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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (April 6, 2001)
aprii 6.2001 F irst C ongregational U nited C hurch o f C hrist is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Christian tradition. Sunday worship is at 10:25 am, and church school for children runs concurrently. (1126 SW Park Ave. 503-228-7219) F irst United M ethodist Church o f Portland, a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God's family. GLBT potlucks are held monthly. (10:30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St. 503 228-3195. www.fumcpdx.org.) (5/01) Full C ircle Temple is a place of worship for women of all ages offering workshops, song and drum circles, meditation rooms and altars of celebration, incorporating what you bnng to share. (10 am -10 pm Tuesday Sunday. 3125 E Burnside St. 503-238-0675.) (5/01) The God Connection C enter fo r W orship, Growth and Leadership invites you to celebrate your spintuality with the Revs. Berdell Moffett and Casey Chaney. Liberal, practical: all are welcome. (1 0 am Sunday. 4828 N E 33rd Ave 503-481-7591.) (5/01) Grace Space, a newly formed multidenominational spintual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds Sunday evening celebrations. (5 pm. Unity Church, 4525 SE Stark St 503-287-3216.) ( 5/01) Integrity the gay and lesbian ministry of the Episcopal Church, meets on the second Fnday of each month in the Momson Room at Tnmty Cathedral. Eucharist is cel ebrated at 6 45 pm followed by a potluck and fellowship. (147 NW 19th Ave 503-289-1687.) In te rfa ith S p iritu a l C enter. Spiritual directors from various world religious traditions are available for guidance, classes and retreats. (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave. 503-233-2026, ext. 3. www hom etown aol. com /djrho5/w ebpage htm l.) (5/01) Lesbian and gay m editation group. 'Compassionate Heart Sangha," meets for meditation in the Buddhist Vipasana tradition. (7.30-9 pm Wednesday. Flanders House. 2926 NE Flanders St. Jon 503-239-5539.) ( 5/01) L ilith 's Daughters, a westside lesbian spiritual group facilitated by the Rev. Grace Young, meets in Beaverton. (7 pm second and fourth Fnday. 503-643-3209.) (5/01) Lincoln S treet U nited M ethodist C hurch is an open and accepting congregation of progressive Christians. (9 am Sunday. 5145 SE Lincoln St. 50 3-2 31-1 93 0.H U /0 \) since 1863. (12:10 pm Wednesday and 7:45 and 10 am Sunday. Sunday school and child care at 10 am. Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street. 503-223 64 2 4 ) (5/01) U nity Church o f Portland is an all-inclusive com munity following Christ's teachings and celebrating diversity and truth without trappings for 75 years. Sunday school and child care available. Potluck first Sundays. (10 am Sunday. 4525 SE Stark St. 503-234-7441 Umtyprtlnd@wwdb.org.) (11/01) U niversity Park United M ethodist Church is a member of the network of Reconciling Congregations and meets for worship each Sunday at 10 am. (4775 N Lombard St. 503-289-7843.) (5/01) Zion United C hurch of C hrist, an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bisexual, transgendered and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Christ-centered, warm, caring, multiage/race/cultural faith community. (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave.. Gresham 503-665-8741.) (5/01) Washington: Spirituality East Vancouver United M ethodist Church. Reconciling, welcoming. (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Blvd . Vancouver. 360-693-4761. ourclarkcounty.colum bian.com /273/.) (5/01) F irst C ongregational Church, United Church o f C hrist. Two Sunday services, traditional and 'less traditional" in an open and affirming congregation. (1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver. 360-693-147 6.) (5/01) Expression is a free art/expression support group for GLBT youth between 13 and 18 years old who live in the Gresham area. Leam, grow and have fun! Sponsored by Roots and Branches. (5 -7 pm Fnday. Jonathan SC3-238-0780, ext 244.) ( 5/01) O utside In operates a clinic for anyone who can t qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as a needle exchange service. It also has some transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for youth who are HIV positive and younger than 23. It also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group for queer youth. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday. 1236 SW Salmon St. 503-223-4121.) (5/01) Pride P roject bnngs together Washington County lesbian, gay. bi, trans and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also information, referral, support and advocacy services for Washington County. (M olly 503-260-5792) (5/01 ) Sexual M inority Youth Recreation Center (SMYRC) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables Vancouver. 