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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (July 4, 2003)
SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality A insw orth U nited C hurch o f C h rist is a multi racial, m ulticultural, open and affirm ing church Sunday worship is at 10 am. church school for children runs concurrently (294 i NE Ainsworth St 503 284-8767 aucc@teleport com 7 (7/03) Answim Community of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday 503 281 07221(7/03) A tkinson M em orial C hurch is a Unitarian Universalis! welcoming congregation in Oregon City (710 Sixth St 503-656 7296 www atkmsonchurch com 7 (7/03) B ridgeport United Church o f C hrist is a commu mty of progressive, political people exploring and cele brating the Chnstian faith We are sexual minonty and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children are valued members (1030 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 5032580992 www bndgepcrtucc org) (7/03) The C ity C hurch Portland s "oldest gay affirming Chnstian church." offers a spmt driven church for today s diverse generations. (10 am Sunday commu nion and worship service, 6 30 pm Sunday worship service. 7 pm Wednesday Bible study 3830 SE 62nd Ave 503 775 5024 H V 03) C ongregation Neveh Shalom an open and pro gressive Conservative Jewish synagogue, extends a warm welcome to all sexual minonties Shabbat serv ices 8:15 pm Fnday and 9 am Saturday (2900 SW Peaceful Lane 503 246 8831 7 (7/03> C ongregation P 'nai O r (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian. Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland M eets several times a month in various loca tions (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 972420187 503 248 4500 www pnaiorpdx o rg 7 (7/03) D ignity P ortland meets for Mass on Sundays (503 262 6947)1 7/03) L a stró te Fellow ship U nitarian U niversalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children s religious education (10 30 am Sunday I133NE l8 ts lA v e . Gresham 503 665 2628 eastrose&teleport com www eastrose org 7 (7/04) Faith United M ethodist C hurch is a welcoming community of Chnstians in Troutdale that values and encourages all people in finding a place of belonging m the family of God Sunday worship at 10 15 am. Adult Education at 9 am. children and youth at 10 30 am Wednesday Prayers 6-6.30 pm (27400 SE Stark St 503 661 4 5 2 0 X 7 /0 3 ) F irst U nitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spintual growth, commu nity and social justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave 5032286389 www hrstumtananportland org ) (7/03) F irst U nited M ethodist C hurch of Portland a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God s family Sexual minonty potlucks held monthly (10 30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St 503 228 3195 www fumcpdx org 7(7/03) Gay and Lesbian O utreach (GALO) of St Philip Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass fo l lowed by a social (7 30 pm Fnday Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503 231 49551(7/03) Gay Men's Labyrinth Protect meets guarteity for a walking meditation and wisdom circle on the labynnth (Dale 503 2332026. ext 3 www gaytabyrmth org 7(7/04) In te g rity is a group of sexual minonty Episcopalians and fnends Various locations throughout Oregon (Bruce Mason 503 2869111 brucepdxorGattbi com www mtegntyvsa o rg 7 (7/03) In te rfa ith S p iritu a l C enter houses spintual direc tors from various world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second YOUTH Metro: Youth Flavors a program of MuttiQueer and Brother to Brother. Is a social support group for sexual minonty youth of color 24 and younger. Meets every other Sunday for food and soaafarg Regiiar events and activities (Jaye 5032283892 or /ayeOirnfamiyorg ) (7/03) The G ay. L e sb ia n a n d S tra ig h t E d u c a tio n N e tw o rk (G LS E N ) fights to end anti-gay bias m K-12 schools. (12700 SW North Dakota S t. Suite 180.1129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177 glseoOglseooregon.org www gtsenoregon org ) (7/03) M u ttiQ u e e r a program of Love Makes a Famty. pro vides advocacy to sexual minority youth Offers resources and support m the community and the school systems, with a focus on support for youth o f color (Jaye 503 228-3892 or iayeOtmhnnty.org.) (7 /03) O u ts id e In operates a chvc fo r anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as w e l as needte exchange services that include those vfoo inject hor mones Can provide transitional housing fo r youth 20 and younger as we* as for those HIV+ and younger than 23 Also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self support group for queer youth Needs volunteers of a l ages (10 am-6 pm Monday Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503 535-3800 WWW outsidem org.) (7/03) V a n g u a rd Y o u th S e n d ee « a program of Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 5032332026. ext 3 www mterfaithspintualcenter com 7(7/03) care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503 2236424) (7103) Keehet Portland >s a group for Jewish members of the T rinity U nited M ethodist C hurch is an open Chnstian community where faith and life intersect A l minted1 (1030 am Sunday 3915 SE Steele St The sexual mmonties community and the» partners, spouses and supporters Monthly social, rekgwus and cultural events (David or Laney 503 226 7079. ext 141(7/03) Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Euchanst at Bridgeport United Church of Chnst A wel coming congregation. Cathokc m tradition and Ecumenical in membershp (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503699-0473 www kcxnonacommunity org 7(7/03) Lesbian C hristian Fellow ship meets lor study and social outings Committed Chnstians and still- unsures welcome (Barbara 503-760 5791.1(7/04) Longview U nited M ethodist C hurch is welcom ing and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave 360 425-4927) (7/03) M etanoia Peace Com m unity United M othodist C hurch is a "house church" that bnngs gay and straight together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship (503 281 3697 www tearsoup com/metanoia 1(7/04) Peace C hurch o f the B rethren is a welcoming congregation. (11 am Sunday. 