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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Aug. 17, 2001)
august 17.2001 ADVICE Dignity Portland meets for Mass on Sundays. (503 262-6947 ) ( 1 1/01) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist. a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education at 10:30 am. (1133 NE 181st Ave.. Gresham 503-665 2628 eastrose@teleport.com.) (11/01) Estacada United Methodist Church Reconciling Congregation where we really mean everyone is welcome. Sunday worship at 10:30 am. (204 SE Mam St.. Estacada 503-349-4245.)(11/01) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Chnstian tradition. Sunday worship is at 10:25 am, and church school for children runs concurrently. (1126 SW Park Ave 503-228-7219)1.11/01) First United Methodist Church of Portland, a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God's family. GLBT potlucks are held monthly. (10:30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St 503-228-3195 www.fumcpdx.org.) (1 1/01) Full Circle Temple is a place of worship for women of all ages offenng workshops, song and drum circles, meditation rooms and altars of celebration, incorporat ing what you bnng to share. (10 am-10 pm Tuesday- ■ Sunday 3125 E Burnside St. 503-238-0675.) (11/01) The God Connection Center for Worship, Growth and Leadership invites you to celebrate your spirituality with the Revs Casey and Berdell M offett- Chaney. Liberal, practical; all are welcome. (10 am Sunday. 4828 NE33rdAve 503-481-7591.) ( 1 1/01) Grace Space a multidenommational spintual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds Sunday evening discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes. Schedule of events available All women are welcome. (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. 503-736-3297 sistersp@ teleportcom) (11/01) Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal lenging, supportive community that welcomes all peo ple It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon. (10 am Sunday summer. 9 30 and 11 am Sunday winter. 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton. 503-644-2073.HU/01) St. James Lutheran Church a reconciled in Christ congregation, welcomes all people for traditional liturgical worship (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439.) (11/01) St. Philip Neri Catholic Church offers a gay-pos- itive community for Catholics and their fnends. Mass at 7:30 pm Fndays followed by a social. (Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503-231 4955 ) (11/01) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel coming ail people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday and 7:45 and 10 am Sunday. Sunday school and child care at 10 am. SW 13th Avenue at Clay Street. 503-223-6424.H11/01) Unity Church of Portland is an all-inclusive com potluck on the third Sunday of each month. (6 pm. 5090 Center St. NE. 503-363 8716.) (11/01) Interfaith Spiritual Community meets for inspira tional messages, children's celebrations and joy every Sunday at the Heart Center. We honor and celebrate all sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine gifts and supporting spintual growth, healing and enlightenment (6-7 3 0 pm. 1578 Commercial St. SE. Salem 503- 763-6030) (11/01) Momingsida United Methodist Church is a rec onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full life of the congregation. (830 and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th St. SE. Salem. 503-364 5 0 13.) ( 11/01) Sweet Spirit Metropolitan Community Church (MCC) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every second Sunday. (Amencan Legion Hall. 4 774 Lilac Lane NE. Salem Mailing address: Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box 12753. Salem. O R 97309. 503-315-7923.)(11/01) YOUTH Metro: Youth munity following C hrist's teachings and celebrating diversity and truth without trappings for 75 years Sunday school and child care available. Potluck first Sundays. (10 am Sunday. 4525 SE Stark St. 503-234-7441. umtyprtlnd@wwdb.org.) (11/01) Expression is a free art/expression support group for GLBT youth between 13 and 23 in Gresham. Hang out and have fun every Fnday1 Sponsored by Roots and Branches. (Jonathan 503-872 9664, ext 2S 7(11/01) University Park United Methodist Church is a Outside in operates a clinic for anyone who can't member of the network of reconciling congregations and meets for worship at 10 am Sundays. (4775 N Lombard St. 503-289-7843.) (11/01) qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as a needle exchange service that includes exchange for those who inject hormones. It also has some transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for youth who are HIV-positive and younger than 23. It also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self- support group for queer youth. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday. 1236 SW Salmon St 503-223-4121.) (11/01) Pride Project brings together Washington County lesbian, gay, bi, trans and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also information, referral, support and advocacy services for Washington County. (Molly 503-260-5792 molly@pndeprqecl.org.) ( 11 / 01 ) Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity group for gay, lesbian, bisexu al, trans and questioning youth (4 30 pm Wednesday Metropolitan Community Church o f Portland. 2400 NE Broadway 503-281-88681(11/01) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SMYRC) offers drop-in com puter access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out and plays host to week ly youth support groups including W indfire. Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group). (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-midmght Fnday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St. 503-8729664 www.smyrc.org.)(\ 1/01) Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project “Journey" by Joyce Hayes is part of A Weaving Odyssey, a group show of tapestries at ONDA Studio and Gallery from Aug. 30 to Sept. 25 celebrations. (5 pm. Friends o f Multnomah. 4312 SE Stark St 503-287-3216.)(11/01) Integrity, the gay and lesbian m inistry of the Episcopal Church, meets on the second Fnday of each month in the Morrison Room at Tnmty Cathedral. Eucharist is celebrated at 6:45 pm followed by a potluck and fellowship. (147 NW 19th Ave 503 286-9111. www.mteghtyusa.org.) (11/01) Interfaith Spiritual Center. Spiritual directors from Zion United Church of Christ. an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and heterosexual people who wish to wor ship in a Christ-centered, warm, caring, m ultiage/race/cultural faith community (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave.. Gresham 503-665 8741.)(11/01) W ashington Spirituality various world religious traditions are available for guid ance, classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave. 503-233 2026. ext.3. www.spmtone.com/~isc. (11/01) East Vancouver United Methodiet Church. Compassionate Heart Sangha. a lesbian and gay First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ Two Sunday services, traditional and "less meditation group, meets in the Buddhist Vipasana tradi tion (7 30-9 pm Wednesday Flanders House. 2926 NE Flanders St. Jon 503-2395539 ) (11/01) Lincoln Street United Methodist Church is an open and accepting congregation of progressive Christians. (9 am Sunday 5145 SE Lincoln St. 503-231 1930 ) (11/01) Metanoia Peace Community (United M ethodist) is a "house church,' bnngmg gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7:20 am. Sunday gathenng 6 pm 2116 NE 18th Ave 503-281 3697 www tearsoup com/metanoia) (11 /0 1) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held during the 11 am worship service (2400 NE Broadway 503-281 8868 mfoOmccpodland. co m ) ( 11 /0 1) Potter's House Ministries Life Center. Evangelical and chansmatic Chnstian (3830 SE 62nd Ave 503-775-50247(11/01) SisterSpirit offers women s spmtuality celebrations. r '. J v l • - V , i Y * Reconciling, welcoming (10 am Sunday. 5701 MacArthur Blvd 360-6934761 ourclarkcounty Columbian co m /2 7 3 /) (11 /01) traditional' in an open and affirming congregation (1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver 360-693 1476) ( 11/01) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd. (10 am every Sunday; 6 30 pm second and last Sunday 2200 Broadway. Sye E/F. Vancouver 360-695 1480 Mccgs@aol com wvm mccgs.org.) (11 !Q1 ) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a home for the liberal religious spmt (10 am Sunday 4505 E. 18th St.. Vancouver 360-695 1891 ) (11101) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ. is an open and affirming congregation offer mg worsfwp and church school C hid care provided W heelchair accessible (10 am Sunday 700M anonSt NE Salem 503 363-3660 ) (11/01) Gay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Salem meets for a provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environment. (503-872-9664) (11/01) YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family, offers tutonng and mentonng for lesbian, gay, bi and trans youth as well as for children of LGBT parents (503-227-1981 )(1 1 101) Southern Oregon: Youth Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO). a group for gay. lesbian, and bi youth between 14 and 20. meets on the first and Thursdays of the month in Ashland (541 -4886990) ( 1 1/01) Washington: Youth Teen to Teen Sexual Minority Youth Program offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi and trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays and 3 30-5 30 pm Thursdays in Suite M l00 at Cascade AIDS Project, 1104 Mam St (Amanda 360-693-1188) (11/01) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group fo r ages 13 to 16 offers support, inform ation and fun Free, confiden tial. drop-in (4 6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center. 