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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (April 20, 2001)
aprii 20. 2001 ▼ Metro: Spirituality P otter's House M inistries Life Center. Interfaith Spiritual Community meets every Sunday Evangelical and chansmatic Chnstian. (3830 SE 62nd at the Heart Center for inspirational messages, children's A ve 503-7 7 5 -5 0 2 4 .)( 5/01) celebrations and joy. We honor and celebrate all sacred paths, recognizing each person s divine gifts and support ing spintual growth, healing and enlightenment. (6 -7 3 0 pm. S isterS pirit offers women's spmtuality celebrations, A insw orth U nited Church o f C hrist is a multira cial, multicultural, open and affirming church. Sunday worship is at 10 am, and church school for children runs concurrently. (2 9 4 1 NE Ainsw orth St. 503 284-8767 aucc@ teleport.com .) The Anawim Com m unity o f gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer. (7:30 pm Thursday 503-281 -0722.) (5/0 1 ) discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes. Schedule of events available All women are wel ciling congregation where everyone is welcome to partici 97207. 503-736-3297 sistersp@ teleport.com .)(5 /0 V pate in the full life of the congregation (8 30 and 11 am Southm inster Presbyterian Church is a chal lenging, supportive community that welcomes all peo ple. It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon. (10 am Sunday summer. 9.30 and 11 am Sunday winter. 12250 S W Denney Road. Beaverton. growing com m unity o f progressive, political people 503-644-2073.) (5/0 1 ) multicultural, lesbian, gay. bi and straight, and our children are valued m em bers. (1 0 .3 0 am Sunday 621 N E 76th A ve. 5 0 3 -2 5 8 -0 9 9 2 .) ( 5 /0 1 ) Community o f St. Andrew invites all to join a diverse Catholic faith community for prayer and fellow ship. (9.30 am Sunday. 806 NE A lberta St. 503-281-4429.) ( 5/01) St. James Lutheran Church a reconciled in Ave 503-227-2439.) (5/01) at St. Stephens Episcopal Church followed by a social (S outhw est 13th Avenue at C lay Street. digmtypdx@ aol.com.) (5/0 1 ) DirECtions NorthWest (ECWR) supports GLBT Christians integrate faith and sexuality through scnpture and fellowship. (PO Box 86383. Portland. OR 97286-0383 communities . msn. com/DirECtionNW PortlandHomePage.) (5/01) Mass at 7:30 pm on Fndays followed by a social (Paulist St. Stephen's Episcopal Church, the new home of the Portland Gay Men s Chorus, has been welcom ing all people since 1863. (12.10 pm W ednesday and 7 4 5 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care a t 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay S treet 503-223-6424.) (5/01) U nity Church o f Portland is an all-inclusive com munity following Christ's teachings and celebrating diversity and truth without trappings for 75 years. Eastrose F ellow sh ip U n ita ria n U n iv e rs a lis t a welcom ing congregation, o ffe rs Sunday service at 10:30 am. (1 1 3 3 N E 181st A ve.. G resham . 5 03-665-2628. e a stro se @ te le po rt.co m .) (5 /0 1 ) Sunday school and child care available. Potluck first Sundays. (10 am Sunday 4525 SE S tark S t 503-234-7441. U m typrtlnd@ w w db.org.)(1 1/01) U niversity Park United M ethodist Church is a Estacada United M ethodist Church Reconciling Congregation where we really mean and meets for worship each Sunday at 10 am. (4775 N everyone is welcome. Sunday worship at 10:30 am. Lom bard St. 5 0 3 -2 8 9 -7 8 4 3 .)( 5/01) (204 SE Mam S t.. E stacada) (5/01) member o f the network o f Reconciling Congregations F irst Congregational U nited Church o f C hrist ing congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans- is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal gendered and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Chnst-centered. warm, canng, multiage/race/cultur- church school for children runs concurrently (1 126 S W Park Ave. 503-228-7219.) al faith community (11 am Sunday. 2025 NE 23rd A v e . Gresham. 503-665-8741.) (5/01) F irst U nited M ethodist Church o f Portland, a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God's family. GLBT potlucks are held monthly. (10:30 am Sunday. 