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October 19.2001 ADVICE ..........................▼ .......................... é SPIRITUALITY I Metro: Spirituality Ainsworth United Church of C hrist is a multi racial. multicultural, open and affirming church. Sunday w orshp is at 10 am. and church school for children runs concurrently (2941 N E Ainsworth St. 503-284-8767. aocc0teleport.com .) (11 /01) potluck on the third Sunday of each month. (6 pm. 5090 Center St. N E 503 363-8716)111/01) Southminster Pres byterian Church is a chal Interfaith Spiritual Community meets for mspira lenging, supportive community that welcom es all peo ple. It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon (10 am Sunday summer. 9 30 and 11 am Sunday winter. 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton. 5 0 3 6 4 4 2 0 7 3 )1 11/01) tional m essages, children's celebrations and joy every Sunday at the Heart Center W e honor and celebrate all sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine grits and supporting spintual growth, healing and enlightenment (6-7:30 pm. 1578 Commercial S t S E. Salem. 503-763-6030.H11/01) S t Jam es Lutheran Church, a reconciled in Anawim Community of gay men m eets weekly for Christian meditation and prayer. (7 3 0 pm Thursday 503-281-07 22 .H U I0 \ ) Christ congregation, welcom es all people for traditional liturgical worship. (9 and 11 am Sunday. 1315 S W Park Ave. 503-227-2439.)1U /01) Bridgeport Community Church (U C O is a growing community of progressive, political people exploring and celebrating the Christian faith. W e are multicultural, lesbian, gay. bi and straight, and our chil dren are valued members. (1 0 3 0 am Sunday. 621 N E 76th Ave. 503258-0992 ) (11/01) St. Philip Neri Catholic Church offers a gay-pos itive community for Catholics and their friends. M ass at 7:30 pm Fridays followed by a social. (Paulist Center. 2408 S E 16th Ave. 503-2314955 )1 11/01) St. Stephen's Episcopel Church has been w el Community of S t Andrew invites all to join a diverse Catholic faith community for prayer and fellowship. (9:30 am Sunday. 806 NE Alberta S t 5032814429 )111/01) Dignity Portland m eets for M ass on Sundays. (503-262 6947)111/01) Eastrose Fellow ship Unitarian U nivorsalist. a welcom ing congregation, o ffers Sunday se rvice and children's religious education at 10 :3 0 am . (1133 N E 181st A v e ., Gresham . 503-665-2628. ea stro se 0 te le p o rt.co m .) (1 1 /0 1 ) Estacada United Methodist Church Reconciling Congregation, where we really mean everyone is welcom e. Sunday worship at 10:30 am. (204 S E Mam S t.. Estacada 503349-4245 )1 11/01) coming all people since 1863. (12:10 pm Wednesday and 7 4 5 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am. S W 13th Avenue at Clay Street. 503-223 6424)111/01) Unity Church of Portland is an all-inclusive com munity following C hrist's teachings and celebrating diversity and truth without trappings for 75 years. Sunday school and child care available Potluck first Sundays. (10 am Sunday. 4525 S E Stark St. 503-234-7441 unityprtlnd0wwdb org.) (11 /01) University Parii United Methodist Church is a member of the network of reconciling congregations and meets for worship at 10 am Sundays (4775 N Lom bardSt. 503-289-7843)111/01) liberal Christian tradition Sunday worship is at 10 25 am, and church school for children runs con currently. (1 126 SW Park Ave. 503-228-7219) ( 11 / 01 ) First United Methodist Church of Portland. led by the Rev Stephanie Torres, holds Sunday evening celebrations. (5 pm. Friends o f Multnomah. 4312 S E Stark St. 503-287-3216 )111/01) Integrity, the gay and lesbian ministry of the Episcopal Church, m eets on the second Friday of each month in the Morrison Room at Trinity Cathedral Eucharist is celebrated at 6:4 5 pm followed by a potluck and fellow shp. (147 N W 19th Ave. 503-286-9111 www.integrityusa.org) (11/01) coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every second Sunday. (American Legion Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane NE. Salem. Mailing address: Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box 12753. Salem. O R 97309. 503-315- 7923.) 