503 281 8868 mfo&mccportland.com .7(7/03) Peace Church of the Brethren is a welcoming congregation (11 am Sunday 12727 SE Market St 503 254-6380) (7/04) care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503 2236424) (7/03) Waveriy Heights UCC is open and affirming with worship, children s school and child care. (10 am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St 503 238 1337 www wavertyucc org ) (7/04) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal rekgious community offering mtergenerational services and rekgious education for children It welcomes gay. lesbian, bi and trans mem bers Nurtures spintual growth and promotes living by Unitanan Universalist pnnc.ples (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St 503 777 3704 www wyeast pnwd uuaorg) (7/03) Zion United Church of Christ .in open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship m a Chnst centered, warm, canng. multiage/race/cultural faith community (II am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave Gresham 503665 8741X7/03) Washington: Spirituality Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New Thought, uplifting, refreshing and exciting place of wor ship Become a minister m our ministerial program (10 am Sunday Cal for location 503 777 0727 .7(7/03) Abundant Life Center is A New Thought Community for spintual awakening and transforming lives through love A safe place where children team to embody spintual principles (10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth Ave Vancouver 360 573 2626X7/03) Portland Church of Religious Science is a lib eral. open, progressive New Thought community wel coming everyone to discover the spint within Change your thinking, change your life1 (10 am Sunday medita East Vancouver United Methodist Church is reconciling and welcoming (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Blvd 360693-4761 ourclarkcounty Columbian com/273/ )(7103) tion. 1030 am service and /unior church. 630 pm Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave 503 261 0677) (7/03) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spiritual growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave (503 235-0826 ollerQpcet com )(7103) Seventh Day Adventist Kinship is a support organization for LGBT people, their families and fnends (PO Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 92607- 7320 866 732 5677 officeQsdakmship org www sdakmship org) (7/04) SisterSpirit offers women's spmtuality celebrations, discussion groups, a dramming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome. (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address PO Box 9246. Portland. OP 97207 503 736 3297 sistersp@teleport com ) (7/03) Spirit Circle is for lesbian, bi or trans women seeking a welcoming community in the Catholic church Meets every third Thursday in the St Andrew Nativity School (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St Ibtspmtcircle&yahoo com ) (7/03) Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chai lengmg. supportive community that welcomes all peo pie It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church m Oregon Sunday school and nursery care (10 am Sunday 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503 644 2073 staffQsouthmin com) (7/03) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (9 30 am Sunday 806 NE Aberta St 503 2814429X7/03) St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for tradition al. liturgical worshp where we expenence God's rec onciling love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503 227 2439) (7/03) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel Monday Fnday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503535-3800 www outsidein org ) (7103) Vanguard Youth Services a program of Cascadia Behavioral HealthCare. offers support and recreation to gay. lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Programs include Clackamas County Sexual Minority Youth Connection (COS- MYO provides opportunities for queer and questioning kids to get together for free, fun and supportive social activities Also one-on-one support and referrals to Clackamas County service providers (503 969 0060 cosmycyouthQyehoo.com) Expression is a free art/expression support group m Gresham for queer youth. Hang out and have fun every Friday* (Jonathan 503672-9664. ext 28 7 Pride Project bangs together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information, referral and advocacy serv ices in Washington County (Moly 503 2605792. moHyQpndeprofect org) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SMYRC) offers drop-m computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out Weekly youth support groups includes Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a cre ative group) (4 8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm midnight Fnday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St. 503-872 9664 TTY 503 231 9286 WWW smyrc org ) Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth m a friendly, relaxed environment. <503872 9664) (7/03) First Congregational Church United Church of Chnst. holds two Sunday services, traditional and "less traditional" in an open and affirming congrega lion (1220 NE 68th St. Vancouver 360 693 1476 vanucc&aol com) (7/03) God's Holy Territory is a chansmatic joy filled worship expenence in Vancouver where everyone is welcome gay. lesbian, bi trans and straight (II am Sunday service Bible study 7 pm Thursdays, except third Thursday 1500 NE 49th St 360 885 9461 pastorQgodsholyterntory com) (7/03) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd m Vancouver welcomes you (10 30 am and 630 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev Harnet Barshofsky 360695 1480) (7/03) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spint (9 15 and 11 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St. Vancouver 360695 1891 7(7/03) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church United Church of Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng wor ship and church school Child care provided and wheel chair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour. 10 am wor ship 700 Manon St NE. Salem 5033633660X7/03) Morningside United Methodist Church is a reconciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full life of the congregation (8 30 and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th St SE. Salem 503 364 5013 ) (7/03) Sacred Souls honors aH sacred paths, promotes peace and stoves to create an environment that supports and promotes mterfaith dialogue Meets at the Oregon School of Massage (6 308 pm Sunday 440 Ferry St SE. Salem wholhlth^ail com www sacredsouls org 7(7/03) Eastern Oregon: Youth Easte^^n ^3re^^^)^i fur In^lep^inil^rnt Lrvm^j offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, b, trans and quesbormg youth r Eastern Oregon (541 889-3119 or 8662488369 eootOeociorg wwweodiorg.)