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Newspaper Page Text6B — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 21, 2020 COFFEE BREAK Ring presented at engagement ceremony is unhappy surprise DEAR ABBY: When my then-boyfriend asked me to marry him, he didn’t have a ring ready, but I happily accepted his pro- posal. We were in our late 20s and had been dating for almost 10 years. He then took me to the jewelry store so I could select one to my taste and liking (within budget). We took a picture of the ring, and he told me he would bring his mother back to the jewelry shop with him so she could help with the price haggling. A week later, he told me he had made the purchase and we both couldn’t wait for our engagement ceremony as we took the next step in our relationship. On that day, to my surprise, the ring he put on my ﬁ nger wasn’t the one I had selected. However, in front of his family, my family and probably 40 guests, I pretended nothing happened. I wasn’t happy DEAR at all and told him later, in private, that ABBY it wasn’t the ring I chose. His answer was, his mother thought this one would look better (in my opinion, cheaper and tackier) than the one I liked and that I was overre- acting. I told him that had he not taken me shopping, I would have appreciated any ring he bought. He brushes me off when I try to discuss it. Why did he take me and then disregard my opinion? Am I over- reacting, Abby? — FOOLED IN CALIFORNIA DEAR FOOLED: You are not overreacting. Your ﬁ ance’s mother had a lot of nerve. She apparently rules the roost and chose that occasion to assert herself. Worse, it appears her son values her opinion over yours. He owes you an apology. If this happened recently and you are not yet married to this prize, the two of you should con- sider making a return trip to that jeweler. Hopefully, this scenario won’t be repeated with the selection of the wedding rings. DEAR ABBY: My husband was a drug addict 18 years ago. It was a very hard time for us; he went through rehab and we almost divorced. Fast-forward: He has been doing well, and we still have our have with her. Also, my husband will probably want to disown her for this betrayal. What do you suggest? — BETRAYED IN SOUTH CAROLINA DEAR BETRAYED: If your sister knew you wanted to keep this from your son until he was older, she did betray your trust. Once you have calmed down, talk to her, ask if what you were told is true, and if it is, why she would do such a thing. Once you have all the facts, your husband must be told the cat is out of the bag so the two of you can decide whether you want to continue a relation- ship with this sister. And because a predisposition toward addic- tion can run in a family, have that long-overdue talk with your son about it. problems, but he hasn’t used heavy drugs for 17 years. To calm his anxiety, he just has an occa- sional drink or uses CBD oils. My sister-in-law told me last weekend that my sister told our son (who was 17 at the time) about my husband’s drug issues when he was younger. We always kept my husband’s past quiet, feeling that we would have that conversation with our son eventually, when we were ready. I’m furious that she told him. It should have been our choice, not hers. She has violated my trust. There has been a lot of ani- mosity between my husband and my sister in the past, so I am sure she did it out of spite. I am so upset I am afraid I’ll explode and ruin the tenuous relationship I NEWS OF THE WEIRD Surprise ﬁ rework show delights, angers Bend residents site inspected. In Bend, the city’s risk manage- ment ofﬁ ce must inspect the organizer’s insurance. Next, an organizer must get the approval from the Ofﬁ ce of the State Fire Marshal, and ﬁ re and police ofﬁ cials must sign the permit. According to the permit on ﬁ le with Bend ﬁ re ofﬁ - cials and sent to The Bul- letin, the show’s sponsor was Watson Compa- nies, which owns Red- mond-based residential developer Hayden Homes and the nonproﬁ t housing organization First Story. Calls to Watson Com- panies president Hayden Watson were not returned. Over the past 15 years, the public hasn’t been noti- ﬁ ed about numerous ﬁ re- works shows around Bend, including at Bend Elks games at Vince Genna Stadium, Summit High