111/01) Metro: Youth Expression is a free art/expression support group for G LB T youth between 13 and 23 in Gresham . Hang out and have fun every Friday1 Sponsored by Roots and Branches. (Jonathan 503-872-9664. ext. 2fl.M 11/01) The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network fights to end anti-gay bias in K-12 qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as a nee dle exchange service that includes exchange for those who inject hormones. It also has some transi tional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for youth who are HIV-positive and younger than 23. It also plays host to VO ICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group for queer youth. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Friday. 1236 S W Salmon St. 503-2234121.) (11/01) Pride Project brings together Washington County lesbian, gay. bi. trans and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information, referral, support and advocacy services for Washington County. (Molly 503-260-5792 moHy0pndeproiect o/p. 7(11/01) a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God's family. G LB T potlucks are held monthly. (10:30 am Sunday 1838 S W Jefferson St. 503-228-3195 www.fumcpdx.org.) 111/01) Grace Space, a multidenominational spiritual center Sweet Spirit Metropolitan Community Church (MCC) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community. W e offer a wide range of programs to nurture spintual growth and community. Our Sunday services are at 9 and 10 45 am (1011 S W 12th Ave. 503-228-6389. www.firstunitananportland.org.) (5/02) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth invites you to celebrate your spirituality with the R evs. C asey and Berdell Moffett-Chaney. Liberal, practical; all are welcom e. (1 0 3 0 am Sunday 4828 N E 33rd Ave. 503481-7591)105102) Momingsido United Methodist Church is a rec onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full life of the congregation (8 3 0 and 11 am Sunday. 3674 12th St. S E. Salem. 503-364-5013.) 111/01) schools. (12700 S W North Dakota St.. Suite 180. *129. Tigard. O R 97223. 503-525-1177 or 503-936-5614 glsenor0aol.com.) (11/01) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the Full C ircle Temple is a place of worship for women of all ages offenng workshops, song and drum circles, meditation rooms and altars of celebra tion. incorporating what you bnng to share. (10 am-10 pm Tuesday Sunday. 3125 E Burnside St. 503-238-0675)111/01) Gay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian Univaraaliat Congregation of Salem m eets for a classes Schedule of events available. All women are welcom e. (Suite 102, 3430 S E Belmont S t Mailing address PO Box 9246. Portland. O R 97207 503-736-3297 siste rsp 0 te le p o rtco m .H U /01) Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity group for gay. lesbian, bisexual, trans and question ing youth (4 30 pm Wednesday Metropolitan Community Church o f Portland. 2400 NE Broadway 503-281 8868)111/01) Self Portrait by Kathleen Malan Thompson is on view at Studio 2507, at 2507 SE Clinton St„ through O ct. 30 Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center * Wy'oast Unitarian Univorsalist Congregation is a new, open and liberal religious community on the inner east side of Portland offering mtergeneiational services and reli gious education for children It welcomes members of the gay. lesbian, bisexual and transgender community Wy east nurtures spintual growth and promotes living by Unitarian Universalist principles (4 pm Sunday 3915 S E Steele St 503-777-3704 wwwwyeast.pnwd.uua.org)(5/02) (SM YRC) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out and plays host to weekly youth support groups including Windfire, Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group) (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm- midnight Fnday and Saturday 2100 S E Belmont S t 503-872-9664 www.sm yrc.org.M 11/01) Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a fnendly. relaxed environ ment. (503-872-9664 M l 1/01) Zion United Church of Christ. an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and heterosexual people who wish to wor ship in a Christ-centered, warm, caring, m ultiage/race/cultural faith community ( I I am Sunday 2025 N E 23rd A v e . Gresham 503-665-8741.) (11/01) YouthNet a program of Love M akes a Family, offers tutonng and mentonng for lesbian, gay. bi and trans youth as well as for children of LG BT parents. (503 227-1981)111/01) Washington Spirituality Southern Oregon: Youth Compassionate Heart Sang ha a lesbian and gay meditation group, meets in the Buddhist Vipasana tradi tion. (7 30-9 pm Wednesday. Flanders House. 