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juna fi. 2003 SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multi racial, multicultural, open and affirm ing church. Sunday worship is at 10 am; church school for children runs concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503284 8767 aucc@1elepod com.) (7/03) Answim Community of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday 503281 0 7 2 2 ) (7/03) Atkinson Memorial Church is a Unitanan Universalis! welcoming congregation in Oregon City. (710 Sixth St 503-656-7296 wwwatkmsonchurch com ) (7/03) Bible Abuse Recovery is a spintual growth group for healing gay, lesbian, bi and trans people hurt and abused by distorted and manipulative views of the Bible (503-760-5791. biblerecovery@yahoocom. www geocities com/biblerecovery. 1(7/03) Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a commu mty of progressive, political people exploring and cele brating the Chnstian faith We are sexual mmonty and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children are valued members (10 30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-258-0992 www bndgepoducc o rg ) (7/03) The City Church. Portland's "oldest gay-affirming Chnstian church," offers a spint-dnven church for today s diverse generations. (10 am Sunday commu nion and worship service. 6 3 0 pm Sunday worship service. 7 pm Wednesday Bible study 3830 SE 62nd Ave 503-775-5024 7(7/03) Congregation Neveh Shalom, an open and pro gressive Conservative Jewish synagogue, extends a warm welcome to all sexual minonties Shabbat ser vices 8 :15 pm Fnday and 9 am Saturday (2900 SW Peaceful Lane 503-246 8831.) ( 7/03) Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian. Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland M eets several times a month in vanous loca tions (PO Box 42187, Portland. OR 97242-0187. 503-248-4500 www pnatorpdx o rg ) (7/03) Dignity Portland meets for Mass on Sundays. (503-262-694 7 ) (7/03) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education (1 0 3 0 am 1133 NE 181st A v e . Gresham 503-665-2628 eastrose@teleport com.) (7/03) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming community of Chnstians in Troutdale that values and encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family of God Sunday worship at 10:15 am; Adult Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10:30 am. Wednesday Prayers 6-6 30 pm (27400 SE Stark St 503-661 -4520) (7/03) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirm ing liberal religious community offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spintual growth, commu nity and social justice. Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave 503-228-6389 www firstumtananportland o rg ) (7/03) available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503-2332026. ext 3. www mterfaithspintualcenter com.) (7/03) Keshet Portland is a group for Jewish members of Wavoriy Heights UCC is open and affirming with worsNp, children's school and child care. (10 am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St. 503 238 1337 www.wavertyucc.org.) (7/04) Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation small faith community that gathers weekly to celébrate Euchanst at Bridgeport United Church of Chnst. A welcoming congregation. Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical m membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503 699-0473 www komomacommunity org ) (7/03) is an open and liberal rekgious community offenng mtergenerational services and rekgious education for children It welcomes gay. lesbian, bi and trans mem bers Nurtures spintual growth and promotes living by Unitarian Umversakst principles (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St 503 777 3704 www wyeast pnwd uuaorg.) (7/03) Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "house church" that bnngs gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7 20 am. Sunday gathenng 5 pm. 2116 NE 18th Ave 503-281 ■3697 www tearsoup.com/metanoia) (7/03) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway 503 281 8868 mfo@mccportland com.) (7/03) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New Thought, uplifting, refreshing and exciting place of worship Become a m inister m our ministerial program. (10 am Sunday Call for location. 503-777 0727.) (7/03) Portland Church of Religious Science is a lib eral. open, progressive New Thought community w el coming everyone to discover the spint within Change your thinking, change your life! (10 am Sunday medita tion. 10 30 am service and ¡umor church. 6 30 pm Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave 503 261 0677.) (7/03) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spintual growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave. (503 235-0826 otterQpcei com.) (7/03) SisterSpirit offers women's sprntuaiity celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule o f events available All women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. 503 736 3297 ststersp@teleport c.om.) (7/03) Spirit Circle is for lesbian, bi or trans women seek ing a welcoming community in the Catholic church. Meets every third Thursday in the St. Andrew Nativity School (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St. IbtspmtcircleQyahoo co m ) (7/03) Southminstor Presbyterian Church is a chai lengmg, supportive community that welcomes all peo ple It is the first M ore Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon Sunday school and nursery care. (10 am Sunday 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073 staff@southmm com .)(7/03) First United Methodist Church of Portland, a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God's family Sexual mmonty potlucks held monthly (10:30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St 503-228 3195 www fumcpdx org ) (7/03) diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (9 30 am Sunday. 