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trans men. Community calendars and mailings. Training
and networking men to build community from a grass
roots perspective. (1966 Garden Ave.. Eugene.
541-342-5088, ext. 23. tseager@hivalltance.org 1(5/01)
Grace Space, a newly formed multidenominational
The
spiritual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds
Sunday evening celebrations. (5 pm. Unity Church,
4525 SE S tar* S t 503-287-3216.) (5/01)
third Sunday o f each month for a potluck. (6 pm.
5090 Center St. NE. 503-363-8716.) ( 5/01)
Marionberry Salon, form erly the Coalition to End
Integrity, the gay and lesbian ministry of the Episcopal
Church, meets on the second Friday of each month in
the Momson Room at Trinity Cathedral. Euchanst is cel
ebrated at 6:45 pm followed by a potluck and fellowship.
(147 NW 19th Ave. 503-289-1687.)
Bigotry Book Group, meets monthly in Salem for
potlucks and discussions of books touching on lesbian,
gay or bisexual experience (Cary 503-363-6036.
caryandken@aol. com.) (5/01)
The Lesbian Connection (TLC) Lunch Bunch
meets at 11 am every Sunday at the French Hom and
on the second Fnday of the month from 5 to 8 pm at
the Fifth Street Market food court in Eugene. All
women welcome. (Bonnie 541-683-2793)( 5/01)
Interfaith Spiritual Center. Gay men's spirituality
groups form every other month. Spintual directors from
various world religious traditions are available for guid
ance. classes and retreats. (Second Floor, 3910 SE
11th Ave. 503-233-2026, ext. 3.
www. hometown, aol. com /djrho5/webpage htm l.) (5/01)
Lesbian and gay m editation group.
Metro: Spirituality
Ainsworth United Church o f C hrist is a m ultira
cial. multicultural, open and affirming church. Sunday
worship is at 10 am, and church school for children
runs concurrently. (2941 NE Ainsworth St.
503-284-8767 aucc@teleport.com.)
"Compassionate Heart Sangha," meets for meditation
in the Buddhist Vipasana tradition. (7:30-9pm
Wednesday. Flanders House, 2926 NE Flanders St.
Jon 503-239-5539 ) (5/01)
Lilith's Daughters is a westside lesbian spintual
group facilitated by Rev. Grace Young. The meetings
are on the second and the fourth Fndays of the month
at 7 pm in Beaverton. (Grace 503-643-3209.) (5/01)
The Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly
for Christian meditation and prayer. (7:30 pm Thursday.
503-281-0722.) ( 5/01)
Metanoia Peace Community (United M ethodist) is
a “ house church," bringing gay and straight together.
(Daily prayer 7.20 am. Sunday gathering 6 pm.
2116 NE 18th Ave. 503-281-3697.) ( 5/01)
Bridgeport Community Church (UCC) is a
M etropolitan Community Church of Portland
growing community of progressive, political people
exploring and celebrating the Christian faith. We are
multicultural, lesbian, gay. bi and straight, and our chil
dren are valued members. (10:30 am Sunday. 621 NE
76th Ave. 503 258-0992.) ( 5/01)
holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at
9 and 11 am. Sunday school for children is held during
the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway.
503-281-8868 mccpdx@aol.com.) (5/01)
Community o f St. Andrew invites all to join a
Evangelical and charismatic Christian. (3830 SE 62nd
Ave. 503- 775-5024.) (5/01)
diverse Catholic faith community for prayer and fellow
ship. (9:30 am Sunday. 806 NE Alberta St.
503 28 1-4 429 )( 5/01)
Dignity Portland meets for Mass Sundays at 4 pm
at St. Stephens Episcopal Church followed by a social.
(Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street.
digmtypdx@aol. com. J (5/01)
Directions Northwest (ECWR) supports GLBT
Christians integrate faith and sexuality through scripture
and fellowship. (PO Box 86383. Portland. OR 97286-0383.
communities, msn. com/DirECtionNWPortlandHomePage. )
(5/01)
Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist. a
welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service at
10:30 am. (1133 NE 181st Ave., Gresham.