2926 NE Flanders S t Jo n 503 239-5539 )111/01) East Vancouver United Methodist Church. Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SO YO ) a group for gay, lesbian, and bi youth between 14 and 20, meets on the first and Thursdays of the month m Ashland (541-488-6990 )1 1 1/01) Lincoln Street United Methodist Church is an First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ Two Sunday services, traditional and "less Interfaith Spiritual Center. Spintual directors from various world religious traditions are available for guid ance, classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 S E 11th Ave. 503-2332026. ext 3. www.spmtone.com/~isc. (11/01) open and accepting congregation of progressive C hristians. (9 am Sunday 5145 S E Lincoln St. 503-231-1930)111/01) Metanoia Peace Community (United M ethodist) is a "house church." bnngmg gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7 2 0 am. Sunday gatheonq 6 pm. 2116 N E 18th Ave 503-2813697 www tearsoup.com/metanoia) 111/01) m su u p o in fln u o m m u im y v n u re n w r u t iw n a holds ecum enical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held during the 11 am worship service. (2400 N E Broadway 503281 8868 mfo0mccportland c o m ) (11 /01) - I - U ______ iile ilm tn lm m I I I * ^ ----- r V I IV I | n O tlM W i n i l l l I V I M f w w V I I I V Ii Evangelical and charism atic Christian (3830 S E 62nd Ave 503-775-5024.)1U/01) Portland Radical Faeries meet tw ice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon. Open to all men seeking alternative spiritual growth and community C offee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse. 201 S E 12th Ave (503235-0826 otter0 p cez co m ) 15/02) SisterSpirit offers women s spirituality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and Reconciling, welcoming, (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Blvd 360-6934761 ourclarkcounty cohimbian.com/273/.) (11 /01) traditional" in an open and affirming congregation. (1220 N E 68th S t.. Vancouver 360-693 1476)111/01) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd. (10 am every Sunday: 6 3 0 pm second and last Sunday Suite E/F, 2200 Broadway. Vancouver 360-6951480 M ccgs0a o lco m www.mccgs.org.)111/01) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship, a home for the liberal religious spirit. (10 am Sunday 4505 E 18th S t.. Vancouver 3 6 0 6 9 5 18 91 )1 11/01) Willamette Valley: Spirituality R m S ^ ------------ P l t i m e k ristot v o n ^ r e ^ a tiO fN ii I l e l l e i l P u k n i i iie M > u k v n u r e n v^nuren, of Christ is an open and affirming congregation offer ing w orshp and church school Child care provided W heelchair accessible (10 am Sunday 700 Marion S t NE. Salem 503-363 3660)111/01) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an inclusive Christian community, an open and affirm ing church (9 30 am Sunday summer. 1030 am Sunday winter 4515 S W W est H is Road. Corvahs 541-757-8122.) (5/02) Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi and trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. W ash. M eets 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the base ment of Youth House. 1112 Columbia S t. in Vancouver (John 360-695-1325.) 15/02) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Tranegender and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, information and fun. Free, confidential, drop-in (4-6 pm Friday Amazon Community Center. 2700 Hilyard S t . Eugene 5414584 3466 )111/01) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgende r Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday (5p m Komoma Center. 1414 Kincaid S t . Eugene 541 34& 1134)111/01) Rainbow Youth is a support group for gay. lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth and their fnends between 13 and 17 years old r the Salem Keizer area (503 581 5535 M l 1/01) A far cry Absence makes the heart ponder D ear M s . B ehavior : I invariably have chosen the most difficult and frustrating kind of relationship: the long distance kind. My girl friend lives six hours away, and we only have been dating for a month. My feelings are get ting stronger. 