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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, APRIL 17, 2017 FEATURES Those wandering eyes Dear Annie: I just do not that is leering, which is rude. know the best way to handle this And leering in front of one’s girl- friend? “Sleazy” doesn’t begin to situation. I have been living happily with cover it. It’s downright disrespect- my partner for six years. He is kind ful. While he’s staring down some and, for the most part, consider- unwitting woman across the restau- ate. But the following scenario has rant, you’re sitting there not only ignored but also forced to been going on almost from DEAR watch the creep show. the beginning. The good news is that Often when he notices a ANNIE he is honest and has admit- woman he finds attractive ted he is doing it. To me, when we are in a restau- that says there is hope. It’s rant or in a crowd, he does time to have a very serious not take his eyes off her. conversation about how He detaches himself from this is impacting your rela- the conversation at hand tionship. If he truly cares, and is obviously intrigued. Lane he’ll work on breaking Even if we are getting up to Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. the habit. Whatever you leave, he is gazing at her as do, stop swallowing your he is doing up his coat. Is it because he wants to be anger. It will burn you up inside. Dear Annie: We live in coop- noticed by her? He claims not. But of course, it is inevitable that she erative housing, meaning all resi- dents have a share in the financial does notice. Each time he does this, I tell investment of the cooperative. We him I find it insulting and demean- are not a retired community, yet ing. And he says he’ll try not to do many of the residents are elderly it again. Is this something he can- women who really do not want to not control? I try to swallow it, get involved or rock the boat. We but instead I seethe inside. — Dis- have a manager who avoids con- frontation, and we’re not sure what tracted by His Distraction Dear Distracted: Glanc- our board of directors actually ing at an attractive woman is OK does, as when you ask the members and often hard to resist doing for of the board a question, they can- a moment. Anything longer than not give you a definite answer. The 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. board appears very complacent and agrees with all that the manager does, even to the extent of paying the staff, including the manager, very well. The manager’s report is all of one page long and is painted with such a broad brush that it is downright scary in how nontrans- parent it is. Isn’t it the job of the board to oversee the actions of the manager? No one wants to run for the board, because no one wants to work with the board members, as they seem to think they walk on water and buck any new ideas. At open meet- ings, board members often whis- per among themselves, which is very rude when a resident is speak- ing. No class! What can be done short of voting the board of direc- tors and manager out and seeking a company to run the community? — Shareholders Who Are Fed Up Dear Shareholders: The whole point of a cooperative is to give all members a voice. I encourage you and your allies to be the change you want to see in the community: Run for the board yourselves. If that’s truly not feasible, visit the National Association of Housing Coopera- tives website, at http://coophous- ing.org, for information about your rights as shareholders. ARIES (March 21-April 19). The struggle continues between your rational ability to see the future and understand the value of goals and hard work and that fun-monkey in you seeking gratification of a more instanta- neous variety. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The trick is to acknowledge the other’s traits and foibles without indulging them. It takes a light touch and a flexible but firm social boundary. The reward is a sense of connection without the codependence. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). As today’s conversation gets heated, you’ll draw from your ever-growing information banks for interesting contributions. It’s your congenial attitude they’ll remember. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Many things will go as planned to satisfy your need for or- der and control. And some things will not. It’s more fun when things don’t go as expected. It gives you an excuse to interact in ways you might not have had to. be invisible, the results uncredited. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Because you are not reliant on feedback, you don’t ask for it. And yet, you need it now. Your success will depend on getting in touch with your audience, reading the room and finding the right kinds of rooms to begin with. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Unless you’re a world leader or you’ve been placed in charge of the livelihood and future of a great number of people, avoid overly serious conversation today. Truly, such grave talk will benefit no one. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). If you can afford to ignore the problem, you’re rich. But if you can’t, you’ll wind up more capable, less afraid and more confident in your ability to handle and solve things. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’re not looking to surround yourself with perfect peo- ple; the showoffs and know-it-alls bore you. You want a sincere connection with a flawed, compassionate, authentic individual. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Old baggage will get left on the roadside of the highway of love. Good riddance. Relationships will lighten up, cruise along and gain a real sense of progress and freedom. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There will be plenty of appreciation for the work you’ve done. New people want you to create similar results for them, and they’ll offer to hire you, consult with you or be your apprentice. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The process is the goal, really. And yet, without a stated goal, there is no process. This will all be a moot point as you follow your natural instincts today. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (April 18). Mother Teresa suggested, “Joy is prayer. ... Joy is love. Joy is a net of love in which you can catch souls.” This year illustrates the point, as you do “happy” like it was your birthright and others get caught up in your happiness — one special person most nota- bly. July brings a contract. There’s a windfall in October. Aries and Virgo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 4, 39, 33, 17 and 24. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’re famous for your diplomacy, lovely manners and ever-considerate ways. You’ll once again be the glue that brings people together today, and, like a clear-drying glue, your efforts will FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE