THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, APRIL 17, 2017
FEATURES
Those wandering eyes
Dear Annie: I just do not that is leering, which is rude.
know the best way to handle this And leering in front of one’s girl-
friend? “Sleazy” doesn’t begin to
situation.
I have been living happily with cover it. It’s downright disrespect-
my partner for six years. He is kind ful. While he’s staring down some
and, for the most part, consider- unwitting woman across the restau-
ate. But the following scenario has rant, you’re sitting there not only
ignored but also forced to
been going on almost from
DEAR
watch the creep show.
the beginning.
The good news is that
Often when he notices a
ANNIE
he is honest and has admit-
woman he finds attractive
ted he is doing it. To me,
when we are in a restau-
that says there is hope. It’s
rant or in a crowd, he does
time to have a very serious
not take his eyes off her.
conversation about how
He detaches himself from
this is impacting your rela-
the conversation at hand
tionship. If he truly cares,
and is obviously intrigued.
Lane
he’ll work on breaking
Even if we are getting up to Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
the habit. Whatever you
leave, he is gazing at her as
do, stop swallowing your
he is doing up his coat.
Is it because he wants to be anger. It will burn you up inside.
Dear Annie: We live in coop-
noticed by her? He claims not. But
of course, it is inevitable that she erative housing, meaning all resi-
dents have a share in the financial
does notice.
Each time he does this, I tell investment of the cooperative. We
him I find it insulting and demean- are not a retired community, yet
ing. And he says he’ll try not to do many of the residents are elderly
it again. Is this something he can- women who really do not want to
not control? I try to swallow it, get involved or rock the boat. We
but instead I seethe inside. — Dis- have a manager who avoids con-
frontation, and we’re not sure what
tracted by His Distraction
Dear Distracted: Glanc- our board of directors actually
ing at an attractive woman is OK does, as when you ask the members
and often hard to resist doing for of the board a question, they can-
a moment. Anything longer than not give you a definite answer. The
5A
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
board appears very complacent and
agrees with all that the manager
does, even to the extent of paying
the staff, including the manager,
very well. The manager’s report is
all of one page long and is painted
with such a broad brush that it is
downright scary in how nontrans-
parent it is.
Isn’t it the job of the board to
oversee the actions of the manager?
No one wants to run for the board,
because no one wants to work with
the board members, as they seem
to think they walk on water and
buck any new ideas. At open meet-
ings, board members often whis-
per among themselves, which is
very rude when a resident is speak-
ing. No class! What can be done
short of voting the board of direc-
tors and manager out and seeking
a company to run the community?
— Shareholders Who Are Fed Up
Dear Shareholders: The whole
point of a cooperative is to give all
members a voice. I encourage you
and your allies to be the change you
want to see in the community: Run
for the board yourselves. If that’s
truly not feasible, visit the National
Association of Housing Coopera-
tives website, at http://coophous-
ing.org, for information about your
rights as shareholders.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). The struggle
continues between your rational ability to
see the future and understand the value of
goals and hard work and that fun-monkey in
you seeking gratification of a more instanta-
neous variety.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The trick is to
acknowledge the other’s traits and foibles
without indulging them. It takes a light touch
and a flexible but firm social boundary. The
reward is a sense of connection without the
codependence.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). As today’s
conversation gets heated, you’ll draw from
your ever-growing information banks for
interesting contributions. It’s your congenial
attitude they’ll remember.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Many things
will go as planned to satisfy your need for or-
der and control. And some things will not. It’s
more fun when things don’t go as expected.
It gives you an excuse to interact in ways you
might not have had to.
be invisible, the results uncredited.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Because you
are not reliant on feedback, you don’t ask
for it. And yet, you need it now. Your success
will depend on getting in touch with your
audience, reading the room and finding the
right kinds of rooms to begin with.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Unless
you’re a world leader or you’ve been placed
in charge of the livelihood and future of a
great number of people, avoid overly serious
conversation today. Truly, such grave talk will
benefit no one.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). If you can
afford to ignore the problem, you’re rich. But
if you can’t, you’ll wind up more capable, less
afraid and more confident in your ability to
handle and solve things.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’re not
looking to surround yourself with perfect peo-
ple; the showoffs and know-it-alls bore you.
You want a sincere connection with a flawed,
compassionate, authentic individual.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Old baggage will get
left on the roadside of the highway of love.
Good riddance. Relationships will lighten
up, cruise along and gain a real sense of
progress and freedom.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There will be
plenty of appreciation for the work you’ve
done. New people want you to create similar
results for them, and they’ll offer to hire you,
consult with you or be your apprentice.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The process
is the goal, really. And yet, without a stated
goal, there is no process. This will all be
a moot point as you follow your natural
instincts today.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (April 18).
Mother Teresa suggested, “Joy is prayer.
... Joy is love. Joy is a net of love in which
you can catch souls.” This year illustrates
the point, as you do “happy” like it was your
birthright and others get caught up in your
happiness — one special person most nota-
bly. July brings a contract. There’s a windfall
in October. Aries and Virgo adore you. Your
lucky numbers are: 4, 39, 33, 17 and 24.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’re famous
for your diplomacy, lovely manners and
ever-considerate ways. You’ll once again be
the glue that brings people together today,
and, like a clear-drying glue, your efforts will
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
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ROSE IS ROSE