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Gay Man'« D iscussion Group meets Mondays
from 7:30 to 9 pm at the Komonia Center,
1414 Kincaid, Eugene, (Hank 541-484-6259. Trent
tseager@hivalliance org .7 (6/01)
9 and 11 am. Sunday school for children is held during
the 11 am worship service (2400 NE Broadway
503-281 8868 mccpdx@aol.com.) ( 6/01)
Lana C ounty M an's Health N etw ork offers
Evangelical and chansmatic Christian. (3830 SE 62nd
Ave. 503-775-5024.) (6/01)
social events, retreats, workshops and training for bi.
gay and trans men. Community calendars and mailings.
Training and networking men to build community from a
grassroots perspective. (1966 Garden Ave.. Eugene
541-342-5088. ext 23. tseagerGhivalliance.org.)
( 6 / 01 )
M arionberry Salon, form erly the Coalition to End
Bigotry Book Group, meets monthly in Salem for
potlucks and discussions of books touching on lesbian,
gay or bisexual experience. (Cary 5 03-363-6036.
caryandken@aol.com.) (6/01)
The Lesbian C onnection (TLC ) Lunch
Bunch m eets at 11 am every Sunday at the French
Horn and on the second Fnday of the m onth from
5 to 8 pm at the Fifth S treet M arket food court in
Eugene. All women welcome. (Bonnie
5 4 1-683-2793.) ( 6 /0 1 )
SPIRITUALITY
Metro: Spirituality
A insw orth U nited Church o f C h rist is a multira­
cial, multicultural, open and affirming church. Sunday
worship is at 10 am, and church school for children
runs concurrently. (2941 NE Ainsworth St.
503-284-8767. aucc@teleport.com.)
P otter's House M inistries Life Center.
S iste rS p irit offers women's spirituality celebrations,
discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and
classes. Schedule of events available. All women are
welcome. (3-6 pm Tuesday-Friday. Suite 102. 3430 SE
Belmont St. Mailing address: PO Box 9246, Portland.
OR 97207 503-736-3297 sistersp@ teleport.com.)
Mornings Ids United Methodist Church is a recon­
ciling congregation where everyone is welcome to partici­
pate in the full life of the congregation (8 30 and I I am
Sundays. 3674 12th St. SE. Salem. 503-364-5013.) (6/01)
Sweat S p irit M etropolitan Com m unity Church
(MCC) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by
coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every
second Sunday. (Amencan Legion Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane
NE. Salem. Mailing address Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box
12753. Salem. OR 97309. 503-315-7923 ) (6/01)
( 6 / 01 )
S outhm inster Presbyterian Church is a chal­
lenging, supportive community that welcomes all peo­
ple. It is the first More Ught Presbyterian Church in
Oregon. (10 am Sunday summer. 9.30 and 11 am
Sunday winter. 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton.
503-644-2073.) (6/01)
St. P hilip N eri gay and lesbian outreach. A gay/les-
bian-positive community for Catholics and their fnends.
Mass at 7.30 pm on Fndays followed by a social.
(Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503-231 4955.)
6 01 )
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St. Stephen's Episcopal Church, the new home
of the Portland Gay Men's Chorus, has been welcom­
ing all people since 1863. (12:10 pm Wednesday and
7:45 and 10 am Sunday. Sunday school and child care
at 10 am. Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street.
503-223-6424.) (6/01)
U niversity Park U nited M ethodist Church is a
member of the network of Reconciling Congregations
The Anawim Com m unity of gay men meets weekly
for Christian meditation and prayer. (7:30 pm Thursday.
503-281-0722.) ( 6/01)
B ridgeport Com m unity Church (UCC) is a
growing community of progressive, political people
explonng and celebrating the Christian faith. We are
multicultural, lesbian, gay, bi and straight, and our chil­
dren are valued members (10:30 am Sunday 621 NE
76th Ave. 503-258-0992.) (6/01)
Metro: Youth
Expression is a free ad/expression support group for
GLBT youth 13-18 who live in the Gresham area.
Learn, grow and have fun! Sponsored by Roots and
Branches. Meets Fridays from 5-7 pm in Gresham.
(Call Jonathan to reserve your spot. 503-238-0780 ext.