(7/0/3) Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, b. trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the basement of Youth House. 1112 Columbia St in Vancouver (John 3606951325.) (7/03) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay. Lesbian* Bi* Transgender and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, nfor- mation and fun n Eugene Free, confidential adult faok tated. (Drop n 46 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center. 2700 Htyard St. 541684-3466)0/03) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual. Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday in Eugene (5 pm. Komon» Center. 1414 Knead St 541-3461134X7/03) Rainbow Youth of Salem for kids 21 and younger meets twice weekly (66 pm Tuesday 4 6 pm Thursday 600 State St. Dan 503 93672601(7/03) .............. ▼............... Close, closer... Sexual predator or victim—which are you? Jeff is now married D ear M s . B ehavior : to a woman, and he’s a I seem to attract bi lawyer, and he lives in sexual women or those the wealthy 'burbs near who are still in the closet. They find me a safe the city where we grew up. I'm none of those haven for unexpressed things. 1 haven’t figured feelings or are attracted to out yet what to be me. We start out as friends, and then the rela- when I grow up. tionship evolves to anoth I am clean and er level of verbal intimacy. sober now, finally, after Most women talk years of depression and about intimacy and bcxize. 1 work as a waiter love, right? So this isn’t in a very gay city, which a boundary abuse, is it? is about as far away from How <kx?s one help others with their my hometown as a person can get. hidden sexualities without making Sadly, I have never fixind love, so I them feel uncomfortable in any way? would be going alone. There are times when these women Aren’t these reunions just a bunch have gone as far as flirting with me in of people standing around bragging different, subtle ways. It has caused me about their kids, careers and happy, heartache and pain to deal with such happy lives? My life hasn’t been so denial. I have even put myself in ther happy. Should I subject myself to the apy to make sure what I am perceiving misery of having to tell people I work from these women is an attraction I in the restaurant industry just to get a because it is so confusing. They end up little tongue from an old lover? Somehow 1 can’t seem to make dropping out of my life when they feel myself blow it off because Jeff from my they are getting hx> close to me, and I am left standing there feeling empty. past wants me to show up and have a cocktail with him. Should I go to this —Trust Bandits thing for one final fling? —At Least I Still Have All My Hair D ear T rust B andits : Are you the lesbian our mothers warned us about? You’d prefer to believe D ear A t L east I S till H ave A ll M y you're a magnet for sexually confused H air : If you go to your high school women, when in actuality you lure them with the promise reunion just to reconnect with your of sorting out their feelings. Your conver secret sex buddy sations with them are from 20 years ago, probably erotically you’ll probably be charged, which is why disappointed. You you wonder if it’s might have left out “boundary abuse.’’ a juicy detail when In reality, these you described Jeff’s women don’t need e-mail, but, if not, it your help with their seems unlikely that “hidden sexualities.” he plans to have a They’ll figure out final fling with you what to do with their at the reunion, feelings all by them despite your luxuri selves, without you ous hair. acting as the midwife It’s fine to fanta for their latent size about hixiking lesbianism. up with a past You need to stay away from straight lover, but counting on it might leave or bisexual women (and their birth you feeling crushed. Besides, where canals) and figure out why you’re afraid does his wife go in your fantasy to have friendships or relationships while Jeff fellates you behind the with real lesbians. (OK, some of us are punch bowl? Sometimes a cocktail is just a cocktail. admittedly scary, but once you get to know us we’ll embrace you and love Most people attend these events you and excite you—and try to ensnare when they're feeling gixxl ahxit them you in long, sexless relationships.) selves, and it d(X?sn’t sound like yixi do If you stop trying to suck confused right now. So, congratulate yourself on women into intimate chat, you'll stop your newfound sobriety. And work on feeling the pain of their denial, which becoming a spiritual giant before yinir is actually your own denial. If your 25th reunion so that you can decide therapist hasn't begun to lead you in from a detached and fearless position this direction, you might need a new whether to attend. jm therapist. (Ms. Behavior hopes you haven’t gone so far as to find yourself © Meryl Gihn 2003 a sexually confused therapist, tixi.) M eryl C ohn is the authm of Do What I3 ear M s . B ehavior : I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay Out of the blue I received an e-mail and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghum from a guy I had lots of secret sex with Mifflm). Signed copies are available in high schcxil. He wants to know if directly from the author. Send questions ar I’m going to ixir 20-year reunion. correspondence to mshehiwurd&aol com. You'd prefer to believe you're a. magnet for sexually confused women, when in actuality you lure them with the promise of sorting out their feelings
