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Page 6B East Oregonian PEANUTS COFFEE BREAK Tuesday, March 22, 2016 DEAR ABBY BY CHARLES M . SCHULZ Parents of teenage cutters must listen and not judge FOR BETTER OR WORSE BY LYNN JOHNSTON B.C. BY JOHNNY HART PICKLES BY BRIAN CRANE BEETLE BAILEY BY MORT WALKER passionate about active hobbies that Dear Readers: I promised “Heart- allowed me to release my bottled-up broken Mom From Anywhere” (Oct. feelings and stress and feel good at 5) to print letters from readers offering the same time. — Former Cutter In suggestions about helping her teen Minnesota daughter, who is a cutter: Dear Abby: I have worked in Dear Abby: I am a 33-year-old psychiatry for 10 years and have woman who has cut for many years, found that some of these children have starting early in high school. What been sexually molested. Some told concerns me is the mom doesn’t Jeanne completely understand what’s going Phillips their parents and were not believed because it was the mother’s boyfriend, on. Not many people do. Advice a family friend or a relative. Carrying Self-harm is a cry for help from this around is a heavy burden. someone who doesn’t know how to Parents need to show the child they will voice his or her emotions. I, too, was bullied and didn’t know how to express the pain I look into the allegation. We should be a safe was feeling, so I took it out on my body. Over place for our kids to ofÀoad all their fears the years it became my coping mechanism, and insecurities, because we have a duty to protect them from abuse. — In The Field In although an unhealthy one. Helping someone who is self-harming Brooklyn, N.Y. Dear Abby: I have been a cutter from age requires understanding AND A LICENSED PROFESSIONAL to identify the emotions 9 to the present — age 22 — though now it’s and suggest better ways to express them. One less frequent. The biggest mistake my parents that worked for me was doing puzzles. It was and friends made when I was really destruc- tive was forcing me to commit to ultimatums. a way to keep my mind and hands busy. This teen also needs to know she is not It turned my cutting into a shameful thing, alone. Parents need to listen. I cannot stress isolated me and made it impossible to talk how important it is for cutters to know about it. I advise “Heartbroken” to keep talking someone is there for them with love and no judgment. — Knows From Experience In to her daughter (not nagging) about cutting, bullying, school and things the girl likes. Missouri Dear Abby: I grew up in a dysfunctional Share activities with her. Take her hiking, household with abusive parents. When I bicycling, to museums or movies. Spending would cut, it was like I could feel all my time with her is important for distraction and pent-up emotions leaking out through the bonding. Physical activity can help depressed wounds on my legs. The physical pain was individuals feel better. And she should understand that recovery bearable and distracted me from everything that was going on in my life, and I would feel is never a straight line. There will be hiccups, a little bit better about myself and a little less setbacks and days when it doesn’t seem like it will get better. Eventually, with therapy desperate. Cutting is a powerful addiction. Even now, (via counselors, bonding with friends/family, more than 10 years later, when things get bad connection with nature/animals) and learning I feel a compulsion to just make one small better coping habits, she will improve. cut. What helped me to stop cutting wasn’t Patience and support are imperative. — Kyle counseling or medication. It was becoming In Pennsylvania DAYS GONE BY GARFIELD BLONDIE BY JIM DAVIS BY DEAN YOUNG AND STAN DRAKE 100 Years Ago From the East Oregonian March 21-22, 1916 With four pretty girl witnesses testifying against him under assumed names, A.D. Frost, Oregon manager of the J.C. Penney chain of stores and formerly a merchant of Pendleton, was Monday night convicted of “assault and battery” against two of the fair witnesses and ¿ned 10 by Municipal Judge Langguth in Portland. The alleged attacks, according to testimony, consisted of unwel- come caresses. Mr. Frost and Mrs. Frost both testi¿ed that the former had a habit of laying his hands upon the arms and shoulders of his employes, and that the caresses were probably an unconscious manifestation of this habit. The girls, all of whom are about 20 years old, testi¿ed that the alleged caresses were unmistakably intended as the bona ¿de article. Judge Langguth said that if the petting was the result of habit, the habit had become pernicious. 50 Years Ago From the East Oregonian March 21-22, 1966 If you thought the weather was lousy for a ¿rst full day of spring in Pendleton today, you should have been in some other nearby points. While the temperature was 39 above shortly before 11 a.m. with a 20-25 mile-an- hour wind making it seem even chillier in the Round-Up City, neighboring Walla Walla had four inches of new snow at 10 a.m. and it still was snowing! Up to two and a half feet of new snow fell at Tollgate and Spout Springs the last 24 hours with chains required, while Meacham had four inches of new snow, 41 inches roadside, and motorists were advised to carry chains. 25 Years Ago From the East Oregonian March 21-22, 1991 The Native American population on the Umatilla Indian Reservation has grown by about 13 percent over the last 10 years, according to U.S. Census %ureau ¿gures. However, the overall reservation population — including non-Indians — has declined by about 4 percent, said Gary George, general manager for the Confederated Tribes of the Umatilla Indian Reservation. The difference, George said, is a 13 percent growth among Indians and a 14 percent decline in non-Indian population. George, a former employee with the U.S. Census Bureau, said the increase in Indian population is “about what we expected, with a number of people returning home to the reservation.” However, he said the decline in non-Indian numbers “concerns us.” THIS DAY IN HISTORY DILBERT THE WIZARD OF ID LUANN ZITS BY SCOTT ADAMS BY BRANT PARKER AND JOHNNY HART BY GREG EVANS BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN Today is the 82nd day of 2016. There are 284 days left in the year. Today’s Highlight in History: On March 22, 1941, the Grand Coulee hydroelectric dam in Washington state of¿- cially went into operation. On this date: In 1638, religious dissi- dent Anne Hutchinson was expelled from the Massachu- setts Bay Colony for defying Puritan orthodoxy. In 1765, the British Parliament passed the Stamp Act to raise money from the American colonies, which ¿ercely resisted the tax. (The Stamp Act was repealed a year later.) In 1894, hockey’s ¿rst Stanley Cup championship game was played; home team Montreal defeated Ottawa, 3-1. In 1929, a U.S. Coast Guard vessel sank a Cana- dian-registered schooner, the I’m Alone, in the Gulf of Mexico. (The schooner was suspected of carrying bootleg liquor.) In 1933, during Prohibi- tion, President Franklin D. Roosevelt signed a measure to make wine and beer containing up to 3.2 percent alcohol legal. In 1945, the Arab League was formed with the adoption of a charter in Cairo, Egypt. In 1958, movie producer Mike Todd, the husband of actress Elizabeth Taylor, and three other people were killed in the crash of Todd’s private plane near Grants, New Mexico. Today’s Birthdays: Composer-lyricist Stephen Sondheim is 86. Evangelist broadcaster Pat Robertson is 86. Actor William Shatner is 85. Senate President Pro Tempore Orrin Hatch, R-Utah, is 82. Actor M. Emmet Walsh is 81. Actor-singer Jeremy Clyde is 75. Singer-guitarist George Benson is 73. Writer James Patterson is 69. CNN newscaster Wolf Blitzer is 68. Composer Andrew Lloyd Webber is 68. Sportscaster Bob Costas is 64. Actor-co- median Keegan-Michael Key is 45. Actress Reese Wither- spoon is 40. Thought for Today: “Happiness does not lie in happiness, but in the achieve- ment of it.” — Fyodor Dostoyevsky, Russian author (1821-1881). PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN BY DANA SIMPSON BIG NATE BY LINCOLN PEIRCE