244.) ( 6/01)
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as a needle
exchange service. It also has some transitional housing
for youth 20 and younger as well as for youth who are
HIV-positive and younger than 23. It also plays host to
VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community
Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group
for queer youth. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday. 1236 SW
Salmon St. 503-223-4121.) (6/01)
P rids P roject brings together Washington County
lesbian, gay. bi. trans and questioning youth to plan and
attend monthly social events.
Also information, referral,
support and advocacy ser­
vices for Washington
County. (M olly
503-260-5792.) ( 6/01)
Rainbow is a multicultural
peer support and activity
group for gay. lesbian, bisex­
ual. trans and questioning
youth. (4 30 pm Monday.
M etropolitan Community
Church o f Portland. 2400 NE
Broadway. 503-281-8868)
Com m unity o f St. Andrew invites all to join a
diverse Catholic faith community for prayer and fellow­
ship. (9:30 am Sunday. 806 NE Alberta St.
503-281-4429.) (6/01)
( 6 / 01 )
D ignity P ortland meets for Mass Sundays at 4 pm
Sexual M inority Youth
Recreation Center
(SMYRC) offers drop-in
at St. Stephens Episcopal Church followed by a social.
(Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street.
dignitypdx@aol.com.) (6/01)
D ire ction * NorthW est (ECWR) helps gay and les­
bian Chnstians integrate faith and sexuality through
Bible study and fellowship. (PO Box 86383. Portland.
O R 97286-0383. 503-727-3387.)( 6/01)
Eastrose Fellow ship U nitarian U niversalist. a
welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service at
10:30 am. (1133 NE 181st Ave.. Gresham
503-665-2628 eastrose@ teleport.com.) (6/01)
Estacada U nited M ethodist Church
Reconciling C ongregation, where we really mean
everyone is welcome. Sunday worship at 10:30 am.
(204 SE Mam St.. Estacada.) (6/01)
F irst C ongregational U nited C hurch o f C hrist
So you want to bo in pictures? Strut your stuff during
an audition for Murder in Portland Jan. 6 at the Z Club
and meets for worship each Sunday at 10 am. (4775 N
Lombard St. 503-289 7843.) (6/01)
Full C ircle Temple is a place o f worship for
Zion U nited Church o f C hrist, an open and
affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bisexual,
transgendered and heterosexual people who wish to
worship in a Chnst-centered. warm, caring,
m ultiage/race/cultural faith community. ( I I am Sunday.
2025 NE 23rd Ave.. Gresham. 503-665-8741.)( 6/01)
women of all ages offering workshops, song and drum
circles, meditation rooms and altars o f celebration,
incorporating what you bring to share (10 am-10 pm
Tuesday-Sunday. 3125 E Burnside St. 503-238-0675.)
Washington; Spirituality
( 6 / 01 )
East Vancouver United M ethodist Church.
The God Connection C enter fo r W orship,
G row th and Leadership invites you to celebrate
Reconciling, welcoming. (W arn Sunday.
5701 M acArthur B bd . Vancouver. 360-693-4761.
ourclarkcounty.columbian com /273/.) (6/01)
is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal
Christian tradition. Sunday worship is at 10:25 am. and
church school for children runs concurrently. (1126 SW
Park Ave. 503-228-7219.)
your spirituality with the Revs. Berdell M offett and
Casey Chaney. Liberal, practical: all are welcome.
(10am Sunday. 4828 N E 33rdA ve 503-481-7591.)
( 6 / 01 )
G race Space, a newly form ed m ultidenom inational
spiritual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres,
holds Sunday evening celebrations. (5 pm. U nity
Church. 4525 SE S tark St. 503-287-3216 .) ( 6 /0 1 )
F irs t C ongregational C hurch, U nited Church
o f C h rist. Two Sunday services, traditional and
"less traditional" in an open and affirm ing congrega­
tion. (1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver 360 693-1476 .7
( 6 / 01 )
M etropolitan Com m unity Church o f the
Gentle Shepherd. (10 am Sunday 913 W. 13th St.,
Integrity, the gay and lesbian ministry of the
Vancouver 3,50-695-1480) (6/01)
Episcopal Church, meets on the second Friday of each
month in the Morrison Room at Trinity Cathedral.