503-665-2628. eastrose@ teleport.com.) (5/01)
Estacada United M ethodist Church
Reconciling Congregation, where we really mean
everyone is welcome. Sunday worship at 10:30 am.
(204 SE Main St.. Estacada.) (5/01)
First Congregational United Church of C hrist
is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal
Christian tradition. Sunday worship is at 10:25 am. and
church school for children runs concurrently. (1126 SW
Par* Ave. 503-228-7219.)
Full Circle Temple is a place o f worship for women
of all ages offering workshops, song and drum circles,
meditation rooms and altars of celebration, incorporat
ing what you bring to share. (10 am -10 pm Tuesday-
Sunday. 3125 E Burnside St. 503-238-0675.) (5/01)
The God
Connection Center fo r Worship,
Growth and Leadership invites you to celebrate
your spirituality with the Revs. BerdeM M offett and Casey
Chaney. Liberal, practical: all are welcome. (10 am
Sunday 4828 NE 33rdAve 503-481-7591.)( 5/01)
“ Eruption" is a clay sculpture by
Toni Thomas on view at Guardino
Gallery from Feb. 22 to March 27
Potter's House M inistries Life Center.
SisterSpirit offers women's spirituality celebrations,
discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and
classes. Schedule of events available. All women are wel
come. (3-6 pm Tuesday-Friday. Suite 102, 3430 SE
Belmont St. Mailing address: PO Box 9246, Portland, OB
97207. 503-736-3297. sistersp@ teleport.com.) (5/01)
Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal
lenging, supportive community that welcomes all peo
ple. It is the first More Light Presbytenan Church in
Oregon. (1 Oam Sunday summer, 9:30 and 11 am
Sunday winter. 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton
503-644-2073.) (5/01)
St. James Lutheran Church, a reconciled in
Christ congregation, welcomes all people for traditional
liturgical worship where we experience God's reconcil
ing love that sets all people free. (9 am and 11 am
Sunday 1315 SW PAr* Ave. 503-227-2439.) (5/01)
St. Philip Neri gay and lesbian outreach. A gay/les-
bian-positive community for Catholics and their friends.
Mass at 7:30 pm on Fridays followed by a social.
(Paulist Center, 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503-231-4955.)
(5/01)
St. Stephan's Episcopal Church, the new home
o f the Portland Gay Men's Chorus, has been welcom
ing all people since 1863. (12:10pm Wednesday and
7:45 and 10 am Sunday. Sunday school and child care
at 10am. Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street.
503-223-6424.) (5/01 )
University Park United M ethodist Church is a
member of the network o f Reconciling Congregations
and meets for worship each Sunday at 10 am. (4775 N
Lombard St. 503-289-7843.) ( 5/01)
Zion United Church of Christ. an open and
affirming congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bisexual,
transgendered and heterosexual people
who wish to worship in a Chnst-centered,
warm, caring, m ultiage/race/cultural faith
community. (11 am Sunday. 2025 NE 23rd
Ave., Gresham. 503 665-8741.) (5/01)
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Washington: Spirituality
East Vancouver United Methodist
Church. Reconciling, welcoming. (10 am
Sunday 5701 MacArthur Bhd , Vancouver.
360-693-4761 ourdarkcounty Columbian com /
273/.) (5/01)
First Congregational Church, United
Church o f Christ. Two Sunday services,
traditional and "less traditionar in an open
and affirming congregation (1220 NE 68th
S t . Vancouver. 360-693-1476.) ( 5/01)
M etropolitan Community Church of
the Gentle Shepherd. (10 am Sunday
913 W 13th S t . Vancouver
360-695-1480.) ( 5/01)
Michael Servetus Unitarian
Universalist Fellowship. (10 am
Gay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian
Universalist Congregation of Salem meets on the
Interfaith Spiritual Community meets every
Sunday at the Heart Center for inspirational messages,
children's celebrations and joy. We honor and celebrate
all sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine gifts
and supporting spiritual growth, healing and enlighten
ment. (6-7 30 pm. 1578 Commercial St. SE, Salem
503-7636030) (5/01)
Momingsida United Methodist Church is a rec
onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to
participate in the full life o f the congregation.
