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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Sept. 15, 2000)
itfICE firs t Congregational United Church of C hrist is ® open and affirm ing congregation in the liberal istian tradition. Sunday w orship is at 10 25 am. and rch school fo r children runs concurrently. (1126 S W Ave.. 503-228-7219.) Circle Temple is a place o f w orship fo r wom en of I ages offenng workshops, song and drum circles, med- ation rooms and altars o f celebration, incorporating at you bnng to share (10 a m -10 pm Tuesday-Sunday 125 E Burnside S t 503-238-0675.) (11 /0 0 ) God C onnection C en ter fo r W orship, row th and Leadership invites you to celebrate your ntuality with the Revs. Berdell M offett and Casey Liberal, practical; all are welcome. (10 am service Sunday 4828 N E 3 3 rd Ave. 503-481-7591.)(11/00) Space, a newly form ed m ultidenom inational ritual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds unday evening celebrations. (5 pm at Unity Church. 525 SE Stark St. 503-287-3216.) (11 /0 0 ) . the gay and lesbian m inistry o f the Episcopal hurch, meets on the second Friday o f each m onth in Momson Room at Tnmty Cathedral Euchanst is cele- ated at 6 45 pm follow ed by a potluck and fellow ship. The Gay-Straight Alliance o f the Unitarian Universalist Congregation o f Salem m eets on the third Sunday of each month fo r a potluck. (6 pm, roups form every other m onth. Spmtual directors from anous world religious traditions are available fo r guid- Interfaith Spiritual Community m eets every Sunday at the Heart C enter fo r inspirational messages, children's celebrations and jo y We honor and celebrate all sacred paths, recognizing each person s divine gifts and supporting spmtual growth, healing and enlighten ment. (6-7.30 pm. 1578 Commercial St. SE. Salem. 503-763-6030.) (1 1/00) M o m in g s id e U n ited M e th o d is t C hurch is a rec onciling congregation where everyone is welcom e to par ticipate in the full life of the congregation (8 30 and 11 am Sundays. 3674 12th St. SE Salem. 503-364-5013.) (11/00) S w eet S p irit M etro p o litan Com m unity C hurch (M C C ) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by cof fee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every second Sunday. (Services held at American Legion Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane NE. Säern Mailing address: Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box 12753. Salem. OR97309. 503-315-7923 )(11/00) YOUTH nce. classes and retreats. (3910 SE 11th 4 ve .. second floor 503-233-2026. ext. 3. ivhom etown.aol.com /diiho5/webpagehtm l.) (11 /0 0 ) asbian and gay meditation group. "Com passionate Heart Sangha." m eets fo r m editation in ¡ Buddhist Vipasana tradition. Donation requested 730-9 pm Wednesdays at Flanders House. 2926 NE ; S t Jon 5 0 3 2 3 9 5539 ) ( 11 /0 0 ) etanoia Peace Community (U nited M ethodist) is a "house church," bnngmg gay and straight together. (Daily prayer 7.20 am. Sunday gathenng 6 pm at 2116N E 18th Ave. 503-281 -3697.) (1 1 /0 0 ) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday m orning w orship services at 9 and 11 am. Sunday school fo r children is held dunng the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway. 503-281 -8868 mccpdx@aol com.) ( 11 /0 0 ) Potter's House M inistries Life Center. Evangelical and chansmatic Chnstian. (3830 SE 62nd Ave. 503-775-5024.7(11/00) Radical Fairies Fae D irt mfo line: 503-235-0826 ( 11 / 00 ) Metro: Youth Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can t qual ify fo r the O regon Health Plan as well as a needle ex change service. It also has some transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as fo r youth who are HIV+ and younger than 23 It also plays host to VOICES (Voices o f Individual and Com munity Empowerment from the S treets), a self-support group fo r queer youth. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday. 1236 S W Salmon St. 503-223-4121.) (11/00) Phoenix Rising Foundation Inc. is a community agency pnmanly serving sexual rnmonty youth. The Sexual M inonty Youth Recreation C enter (SMYRC) plays host to drop-m socials and support groups for queer youth. M etro groups held at SMYRC: other groups include: Bridge 13. a youth speaker's bureau (503-872-9664). Hillsboro Youth Group (4-5 3 0 pm Wednesdays at Room 125. Public Services Building. 155 N First S t . Hillsboro). Transitions (3.30-5 pm Wednesdays in Room 8. 11640 S W Parkway. Beaverton) (503-238-0780.) (11/00) Project brings together W ashington County les bian. gay, bi, trans and questioning youth to plan and SisterSpirit offers wom en's spirituality celebrations, discussion groups, a drum m ing circle, workshops and attend m onthly social events. Also inform ation, referral, classes. Schedule o f events available A ll wom en are welcome. (Office hours: 3-6 pm Tuesday-Fnday at (Molly 503-260-5792.) (11 /0 0 ) support and advocacy services for W ashington County. 