12727 SE Market St 503 254 63801(7/04) Portland Canter fo r S piritual Growth is a New Thought, uplifting, refreshing and exciting place of wor shp Become a mmtster m our ministerial program (10 am Sunday C al for location 503 77707271(7/03) P ortland C hurch o f R eligious Science is a lib eral. open, progressive New Thought community wel coming everyone to discover the spmt within Change your thinking, change your life 1 (10 am Sunday medita tion. 10 30 am service and junior church. 63 0 pm Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave 503 261 0677 7(7/03) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles al the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spintual growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave (503-235-0826 otterOpcez com.) (T/03) W averiy Heights UCC is open and affirming with worship, children's school and chid care (10 am Mfy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and kberal rekgous community offenng mtergen eratonal servees and rekgious education for chidren It welcomes gay. lesbian, tx and trans members Nurtures spintual growth and promotes Irving by Unitarian Universalist principles (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele Si 503 777-3704 www wyeasl pnwd uua org ) (7/03) Zion U nited Church o f C hrist an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship m a Chnst-centered. warm, canng. m ultiage/race/cultural faith community ( I I am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd A ve . Gresham 503 665 8741 7 (7/03) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life C enter is A New Thought Community for spintual awakening and transforming lives through love A safe place where children learn to embody spintual pnnciples (10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth A ve. Vancouver 360-573-2626 7 (7/03) East Vancouver U nited M ethodist C hurch is reconciling and welcoming (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur B M 360 693 4761 ourclarkcounty Columbian com/273 / . 7 (7/03) F irst C ongregational Church United Church of Chnst. holds two Sunday services, traditional and "less traditional" m an open and affirming congrega tion (1220 NE 68th S t. Vancouver 360-693-1476 vanucc0aol com 7 (7/03) God's Holy T erritory is a chansmatic. p y filled worship experience in Vancouver where everyone is welcome: gay, lesbian, bi. trans and straight (I I am Sunday service Bible study 7 pm Thursdays, except third Thursday I500NE 49th St 360 885 9461 pastor@godsholytemtorycom) (7/03) M etropolitan Community C hurch o f the Gentle Shephard in Vancouver welcomes you discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing (1030 am and 63 0 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360 695 1480 7 (7/03) S p irit C ircle is for lesbian, bt or trans women seek mg a welcoming community in the Catholic church M eets every third Thursday in the St Andrew Nativity School (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St IbtspmtcircleQyahoo com 7 (7/03) Southm inster Preebyterian Church is a chal lengmg. supportive community that welcomes all peo pie It is the first M ore Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon Sunday school and nursery care (1(7 am Sunday 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503 644 2073 staff&southmm com 7 (7/03) St. Andrew C atholic Church invites all to |om a ckverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (9 30 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 503 281 4429 7 (7/03) St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for tradition al. liturgical worship where we experience God's rec oncilmg love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503 227 2439 7(7/03) St. Stephen's Episcopal C hurch has been wel coming all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and chid Cascadw Behavioral HeelthCare, offers support and recreation to gay. lesbian. U and trans kids 23 and younger Programs mdude C la cka m a s C o u n ty S e x u a l M in o rity Y o u th C onn e ct io n (C O S - M Y C ) provides opportunities for queer and question Ing kids to get together for free, fun and supportive social activities Also one-on-one support and referrals to Clackamas County service providers (503-969-0060 cosmycyouth0yehoo.com ) E x p re s s io n is a free art/expression support group m Gresham fo r queer youth Hang out and have fon every Friday! (Jonathan 503-872-9664. ext. 28 ) P rid e Pro j ect bnngs together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend month ly social events Also information, referral and advoca cy services in Washington County ( Molly 503-260-5792. moity0vndeproiect. o rg ) S e xu a l M in o rity Y o u th R e cre a t io n C e n te r (8 M Y R O offers drop-m computer access, pool tables and an nform al place to hang out W eekly youth support groups mcludes Trans Youth Group and Personal Deky Proxy (a creative group) (4 8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm -m dxght Fnday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St 5038729664 TTY 503-231 9286 www amyrc.org.) Y e n * H IV /S T D r fv v tm M N i V’ F O fic t provides fun ana eoucaixxvoi programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a fnendy. relaxed environment (503872 9664 7(7/03) Eastern Oregon: Youth EM teni Oregon Cootof for liMltpendifvt Wall! My friends are having babies, and Tm out in the cold Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St 503 238 1337 www wavertyucc org 7(7/04) S iste rS p irit offers women s spmtuality celebrations, address PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207 503 736-3297 sistersp&teleport com 7 (7/03) Family affair Rev Wendy Joy Woodworth 503 777 3901) (7103) M etropolitan Com m unity Church o f Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday schodFfor children is held dunng the 11 am worship service (2400 NE Broadway 503 281 8866 mfo&mccportlandcom .7 (7/03) ADVICE .... f.... Michael Servetus U nitarian U niversalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spmt (9 15 and 11 am Sunday 4505 E 18th S t. Vancouver 360695 1891 7 (7/03) Willamette Valley: Spirituality F irst Congregational C hurch United Church of Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour. 10 am worship 700 Manon St NE. Salem 503 363 36601(7/03) M orning side United M ethodist Church is a reconciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate m the full life of the congregation (830 and I I am Sunday 3674 12th St SE. Salem 503 364 5013X7/03) Sacred Souls honors a l sacred paths, promotes peace and strives to create an environment that supports and promotes mterfaith dalogue Meets at the Oregon School of Massage (630-8 pm Sunday 440 Ferry S t SE. Salem wholhlthêaol com www sacredsouls org ) (7/03) L iv in g offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, b . trans and questioning youth In Eastern Oregon. (541889-3n9or8662488369 eoatO eodorg www to o l org 7 (7/03) Washington: Youth T rip le P o in t offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesban, b. trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. Wseh Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays In the basement o f Youth House. 1112 Cotumba St in Vancouver. (John 360895-1325.) 0 /0 3 ) Willamette Valley: Youth Cay. U sM an, BL Tranagandar and Qua ado aim Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support Information and fun In Eugene Free, confidential. aduft facMtated (Drop In 4 6 pm Friday Amazon Community Center. 2700 H tym t St. 541884-3466) (7/03) Laahion, Gay, Biaoxuai, Tronegender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday In Eugene (5 pm Koinonia Center. 1414 Kmcmd S i 541-3481134X7 KTX) Rainbow Youth o f ta la « for kid* 21 and younger meets twice weekly (8 8 pm Tuesdey. 4 8 pm Thursday. 800 State S t Den 503-930-7260) (7/03) My best friend and her girlfriend just had a hahy. Ellen promised she wouldn’t become one of those mothers who only talk about feeding schedules and nipple chafing and poop. But guess what? It’s all she talks about. I don’t want to he petulant, hut Ellen and her girlfriend don’t pay enough attention to me and my issues any more. We don’t go out to bars, they don’t invite me over to dinner, and I feel like I’ve lost my best friend. Why do lesbians forget that their other friends even exist as stxin as they give birth? I feel all alone in the world. How long do people remain obsessed with their infants? G in 1 demand that they he better friends to me, even though they have a noisy, smelly hahy now? Or am I supposed to just let my resentment fester until I burst? —John wom an who is every thing I’ve always w anted in a partner. T h e com plication is th a t she is trying to have a hahy w ith her close gay male friend, David. T h ey ’ve been insem inating for m onths and plan to raise the child together. David is very nice, but h e’s always around, and I’m wor ried that it will only worsen after Linda gets pregnant. I’ve always wanted a hahy, too, hut I’m not sure how I feel a k m t three- way parenting. I’ve found myself hoping Linda will fall in love with me and then change her mind ak>ut her arrange ment with David. T h a t’s probably jumping texi far ahead, anyway, because Linda and I have only had two dates. But would 1 he foolish to pursue a relationship with her? —Stella D D ear S tella : D ear ear M J o s . h n B eh a v io r : : Ellen and her girlfriend have clear ly forgotten who you are. If you go ring their dix>rbell wearing only a dia per and carrying a Kntle, they might remember how much you need them. T hen they’ll scoop you up in their arms and rcx:k you in a blanket, and you’ll feel much better. Most parents talk gibberish for the first two years of their baby’s lives and aren’t capable of normal adult conver sation until their child is old enough for kindergarten, j This is not some thing you can or should fight; you cannot win the bat tle against genetically programmed behavior. Perhaps you’ll feel more a part of the family if you become willing to take a role in the baby’s life. If being an uncle seems unappealing at first, maybe you can adjust to it gradual ly— or become an auntie instead. You’ll probably want to make some new friends, too, rather than waiting five or six years for Ellen to become more attentive. But you should know I that becoming totally baby-focused is j not exclusive to lesbian parents, lest you think the odds of becoming the center of the universe will improve if you find a straight woman to he your j mommy. A fter tw o dates you want Linda to change her m ind and alter her life plans? Most les bians d o n ’t dem and their girlfriends modify their lives until the fourth date, by w hich point you’d have more inform ation to determ ine w hether you have com patible appetites for music, sex and frxxL W hen you get involved with someone new, you need to imagine th at things will remain exactly as they are, rather th an assume that they’ll be modified to suit you. People change in all sorts of ways over time hut rarely in precisely the ways th at you hope or imagine. H inging your happiness on a particular change puts a huge strain on a relationship. D on’t pursue a relationship with Linda if you'll only he happy if she dumps David. He and his sperm are clearly at the center of her life right now, so you’ll need to figure out whether you can be happy with that arrangement. We don’t go out to bars, they don’t Invite me over to dinner, and I feel like Fve lost m y best friend. Why do lesbians forget that their other friends even exist as soon as they give birth? : D ear M s . B ehavior : I'm dating Linda, a sexy, smart in © Meryl C ohn 2003 M eryl C o h n is the author of D o What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mifflm). Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavioiQaol .com.