1838 S W Jefferson St. 503-228-3195. w w w .fum cpdx.org.) (5/0 1 ) Washington Spirituality East Vancouver United M ethodist Church. Reconciling, welcoming (10 am Sunday. 5701 M acA rthur B lvd.. Vancouver. 360-693-4761. women o f all ages offenng workshops, song and ourclarkcounty.colum bian.com /273/.) (5/01) (1 0 a m -10 pm Tuesday-Sunday. 3125 E B urnside S t. 5 0 3 -238-0675.) (5 /0 1 ) God Connection Center fo r W orship, Growth and Leadership invites you to celebrate The your spirituality with the Revs. Berdell M offett and Casey Chaney Liberal, practical: all are welcome. (10 am Sunday. 4828 N E 3 3 rd Ave. 503-481-7591.) (5/01) Grace Space, a newly formed multidenominational spintual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds Sunday evening celebrations. (5 pm. U nity Church. F irst Congregational Church, United Church o f C hrist. Two Sunday services, traditional and "less Church, meets on the second Fnday of each month in the M om son Room at Trinity Cathedral. Eucharist is cel ebrated at 6:45 pm followed by a potluck and fellowship. (147 N W 19th Ave. 5 0 3 -2 89-1687) Interfaith S piritual Center. Spintual directors from various world religious traditions are available for guid ance. classes and retreats. (Second R oot . 3910 SE 1 1th 12753. Salem. OR 97309. 5 0 3 -3 1 5 -7 9 2 3 )( 5/01) YOUTH Metro: Youth Expression is a free art/expression support group for GLBT youth between 13 and 18 years old who live in the Gresham area Learn, grow and have fun' Sponsored by Roots and Branches. (5-7 pm Fnday Jonathan 503-238 0780. ext 244.) (5/01) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as a needle exchange service. It also has some transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for youth who are HIV-positive and younger than 23. It also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group for queer youth. (10 am-6 pm M onday-Fnday 1236 SkV Salmon S t 503-223-4121.) (5/01) Pride P roject bnngs together Washington County lesbian, gay. bi. trans and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also information, referral, (M olly 503-260-5792.) ( 5/01) Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity group for gay. lesbian, bisexual, trans and questioning youth. (4 30 pm M onday M etropolitan Com m unity Church o f Portland. 2400 NE Broadway 503-281 -8868.) (5/01) and an informal place to hang out Also plays host to weekly youth support groups including Windfire. Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group). (4-8 pm M onday and Wednesday. 4 pm-m id- m ght Fnday and Saturday. 2100 SE Belm ont St. 503-872-9664 w w w .sm yrc.org.) (5/01) S.M.I.L.E. is a free education/support group for traditional" in an open and affirming congregation. GLBT youth 13-18. Learn, grow and have fun! (1220 NE 68th S t.. Vancouver. 360-693-1476.) (5/01) Sponsored by Roots and Branches (5-6 30 pm M etropolitan Com m unity Church o f the Gentle Shepherd. (10 am Sunday. 913 W. 13th S t , Vancouver. 360 -6 9 5 -14 8 0 .) ( 5/0 1) M ichael Servetus U nitarian U niversalist Fellowship, a home for the liberal religious spint. (9:15 and 11 am Sunday. 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver. 360-695-1891.) ( 5 /01) Thursday. Jonathan 503-238-0780. ext. 2 4 4 ) (5/01) Youth HIV/STD Prevention P roject provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a fnendly. relaxed environ ment. (503-872-9664.) (5/01) YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family, offers tutonng and mentonng for lesbian, gay. bi and trans youth as well as for children of LGBT parents 4525 SE S tark St. 503-287-3216.) (5/01) Integrity, the gay and lesbian ministry of the Episcopal second Sunday (Amencan Legion Hall. 4 774 Lilac Lane NE. Salem M ailing address: Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box Sexual M inority Youth Recreation Center (SMYRC) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables Full C ircle Temple is a place o f worship for drum circles, m editation room s and altars o f celebra tion, incorporating what you bring to share. coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every support and advocacy services for Washington County. Zion United Church o f C hrist an open and affirm Chnstian tradition. Sunday worship is at 10:25 am, and Sweet S p irit M etropolitan Community Church (MCC) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by St. Philip Neri gay and lesbian outreach A gay/les- bian-positive community for Catholics and their fnends. Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503-231-4955.) (5/01) D ignity Portland meets for Mass Sundays at 4 pm Sundays 3674 12th St. SE. Salem 503-364-5013.) (5/01) Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for traditional liturgical worship (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SkV Park (503-227- 19 8 1.) (5/01) Willamette Valley: Spirituality F irst Congregational Church. United Church of Christ, is an open and affirming congregation offenng Southern Oregon: Youth worship and church school. Child care provided The Wheelchair accessible (10 am Sunday 700 M anon St. NE. Salem. 503-363 3 6 6 0 ) ( 5 /01) bi, trans and questioning youth and their allies Sexual M inority Youth Recreation Group o f Klamath Falls provides support for gay. lesbian, (boytoy22@ hotm ail com .) (5/01) Ave. 503-233-2026. ext. 3 w w w .spintone.com /~isc.) G ay-Straight Alliance of the U nitarian U niversalist Congregation of Salem meets on the Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO) a (5/01) third Sunday o f each month for a potluck. (6 pm group for gay, lesbian, and bi youth aged 14-20 meets 5090 C enter S t NE 503-363-8716.) (5/01) on the first and Thursdays o f the month in Ashland Lesbian and gay m editation group. The (541 -48 8 -6 9 90 ) (5/01) "Compassionate Heart Sangha." meets for meditation in the Buddhist Vipasana tradition. (7.30-9 pm Wednesday. Randers House. 2926 NE Flanders St. Jon 503-239-5539.) ( 5 /01) L illith 's Daughters a place for goddesses, witches and wisdom women Beginning group to travel through Starhawk's book Twelve W ild Swans Meeting second and fourth Fridays in Beaverton. (G race The women of Motherlode play host to their annual Northwest Women's Music Celebration from April 27 to 29 at Camp Collins Washington Youth Teen to Teen Sexual M inority Youth Program offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, tx and trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. Wash M eets 6-8 pm Tuesdays and 3 30-5 30 pm Thursdays at Cascade AIDS Project. 1104 Mam St. Suite M-100 (Amanda 3 6 0 6 9 3 -1 1 8 8 ) (5/01) Young 503 -6 4 3 -3 2 0 9 ) (5/0 1 ) Willamette Valley: Youth Lincoln S treet United M ethodist Church is an open and accepting con Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered and Q uestioning Youth Group fo r ages 13-18 offers support, information and gregation of progressive Chnstians. (9 am Sunday 5145 SE Lincoln S t fun Free, confidential, drop-in. (4 6 pm Friday Amazon Com m unity Center. 503-231 1 9 3 0 ) (. 11/01) Metanoia Peace Com m unity 2700 Hityard S t . Eugene 541-684 3 4 6 6 )1 5/01) (United M ethodist) is a "house church," bnngmg gay and straight Lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans gender youth group fo r ages 25 and younger meets every together (D aily prayer 7 20 am. Sunday gathenng 6 pm 2116 NE 18th Ave 5 0 3 -2 81-3697.)(S /0 1 ) Monday (5 pm M onday Komoma Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Center. 1414 Kincaid S t. Eugene 5 4 1 -3 4 6 11 3 4 ) (5/01) Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday R ainbow Youth is a support group for gay. lesbian, bisexual, school for children is held during the 11 am worship service (2400 NE Broadway 5 0 3 2818868 mccpdx@aotcom.) (5/01) transgendered and questioning youth and their friends betw een 13 and 17 years old in the m Past petting pal perturbs partner Momingside United Methodist Church is a recon come. (3-6 pm Tuesday Fnday. Suite 102. 3430 SE Belm ont St. M ailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR B rid g e p o rt C om m unity C hurch (UCC) Is a exploring and celebrating the Christian faith. W e are 1578 Commercial St. SE, Salem. 