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About Oregon daily emerald. (Eugene, Or.) 1920-2012 | View Entire Issue (May 7, 1992)
“Inner child” mav hold clues to a troubled past jCounselors look to heal through contact ing one's hidden self By Tammy Batey treer.ed deporte» Inside every person lives a small, fragile child si:reaming for attention I his inner child wants to he held and comfort ed This child holds the key to a person's actions in ...adulthood Counselor |uva Dultoise said some psychologists use the term "inner child to desi rdie tin; part ol an adult that isetup lionaUv stunted People who experience intense trauma when they're children are m capable of working through tiieir emotions at thill young age. she said Inside, they may remain terrified children. "Often when something hap pens to us as children, a part of us gels frozen.' UuHoiso said; "so a part of us may still be there The wound ed i liner i h i Id may develop from something as traumatic as sexual abuse to something as seemingly uisig nificant as a teacher vs ho often veiled People are most likely to sense the present e of thi ll inner child in adult relation ships, DuDoise said "You're having a light and suddenly you find vi>u i sel I stomping your lent.' she said "You've reverted balk to age six People nmi it easier in .it it t i tb.is childlike behavior in oth its than within themselves. she said il woman art sexually abused whan they art- young, their inner t iiiltl may t ommunicote tier pain through weight prut) lenis, UuBoise said Dulioise fa t ilitates a workshop for women called Weight Issues and Your inner (ihild U eight IS a wav of prolet t mg v tirself from sexual ad yam ex and from other worn eo, she said Women don't see you as i ompetition Daitiuse said the inner child isn't always wounded People tan access liieir inner child at different limes in their lives : St i *. (i" f"’c i UO A--t Dot > tstv Christine (lark elllOW* VMt , free Slide Lecture irum mi 13* i , , ,. k«51.1 JO 5 in lociMt * crtiat im f 10 WilUmette lst 2 Day Workshop wwirf tsso Mil j 45.10am 5pm iiae UO ttortbsjtc J«iuelt» Stu4o \/ *50 vtutksb * *40 AlOtben fot loto 3i6 iJSOI [flOUWMISlWUD figure i! W in 'they're doing the things they do When I'm hay mg strong enuitiims I m! (lnWn and gii in sit- an.I I ►. my so ! vs hat s go iin: n. si - s.n.i It's making a (iunnei I ion mi we ( .in .1! t ess that inner von r !'■ ; : - ..n in prove their adult lives h\ acknowledging the inner ( hiId that exists with in them. DuBiuse said W hen v on start to treat V irsel! like a precious child sou stall healing yourself. " she said Util vmi start to listen to (your inner child) you don't know what you w ant ' imersitv student Morgan, who asked that she remain anonymous, said she was pltvs n ally neglected ' and abused when she was a child Now Morgan's inner child fears that Morgan and the people in her life will abandon her Morgan, who is in her early gtls. began inner < hdd therapy in January In therapy she la gan to i ommunu ale with her inner -child She would write down questions for her inner child with her, right hand, and her inner ihild would respond hv writing writ) tier left hand She w.is m>.honest Morgan ‘.aid It was frightening I start i I realizing how neglected 1 was, how abused I felt and how painful I w as inside " S i nee | a mi a r \ , Morgans inner child has been growing up When she lirsl began ihera pv her inner i hi Id w as an in hint and now is either lour or five She s just so damn need), Morgan said She lei hires me on the iv iv I treat her tie. ,i\|se it's tiie wav iliv mother treated me I have to he patient I'm graduating and 1 want to go to grad si hoof, but she's riot ready Vet" Some people can ileal with traumatli events from child hood easier than others, i nun selor Ruth Stinger lensen said II a person has ix en allowed and eni our aged to seek sell e\ pression in art. dam mg. imisii . the outdoors, these ale all i ilild Tm graduating and I want to go to grad school, but (my inner child isJ not ready yet/ Morgan, Un,\.ersi!y student things.' Snnger Jensen s.itd The firs! thing we learn .is i hlidrejt is hi j> 1 iiv l li.it is tuns nr learn tu express ourselves I! proph> h.ivr traumatic tilings happen to them. hut thi'V have other wavs to express them selves. I think they have less trouble When people ,u t irrationally, their initer child m.i y h.i v e found a voice itreause rhihlren in- jrrotton.il. she said People can have more than one inner < hi Id. hut everyone has one primary inner child, she said The inner ( hiid won t necessarily tie unhappy . site said (letting In tout h with their inner t hlld helps people under stand their adult problems, Songer - Jensen said It lets us he a nurturing par eat to ourselves. she said Ihe Inner child has been abandoned not only by your parents hut also by you Pam Illriell, direi tor id the I’tmersits Psychology Clinic, said the term inner t hi Id turtis her oil I think, it triyiali/es some thing very i omples and m li she said "It's a tins ol things 1 don' 1 t h i n k. ol it in those terms " 111 r re 11 se id she be I ie y es many psyi hologlsts simply use the i oni ept ol an inner i hi Id as a ( ley er call h phrase (lllents may also gr.ili on to the i inn ept III the hope it will take ayvav their problems Sometimes they do, and that can hold them haik. she said e««4g*» X FREE POPCORN ; f 9 b | J 36 000 M1L£ p| ALPHA IV ALL Sf ASON k' RALXALS ir j 'i:: f <j ,-s j s i< s < *iii »» ^ MKivir. 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