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others have entertainment indus try award statues on their man lo w tels... yet many have found the acknowledgment of their power, gifts and talents very troubling.” Wallman spent three years developing the program, and it is indeed pleasant and easy to use. After mousing through the sam ther sources of help are avail able on the Internet. One of ple, you might decide to plunk those is the Institute for Per down your digital ca.' nd try sonal Growth. the deluxe model. i Pt» c> Margaret Nichols founded it From a perusal of that, it in 1983 specifically to provide looks like you get your money’s psychotherapy for gay people by worth— and then some. Each gay people. The institute quickly attracted tal week you download a long chapter of materi al to read before you do the interactive por ented therapists and became the largest agency of its kind in New Jersey. tion. Chapter 1 is 41 pages! (Or you can buy a printed version of the workbook online.) Realizing this kind of specialized therapy is According to the introduction, these are often unavailable in the hinterlands, the thera some benefits you can expect to gain from pists started offering “e-therapy” at using the program: www.ipgcounseling.com. They even give an e-ffeebie: E-mail them a question, and they’ll • Know and embrace your special, natural gifts. send you one response free. • G et to know what goes on inside your head that limits you from the free and They have an excellent site with a helpful healthy expression o f these gifts. section called “What’s so different about ‘gay’ • Recognize what happens outside yourself therapy ?' It might he' ^u decide whether it’s that se*-« off this internal, limiting process. important for you to h. 0 . tLJuiaii che: • Learn how to rescript or replace this apist. They also list numerous links, including www.find-a-therapist.com, which can set you up reaction. with an online or telephone shrink or even find • Feel successful in the expression of your gifts and proud simply to use what nature gave someone for old-fashioned face-to-face dishing. The institute offers a large section on men you— realizing the use of your innate beauty, brains and talent is what will make you happy tal health news of interest to the gay communi ty, including one that caught my eye about and fulfilled. Sadly, it appears the workbook was written research indicating children who are abused early in life develop differences in their brains! for a mainstream (read het) audience, not for gay people, as implied. The first example is about a beautiful, brilliant, successful woman epression affects many gay men and les with too many male suitors. Yeah, that’s a bians as they deal with issues such as com problem we all can relate to! Still, if you can ing out, sexual confusion and family accep move past examples like that, there appears to tance. Often they’re left feeling alone, with no one to talk to. Some are wary of discussing inti he much of value in this program. mate issues with a stranger, so online therapy at f you prefer your help to come with a face least can be a good starting point. attached, Debora Landforce, M.S., is a Another even more technically extreme counselor, teacher and consultant in concept is offered at www.yourtherapist.com/ Eugene. As a lesbian therapist, part of her gay. You can get a free taste of the services by work for many years has been to support the interacting with a computer program that will sexual minorities com quiz you about your men munity through the tal health or lack thereof. stresses of the holidays. It was designed to offer In fact, she’s created a a lower-cost alternative to special program called traditional therapy. The “Surviving the Holidays,” national average for a 50- which she presents minute therapy session is throughout the state. Last more than $100. month she served up the Unlike typical Inter info to the Parents, Fami net therapy, where you lies and Friends of Les normally wait days for a bians and Gays chapter in response, this self-help Grants Pass. program gives immediate If you’d like to sched feedback 24/7. At $39.95 ule an appointment to for the complete 10-week talk about holiday program, it’s certainly issues— or anything affordable. else— she can be reached Although this is not a at 541-302-9002. Watch for her program in the substitute for one-on-one therapy, it is a safe Portland area next year. introduction to concepts o f self-evaluation. Landforce's presentation includes 20 tips for The free trial version asks users to answer surviving the holidays. At the top of the list is questions and choose traits from various lists, the 48-Hour Rule regarding traveling or inviting then returns them in different contexts. For guests into your home. Unless you are receiving example, one exercise allows people to read full acknowledgment and inclusion from the themselves described in a positive way they people you are with, stay no more than 48 con never might have experienced before. tinuous hours with them. Emotional health According to founding therapist Lee Wall- deteriorates significantly after this time. man, “It’s based on a positive approach that After two days, plan a break, a side trip, any focuses on your strengths— your natural gifts— thing to break the contact. Honor your feelings rather than just bemoaning the past.” and needs— don’t let the airline schedule deter In fact, he feels many people are suffering mine how long your visit should be! 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