School’s homecoming, Oregon WinterFest and weddings, said Connolly. “In this case, it seems the intent of the Old Mill was to be mindful of the risk of COVID-19, where events such as this would draw a large crowd and potentially cause spread of the disease,” Connolly said. Russell said the episode highlights how difﬁ cult it is to hold any kind of com- munity event during the pandemic. “This was well-in- tended,” she said. “And you know, doing things now is difﬁ cult. Many people are experiencing some very real hardships. We’re all looking at ways to lift people’s spirits.” By Garrett Andrews The Bulletin BEND — Around 7 p.m. Monday, Nov. 16, the sky above Bend’s west side lit up with a vivid pyrotechnic display — more than 1,800 shells whistling, popping and exploding in bright and glittering colors above the Les Schwab Amphitheater. In all, the professional display by local pyrotechni- cian Gary Mattison lasted around 15 minutes. But Nov. 16 was no hol- iday. There were no fes- tivals occurring in town, no notable recent sports victories. Residents, outside their homes and online, were confused. More than 200 people called 911. In actuality, an anony- mous donor had sponsored a professional ﬁ reworks show to “bring happiness and cheer to the commu- nity,” a fact that came to light through the circula- tion of a post on the Old Mill’s Facebook page that appeared about the same time the ﬁ reworks began. “A private donor has sponsored a brief ﬁ rework show that will be visible to most Bend residents this evening,” the post read. “They hope to bring a bit of happiness and cheer to the community, and to remind us that if you have the means, please consider sup- porting our Central Oregon non-proﬁ ts this holiday season.” Robin Judice/Video screenshot Fireworks explode over Bend the night of Monday, Nov. 16, 2020. The 15-minute pyrotechnic display thrilled some resi- dents of the Central Oregon city and irked others. Comments on the Face- book post quickly displayed the division that’s been a deﬁ ning feature of the COVID-19 pandemic. “With the civil unrest going on right now, it was so scary!” wrote one person. “I am all for sup- porting nonproﬁ ts, but this caused fear to so many people and animals. If only we had known in advance!” A number of people chastised the organizers and the Old Mill on behalf of dogs and people with post-traumatic stress dis- order, notably military vet- erans. Some noted that many Bend residents, including many in the less-afﬂ uent parts of town, could not see the display, but could hear it. Still, many people defended the show and asked that their neighbors not be so uptight. “Covid has made people bitter and mean,” one person wrote. “They don’t want anyone celebrating anything anymore! Great job on the ﬁ reworks.” Bend Mayor Sally Rus- sell lives in a part of town where she could hear the display but could not see it. She went to bed unsure what she’d listened to. In the morning, Marney weather Smith, director of the amphitheater, called with an explanation and a promise O ld Mill ofﬁ cials would think differently when con- sidering future shows. Russell said she’s received much feedback, as well, ranging from thrilled to the incensed. “We’re all on edge,” she said. “Some people want to think the best; some people want to go to a darker place. It’s indicative of the way we live now. … “I think the surprise came from the commu- nity not knowing what it was ahead of time, so many didn’t know where the sound came from,” Russell said. Fireworks shows do not require an event permit with the city or the approval of the Bend City Council. There is also no require- ment for organizers to notify the public ahead of time. But the people behind Monday’s surprise show did have to pass several steps to get a general ﬁ reworks display permit in Bend, according to Bend Fire & Rescue Battalion Chief Patricia Connolly. First, they had to apply with Bend Police Depart- ment and Bend ﬁ re ofﬁ - cials to get their display AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION Astoria Longview 38/49 Kennewick 35/45 St. Helens 35/48 TIllamook 33/43 29/41 36/45 33/47 Condon SUN MON TUE WED Partly cloudy Sun through high clouds Mostly cloudy Clouds limiting sun Showers possible 19 38 24 42 25 43 