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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Aug. 3, 2001)
augusta. 2001 ADVICE ...................▼................... Eitacada United Methodist Church Reconciling Congregation, where we really mean everyone is welcome Sunday worship at 10:30 am. (204 SEMam St., Estacada 503-349-4245.) ( 11/01) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Chnstian tradition. Sunday worship is at 10:25 am, and church school for children runs concurrently. (1126 SW Park Ave 503 228-7219.H1 1/01) welcome. (Suite 102, 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing Wheelchair accessible (10 am Sunday. 700ManonSt. address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OB 97207. 503-736-3297 sisterspGteieport com J ( 11 / 01 ) NE, Salem. 503-363-3660 ) (11/01) South minster Presbyterian Church is a challenging, supportive community that welcomes all people. K is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon. (10 am Sunday summer. 9.30 and 11 am Sunday winter. 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073.) (1 1/01) Gay-Straight Alliance o f the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Salem meets for a potluck on the third Sunday o f each month. (6 pm. 5090 Center St NE. 503-363-87 767(11/01) Interfaith Spiritual Community meets for inspira St. Jam es Lutheran Church, a reconciled in Sunday at the Heart Center W e honor and celebrate all Christ congregation, welcomes all people for traditional welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no liturgical worship. (9 and 11 am Sunday. 1315 SW Park Ave. 503-227-2439 ) (11/01) sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine gifts and supporting spintual growth, healing and enlightenment. 503-228 3195 www.himcpdx.org) (11 /0 1 ) St. Philip Neri Catholic Church offers a gay-pos (6-7:30pm. 1578 Commercial St SE. Salem. 503-763-6030 ) ( \ \ / 0 \ ) Full Circle Temple is a place o f worship for women 7:30 pm Fndays followed by a social. (Paulist Center, Momingsido United Methodist Church is a rec onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to o f all ages offenng workshops, song and drum circles, 2 4 0 8 SE 16th Ave. 503-231-4955 ) ( 1 1/01) participate in the full life o f the congregation. (8 30 and S t Stephen's Episcopal Church has been welcoming 11 am Sunday. 3674 12th St. SE. Salem. 503-364-5013.) (11/01) meditation rooms and altars o f celebration, incorporat ing what you bnng to share. (10 am-10 pm Tuesday - Sunday 3125 E Burnside St 503-238-0675.) (11/01) The God Connection Center for Worship, Growth and Leadership invites you to celebrate your spintuality with the Revs Casey and Berdell M offett- Chaney Liberal, practical; all are welcome. (10 am Sunday 4828 NE 33rdAve 503-481-7591.H 11/01) Grace Space, a multidenominational spiritual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds Sunday evening celebrations. (5 pm. Fnends o f Multnomah, 4312 SE Stark St 503-287-3216.) (11/01) itive community for Catholics and their friends Mass at all people since 1863. (12:10 pm Wednesday and 7.45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am. SW 13th Avenue at Clay Street. 503-223-6424.K11 /0 1 ) Sw eet Sp irit M etropolitan Community Church (M CC) holds w orship at 11 am Sundays Unity Church of Portland is an all-inclusive com follow ed by co ffe e and fellow ship as well as potluck lunches every second Sunday (American Legion munity following Christ's teachings and celebrating diversity and truth without trappings for 75 years. Sunday school and child care available Potluck first Sundays. (10 am Sunday. 4525 SE Stark St. 503-234-7441. unityprtlnd@wwdb.org.)(1 1/01) University Park United Methodist Church is a member o f the network o f reconciling congregations Integrity the gay and lesbian ministry of the Episcopal and meets for worship at 10 am Sundays. (4775 N Church, meets on the second Friday of each month in Lombard St. 503-289-7843.) (11/01) the Momson Room at Tnmty Cathedral. Eucharist is cele brated at 6 45 pm followed by a potluck and fellowship Zion United Church of Christ, an open and (147 NW 19th Ave. 503-289-1687.) (11/01) Interfarth Spiritual Center. Spintual directors from various world religious traditions are available for guidance, classes and retreats. (Second Floor, 3910 SE 11th Ave. affirming congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and heterosexual people who wish to w or ship in a Christ-centered, warm, caring, m ultiage/race/cultural faith community. (11 am Sunday 2025 N E23rd Ave., Gresham. 