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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, MARCH 17, 2017 FEATURES Stop with the subtweeting Dear Annie: My best friend so because I’m obviously pretty and I have been friends for over miffed that she is being so pub- 15 years, and we get along well licly passive-aggressive and I am and definitely know each other offended. But I also don’t want her better than anyone else. However, to get upset with our other friends, we are very different people. I because they shared the infor- guess you could say that I am a lot mation. I am in a bit of a strange pickle here. I don’t want simpler than she is. I don’t DEAR there to be any unspoken really beat around the issues between my friend bush, whereas she is pas- ANNIE and me, but I don’t know sive-aggressive; and I am how to deal with this rude on the quiet side, while and immature behavior. she likes to be heard. — Anti-social Media She has been com- Dear Anti-social: plaining to me a lot about Rude and immature is the drama she has in her right. Passive-aggres- life, and I don’t mind. I Lane sive behavior has always am always there for her, Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. been exasperating. Social whether it’s to give my media have taken it to a opinion or just to listen to her rambling on the phone. When new level. The best approach in dealing we are communicating openly, it’s great. But, Annie, the issue is that with such people is to refuse to she has taken things to another play their game. Be positive but level. She is very active on Twit- direct. Tell her that you saw her Twitter page (no need to men- ter, and I don’t have an account. A few close mutual friends tion that your mutual friends told have been telling me she has you) and were concerned by the been passive-aggressively tweet- tweets. Don’t let her wriggle out ing about me in a negative way. of it. Try to get her to admit that I don’t understand. I am always she’s upset with you, thus deny- there for her, and I am open and ing her the ability to keep silently honest when we communicate. sulking. At the end of the day, she I would like to ask her what her should respect you for holding deal is, but I don’t know how to do her accountable. Friends don’t let friends get away with passive-ag- gressive behavior. Dear Annie: This is in response to “Wits’ End,” whose adult daughter has been verbally abusive to her. This poor woman does not need this daughter in her life, period. I, too, have daughters who hold their hands out, lie, are dishonest and rarely ask how they can help or do something for oth- ers. My husband and I choose to stay away from both of them and all the unpleasant negativity they bring. We own businesses and are busy raising their little brother and my mentally handicapped sister. We are very happy with our lives; our days are filled with dates, flowers, laughter and more. Are we disappointed that our grown daughters choose to act so self-centeredly and uncaring? Of course. But people do not change unless they want to. We are no longer subjecting ourselves to their behavior. If others did the same, they would save themselves a great deal of heartache. “Wits’ End” can make it clear to her daughter: “I deserve happi- ness, too, and unless you want to be a positive loving force in my life, you are not welcome.” — Happy to Let Go 3C TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Though of course you want to succeed, there’s a down side to knocking it out of the park. It sets up a future expectation that you may or may not want to live up to. Think carefully before you set a precedent. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). To avoid wasted effort, get more clarity around what you’re attempting to do. Improved communication will be key and this includes communicating with your own feelings and instincts. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). All will be enhanced by social connections. Instead of connecting with people haphazardly when it’s convenient or when there’s a pressing and obvious need, create a structure that will allow you to engage others often. accomplish together. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Rituals are a way of symbolically processing life so you can realistically process it with greater ease. A ritual you create to help you move past your sticking point will be most effective, resonating deeply to free you. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Exaggerat- ed fears can cause social discomfort. It doesn’t have to be this way, though you may have to make a few mistakes first to understand that it’s not that big of a deal to flub here and there. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). When you provide people with reasons to accept you, you’ll earn acceptance but feel nothing. If you don’t make any effort and are accepted anyway, you’ll feel loved. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Though the result of someone’s efforts to impress you may not have the impact on your psyche that was intended, it will still feel pretty flattering to know you’re the cause of such a fuss. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Don’t waste the day by trying to prolong it. Efficiency will be the enemy of passion. Burn the hours in exciting, pointless ways and you’ll make lasting memories, too. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Time is the currency of productivity. How you manage yours today will be the difference between a hit and a miss. You’ve a strong instinct for what’s important. All you have to do is honor it. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Chances are that you are imagining a risk as much greater than it really is. You are, in a sense, “elevating the plank” that you’d theoretically walk were you to be punished. There is no plank, really, just an optional diving board. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’ll clear up a misunderstanding within seconds, as long as you are aware that there is one. Go over recent communication. Check in to make sure that you’ve heard and have been heard correctly. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Whether winning or losing, for those who are in the battle, life is about fighting. The real victors today will be the ones who forgo the fight in favor of finding something to agree on and FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (March 18). Balance and moderation are the norm this year, and yet there are some things you simply won’t be able to do small: for instance, love. The more you invest, the more you feel. You’ll have terrific luck with a sale in June. Septem- ber renews old relationships. December will be a lucky time to move or build. Taurus and Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 6, 30, 22, 49 and 11.