25 44 21 Eugene 0 3 3 29/47 42 29 46 32 43 29 2 3 3 La Grande 1 27 41 29 Comfort Index™ Enterprise 3 3 2 27 41 29 Comfort Index™ 5 44 32 43 31 2 4 3 ALMANAC NATION (for the 48 contiguous states) High Thursday Low Thursday High: 90° Low: 8° Wettest: 0.79” 50° 22° 50° 22° 47° 27° PRECIPITATION (inches) Thursday Trace Month to date 0.22 Normal month to date 0.56 Year to date 3.22 Normal year to date 8.83 Trace 1.88 1.28 15.76 14.15 0.23 4.30 1.89 33.28 19.52 AGRICULTURAL INFO. HAY INFORMATION SUNDAY Lowest relative humidity Afternoon wind Hours of sunshine Evapotranspiration 40% S at 7 to 14 mph 6.1 0.07 RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Friday) Phillips Reservoir Unity Reservoir Owyhee Reservoir McKay Reservoir Wallowa Lake Thief Valley Reservoir 8% of capacity 27% of capacity 43% of capacity 23% of capacity 21% of capacity 26% of capacity STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Thursday) Grande Ronde at Troy 1540 cfs Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder 0 cfs Burnt River near Unity 10 cfs Umatilla River near Gibbon 196 cfs Minam River at Minam 110 cfs Powder River near Richland 21 cfs Canadian, Texas Houlton, Maine Mullan Pass, Idaho OREGON High: 56° Low: 22° Wettest: 0.49” North Bend Crater Lake Newport WEATHER HISTORY Heavy rain in Southern California brought 14 inches of rainfall to the mountains and 7.96 inches to downtown Los Angeles on Nov. 21, 1967. All the rain caused severe local fl ooding with damaging mudslides. SUN & MOON SAT. Sunrise Sunset Moonrise Moonset 6:59 a.m. 4:17 p.m. 1:02 p.m. 11:00 p.m. SUN. 7:01 a.m. 4:16 p.m. 1:28 p.m. none MOON PHASES First Nov 21 Full Nov 30 Last Dec 7 New Dec 14 26/48 Sisters Elkton 22/42 38/51 Brothers 18/39 Beaver Marsh 14/42 Roseburg 30/48 Burns Jordan Valley 18/43 Paisley 14/46 Frenchglen 15/45 Klamath Falls 18/44 Hi/Lo/W 49/41/r 45/29/c 44/27/pc 52/44/r 39/23/pc 52/43/r 46/37/i 36/22/c 42/31/pc 47/39/r 40/33/c 43/37/c 45/32/pc 42/26/c 40/26/pc 41/31/c 44/25/c 45/25/c Hi/Lo/W 51/46/c 44/30/c 43/27/c 53/42/c 42/19/c 55/44/r 50/39/r 38/22/c 44/32/pc 52/41/r 48/34/pc 47/40/r 43/33/sf 40/28/r 40/26/c 48/35/pc 42/23/c 42/18/c Grand View Arock 22/46 17/42 Lakeview 12/45 McDermitt 14/45 RECREATION FORECAST SUNDAY REGIONAL CITIES City Astoria Bend Boise Brookings Burns Coos Bay Corvallis Council Elgin Eugene Hermiston Hood River Imnaha John Day Joseph Kennewick Klamath Falls Lakeview Diamond 15/41 15/45 Shown is Sunday’s weather. Temperatures are Saturday night’s lows and Sunday’s highs. MON. Boise 24/44 Fields 29/47 SUN. 18/38 Silver Lake 19/45 Medford Brookings Juntura 15/39 37/53 40/52 Ontario 24/40 13/45 Chiloquin Grants Pass Huntington 17/37 32/48 Coos Bay 14/36 21/42 Seneca 21/45 Oakridge Council 19/38 John Day Bend THURSDAY EXTREMES TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin 13/36 21/46 Florence Powers 17/40 Baker City Redmond 37/50 39/51 Halfway Granite 29/46 Newport 39/52 Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable. 23/44 32/46 30/45 35/50 42 30 3 Corvallis Enterprise 27/41 27/41 Monument 24/42 Idanha Salem TONIGHT Comfort Index™ Elgin 29/42 La Grande 26/41 Maupin Baker City 29/42 Pendleton The Dalles Portland Newberg 29/43 Hood River 26/42 36/49 Lewiston Walla Walla 26/41 Vancouver 32/45 Forecasts and graphics provided by AccuWeather, Inc. ©2020 City Lewiston Longview Meacham Medford Newport Olympia Ontario Pasco Pendleton Portland Powers Redmond Roseburg Salem Spokane The Dalles Ukiah Walla Walla SUN. MON. Hi/Lo/W 43/34/pc 45/40/r 39/28/pc 47/37/c 50/42/r 44/39/r 40/26/c 42/32/c 42/33/c 45/42/r 51/43/r 48/30/c 48/40/r 45/40/r 39/30/c 41/34/c 40/27/c 42/35/c Hi/Lo/W 44/39/sf 49/43/r 39/29/pc 50/33/r 51/44/c 48/41/pc 44/25/pc 49/37/pc 47/35/r 49/46/r 54/44/r 45/32/c 51/39/r 51/43/r 38/31/sf 46/38/r 38/28/sn 46/39/r Weather(W): s-sunny, pc-partly cloudy, c-cloudy, sh-showers, t-thunderstorms, r-rain, sf-snow fl urries, sn-snow, i-ice ANTHONY LAKES PHILLIPS LAKE Mostly cloudy High clouds 31 18 36 22 MT. EMILY REC. BROWNLEE RES. High clouds Partly sunny 38 28 42 22 EAGLE CAP WILD. EMIGRANT ST. PARK High clouds Mostly cloudy 30 15 38 27 WALLOWA LAKE MCKAY RESERVOIR High clouds Mostly cloudy 40 26 42 33 THIEF VALLEY RES. RED BRIDGE ST. PARK High clouds High clouds 38 24 41 29