806 NE Alberta St 5 0 3 28 1 4 4 2 9 ) (7/03) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirm ing Mass fo l lowed by a social (7 30 pm Fnday Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503 231 4 9 5 5 ) (7/03) Integrity is a group of sexual mmonty Episcopalians and friends Vanous locations throughout Oregon (Bruce Mason 503 286-9111 bnx:epdxorOattbi com www mtegntyusa org.) (7/03) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spintual direc tors from vanous world religious traditions, who are YOUTH St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for tradition á . liturgical worship where we experience God s rec onciling love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503 227 2 4 3 9 ) (7/03) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel coming all people since 1863 (12.10 pm Wednesday and 745 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503-223-6424.) (7/03) recreation to gey. lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Programs include: Clackamna County Metro: Youth Sexual Minority Youth Connection (COS* M YO provides opportunities for queer and question Flavors a program of MultiQueer and Brother to Brother is a social support group for sexual minority youth of color 24 and younger. Meets every other Sunday for food and socializing Regular events and activities ing kids to get together for free, fun and supportive social activities Also one-on-one support and referrals to Clackamas County service providers. (503-969-0060 cosmycyouth@yahoo.com.) Expression is a free art/expresawn support group m Gresham for queer youth Hang out and have fon every Friday) (Jonathan 503-8729664. ext 2 8 ) Pride Project brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend month ly social events Also information, referral and advoca cy service« in Waahxigton County. (M olly 503 260-5792. m oty@ iv-deptojact o rg ) Sexuol (Jaye 503-228-3892 or iaye®mfam*y org.) (7/03) The Gay, Lasbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) fights to end anti-gay bias in K-12 schools (12700 SW North Dakota S t. Suite 180. *129. Tigard. OR 97223. 503-525-1177 glsen@glsenotegon org www.gtaenoregon org. ) (7/03) MuMQuoer, a program of Love Makes a Family, pro vides advocacy to sexual minority youth Offers resources and support« the community and the school systems, with a focus on support for youth of color. (Jaye 5032283892 or pye6tmfam4y.org.) (7/03) O uts id « In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needte exchange services that include those who inject hor mones Can provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for those HIV 4 and younger than 23 Also plays boat to VOICES (Voice« of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group for queer youth Needs volunteers of a l ages (10 am-6 pm Mcnday-Fddey 1132 SW 13th Ave 503535-3800 www outsidem org.) (7/0 3 ) Vanguard Youth Services a program of Cascadia Behavioral HealthCane. offers support and Trinity United Methodist Church is an open Chnstian community where faith and We intersect AH nvited! (10 30 am Sunday 3915 SE Steele St. The Rev Wendy Joy Woodworth 503-777-3901) (7/03) the sexual minonties community and their partners, spouses and supporters M onthly social, religious and cultural events (David or Laney 503 226-7079. ext M .7Í7/03) Longview United Methodist Church is welcom ing and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave 360-425-4927) (7/03) Minority Youth Recreation Contar (SMYRO offers drop-m computer access, pool tables and an informal piece to hang out Weekly youth support groups includes Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group) (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-mldnight Fnday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St. 5 0 3872 9664 TTY 503 231 9286 www 9m yK.0rg .) Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fon and educations! programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a fnenrky, relaxed environment (503872-9664 7(7/03) Eastern Oregon: Youth ADVICE .....*..... Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirm ing congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Chnst centered, warm, canng. m ultiage/race/cultural faith community (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave.. Gresham 503 665-8741.) (7/03) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center is A New Thought Community for spintual awakening and transforming lives through love. A safe place where children team to embody spintual pnnciples (10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth Ave.. Vancouver 360-573-2626 ) (7/03) East Vancouver United Methodist Church is reconciling and welcoming (W arn Sunday 5701 MacArthur Btvd 360693 4761 ourclarkcounty Columbian com/273/.) (7/03) First Congregational Church. United Church of Chnst. holds two Sunday services, traditional and "less traditional" in an open and affirming congrega tion (1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver 360-693 1476 vanucc@ac4.com.) (7/03) God's Holy Territory is a chansmatic. joy-filled worship experience in Vancouver where everyone is welcome: gay. lesbian, bi. trans and straight (11 am Sunday service Bible study 7 pm Thursdays, except third Thursday. 1500 NE 49th St 360-885 9461. pastorQgodsholytemtory co m ) (7/03) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd m Vancouver welcomes you (10 3 0 am arid 6 3 0 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360895 1480) (7/03) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship, a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spint. (9 15 and 11 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver. 360-6951891.) (7/03) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church. United Church of Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church school. Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour. 10 am worship 700 Manon St NE. Salem 503 363 36 6 0) (7/03) Morning side United Methodist Church is a reconciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate m the full We of the congregation (83 0 and I I am Sunday 3674 12th St SE. Salem 503 364 5013 )(7 /0 3 ) Sacred Souls honors all sacred paths, promotes peace and strives to create an environment that sup ports and promotes mterfaith dialogue Meets at the Oregon School of Massage (630-8 pm Sunday 440 Ferry St. SE. Salem wholhlth@aolcom www sacredsoutsorg.) (7/03) Living offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in Eastern Oregon. (541-889-3119 o r 866-2488369 eoc49eoct.org. www.aoct.org.) (7/03) Ready to cha cha? You don’t have to stay home hut avoid prickly dates D M ear s . B e h a v io r — Jasm ine D ear J a s m in e : Your readiness to date depends mostly on how recovered you feel from your recent relationship and breakup, which you can probably quantify with a simple injury assess ment. If you still have more than one of these symptoms of damage, you’re probably not ready: 1. Persistent bitterness that remains despite repeated processing with your friends or therapist of the events leading up to your breakup. 2. Obsession with your ex. This may take a variety of forms: driving by her house to see if she’s home, on going conversations in your head or with your ex about who was right or wrong, or concern with whether the woman she’s dating now is as sexually exciting as you were. 3. Deep cynicism (which feels situ ational rather than characterological) about love. 4. Virgin/whore mood swings, which manifest as bouts of staying home, vowing celibacy and pledging devotion to a box of Girl Scout cook ies, alternating with bouts of sleeping with scary, inappropriate people you’d never have looked at before. D ear M s . B e h a v io r : My girlfriend prefers a cleanly shaven chacha, but when it grows in it gets kind of prickly. Do you think I should try tweezing instead? Thanks for your opinion. — Choum Box Washington: Youth D to gey. lesbian, bi. trans and questiorwig youth in Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays n the basement of Youth House. 1112 Columbia S t in Vancouver. (John 360695-1325.) (7/03) Tweezing is a good option only if you and girlfriend are both aroused by slow torture, or if you need a hobby to occupy your minds while you are doing something tedious like, say, quitting smoking. Unfortunately, snatch tweezing is welcome in even fewer public places than is smoking, so you probably won’t he able to do it while standing and waiting for your train or in front of a restaurant in between dinner and dessert. Waxing, which needs to be done about once a month, is also painful, hut it’s much quicker. Eventually the hair grows in finer and less prickly. If you think you and your bald- Coy. I tihfon. Bi, Trsntfrm ftr and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, «»formation and fun in Eugene. Free, confidential. adult-facAtated (Drop in 4 6 pm Friday. Amazon Community Canter, 2700 Htyard S t 541684-3466.) (7/03) Laablen. Gay, H m h is I, Tronogondor Youth Croup for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday In Eugene (5 pm Nomante Center. 1414 Kincaid St. 541-3461134.) (7/0 3 ) Rainbow Youth of Sate« for hadn 21 and younger meets twice weekly (8 6 pm Tuesday. 4 6 pm Thursday 600 State S t Dan, 50 3 9 3 6 7 2 8 0 ) (7/0 3 ) ear C Box: Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy Willamette Valley: Youth chacha fetishist are destined to be together for a long time (and you enjoy the hairless look), you might con sider some type of “per manent” hair removal, like electrolysis or laser. Keep in mind, though, that it’s not unusual for some hair to grow back eventually; some prac titioners (like some girlfriends) who claim “forever” are lying. : I ended a rocky, long-term relationship six months ago. Some of my friends are now urging me to “get out there” by answering personal ads or going out on blind dates. Other friends tell me that not enough time has passed and that I should wait. Do you have any hints for how 1 might tell whether I’m ready to start dating? h o w n D ear M s . B e h a v io r : It seems to me you missed Ed’s point in his letter bemoaning the fact that his coupled friends do not invite him to join in their blissful coupling games. It’s my reading that Ed is not invited because perhaps he’s an embarrassing whore who “can’t devote [himself] to one person.” What respectable couple wants to be reminded of how sad our current gay culture is? I am not a self-hating fag, trust me; I love our community and support it fully, hut, please, we are run amuck with a bunch of shallow sluts and drug addicts. He says he’s waiting for Mr. Right to come along, but, honey, how is he ever going to know when he can’t devote the time or the effort? — Blissfully Uncoupled But N ot Bitching D ear B u t N B l is s f u l l y U o t B n c o u pled it c h in g : You may he right that some of Ed’s friends view him as you do— as an “embarrassing whore.” And it’s true that relationships require time and attention, which Ed may be unwilling to devote. However, Ms. Behavior sees no point in judging or trying to reform someone who is not interested in monogamy or who doesn’t neces sarily view a coupled relationship as an ideal for himself, at least for now. Also, even if Ed is a shallow slut by your standards, he said nothing to suggest he’s a drug addict. It sounds like his idea of a good time is more likely dinner parties or Scrabble games with coupled friends (perhaps some even you would find “respectable” ), not drug or bareback - ing orgies in after-hour clubs. If you indeed “love our communi ty,” why would you assume the worst or perpetuate the stereotypes inflicted on us by others, just because someone isn’t ready to settle into the kind of coupling you find acceptable? JT1 © Meryl Cohn 2003 M eryl C ohn is the author o f Do W hat I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (H oughton M ifflin). Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to m sbehavior@ aol. com . 37