503- 7636030.) (5/01) Sometimes when we touch Salem Keizer area (50 3 5 8 1 5 535 M l 1 /01) D ear M s . B ehavior : unwanted component of sexual fantasy. You and Marilyn can lie side by side, imagin ing you’re teen-agers, and masturbate. Then, besides being allowed to have all her feelings— desire for you, jealousy, rage, sexual excitement— she also can imagine the thrill of deflower ing you first. A few weeks ago at work, I ran into a child- hcxxl friend 1 haven’t seen for 20 years. It turns out we Kith work for the same huge corporation. Jen is straight and married with lots of kids. I’m excited akiut reconnecting with her, and we’ve been eating lunch together regularly. The problem is my girlfriend is terribly jealous. Perhaps this was a mistake, I D ear M s . B ehavior : but I mentioned to Marilyn that 1 am a recently out teen-ager with when Jen and I were teen-agers, we some questions ak>ut sex. 1 under used to go on double dates with Kiys, stand the need for condoms, and I then I would sleep at her house. plan to use one when the time comes. The beds were side by side, and Meanwhile, a guy 1 met recently after the lights were out, we would asked me if 1 knew how to rim. I have heard ak>ut rimming, and I’m very masturbate together in silence. We ! never touched one another or even ! curious to try it. acknowledged that anything was But my hesitation lies in the going on. health risks involved. Is it safe? Now that so many years have Are there questions 1 need to ask passed and Jen has turned out to he a him first? What should I do straight woman who wears to prepare in case he offers fur coats and acrylic nails, I it to me? thought this was a funny I’m very curious, and story. But Marilyn was not this interests me a lot. amused; in fact, she was Anything you can furious. do to enlighten me? —Curious Newcomer She acted as if I made a secret house call last week and sodomized D ear C urious Jen on a heart-shaped N ewcomer : bed. Marilyn doesn’t Rimming (mouth-to- want me to have lunch anal contact) presents lit with her anymore, even tle HIV risk. But you’re at risk though 1 swore I have no for other infections and sexu sexual or romantic feelings ally transmitted diseases, for her. including herpes, intestinal This is awkward for parasites, hepatitis and gon me; I don’t want to stop orrhea, if your date is carry j being Jen’s friend, nor would I ing these things. know how to explain it. Should I dis Asking questions is a good idea, continue this relationship just because hut anyone can have an infection he Marilyn is overreacting.7 doesn’t know akxit. And in this case, — Bewildered your questionnaire would have to he exhaustive. D ear B ewildered : For example, you’d sound like a Marilyn is just mad because Jen freak if you unbuttoned your date’s almost had you in your nubile pants and then remembered to ask if he I youth. And who could compete ever swims in a river with heavers— Ms. with that.7 Behavior hopes she doesn’t need to Try to work something out that clarify that she means the small disease- doesn’t involve ending your friend carrying mammals, not women. If your ship with Jen. Breaking it off would man does swim with heavers, he could he reasonable if you indeed had have a parasite called giardia. intense feelings that might compro- Eating raw fish or undercooked | mise your commitment with meat can lead to other parasites and Marilyn. But if you don’t, being infections. Basically, it’s a jungle out forced to give up your friend might there, and it also can he one in your leave you resentful. date’s intestines. Let Marilyn talk about her feelings Unfortunately, your taste as rim- without being defensive. Then see if mer involves higher risk than if you she is willing to try some of the usual were the rimmce. You can use non- i ways to diffuse jealous situations. microwavahle Saran Wrap as a harrier For example, would she he willing if you want to make it safer. to go on a double date with Jen and But please don’t use a plastic hag her husband.7 If Marilyn sees her in over your nose and mouth. That has the context of her hetero life, she its own perils. JH I might seem less like a sexual threat. If this doesn’t work, you might Write your confused and conflicted have to resort to Flan B: acknowl heart out to M s. BEHAVIOR at edging that jealousy usually has an Ms Behavurr@aol. com. Í35