3430 SE Belmont St.. 4102. Mailing address: PO Box Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity group 9246. Portland. OR 97207. sistersp@teleport com. for gay. lesbian, bisexual, trans and questioning youth. 503- 736-3297.) (11 /0 0 ) (4 30 pm Mondays at Metropolitan Community Church o f Southm inster P resb yterian C hurch is a challenging, Portland. 2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868 ) (11/00) supportive community that welcomes all people. It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon. (Sundays Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (S M Y R O is a program of Phoenix Rising Foundation at 10 am summer. 9 30 and 11 am winter. 12250 SW offenng drop-in com puter access, pool tables and an infor Denney Road. Beaverton. 503-644-2073.) ( 11/00) SL Philip N eri gay and lesbian outreach. A g a y/le s bian positive comm unity fo r C atholics and their friends Mass at 7:30 pm on Fridays follow ed by a social. (Paulist Center. 2 4 0 8 SE 16th Ave. 503-231-49557 (1 1 /0 0 ) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church. the new home o f the Portland Gay M en's Chorus, has been welcom ing all people smce 1863 (Wednesday service 12 10 pm; Sunday services 7.45 am and 10 am. Sunday school and child care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street. 503-223-6424.) (1 1 /0 0 ) University Park United M ethodist Church is a member o f the netw ork o f Reconciling Congregations and meets fo r worship each Sunday at 10 am. (4775 N mal place to hang out. Also plays host to weekly youth support groups including W indfire, Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group) (4-8 pm Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Friday and Saturday 424 E Burnside St. 503-872-9664. www smyrc org )(1 1/00) Youth H IV/STD Prevention Project provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environment. Sponsored by Phoenix Rising Foundation in collaboration with M ult nomah County and Outside In. (503-872-9664 7(11/00) YouthNet a program o f Love M akes a Family, offers tutoring and m entonng fo r lesbian, gay. bi and trans youth as well as fo r children o f LGBT parents. ( 5 0 3 -2 2 7 -1 9 8 1 )(1 im Lombard S t 503289- 7843.) (1 1 /0 0 ) Zion United Church o f C hrist an open and affirm ing congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bisexual, trans- Southern Oregon: Youth gendered and heterosexual people who wish to w orship The Sexual M inority Youth Recreation Group of m a Christ-centered. warm, canng, m ultiage/race/cultural Klamath Fall» provides support fo r gay, lesbian, bi. faith community. (Service: 11 am Sundays. 2025 NE trans and questioning youth and their allies. (For more 23rdAve. Gresham. 503-665-8741.J (1 1/00) information, e-mail boytoy229hotmail com.) (11/00) Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO). a group fo r gay. lesbian, and bi youth aged 14-20 meets on Washington Spirituality E **t Vancouver United M ethodist Church. the first and Thursdays o f the month m Ashland (5 4 1 -488-6990.) (11 /0 0 ) Reconciling, welcom ing. (10 am Sundays 5701 M acArthurBNd.. Vancouver. 360-6934761 ourclarkcounty.columbian.com/273/.) (11 /0 0 ) First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ. Two Sunday services, traditional and "le ss tradi Washington: Youth Triple Point Youth Program is a social/support tional m an open and affirm ing congregation (1220 NE group fo r gays, lesbian, bi and trans youth between 13 and 22 m Vancouver. Wash M eets 6-8 pm Tuesdays and 68thSt. Vancouver 360-693 1 4 7 6 )(11/00) 3 30-5 30 pm Thursdays at 1104 Mam St. Suite M -100 Metropolitan Community Church o f the Gentle Shepherd. (10 am Sundays. 913 W. 13th S t . Vancouver 3 6 0 4 9 5 1480 ) (11 /0 0 ) Michael Servetus U nitarian Unhmrsalist Fellowship. (10 am Sundays 4505 E. 18th S t M W - 1891.) (11/00) (Amanda 360-693-1188.) (11/00) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Tranagenderad and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13-18 offers support, inform ation and fun Free, confidential, drop-m Willamette Valley: Spirituality | — t » s » w i i u n u rc n . U nited Church o f Ghnst. is an open and affirm ing congregation offering "™sh<P and church school C hild care provided Whee|cha«r accessible (10 am Sundays 700 M anon St Lovelorn readers looking for love in all the w rong faces 5090 Center St. NE. 503-363-8716.) (11/00) 147 N W 19th A ve . 503-289-1687.) nterfaith Spiritual Center. Gay men's spm tuality Straight talk NE. Salem. 