(8:30 and 11 am Sundays. 3674 12th St. SE, Salem.
503-364-5013.) (5/01)
Sweet S p irit M etropolitan Community
Church (MCC) holds worship at 11 am Sundays
followed by coffee and fellowship as well as potluck
lunches every second Sunday. (Amencan Legion Hall.
4774 Lilac Lane NE. Salem. Mailing address: Pastor
Ken Kerr. PO Box 12753. Salem. OR 97309.
503-315-7923.) (5/01)
YOUTH
Metro: Youth
Expression is a free art/expression support group for
GLBT youth 13-18 who live in the Gresham area.
Learn, grow and have fun! Sponsored by Roots and
Branches. Meets Fridays from 5-7 pm in Gresham.
(Call Jonathan to reserve your spot, 503-238-0780
ext. 244.) ( 5/01)
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't
qualify for the Oregon Health Ran as well as a needle
exchange service. It also has some transitional housing
for youth 20 and younger as well as for youth who are
HIV-positive and younger than 23. It also plays host to
VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community
Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group
for queer youth. (10 nm-6 pm Monday-Fnday. 1236 SW
Salmon St. 503-223-4121.) (5/01)
Prids Project brings together Washington County
lesbian, gay, bi. trans and questioning youth to plan and
attend monthly social events. Also information, referral,
support and advocacy services for Washington County.
(M olly 503-260-5792.) ( 5/01)
Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity
group for gay. lesbian, bisexual, trans and questioning
youth. (4:30pm Monday. M etropolitan Community
Church o f Portland. 2400 NE Broadway
503-281-8868.) ( 5/01)
Sexual M inority Youth Recreation Cantor
(SMYRC) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables
and an informal place to hang out. Also plays host to
weekly youth support groups including W indfire. Trans
Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative
group). (4-8 pm Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Friday and
Saturday. 424 E Burnside S t 503-872-9664
www.smyrc.org.) (5/01)
S.M .I.LE. is a free education/support group for
GLBT youth 13-18 Leam, grow and have fun! Meets
from 5 to 6:30 pm Thursday beginning Jan. 11.
Sponsored by Roots and Branches. (Jonathan
503-238-0780. ext. 244 ) (5/01)
Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun
and educational programs along with counseling and
testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environ
ment (503-872-9664 ) (5/01)
YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family, offers
tutoring and mentoring for lesbian, gay. bi and trans
youth as well as for children of LGBT parents.
(503-227-1981)( 5/01)
Southern Oregon: Youth
The Sexual M inority Youth Recreation Group
of Klamath Falla provides support for gay. lesbian,
bi, trans and questioning youth and their allies.
(boytoy22@ hotmailcom.) (5/01)
Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO). a
group for gay. lesbian, and bi youth aged 14-20 meets
on the first and Thursdays of the month in Ashland.
(541-488 6 9 9 0 ) (5/01)
Washington: Youth
Teen to Teen Sexual M inority Youth Program
offers education, support and advocacy to gay, lesbian,
bi and trans and questioning youth m Vancouver. Wash
Meets 6 8 pm Tuesdays and 3 30-5 30 pm Thursdays
at Cascade AIDS Project. 1104 Mam St Suite M-100
(Amanda 360-693-1188) (5/01)
Sunday 4505 E. 18th St.. Vancouver
360-695-1891) (5/01)
Willamette Valley: Youth
Willamette Valley:
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered and
Questioning Youth Group for ages 13-18 offers
Spirituality
support, information and fun Free, confidential, drop m.
(4 6 pm Friday Amazon Community Center.
2700 Hilyard S t Eugene 541-684 34 6 6 ) (5/01)
First Congregational Church United
Church of Christ, is an open and affirming
congregation offering worship and church
school Child care provided Wheelchair
accessible (10 am Sunday 700M anonS t
NE. Salem 503-363-3660.) (5/01)
Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender youth
group fo r ages 25 and younger meets every
Monday (5 pm Monday Komoma Center, 1414 Kincaid
S t . Eugene 54 1-34&1134) (5/01)
The bottom line
Resolute receiver resents randy Romeo’s request
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I’m a complete
bottom who has a
wonderful partner
who wants me to top
him. I just can’t
bring myself to do
this because 1 don’t
have it in me.