Eucharist is celebrated at 6 45 pm followed by a
potluck and fellowship. (147 NW 19th Ave.
503 289-1687)
M ichael Servetus U nitarian U niversalist
Fellow ship. (W arn Sunday 4505 E 18th St..
In te rfa ith S p iritu a l C enter. Gay men's spmtuali-
Willamette Valley: Spirituality
ty groups form every other month Spiritual directors
from vanous w orld religious traditions are available
for guidance, classes and retreats. (Second Floor.
3 9 1 0 SE 11th Ave. 503-233-2026. ext 3
www hometown aol.com /djrho5/w ebpage htm l .7
(
6 / 01 )
Lesbian and gay m editation group
'Compassionate Heart Sangha." meets for meditation
in the Buddhist Vipasana tradition (7 30-9 pm
Wednesday Flanders House. 2926 NE Flanders St.
Jon 503-239-5539 ) (6/01)
Metanoia Peace Com m unity (United M ethodist) is
a 'house church,' bringing gay and straight together
(Daily prayer 72 0 am. Sunday gathenng 6 pm.
2116 NE 18th Ave 503 281 3697.7(6/01)
M etropolitan Com m unity Church o f Portland
holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at
computer access, pool
tables and an informal place
to hang out. Also plays host
to weekly youth support
groups including Windfire,
Trans Youth Group and
Personal Deity Proxy (a cre­
ative group). (4-8 pm
Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight
Friday and Saturday. 424 E
Burnside St. 503-872-9664
www smyre org.) (6/01)
S.M .I.L.E. is a free education/support group for
GLBT youth 13-18. Learn, grow and have fun1 Meets
from 5 to 6:30 pm Thursday beginning Jan. 11.
Sponsored by Roots and Branches. (Jonathan
503-238-0780. ext. 244 7(6/01)
Youth HIV/STD Prevention P roject provides fun
and educational programs along with counseling and
testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environ­
ment. (503-872-9664) (6/01)
YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family, offers
tutonng and mentonng for lesbian, gay. bi and trans
youth as well as for children of LGBT parents
(503-227-1981 7(6/01)
Southern Oregon: Youth
The Sexual M inority Youth Recreation Group
o f Klamath Falls provides support for gay. lesbian,
bi, trans and questioning youth and their allies, (boy-
toy22@hotmail. com 7(6/01)
Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO). a
group for gay. lesbian, and bi youth aged 14-20 meets
on the first and Thursdays of the month in Ashland
(541 -488 6990 7(6/01)
Vancouver 360-695-1891) (6/01)
Washington- Youth
F irst C ongregational Church. United Church of
Christ, is an open and affirming congregation offenng
worship and church school Child care provided
Wheelchair accessible. (10 am Sunday 700 Marion St.
NE. Salem 503-363-3660) ( 6/01)
The G ay-Straight A lliance o f the U nitarian
U niversalist Congregation of Salem meets on the
third Sunday of each month for a potluck (6 pm
5090 Center S t NE 503 363-8716.) ( 6/01)
In te rfa ith S p iritu al Com m unity meets every
Sunday at the Heart Center for inspirational messages,
children's celebrations and |Oy We honor and celebrate
all sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine gifts
and supporting spintual growth, healing and enlighten­
ment (6 7 3 0 pm 1578 Commercial St SE. Salem
503 7636030 7(6/01)
Triple Point Youth Program is a social/support
group for gays, lesbian, bi and trans youth between 13
and 22 in Vancouver, Wash. Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays
and 3 30-5 30 pm Thursdays at 1104 Main St. Suite M
100 (Amanda 360-693-1188) (6/01)
Willamette Valley: Youth
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered and
Questioning Youth Group fo r ages 13-18 offers
support, information and fun. Free, confidential, drop-m
(4-6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center
2700 Hilyard S t. Eugene 541 684 34 66 ) (6/01)
Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender youth
group fo r ages 25 and younger meets every
Monday (5 pm Monday Komoma Center. 1414 Kincaid
S t . Eugene 541 346-1134 7 (6/01)
Rebound and gagged
Desperate dyke deserves devotion
D ear M s .