2700 Hifyard S t . Eugene 541-684 3466 ) ( 11 / 01 ) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday (5 pm Komoma Center. 1414 Kincaid St.. Eugene 541 346 1 1 3 4 )(11/01) Rainbow Youth is a support group for gay. lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth and their fnends between 13 and 17 years old in the Salem Keizer area (503 581 55 3 5 ) (11/01) Life's a bitch Puppy love doesn’t extend to the doghouse D ear M s . B ehavior : I am dating a won derful man. Ken is cute, kind and a sexu al genius. The problem is my poodle doesn’t like his bulldog. This might seem insignificant to most, hut Amber is a central part of my life, and the fact that she growls, snarls and hares her teeth every time Sissy enters the yard is very distressing to me. Even worse, Ken gets extremely anxious and hysterical and acts like Amber is trying to kill Sissy. He gets annoyed because I don’t freak out like he does or try to break up their scuffles. I think dogs usually work these issues out by establishing dominance; in time, our pets will be happy togeth er. However, Ken says he can ’t imag ine going off into the sunset coupled happily but with an unhappy pooch. W hat can 1 do? 1 really want things to work out with Sissy’s father. (Did 1 mention he’s a sexual genius?) — Amber’s Dad D ear A mber ’ s D a d : T he person who calm ly suggests dogs will resolve their conflicts by establishing dom inance is always the owner of the fierce dog, not the one who’s getting her ass kicked. Ken is more anxious than you are because Sissy is the under dog; if Am ber were in danger of being filleted, you might feel more protective. Am ber probably feels threatened by the new drooly dog in her yard. (Poodles tend to he prissy about excessive saliva.) Unlike you, Amber doesn’t have the lure o f extra-smart deviant sex to balance her anxiety. Still, you need to he firm about punishing bullying behavior. A n experienced dog trainer can help a lot, especially if you and Am ber prac tice between sessions. If you attend to Ken’s concerns responsibly, he’ll trust you more in other ways, too. From now on, you must never tolerate any brattiness or aggression from Amber. Otherwise, Sissy and her dad probably won’t attend the next meeting of Mensa’s Frottage Triathlon. D ear M s . B ehavior : My family thinks I’m a lesbian because I was molested when I was a child by a close family friend, whom my family still embraces, although he recently was brought up on charges of sexually abusing a minor. H e’s a well- known lcxal politician, so the story of his arrest was in the newspaper. My family insists my hatred for (this n ym ^ j’U call him Dick) has skewed my life and sexuality and turned me gay. Meanwhile, I’m forced to see Dick at every family event, which tortures me. A t a recent wed ding, Dick tried to talk to me. I ignored him , so he actually had the nerve to whisper, “T hose things you read about me in the newspaper aren’t true.” C ould he have forgotten 1 am one o f the people he m olested? I’m very happy in my lesbian life. I’m in a long-term relationship with a wonderful person. I have a good job and am considered a success in my field. 1 have felt like a lesbian from a very young age. I don’t hate men; 1 just hate that particular man— the one who abused me and whom my family continues to love. Now, my partner and I are plan ning our com m itm ent ceremony, and my parents want me to invite this jerk. T hey’re paying for our lovely expensive buffet, so they feel entitled to “help” with the guest list. W hen 1 reminded my parents that Dick molested me, my mother said: “ H e’s been through a lot -lately. He needs extra love.” My girlfriend is furious at my par ents. She wishes they weren’t com ing to the wed ding. W hat should I do? — Mary M . D ear M ary M.: Your girlfriend has good reason to be furious, especially because you’re not angry enough. Your parents need to be slapped into reality. They pathologize your lesbianism, suggesting sexual abuse caused it, but then express more concern for Dick the Pedophile than you. Som e parents just eat their young. If your parents think paying for food gives them the right to determine the guest list, cancel the fancy buffet and buy your own food. You’d be hap pier having Wendy’s cater your wed ding than enduring this guy’s presence. O r if you’re attached to the fancy buf fet, you probably can finance it by sell ing your hideous story o f molestation and parental betrayal to a confessional television talk show. If your parents push the issue, tell them they’re free to spend the day with Dick instead o f attending your celebration. T hen make sure to let him know that if he dares to show up you’ll have the bandleader announce what he did to you and that you will call the press with details. JTT Write your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms. B ehavior at M sBehauot@ aol.com . 33
