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juiyfi.2001 • ADVICE ▼ Like a virgin M«-» ---- ■ «Bi __ miui -a-— uniiflfTfln , univoi ,~l--------- M~* micnaei Fellowship, a home for the liberal religious spirit (10 am Sunday. 4505 E. 18th St. Vancouver 360-695-1891)01/01) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation offer ing worship and church school. Child care provided. Wheelchair accessible. (10 am Sunday. 700 Manon St NE. Salem. 503-363-3660 ) (11/01) Gay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Salem meets for a potluck on the third Sunday of each month. (6 pm. 5090 Center St. NE. 503-363-8716.) (1 1/01) Interfaith Spiritual Community meets for inspira tional messages, children's celebrations and joy every Sunday at the Heart Center. We honor and celebrate all sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine gifts and supporting spiritual growth, healing and enlightenment. (6-730 pm. 1578 Commercial St. SE. Salem. 503-763-6030) (11/01) Morningside United Methodist Church is a rec onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full life of the congregation. (8:30 and 11 am Sunday. 3674 12th St. SE. Salem. 503 364-5013)0 1/01) Sweet Spirit Metropolitan Community Church (MCC) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every second Sunday. (American Legion Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane NE. Salem Mailing address: Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box 12753. Salem. OR 97309 503-315-7923.) (11/01) S jsí S í S íssí W» : ............................. S/de Man extends its run at Artists Repertory Theatre through July 8 Metro: Youth Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Christian meditation and prayer. (7 30 pm Thursday. 503-281 -0722.) (11/01) Expression is a free art/expression support group for GLBT youth between 13 and 23 in Gresham. Hang out and have fun every Fnday1 Sponsored by Roots and Branches. (Jonathan503-872-9664. ext. 28)0 1/01) Bridgeport Community Church (UCC) is a growing community of progressive, political people exploring and celebrating the Christian faith. We are multicultural, lesbian, gay, bi and straight, and our chil dren are valued members. (10:30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-258-0992.) (11/01) Community of St. Andrew invites all to join a diverse Catholic faith community for prayer and fellow ship. (9.30 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St. 503-281-4429.) (11 /01) Dignity Portland meets for Mass Sundays at 4 pm at St. Stephens Episcopal Church followed by a social. (Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street. dignitypdx@aol.com.) (11/01) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education at 10:30 am. (1133 NE 181st Ave.. Gresham. 503-665-2628 eastrose@teleport.com.) (11/01) Estacada United Methodist Church Reconciling Congregation, where we really mean everyone is welcome Sunday worship at 10:30 am. (204 SE Main St. Estacada) (6/01) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Christian tradition. Sunday worship is at 10:25 am. and church school for children runs concurrently. (1126 SW Park Ave. 503-228-7219.) (11/01) First United Methodist Church of Portland, a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God's family. GLBT potlucks are held monthly. (10.30 am Sunday. 1838 SW Jefferson St. 503-228-3195 www fumcpdx org) (11/01) Full Circle Temple is a place of worship for women of all ages offering workshops, song and drum circles, meditation rooms and altars of celebration, incorporat ing what you bnng to share (10 am-10 pm Tuesday- Sunday. 3125 E Bumside St. 503-238-0675.) (11/01) The God Connection Center for Worship, Growth and Leadership invites you to celebrate your spintuality with the Revs. Casey and Berdell Moffett-Chaney. Liberal, practical: all are welcome. (10 am Sunday 4828 NE 33rd Ave. 503-481-7591.) (11/01) Grace Space, a multidenominational spiritual center led by the Rev Stephanie Tomes, holds Sunday evening celebrations (5 pm. Friends of Multnomah. 4312 SE Stark St 503-287-3216 ) (11/01) Integrity, the gay and lesbian ministry of the Episcopal Church, meets on the second Friday of each month in the Morrison Room at Trinity Cathedral Euchanst is celebrated at 6 45 pm followed by a potluck and fellowship (147 NW 19th Ave. 503 289-1687.) (1 1/01) Interiaith Spiritual Center. Spiritual directors from various world religious traditions are available for guid ance. classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503-233-2026. ext 3 www.spmtone.com/-isc. (11/01) Compassionate Heart Sangha a lesbian and gay meditation group, meets m the Buddhist Vipasana tradì tm (730-9 pm Wednesday Flanders House. 2926 NE Flanders St. Jon 5032395539)0 1/01) Lincoln Street United Methodist Church is an open and accepting congregation of progressive Chnstians (9 am Sunday 5145 SE Lincoln St . , . 503 231 1930) (11/01) Meta noia Peace Community (United Methodist) is a "house church," bringing gay and straight together. (Daily prayer 7:20 am. Sunday gathering 6 pm. 2116 NE 18th Ave. 503-281-3697. www.tearsoup.com/metanoia.)