B ehavior :
I am a 31-
year-old lesbian.
During the past
two months, I
pursued someone
in whom 1 was
interested only to
discover she seri­
ously is rebound­
ing from a past
relationship.
1 wanted to
continue a friend­
ship if at all possi­
ble, and it seemed
this was happen­
ing. However, dur­
ing the past few
weeks, she sud­
denly stopped returning my phone calls
and contacting me. I feel rejected and
don’t really know how to deal with it.
Am I just sabotaging myself by
hanging on to hope she’ll come
around? Hint: It seems this situation
is becoming a pattern in my life....
— Hanging On
D ear H a n g in g O n :
Envision Ms. Behavior yawning.
Not in a rude way. Just in a “Gome
on, now. You know better, don’t you?”
way. If you continually find yourself
pursuing women who aren’t over their
previous relationships, then you don’t
really want what you think you want.
Let’s go over this. Your prospective
love is 1) On the rebound and 2) Not
returning your calls.
If you had any perspective on this,
you’d feel sad, but you’d let go. You
wouldn’t worry that she wasn’t
calling; you’d worry that
your desire to have her
call was pathetic.
You’d recognize
that hanging around
to be “friends” with
someone in whom
you’re interested usu­
ally leads to heartbreak.
It’s true that it can be hard
to tolerate love, but you won’t
really be happy until you learn to
endure basking in the glow of another
lesbian s adoration.
You need an assignment. Stand in
front of your mirror (fully dressed,
please) and say this: “I am not the
balm for everyone’s wounds. I want
and need love.”
Once you can do it without gag­
ging, perhaps you will he able to toler­
ate love. Also, you can make thou­
sands of dollars offering weekend work­
shops to similarly desperate lesbians.
want to help with
my situation.
I am at my
wit’s end with
this. I also have
found only one
place nearby to
perform the
medical portion
of this, and to
that end there is
a $20,000 cost.
Is this nor­
mal? Are there
other doctors
who can do this?
At worst I am
OK with the cost,
but the person
who will carry the
child is now my
hardest task. I really do need advice.
— Male in Need
D ear M ale in N eed :
Ms. Behavior feels compelled to
say the obvious: Adoption is easier
and cheaper. That having been said, if
you’re looking to buy the services of a
woman who’s willing to get stretch
marks without keeping a baby, you
need to look her up under “surrogate.”
Using the search engine Google
and the phrases “surrogacy” and “gay
surrogacy,” Ms. Behavior found 2,180
matching sites. (The psychologically
minded or those who suffered lousy
childhoods might guess that half of
the entries would be aHiut monkeys
and wire mothers, but 36 pages into
the search, the links were still rele­
vant to human babies.)
Surrogacy agencies prescreen
women who want to rent their
wombs. In addition to the
medical services you
mention, they pro­
vide legal representa­
tion for both parties.
Ms. Behavior’s
quick browse of the
material suggests you’d
spend between $30,000
and $70,000 using an
agency. This includes the wom­
an’s fee, medical care, transportation
expenses and maternity clothes. Using
the surrogate’s own egg probably would
cost less than bringing your own.
You also can try placing your own
ads to find a surrogate, but you clearly
would need help with a lot of issues.
(Ms. Behavior’s haircutter hired a sur­
rogate through a friend of a friend;
once the baby was bom, the surro­
gate, who’d been paid $20,000, ran off
with him. That represented a lot of
tip money for the hairdresser, who
ended up adopting a year later.)
If you choose to do it on your own,
seek advice from others who are expe­
rienced. Either way, make sure you
have a gcxxl lawyer so you don’t end
up in the headlines as “Nellie Beth
Whitehead.” | [ 7 ]
Stand in front of your
mirror...and say this:
"I am not the balm for
everyone's wounds. I
want and need love."
D ear M s . B ehavior :
1 am a 30-year-old man who badly
wants to have a baby. I have spoken
with many people about the idea. I
have someone who has agreed to be
the egg donor, but I’m having trouble
finding a person to carry the child.
I know this is big step for anyone to
take, Hit I am running out of ideas. I
am Imking for a woman who might
Write your confused and conflicted
heart out to M s. B ehavior at
MsBehavioiQaol. com.