503-363-36607 (11 /0 0 ) (4-6 pm Fridays at Amazon Community Center 2700 hUyard St.. Eugene 541-684 3466X11/00) , gay, ^tla^uusal, i -Jr ages 29 and younger meets every pm Mondays at Komona Center. 1414 Kmcmd S t . Eugene 5413461134X11/00) M onday (5 D ear M s . B ehavior : 1 am an extremely eligible 40- something gay man, widowed long enough to be interested in dating again but not so long that I haven’t been able to shake the awful feeling that I’m some kind o f a gay Rip Van Winkle. I’m attempting to confront many strange and mysterious things with an open mind, one o f which is: W hat is one supposed to do with those tit rings during sex? G ive ’em a tug? But that’s not what I’m writing about. I’ve never liked bars or really needed them, because I seem to attract dating possibilities in my everyday life. In that vein, I’m meeting guys— younger ones— who appear to be gay in every way and even show signs o f sexual interest hut, at the end o f the day, are straight! Could this he? Is there some growing popula tion o f quasi-crypto homos? O r are they more likely to be plain old closet cases? I know you can’t answer this question with authority unless you were to meet, interview and per haps even probe the people I’m talking about. But I would be inter ested in any advice you have in dealing with them. — Confeuiunvuizd D ear C o n few w w w zd : Ms. Behavior doesn’t need to probe anyone to know you’ve been in cold storage for too long (and probably need a good probing your self). W hen you say you’re attract ing dating possibilities in your everyday life, do you mean these younger, gay-appearing straight men? Or, even worse, closet cases? G o to where the homos hang, doll. You don’t have to go to bars if you don’t like them. Find a neighborhood restaurant, a queer theater group, a gay stamp club or a N ellie political organiza tion. Your ability to discern who’s gay and who’s just a little dapper around the edges will soon return. As a special bonus, you’ll proba bly find someone who can edu- > cate you in all manners o f pulling or biting his tit ring in j just the right way. J D ear M s . B ehavior : I am a 22-year-old lesbian, and I always fall for older women. Recently, I ended up with a 44-year-old divorced woman who has three children. She was never with a woman prior to me and says she could never have a rela tionship with a woman. She’s waiting for the “ man o f her dreams’*.. .but in the meantime, the sex is out o f this world, and I D ear H etero ’ s P e n c h a n t : The notion o f dismissing a fabu lous sexual partner feels tragic to Ms. Behavior. But wasting your pas sion on someone who plans to kick you to the curb when the “ right man’’ comes along is even more crushing. (Please don’t bother with the hope that maybe she’s really a lesbian and in denial; if this is true and she’s in her mid-40s, it’s not necessarily good news.) Th e biggest problem with this scenario is if you’re really falling in love, you probably won’t adequately protect your heart. Penchant Woman will squash you like a bug. Later, when you finally do meet a fabulous woman worthy o f your devotion , you’ll blow it am falling for her BIG TIM E . because you’ll be bitter from h av I know I am just a plaything to ing squandered your adoration on her. Th e last time we were together, Penchant W om an. T h en , you’ll I asked her outright what the deal torture and damage the fabulous was. new woman with your rejection, She said: “ I am a raving forcing her to subsequently heterosexual. I would spread her sorrow to never sleep with another lesbian, another woman. I and so on and so Is there some guess I just have a on, w hich will penchant for you.” perpetuate growing population PENCHANT? the cycle o f ortjuasi-crypto homos? Like this is some lesbo pain ad credential I infinitum . Or are they more likely should post on my It’s probably resume? a lot to ask, be to be plain old My problem: I cause you’re closet cases? am falling for her, young and new to but she is looking for this love stuff, but if Mr. Right. And I am con you practice a little fused as all hell. damage control here, you Cut the cord or no? And, if so, m ight prevent the ex tin ctio n o f that is not an easy thing to do. the entire dyke species. Ms. For someone who is a “raving Behavior realizes this is probably a heterosexual,” she sure doesn’t hold longer view than you want. back when we’re in her bedroom. So, the simpler answer is this: Help!! C u t the cord w ith your heterosex — Hetero’s Penchant ual nongirlfriend if you can. O therw ise, you risk having her sever it with her teeth, at great expense to both your tender umbilicus and lesbian civilization . in Write your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms. B e h a v i o r at MsBehavior@aol. com. M y problem: 1 am fallina (or her, but she is looking for Mr. Right. And I am confused as all hell.