503-665-8741.) (11/01) Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane NE. Salem Mailing address: Pastor Ken Kerr, PO Box 12753, Salem. OB 97309 503-315-7923.) ( 1 1 /01 ) YOUTH__________| Metro: Youth Expression is a free art/expression support group for GLBT youth between 13 and 23 in Gresham. Hang out and have fun every Fnday1 Sponsored by Roots and Branches. (Jonathan 503-872 9664. ext. 28 ) ( 11 / 01 ) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify fo r the O regon Health Plan as well as a nee 503-233-2026, ext. 3 www spintone.com/~isc. (11/01) A 39-year-old lesbian goes fishing for jailbait tional messages, children's celebrations and joy every First United Methodist Church of Portland, a one is left out in God's family. GLBT potlucks are held monthly. (10 30 am Sunday. 1838 SW Jefferson St. Minor detail dle exchange service that includes exchange for those who inject horm ones. It also has some transi tional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for youth who are HIV-positive and younger than 23. It also plays host to V O IC E S (Voices o f Individual and C om m unity Em powerm ent from the S treets), a self-support group fo r queer youth. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday. 1236 S W Salmon St. 503-223-4121.)( 11/01) Pride Project bnngs together W ashington County lesbian, gay, bi. trans and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also information, referral, support and advocacy services for W ashington County. (Molly 503-260-5792 molly@prideproject. org.)(1 1/01) Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity group for gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans and questioning D ear M s . B ehavior : Is 17 too young? I’m a 39-year-old professional female who’s fallen in love with a young woman in the neighborhood. She’s mature, fun, smart and bi-curious. I think she’s inter ested in a sexual experience; she comes by every evening after dinner and hangs out on my porch with me. Sometimes she does homework, sometimes we just talk. I know this seems bizarre. I’ve had many lesbian relationships (my longest was a recently ended 10-year marriage), so I’m not suggesting a life with Angie would be easy, not to mention possible. But is there any harm in being her first lesbian love? 1 care about her very much, would take things slowly, would keep her safe and would show her the beauty of lesbian love. I haven’t told anyone about my feel ings for Angie. I guess I’m embarrassed. But if she kept it secret, she might turn out to be my most exciting and fulfilling love ever. Should I deflower or not deflower? — Aching youth. (4 30 pm Wednesday. Metropolitan Community Church o f Portland, 2400 NE Broadway. 503-281-8868)( 11/01) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SM YRC) offers drop in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out and plays host to weekly youth support groups including Windfire, Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group). (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday, 4 pm- midmght Fnday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St. 503-872-9664 www smyre. org.)( 11/01) Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environ ment. (503-872-9664 ) ( 1 1/01) YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family, offers tutoring and mentoring for lesbian, gay, bi and trans youth as well as for children of LGBT parents. (503-227-1981 7(11/01) Southern Oregon: Youth Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO) a group for gay, lesbian, and tx youth between 14 and 20, meets on the first and Thursdays o f the month in Ashland. (541-488 6990.) (1 1/01) Photographer Steve Diet Goedde w ill sign his new book, The Beauty o f Fetish: Volume I I , which includes this image titled “Belle," 6-8 pm Aug. 10 at Counter Media Compassionate Heart Sangha a lesbian and gay meditation group, meets in the Buddhist Vipasana tradi tion. (730-9 pm Wednesday Flanders House. 2926 NE Flanders St Jon 503 239 5539.)(1 1/01) Washington Spirituality Washington Youth Teen to Teen Sexual Minority Youth Program offers education, support and advocacy to East Vancouver United Methodist Church. gay. lesbian, bi and trans and questioning youth in Lincoln Street United Methodist Church is an Reconciling, welcoming (10 am Sunday Vancouver. Wash M eets 6-8 pm Tuesdays and open and accepting congregation of progressive 5701 MacArthur Blvd 360-693 4761 ourclarkcounty.columbian.com/273/.) (11/01) AIDS Protect, 1104 Mam St. (Amanda Christians (9 am Sunday. 5145 SE Lincoln St. 503-231-1930)( 11/01) Metanoia Peace Community (United M ethodist) is a "house church," bnngmg gay and straight together. First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ Two Sunday services, traditional and "less traditional" in an open and affirming congregation 3 30-5 30 pm Thursdays m Suite M 100 at Cascade 360 693 1 1 8 8 ) ( 11/01) (1220 NE 68th S t . Vancouver 360-69314 76 ) (11/01) Willamette Valley: Youth Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd. (10 am Sunday 913 W 13th S t , Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group tor ages 13 to 18 Metropolitan Community Church of Portland Vancouver 360-695 1480 ) (11 /0 1 ) holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng offers support, information and fun Free, confidential, drop-m (4 6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center. Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a home for the liberal religious spmt 2 7 0 0 H ilya rd S t. Eugene 541 684 3 4 6 6 ) (1 1 /0 1 ) (Daily prayer 720 am. Sunday gathenng 6 pm. 2116 NE 18th Ave 503281 3697 www tearsoup com/metanoia) (11 / 0 1) the 11 am worship service (2400 NE Broadway 503-281 8868 mfo@mccportland c o m ) (11 / 0 1) (10 am Sunday 4505 E. 18th St . Vancouver 360695-1891 ) ( 1 1/01) (5 pm Komoma Center. 1414 Kincaid St . Eugene 541 346-1134) (11/01) Potter's House M inistries Life Center. Evangelical and chansmatic Chnstian (3830 SE 62nd Ave 503-775 5024 ) 0 1 /0 1 ) SisterSpirit offers women s spintuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday Willamette Valley: Spirituality Rainbow Youth is a support group fo r gay. les btan, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation offer and their fnends betw een 13 and 17 years old in the mg worship and church school Child care provided Salem Keizer area (503 581 5535 ) ( 1 1 /0 1 ) D ear A c h in g : Ms. Behavior appreciates the allure of a taut, nubile, 17-year-old body as much as the next dyke. But are you calling your teen-age attraction “love” just to avoid feeling like a predator? And if you’re so enthralled with “the beauty of lesbian love,” why insist on secrecy? Your belief that this teen-ager might be your “most exciting and ful filling love ever” suggests you have some issues to work out. Topics to explore in therapy: Am I afraid to be with a grown-up? Does a sexual con nection feel purer and less threaten ing with someone who seems inno cent (i.e., a child)? Am I willing to appreciate Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Britney Spears and Dau>son's Creek ? You’ll feel old when you realize Angie’s peers missed Kennedy’s assassi nation by two decades—and worse when it dawns on you that they weren’t even bom when Reagan was shot. You won’t have any shared cultural references. Angie was in diapers when Desert Hearts premiered. She won’t know our foremothers, like Rita Mae Brown, Cris Williamson, Billie Jean King and Audre Lorde (not to men tion unconfirmed suspicions, like Alice the housekeeper from The Brady Bunch). And unless Angie takes women’s studies (when she runs off to Smith College to become an educated lesbian), she’ll surmise that “Sappho Was a Right-On Woman” refers to ancient Greek mythology. She might not be able to celebrate your 40th birthday with you; what if it falls when she has midterms, SATs or driver’s ed ? And when you go out to dinner together, will Angie spend her baby-sitting money, or will you give her an allowance? D ear M s . B ehavior : Can you give me 10 good reasons to come out at work ? I’m happy in my top position at a large global bank. I’m well liked and well paid. It just would complicate matters to unmask my queemess, which never comes up in the course of daily business anyway. Besides, how would I do it? My friends say I’m a chicken and a closet queen. What do you say? — Secure at the Bank D ear S ecure at the B a n k : Your signature is interesting, because security is really only possible when you tell the truth. One good reason should be enough incentive for you to come out. How ever, Ms. Behavior decided to indulge your request and offer you 10 reasons: 1. The well-meaning human resources director will stop offering to introduce you to her homely niece. 2. You’ll enlighten a few heteros; many straight people think they don’t know anyone gay except maybe Liberace, whom they prefer to think of as merely flashy. 3. At company picnics, no one will expect you to be good at softball. 4. Because you are well liked and well paid, you’ll be a fabulous role model for queer fledgling bankers. (Just don’t dress like a geek.) 5. Female colleagues will ask your advice about dating and fashion and confide their darkest, most shocking secrets. 6. Straight co-workers concerned with seeming cool will arrange blind dates for you. (Be wary of being fixed up with the only other homo your co worker knows; you might have noth ing more in common than a pulse and a penis.) 7. No one at work ever will ask you to help move their furniture. 8. You won’t have to suffer the em barrassment of rejecting romantic or sexual advances from female co-workers. 9. Your new friends will invite you out to have facials and manicures dur ing lunch. 10. Everyone already knows any way. Even if you think they don’t. As for how to come out, wait for the next company party and suggest a game of “Pin the Tail on the Poofter." Then stick your butt out so no one wonders who you mean. Write your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms. B ehavior at M sBehaiU7dSaol.com.