(11/01) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am. Sunday school for children is held during the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway. 503-281-8868 info@mccportland.com.) (11/01) Potter's House Ministries Life Center. Evangelical and chansmatic Chnstian. (3830 SE 62nd Ave. 503-775-5024.) (11/01) SisterSpirit offers women's spintuality celebra tions. discussion groups, a drumming circle, work shops and classes. Schedule of events available. All women are welcome. (Suite 102, 3430 SE Belmont St. Mailing address: PO Box 9246, Portland, OR 97207. 503-736-3297. sistersp@teleport.com.) (11/01) Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal lenging. supportive community that welcomes all peo ple. It is the first More Light Presbytenan Church in Oregon. (10 am Sunday summer. 9 30 and 11 am Sunday winter. 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton. 503-644-2073.) (11/01) St. James Lutheran Church, a reconciled in Christ congregation, welcomes all people for traditional liturgical worship. (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave. 503-227-2439.) (11/01) St. Philip Neri Catholic Church offers a gay-pos itive community for Catholics and their friends Mass at 7 30 pm Fridays followed by a social (Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503-2314955 X11/01) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel coming all people since 1863 (12:10 pm Wednesday and 745 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as a needle exchange service that includes exchange for those who inject hormones. It also has some transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for youth who are HIV-positive and younger than 23. It also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group for queer youth. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Friday. 1236 SW Salmon St. 503-223-4121)01/01) Pride Project brings together Washington County lesbian, gay. bi. trans and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also information, referral, support and advocacy services for Washington County. (Molly 503-260-5792 moUy@pndeproiect org.) (11/01) Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity group for gay. lesbian, bisexual, trans and questioning youth. (4 30 pm Wednesday Metropolitan Community Church of Portland. 2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868.) (11/01) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SMYRC) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out and plays host to weekly youth support groups including Windfire. Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group). (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm- midnight Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St 503-872 9664 www smyrc org.) (11/01) Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a fnendly. relaxed environ ment (503-872-9664.) (11/01) YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family, offers tutonng and mentoring for lesbian, gay. tx and trans youth as well as for children of LGBT parents. (503-227-1981 )(11/01) care at 10 am SW 13th Avenue at Clay Street. 503-223-6424)01/01) Unity Church of Portland is an all-inclusive community following Christ's teachings and celebrat ing diversity and truth without trappings for 75 years Sunday school and child care available Potluck first Sundays (10 am Sunday 4525 SE Stark St 503-234-7441. umtyprtlnd@wwdb org.) (11/01) University Parti United Methodist Church is a member of the network of reconciling congregations and meets for worship at 10 am Sundays. (4775 N Lombard St. 503 289-7843) (11/01) Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bisexual, transgender and heterosexual people who wish to wor ship in a Christ centered, warm, caring, multiage/race/cultural faith community (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave. Gresham 503 6658741.) (11/01) Southern Oregon: Youth Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO) a group for gay. lesbian, and bi youth between 14 and 20. meets on the first and Thursdays of the month in Ashland (541 488 6990)0 1/01) Washington: Youth Teen to Teen Sexual Minority Youth Program offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi and trans and questioning youth m Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays and 3 30-5 30 pm Thursdays in Suite Ml00 at Cascade AIDS Project. 1104 Mam St (Amanda 360-693 1188)01/01) Willamette Valley: Youth Washington: Spirituality East Vancouver United Methodist Church. Reconciling, welcoming (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Blvd 360-693 4761 ourclarkcounty Columbian com/273/.) (11 /01) First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ Two Sunday services traditional and 'less traditional" in an open and affirming congregation (1220 NE 68th St. Vancouver 360-693 1476)01/01) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd. (10 am Sunday 913 W 13th St. Vancouver 360-695-1480 ) (11/01) Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, information and fun Free, confidential, drop-m (4 6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center. 