360-695-1891.) (5/01) and an informal place to hang out. Also plays host to weekly youth support groups including Windfire, Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group). (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-mid- night Fnday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St. 503-872-9664 www.smyrc.org.) ( 5/01) Willamette Valley: Spirituality F irst C ongregational Church. United Church of Christ, is an open and affirming congregation offering worship and church school. Child care provided Wheelchair accessible (10 am Sunday. 700 Mahon St. NE. Salem. 503-363-3660.) ( 5/01) The G ay-Straight A lliance of the U nitarian U niversalist Congregation of Salem meets on the third Sunday of each month for a potluck. (6 pm. 5090 Center St. NE. 503-363-8716.) (5/01) Sunday at the Heart Center for inspirational messages, children's celebrations and joy. We honor and celebrate all sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine gifts and supporting spiritual growth, healing and enlighten ment. (6-7:30pm. 1578 Commercial St. SE. Salem. 503- 763-6030.) (5/01) Evangelical and chansmatic Chnstian. (3830 SE 62nd Ave. 503-775-5024.) (5/01) Metro: Youth M ichael Servetus U nitarian U niversalist Fellow ship. (10 am Sunday. 4505 E. 18th St.. a 'house church,' bnnging gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7.20 am. Sunday gathenng 6 pm. 2116 NE 18th Ave. 503-281-3697.) (5/01) P otter's House M in istrie s Life Center. M orningsida U nited M ethodist Church is a rec S.M .I.L.E. is a free education/support group for GLBT youth 13-18. Leam, grow and have fun! Sponsored by Roots and Branches. (5-6 3 0 pm Thursday. Jonathan 503-238-0780. ext. 244.) ( 5/01) Youth HIV/STD Prevention P roject provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environ ment. (503-872-9664.) (5/01) YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family, offers tutonng and mentonng for lesbian, gay. bi and trans youth as well as for children of LGBT parents. (503-227-1981.) (5/01) Southern Oregon Youth onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full life of the congregation. (8 3 0 and 11 am Sundays. 3674 12th St. SE. Salem. 503-364-5013.) ( 5/01) The Sexual M in ority Youth Recreation Group o f Klam ath Falls provides support for gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth and their allies. (boytoy22@hotmail com. ) (5/01) Sweet S p irit M etropolitan Com m unity Church Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO). a group for gay. lesbian, and bi youth aged 14-20 meets on the first and Thursdays of the month in Ashland. (541-488-6990 ) (5/01) S isterS pirit offers women's spintuality celebra tions. discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes. Schedule of events available. All women are welcome. (3-6 pm Tuesday-Friday. Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St. Mailing address PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. 503-736-3297. sistersp@ teleportcom.) (5/01) Washington: Youth Teen to Teen Sexual M inority Youth Program offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi and trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. Wash. Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays and 3:30-5:30 pm Thursdays at Cascade AIDS Protect, 1104 Mam St. Suite M -100. (Amanda 360-693-1188.) (5/01) Southm inster Presbyterian Church is a challenging, supportive community that welcomes all people. It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon. (10 am Sunday summer. 9 30 and 11 am Sunday winter 12250 SW (Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073.) (5/01) Willamette Valley. Youth Gay, Leabian, Bisexual, Transgendered and Questioning Youth Group fo r ages 13-18 offers support, infor St. James Lutheran Church, a reconciled in mation and fun Free, confidential, drop-m (4-6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center. 2700 Hilyard St., Eugene 5 4 1-684-3466) (5/01) Chnst congregation, wel comes all people for tradi tional liturgical worship. (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227 2 4 3 9 ) ( 5/01) Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender youth group fo r ages 25 and younger meets St. Philip N eri gay and lesbian outreach A gay/les bian positive community for Catholics and their fnends Mass at 7 30 pm on Fridays followed by a social (Paukst Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 50 3 2 3 1 4 9 5 5 ) (5/01) C a C fe n lie ii '■ vin w tvp tivii f Episcopal Church, the new home o f the Portland Gay Men's Chorus, has been welcoming al people I Vancouver. 360-695-1480.) (5/01) M etropolitan Com m unity Church o f the Gentle Shepherd. (10 am Sunday. 913 W. 13th St., In te rfa ith S p iritu a l Com m unity meets every ship services at 9 and 11 am. Sunday school for chil dren is held during the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway. 503-281-8868. mccpdx@aol. com. 7 (5/01) YOUTH Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity group for gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans and questioning youth. (4:30 pm Monday Metropolitan Community Church o f Portland. 2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868.) (5/01) Metanoia Peace Com m unity (United Methodist) is M e tro p o lita n C om m unity C hurch o f P ortland holds ecumenical Sunday morning w or (MCC) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every second Sunday. (American Legion Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane NE. Salem. Mailing address: Pastor Ken Kerr, PO Box 12753. Salem, OR 97309 503-3l5-7923.)(5/01) The Portland Actor* Conservatory presents The Memory of Water, a witty and wicked play about three British sisters, April 11 to 29 at Firehouse Theatre every Monday (5 pm Monday Komoma Center. 1414 Kincaid S t . Eugene 541-346-1134 ) (5/01) Rainbow Youth is a support group for gay. lesbian, bisexual, transgendered and questioning youth and their fnends between 13 and 17 years old in the Salem Keizer area (503581-5535 ) ( 11 / 01 ) Surrender, Dorothy Ju st click your heels three times and say, “There’s no place like homo!” D ear M s . B ehavior : I don’t believe in love between two men, nor do 1 believe it will happen to me again. After so much pain and aggravation, and since I’ve been single for two years, I’ve come to believe gay relation ships are fake. It’s all about sex. How can two men do this? Are we living a lie? It’s not gcx)d to be gay. What is gtxxJ about it? It’s all about sex, dick size, shal lowness and attitude. And what’s the deal about people “barebacking” and swallowing “cum” ? There are times I wish I could change my desires— and not have any at all. I feel that love between two men is the biggest lie ever. Maybe heterosexuals do know best. I don’t have it in me anymore— and how can I ? There is no such thing as “love” between two men or women. Maybe we need straightening out. — Disillusioned D ear D isillusioned : You’re correct. You’d be much happier as a heterosexual. Style no longer would be a con cern; you could wear brown woven shoes with gray pants and beige socks. You never would have to worry about going bald, because lots of stores sell inexpensive toupees designed for het erosexuals. If you started to feel old and unattractive, you could buy a little red convertible sports car, which would make you irresistible to all women (especially gum-chewing blondes with long red fingernails), and at least twice a week you could give your scantily clad secretary some “dick-tation.” On weekends, the entertainment possibilities would be endless. You could sit around in an undershirt, scratching your nuts while your wife served you cheap beer and Doritos during the Super Bowl and other special occasions. Burping and expelling gas would be allowed during all sporting events, and if your team lost, you could beat your wife. Of course, by the following week end she would express her for giveness in the form of your favorite manly meal of meatloaf and mashed potatoes. But in certain private moments of fearing your life was empty and mean ingless, you might wonder what it would’ve been like if only you’d been blessed with the grace to be a sweet, sensitive, design-oriented homosexual with a large loft. D ear M s . B ehavior : Four years ago, I met my first lover. We hit it off really quickly. In three months, we were living together; I was excited arid blindly in love. Now 1 am 27, and I no longer feel the same way about this woman. A lot of things have con tributed to my change of heart, from her drug addiction and alcoholism to her lies and betrayals. I don’t trust her anymore. She took away things that had meaning in the relationship and even in me as a human being. I always tried to speak to her about how her destructive lifestyle was destroying us and how it affected me. It caused me tremendous anguish and pain. My ex-girlfriend now claims that we can work it out and that she has changed. I gave up on her a year ago and really want to move on with my life to try to heal the pain she caused me. Am I wrong for wanting that? Don’t I have the right to happiness elsewhere? Why should I believe she’s recovering when I’ve heard it so many times before? Another thing: She has an unde termined amount of time to live. Should that play a factor in my bro ken heart vs. giving her another chance? Letting go was very hard and still is. — Trying to Mend My Broken Heart D ear T rying to M end M y B roken H eart : It’s one thing to be compassionate. It’s another to wreck your life trying to heal someone else. Your ex needs treatment for her physical and emotional health provid ed by doctors, social workers and friends. Not you. People usually know when they can’t go any further in a relationship. You say that after years of anguish and heartbreak, you really want to move on with your life. And why shouldn’t you? Staying with someone out of guilt, regardless of the circumstances, doesn’t work. Ms. Behavior wishes each of you happiness, which you are more likely to find, it seems, by going your separate ways. jn Write your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms. BEHAVIOR at MsBehavior@aol.com. :|35