I know he really
wants me to because
he asks about once a
week, but I always
just push it aside. I
think sex between
us is great the way it
is now.
I’m not so sure he
feels that way himself. It’s not a big
concern, but it is an issue. W e’ve been
together for almost a decade already,
and we’re definitely in this for the
long haul.
Should I concern myself too
much? How do I get over being a bot
tom? Perhaps I need to nip at the
sherry before dinner.
— C oncerned Bottom
woman of my
dreams.
She didn’t even
have the courtesy to
tell me why; instead,
she stopped return
ing my calls and
answering my
e-mails. Finally,
when 1 managed to
get hold of her, she
said it just wasn’t
working for her.
This is after a
fabulous summer
together on the
Cape, great sex and
sharing our most
intimate feelings with each other. I
feel like I just should forget about try
ing to meet another woman.
I am totally blown away by this
experience. Any advice?
— Forlorn Lesbian
D ear F orlorn L esbian :
It’s never a good idea to make a
grand plan for a life of spinsterhood
right after you get dumped. Be dra
matic if you need to and invest in the
D ear C oncerned B ottom :
wardrobe and accouterments (sweat
Come on, Missy. Think about the
pants, kerchiefs, book-of-the-month
reason for your hesitation and how
club, multiple felines), but don’t com
strong it really is.
mit to it.
Ms. Behavior wouldn’t suggest
You’re right, however, that this
forcing yourself to do something to
might not be the best time to meet,
which you feel violently opposed. But
court and marry someone new. You
if your doubt is based mostly in fear or
probably just would project your hurt
embarrassment, you might try to push
and insecure feelings onto your girl
through it, especially if you also feel
friend, which would make you feel
curious or at least open-minded. It
like a needy cling-on and wouldn’t
sounds like you love your partner and
bode well for a healthy relationship.
plan a life together, so you might as
This is not to blame you for what
well have as much variety as possible.
happened in your last relationship. It
Ms. Behavior has an encouraging
sounds like the woman of
story to share: Her friend
your dreams turned out to
Vinnie, a big truck driver,
Thank
God
be a nightmare and
was a committed legs-
you’re actually fortunate
over-his-head bottom
for
anti-bacterial
you weren’t with her
until he turned 40.
longer.
A woman who
Then he fell in love with
soap.
doesn’t have the courtesy to
Manuel, the biggest, nelliest
return your calls or offer an explana
bottom who ever sashayed across
tion after a whole summer of dating
G od’s green earth.
probably has some serious emotional
Vinnie couldn’t imagine giving it
issues.
up to Manuel, so he rose to the occa
But this would be a good time to
sion just to test it out. (Unfortunately,
think back honestly about whether
Vinnie was Ms. Behavior’s housemate
you missed any clues that she could
at the time and chose to test it out on
the kitchen table, where Manuel was
be so dismissive or that she wasn’t
treated like an hors d’oeuvre. Thank
as connected as you might have
God for anti-bacterial soap.)
imagined. If you can feel more con
Although skeptical at first, Vinnie
fident about reading someone else’s
took to topping like a natural and has
signals in the future, you might feel
enjoyed a life of versatility ever since.
less fragile.
(Yes, Ms. Behavior knows that when
In the meantime, it doesn’t make
a gay man claims to be “versatile” it
sense to plan how long to stay alone,
generally means he’s a bottom who’s
because it really will depend on how
capable of getting on top if urged with
you feel. O nce you think that you can
either a large loaded weapon or sever
see someone clearly— and that you
won’t confuse her with your ex-girl
al bouquets of flowers.)
friend
or your rejecting Mommy—
Anyway, if you decide to test it
then you’ll be ready to meet someone.
out, perhaps a fantasy will help— or a
And until then, make sure you
very butch outfit. Good luck in your
masturbate a lot. Celibate people
topping endeavor. Ms. Behavior and
her readers will be anxious to hear
often seem grouchy. j n
how it goes.
Write your confused and conflicted
heart out to Ms. BEHAVIOR at
D ear M s . B ehavior :
M sBehavioiQ aol.com .
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