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14 Wednesday, July 31, 2019 The Nugget Newspaper, Sisters, Oregon Obituaries Jack Milam Barbara Jean Marshall October 4, 1922 — July 22, 2019 July 9, 1933 — July 21, 2019 Jack Milam, 96, of Bend, Oregon, passed away July 22, 2019, at his residence. A memorial service is being planned at Episcopal Church of the Transfiguration in Sisters, time yet to be announced. In lieu of flow- ers, the family asks for dona- tions to the Humane Society of Central Oregon or Partners In Care Hospice of Bend. John Dale Milam, known as Jack, was born in Topeka, Kansas, on October 4, 1922, to Morris Dale Milam and Emily Jean Milam. Jack had one older sister, Jean, and a younger sister and brother, Susie and Mose. He was a boy chorister and acolyte at Grace Cathedral in Topeka, and attended Topeka High School and the University of Kansas in Lawrence; at Lawrence he was also a lay reader at Trinity Episcopal Church. During his college years he joined the U.S. Navy and was trained as an officer at Berea College, Kentucky, and Columbia University, New York, before sailing to the South Pacific as an Ensign and then Lieutenant J.G. on an LST. He served four years in the Navy during World War II. When Jack returned from the war, he finished his col- lege education at UCLA, where he met Charlotte Kiffe. Jack and Charlotte were mar- ried on May 20, 1949. In the fall of 1950 Jack began teaching English at Downey High School in Downey, California, and that same week his first child, Deborah, was born. Four years later, in 1954, he obtained a master9s degree in education from the University of Southern California, and became the father of his second child, Drusilla. After several years of teaching, Jack moved into administration at the school district office in Downey, first as supervisor of and then as coordinator of second- ary instruction. He remained with the Downey Unified Barbara was born in Amity, Oregon on July 9, 1933. She attended sev- eral elementary schools in Oregon and graduated From Gervais High School. In her younger years she was a file clerk at the State Tax Commission in Salem. Husbands Stewart Marshall, Tom Rhoads, Gene Dagenhardt and Vern Catterson; her parents Henry and Rose Kirkwood; and her sister Cecelia and brother Richard precede her in death. Barbara has five chil- dren: Tym (Ursula), Kathy (Dennis Levine), Teresa, Lynn, Jason (Judy); and nine step children: Mary, Vicki, Alan, Debbie, Barb, Donnie, Curt, Emily and Cassie. She also has five grand- children: Clint, Nicholas, Lorne, Keylee, and Adam; five great-grandchildren: Antonio, Cristina, Nestor, Tavin and Ryker. One great-great-granddaughter; Cecilia. Her nieces and nephews are Susan Hagen (Lyman), Jon McDermeit (Michelle), Connie Lopes, David Kirkwood (DeeDee), and Chris Marshall (deceased). She lived in California with her first husband, Vern Catterson (father of Tym, Kathy and Teresa). After Vern9s death in 1962 she moved back to Gervais where her parents lived. She married Gene Dagenhardt (Lynn and Jason9s father). In 1970 they all moved to Central Oregon. While living in Central Oregon she worked at Black Butte Restaurant for 17 years as the lead cook for breakfast and lunch. She even had a sandwich on the menu named after her, <The Dagenhardt= (turkey, cran- berries and sprouts on whole wheat). She lost her second and third husbands during this time (Gene Dagenhardt and Tom Rhoads). After leaving employment at Black Butte School District for the rest of his career. He was a popular administrator, sought-after for speaking at various dis- trict events. At the Milam family9s church, St. Mark9s Episcopal in Downey, Jack served as a lay reader, hom- ilist, lay eucharistic minister, and senior warden, among other things. He also spent much time with Charlotte and the girls on vacations, hikes, and other family activities too numerous to name. He was always ready to lend a hand to friends and colleagues. After Jack9s retirement, in 1991 he and Charlotte moved to Black Butte Ranch, where his sister Jean lived. He loved hiking in the forest. Jack and Charlotte also became active at Transfiguration Church in Sisters. They remained at Black Butte until they moved to assisted living in Bend in 2017. Jack and Charlotte cel- ebrated their 70th anniver- sary on May 20, 2019. They had a marriage that was a model for their children and grandchildren. When their daughters and grandchil- dren called to talk to Jack, and said, <I love you,= Jack always responded, <I love you more.= Those children and grandchildren say now, <We love you forever.= Jack leaves behind his wife, Charlotte; two daugh- ters, Debbie Berkley and Dru Winkle; five grandchildren, Peter Berkley, Mary Shadley, John Helton, Becky Clark, and David Helton; and eight great-grandchildren, Kaylin Ryan, Timothy Ryan, Elliot Berkley, Liam Ryan, Maddie Walsh, Alex Berkley, Beatrix Shadley, and Grover Shadley. Learn & Practice Vipassana Insight Meditation Join us every Saturday 9 to 10:30 a.m. Insight Meditation Center 805 NW 95th St., Redmond Facebook: IIMC. Redmond. | 805-708-3065 For more information contact Ben: bensue@sopris.net or Yee: yeeofsb@hotmail.com Ranch, she worked at the Sisters School District for over 12 years. She then met her fourth husband, Stewart Marshall. When she retired from the school district, Stu and Barbara traveled all over the USA, as well as Germany, and went on numerous cruises. Barbara valued all friends and family. She had many good friends. Her best friend from middle school remained her best friend for life. Donna preceded her in death by a year. She loved and was faithful to God and her Catholic faith. Her hobby was playing cribbage and other card games, working on puzzles, and traveling. Barbara was consid- ered by all to be one of the most generous, genuine, happy-go-lucky, loving per- sons known. She treated all with love and respect. She was the type of person who would do anything for you. Her love was unconditional. She also had a great sense of humor and appreciated a good laugh or joke. By her example she taught us all the balance of hard work and enjoying life. Life was not easy for Barbara, but she always looked for the good. She didn9t waste time being angry and her attitude was <You get what you get and you don9t throw a fit.= Her love of family and friends were foremost in her heart. She will remain an inspi- ration to her family. Though many may try, it will be hard to be half the person she was. It will be hard to fill her shoes. Service will be at her long-time parish, St. Edwards, 123 Trinity Way Sisters, Oregon on August 3, at 10:30 a.m. In lieu of flowers, donations to hospice are requested. Her hospice con- tact in San Diego is donna@ agiftkeepsgiving.com or you may mail donations to A Gift Keeps Giving, 450 E. Bradley Ave., #108 El Cajon, CA 92021. HIT A POTHOLE? WE CAN HELP! Alignments, Shocks, Struts, Wheels, Tires DAVIS TIRE 541-549-1026 Serving Sisters Since 1962 188 W. Sisters Park Dr. In Sisters Industrial Park across from SnoCap Mini Storage