2700 Hilyard St. Eugene 541 684 3466 ) (11/01) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday (5 pm Komoma Center. 1414 Kincaid St Eugene 541 3461134)01/01) Rainbow Youth is a support group for gay. lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth and their fnends between 13 and 17 years old in the Salem Keizer area (503581 5535)01/01) Why would a dyke want to give up her Gold Star status? D ear M s . B ehavior : I am a 19-year-old single lesbian with a problem. I believe in experiencing life to the fullest, and I want to have sex with a man. I have asked my best straight guy friend to sleep with me for one night. He knows I am a dyke and do not want a sexual relationship with him. He is happy to help me on a one-time basis. The problem is my father. Dad, who raised me alone after Mom died, is one of those PFLAG activists like Michael’s mother on Queer as Folk but worse. I am sometimes embarrassed and wish he would chill. But basically his support has helped me be proud of who I am, and usually I appreciate him and his enthusiasm. Except now. He is trying to interfere with my plan to lose my heterosexual virginity. He tells me there is no reason for a lesbian who is secure about her homosexuality to have sex with any man, even once. He suspects my guy friend is in love with me and wants to convince me to go straight. He says I am being manipulated by the guy and confused by the hetero sexual world in general. He worries I might start dating men, fall in love, waste time, miss opportunities for find ing a good lesbian partner, lose my gay identity, go straight, get pregnant, whatever. I think that’s all nonsense. But should 1 ditch my plan? If not, what should I do about Dad? —Virginity Sucks D ear V irginity S ucks : Why is your hip, supportive father involved in your sexual plans? Most 19- year-olds are at a developmental stage where they want and deserve privacy. Did you come home late one night and confess over milk and cookies your desire to have sex with a dude? If you invited Daddy into discussions of your deflowering, now you’ll have to find a diplomatic way to tell him to butt out. Otherwise, be prepared to endure his advice about everything from your outfit to your method of birth control. Creepy. It’s OK to experiment with straight sex if you really want to. But if you plan to fornicate because you feel uncool, Ms. Behavior urges you to reconsider. Lesbians are virgins when they haven’t had sex with other women, not men. If your so-called virginity feels like an albatross to you now, it might be because you confuse hetero sexual intercourse with sophistication. If in the end you decide never to have sex with a man, you can look forward to a long, happy life of being worshipped as a Gold Star Lesbian by countless dykes who regret having sullied their Sapphic purity with meaningless penile contact. D ear M s . B ehavior : Last year 1 became depressed and sought the help of a psychia trist, who prescribed antidepressants. I started on a low dose and moved up to a moderate one. The pills have helped a lot, and I no longer wake up feeling dread. The problem is this medication obscures my sex drive, to the point where I’d rather do laundry or wash the kitchen floor than make love with my girlfriend. Then, on those rare occasions when we do have sex, it’s nearly impossible for me to have an orgasm. My girlfriend was patient for a few months, but now she’s over it. She wants me to resume the lower dose of the medication because on that dose I still had sexual desire. The psychiatrist ini tially said I probably could cut back at some point. I don’t want to do it now because I think my girlfriend is being selfish and unreasonable. Shouldn’t my men tal health be more important than her sexual desires? —Little Libido D ear L ittle L ibido .- It’s a mistake to pit your mental health against your girlfriend’s sexual desires, as if you only can attend to one or the other. Although depression can be a serious illness requiring med ication and/or therapy, treatment doesn’t have to squash your libido like a bug. Some newer medications have fewer sexual side effects, so you can have a cheerful mood and lots of rau cous lesbian sex all in the same day. Your girlfriend’s desire to make love with you does not mean she is indifferent to your happiness. Don’t try to make her prove she loves you by asking her to settle for infrequent, disengaged sex. Talk to your shrink about cutting back the medication or trying a differ ent drug. Think of it as an experi ment; if you feel uncomfortable, you can return to your current regimen. Maybe your girlfriend will have fewer clean shirts and the kitchen floor will be sticky, but once your medication is adjusted, you’ll remem ber just how delightful sexual passion can be. jn Wnte your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms. B ehavior at MsBehouortSool com.