1 don’t dis trust her, but I question the depth of her involvement. For example, we only talk on the phone three times a week; I’d like to talk every night. I don’t want to hold myself back emotionally, but I am afraid of being hurt or disappointed. How do 1 ask for more? Or could this be a symptom of a deeper problem (i.e., the “check engine” light is on)? — R . D ear R: If you repeatedly date faraway women even though it’s “difficult and frustrating,’’ maybe you worry you’ll be sucked into the black hole of Instant Lesbian Marriage. Three hun dred miles helps defend against can celing your third brunch date in favor of a commitment ceremony. If you can’t meet a woman who lives in, say, Italy, another state is your safest bet. People recovering from bit ter breakups often choose long-dis tance relationships, hoping the mileage will protect their hearts. (Long-dis tance relationships are exciting and accumulate frequent flier miles!) The courtship period lasts longer with a long-distance girlfriend. You carefully wrap gifts and cards and sniff the ones you receive for evidence of her scent. You pack your cutest outfits, drive or fly for hours and fantasize about your passionate weekend reunion. When you’re finally together, every moment feels stolen and intense. Your long-distance love doesn’t snack on the couch in sweaty gym clothes or apply acne cream before bed. When you want to make love, she does, too; she never pats you on the head and rolls over, snoring and mumbling about Martians. But have you asked yourself why you can’t enjoy the current stage with out wanting more? If you weren’t con fused about intimacy, why would you question “the depth of her involve ment” after only a month? This might scare some women (except perhaps another merger-driven lesbian). Think about why you’re afraid to let your relationship evolve at a nat ural pace. Some people feel frightened by the beginning excitement and try to force their relationship to a hum drum middle stage. Six months later, they’re comfortably settled in the nest of a predictable relationship, but their partner complains that the relation ship is in a rut. Try to appreciate the longing you feel when you’re apart. Don’t rush through the delicious flutters of romance, espe cially if it’s only to allevi ate your discomfort. When you feel inse cure, ask yourself why. You might live together for 92 years, but there’s no reason to push in that direction yet. Wait a few months before telling your girl friend you’d like to call more often. In the meantime, ask for a transitional object, like her bra or her toothbrush, and hold it to your nose and mouth when you’re uncomfortable with feel ing your longing. D ear M s B ehavior : I usually enjoy your column, but not your recent response to Charles, who asked about bisexual cruises and small penises. You responded that bisexuality “is an imaginary state,” and because he expressed interest in oral sex with men but not women, you assumed he is more gay than bisexual. As a writer for gay publications (and a homosexual yourself?), denouncing bisexuality as false only harms the gay community. Bisexuality is struggling to find its voice and acceptance. I urge you as an intelligent person with influence to think before speak ing about this issue again. We all deserve tolerance, love and respect. — Andrew McGraw D ear A ndrew : Ms. Behavior appreciates your pas sionate response but wonders why you never have written when she teasing- ly has stereotyped muscular sissy boys and relationship-hungry, SUV-driving dykes. Perhaps when you’re less per sonally involved, you can tell that a loving jab does not mean disrespect. Yes, Ms. Behavior is a real lesbian, who never in reality has doubted bisexuals exist. (Two of her early “les bian” relationships were with women who tried to jump the fence but land ed on it instead.) Ms. Behavior likes to amuse but takes her job as adviser seriously. If a reader is too obsessed with his stock portfolio, his cocker spaniel or his per sonal trainer to be a good boyfriend, Ms. Behavior points it out. If a reader fails to notice obvious clues that her partner is cheating—e.g., a lipstick- stained sex toy in her bed when neither she nor her partner wears lipstick— Ms. Behavior feels obligated to mention it. And if she thinks a particular reader sounds like a dickhound who feels more comfortable being labeled “bisexual,” she won’t suppress the thought just to maintain a polite politically correct tone. Please do not set up a competition between bisexu als and lesbians for the role of Most Likely to Take Offense. J H Write your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms B ehavior at M sBehai4or@ aol.com.
