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novamhar 16.2001 ADVICE ....................▼ .................... concurrently. (2941 NE Ainsworth S t 503-284-8767 aucc@ teleport.com.) ( 11 / 01 ) Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Christian meditation and prayer (7:30 pm Thursday. 503 2 8 1-07 2 2 ) (5/02) Bridgeport Community Church (U C Q is a growing community o f progressive, political people exploring and celebrating the Chnstian faith. W e are multicultural, lesbian, gay, bi and straight, and our chil dren are valued members (10:30 am Sunday. 621 NE 76th Ave. 503-258-0992 ) (11/01) Community of St. Andrew invites all to join a diverse Catholic faith community fo r prayer and fellow ship. (9 30 am Sunday. 806 NE Alberta St. 503-281 -4429.) (11/01) Dignity Portland meets for Mass on Sundays. (503-262-6947.) (11/01) Eaetroee Fellowship Unitarian Universaiist. a wel coming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education at 10:30am. (1133NE 181st Ave.. Gresham 503-665-2628 eastrose@ teleport.com.) (5/02) Estacada United Methodist Church Reconciling Congregation, where we really mean everyone is welcome Sunday worship at 10:30 am. (204 SEMam St.. Estacada. 503-349-4245.)( 11/01) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirm ing congregation in the liberal Chnstian tradition Sunday worship is at 10:25 am. and church school for children runs concurrently. ( I I 26 SW Path Ave. 503-228- 7219.) (11 /0 1 ) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirm ing liberal religious community. We offer a wide range of programs to nurture spiritual growth and community. Our Sunday services are at 9 and 10 45 am. (101! SW 12th Ave. 503-228-6389. www firstunitananportland o rg ) (5/02) First United Methodist Church of Portland, a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God's family GLBT potlucks are held monthly. (10:30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St. 503-228 3 1 95. www. fumcpdx. org.HI 1/01) Full Circle Temple is a place o f worship fo r women of all ages offenng workshops, song and drum circles, meditation rooms and altars of celebration, incorporat ing what you bring to share. (10 am -10 pm Tuesday- Sunday. 3 125 E Burnside St. 503-238-0675.) (11 /0 1 ) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth invites you to celebrate your spmtuality with the Revs. Casey and Berdell Moffett-Chaney. Liberal, practical; all are welcome. (1 0 3 0 am Sunday 4828 NE 33rd Ave 503-481-7591.) (05/02) Grace Space, a multidenominational spiritual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds Sunday evening celebrations. (5 pm. Fnends o f Multnomah. 4312 SE Stark St. 503-287-3216.) (11/01) Integrity, the gay and lesbian m inistry o f the Episcopal Church, meets on the second Friday of each month in the Momson Room at Trinity Cathedral. Eucharist is celebrated at 6:45 pm followed by a potluck and fellowship (147 N W 19th Ave 503-286-9111 www mtegrityusa org.) (11/01) Ave 503-775-5024) ( \M 0 \) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon. Open to all men seeking alternative spiritual growth and community. Coffee hours start 9:30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave (503-235-0826 otter@pcez com.) (5/02) SisterSpirit offers women's spintuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome. (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont S t Mailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. 503-736-3297 sistersp@ teleportcom . )(1 1/01) Southm instsr Presbyterian Church is a chal lenging, supportive community that welcomes all peo ple. It is the first More Light Presbytenan Church in Oregon. (10 am Sunday summer. 9 30 and 11 am Sunday winter. 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073.) (11/01) St. Jam es Lutheran Church, a reconciled in Christ congregation, welcomes all people fo r traditional liturgical worship. (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave. 503-227-2439.) ( 11/01) St. Philip Neri Catholic Church offers a gay positive community for Catholics and their friends. Mass at 7:30 pm Fridays followed by a social. (Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503-231-4955.) (11/01) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel coming all people since 1863. (12:10pm Wednesday and 7:45 and 10 am Sunday. Sunday school and child care at 10 am. SW 13th Avenue at Clay Street. 503-223-6424 ) (11 /0 1) Unity Church of Portland is an all-inclusive com munity following Christ's teachings and celebrating diversity and truth without trappings for 75 years. Sunday school and child care available Potluck first Sundays. (10 am Sunday 4525 SE Stark St. 503-234- 7441 . umtyprtlnd@wwdb o/p 7(11/01) University Parii United Methodist Church is a member of the network of reconciling congregations and meets for worship at 10 am Sundays. (4775 N Lombard St. 503-289-7843 ) ( 1 1/01) W y'east Unitarian Universaiist Congregation is a new, open and liberal religious community on the inner east side of Portland offering intergenerational services and religious education for children. It wel comes members of the gay. lesbian, bi and trans com munity. W y'east nurtures spiritual growth and promotes living by Unitanan Universaiist pnnciples. (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St. 503-777-3704 wwwwyeast.pnwd.uua.org.) (5/02) Zion United Church of Christ, an open and affirm ing congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Christ-centered, warm, caring, m ultiage/race/cultural faith community. (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave.. Gresham. 503-665-8741.H 1 1/01) Washington: Sp iritu ality East Vancouver United Methodist Church. Reconciling, welcoming. (10 am Sunday. First Congregational United Church of Christ is an inclusive Christian community, an open and affirming church. (9 30 am Sunday summer. 10.30 am Sunday writer 4515 SW West Hits Road. Corvaks. 541-7578122.H 5/02) Gay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian Universaiist Congregation of Salem meets for a Interfaith Spiritual Community meets for inspira- tional messages, children's celebrations and joy every Sunday at the Heart Center We honor and celebrate all sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine gifts and supporting spintual growth, healing and enlightenment. (6-7.30 pm. 1578 Commercial St. SE. Salem 503- 763-6030.) (\ 1/01) Morning side United Methodist Church is a rec onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full life o f the congregation. (8 30 and 11 am Sunday. 3674 12th St. SE. Salem. S 0 3 -3 6 4 -5 0 1 3 .)(\\m Sweet Spirit Metropolitan Community Church (M C C ) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every second Sunday (Amencan Legion Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane NE. Salem Mailing address: Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box 12753. Salem. OR 97309. 503-315- 7923.) (11/01) YOUTH Metro: Youth Expression is a free art/expression support group for GLBT youth between 13 and 23 in Gresham. Hang out and have fun every Friday! Sponsored by Roots and Branches. (Jonathan 503-872-9664. ext 2 8 )0 1 /0 1 ) The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network fights to end anti-gay bias in K-12 schools (12700 SW North Dakota S t . Suite 180. 4129. Tigard. OR 97223. 503-525-1177 or 503 936-5614. glsenor@ aolcom.) (11/01) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as a needle exchange service that includes exchange for those who inject hormones. It also has some transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for youth who are HIV-positive and younger than 23. It also plays host to V O IC E S (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group fo r queer youth. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Fhday. 1236 SW Salmon St. 503-223-4121.)(W 01) Pride Project bnngs together Washington County lesbian, gay. bi. trans and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also information, referral, support and advocacy services for Washington County. (M olly 503-260-5792 molly@pndeproject.org.) (11/01) Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity group for gay, lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth. (4:30 pm Wednesday Metropolitan Community Church o f Portland. 2400 NE Broadway. 503-281 8868 ) (11/01) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SM Y R C ) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out and plays host to weekly youth support groups including W indfire, Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group) (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm- midnight Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St. 503-872-9664 www.smyrc.org.) (11/01) YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family, offers tutoring and mentonng for lesbian, gay. bi and trans youth as well as for children of LGBT parents. (503-227-1981 )(1 1/01) Southern Oregon: Youth Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SO YO ) a Interfaith Spiritual Center. Spintual directors from various world religious traditions are available for guidance, classes and retreats. (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503-233-2026. ext. 3. www spintone com/~isc. (11/01) Com passionate Heart Sengha a lesbian and gay meditation group, meets in the Buddhist Vipasana tradi tion. (7 30-9 pm Wednesday Flanders House. 2926 NE Flanders St. Jon 503-239-5539 ) ( 11/01) traditional" in an open and affirming congregation (1220 NE 68th S t . Vancouver 360-693-1476. vanucc@aol.com.) (05/02) Lincoln Street United Methodist Church is an Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd. (W arn every Sunday: 6 30 pm open and accepting congregation o f progressive Christians. (9 am Sunday. 5145 SE Lincoln S t 503 231-1930 )(\U 0 1 ) second and last Sunday Suite E/F. 2200 Broadway. Vancouver. 360-695-1480 Mccgs@aol com www m ccgs.org.) (05/02) Meta nota Peace Community (United M ethodist) is Michael Servetus Unitarian Universaiist Fellowship, a home for the liberal religious spirit. a "house church.' bringing gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7 20 am. Sunday gathenng 5 pm 2116 NE 18th Ave 503-281 3697 www tearsoup.com /m etanoia.) (5/0 2 ) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held during the 11 am worship service (2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868 mfo@mccportland.com ) ( 11/01) _ _ _I- U_ _ _ _ _ _ _Ml -»-.-»- - I 1*- A------a._ _ _ rv/TTBr s nOUSB IVliniSII IBS UW vwliWfi Evangelical and charismatic Chnstian (3830 SE 62nd group for gay. lesbian, and bi youth between 14 and 20. meets on the first and Thursdays of the month m Ashland (541-488 8 9 9 0 )0 1 /0 1 ) 5701 M acArthur Blvd 360-693-4761 ourclarkcountycolum bian.com /273/.) (05/02) First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ Two Sunday services, traditional and "less (10 am Sunday 4505 E 18th S t . Vancouver 360695 1891.) ( 05/02) W illamette Valley: Spiritu ality First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation o ffe r ing worship and church school Child care provided W heelchair accessible (10 am Sunday 700 M anor S t NE. Salem 503-363 3660 ) (11/01) Frequent feelings for Fabio frustrate fairy potluck on the third Sunday of each month (6 pm. 5090 Center St. NE. 503-363 8716.) (1V 0 1 ) Youth H IV/STD Prevention Project provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth m a fnendly, relaxed environ ment. (503-872-9664)01/01) Passage s by Nancy Azara with poems by Judith Barrington is on view at Froelick Gallery through Dec. 1 Addicted to love Washington: Youth Tripto Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi and trans and questioning youth in Vancouver, Wash. Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the base ment of Youth House, 1112 Columbia St. in Vancouver (John 360-695 1325 ) (5/02) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, information and fun. Free, confidential, drop-m (4 6 pm Friday Amazon Community Center. 2700 HHyardSt. Eugene 541884 3 4 6 6 )0 1 /0 1 ) esbian, Gay, Bisexual,' roup for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday ¡pm Koinonia Center. 1414 Km caidSt.. Eugene (13 4 6 -1 13 4 ) (11/01) i Youth is a support group for gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth and their fnends between 13 and 17 years old in the Salem Keizer area (503-581-5535) (11/01) D ear M s . B ehavior : My ex-boyfriend lives in another state but visits frequently. We broke up a year ago, and I’m not sorry we did: Fabio drinks too much and isn’t always honest. But it’s hard for me to let go, and his visits stir up my feelings. W henever I tell him I need a year or two to get over him before we can be friends, he drives 100 miles to visit me, and we end up in bed. 1 really have tried just to be his friend. In the year we’ve been apart, he’s worked out a lot, and he looks incredible. I know he’s not right for me, but I love him. So when he visits and then leaves, I end up with a knot in my stomach and an ache in my heart for days. Even worse, my feelings about him make me emotionally unavail able to other men. How can I stop having sex with Fabio? C an 1 take some kind of oath never to see him again? (I don’t know if it would work.) Should 1 tell him never to call me again no matter what? — Long John D ear L ong J ohn : It sounds like you and Fabio changed the nature of your relationship instead of actually breaking up. Unfortunately, you’re dragging out the ending, addicted to the bittersweet pain and sexiness of boffing someone when you’re “not supposed to” anymore. So now you want to impose an even stricter law, so you really will be able to stop. Tire problem with your new faux forced ending is it’s bound to be even more dramatic and sexy. Just think of all movies you know in which a couple are forced apart by fami ly pressure, class issues or geography. The protagonist becomes obsessed with the idea that he never will wake up with the scent of his loved one’s hair (or what ever. ..) on his pillow. He becomes romantically and sexually driven and takes to moaning and thrashing in his sleep. (You know what happens next.) A dramatic gesture, like telling Fabio never to call you again, not only will increase your longing but also will allow your imagina tion to construct a shrine to his flawless love, be cause you won’t have the real-life version of him disappointing you in all the regular daily ways. So, don’t make rules. Just try to muster the strength to not see the delicious Fabio today. Tomorrow, try the same thing again. D on’t make any major declarations of your intentions. Maybe one day at a time you can save your self from the pain of repeating your pattern. D ear M s . B ehavior : For the past two years we’ve employed a man I’ll call the Cleaning Fairy to clean our home. After he leaves, clump« of cat hair remain under the bed, our dishes have crusty cereal on them, and sometimes it seems like he hasn’t even vacuumed. When we discuss our dissatisfaction with him, he improves for a week or two, then resumes the profes sional habits of a slacker. Recently, the Cleaning Fairy took a long trip, and we hired Matilda, who cleans for a friend, as a substi tute. She did a wonderful job; every thing sparkled. I think we should fire the Cleaning Fairy and hire Matilda. My girlfriend, Chris, doesn’t agree and says it even would compromise her politics to do so. She thinks we should continue to employ our gay brethren and not the “ Puerto Rican straight mam a” who does a great job. I’m annoyed by her attitude. We’ve agreed to consult you. W hat do you think? — House of Dust D ear H ouse of D ust : Your girlfriend probably thinks she’s delightfully politically correct (an oxymoron), but her politics are racist and misguided. And if she insists on advancing stereotypies, why wouldn’t she continue her bias and insist on a Fastidious Fairy to clean her home? The real issue, though, is that lower ing standards for queer workers like the Cleaning Fairy is insulting. It implies you can’t expiect much from homos, so you might as well settle for less. Similarly, those old enough to remem ber television before Will & Groce might recall that audiences were once so starved for queer depiction in books, movies and theater, they were grateful for any homosexual tidbit— no matter that the nellie character was psychotic and got killed in the end. Tell Chris if she intends to support her gay brethren, she ought to expect the best from him. Otherwise, she needs to find a replacement who cares enough to do a good job, even with wings less gossamer. JP1 Write your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms. B ehavior at MsBehaviot@aol.com. 35
