THURSDAY. JANUARY 24. 1963
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The Family Council
Kdltor't note! The Family Council cotnliti of judge,
tlhvvhialrUt. Uiree rlercvmen. three edilnra and a wnmfn'i dltnr
Each article U a luminary of i family disagreement presented to the
i ouncu. ine council aean wun pro Die im, major and minor,
encountered by guidance counselors and social workers. Kdlted by
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MEDFORD MAIL TRIBUNE, MEDFORD, OREGON
Mn. O. R. - She refuses to
tell us where she's going.
Helen R. - If she knows
where I am, she follows and
makes scenes.
Mrs. 0. R.-Isn't it the most
natural question in the world
. for a parent to ask a teen-age
daughter where she's going on
a Saturday night? Y o
wouldn't think so the way our
young lady resents our asking,
and hems and haws, until we
wind up having a scene at the
door.
" I know I never go any
where without making sure
someone knows where I am
. Helen should offer the infor
mation herself, without wait-
ing for me to ask. Suppose
something happens and I must
reach her. I think It s a tent.
ble thing for a mother to have
" to say, "I don't know" if some-
"one asks where her child is. I
'insist, and I always will, on a
- direct answer from Helen.
' Helen R. - My mother goes
-too far. She acts as though l in
. 6, not 16. She not only wants
.to know where I'm going, but
' exactly when 111 be back
what I'm doing, who else will
be there, and a regular third'
.degree examination before 1
can get past the door. She
knows I'm with my two girl
friends and we re going to a
birthday party three blocks
away. But she 11 embarrass me
in front of the others with all
her questions.
Even worse, she's apt to
turn up at the place around
11:30 and tell me it's time to
start for home. I swear I'll
give her tlie wrong address or
just not tell her anything if
she ever tries that again.
The Council: These ladies,
mother and daughter, are in a
"bind." Each wants to do the
right thing, but goes about it
the wrong way.
"Where are your wandering
daughters tonight?" has been
the wake-up title of a movie,
a play, and magazine articles
on juvenile delinquency. Mrs.
R. doesn't want to be caught
without the right answer. So
she bullies Helen with more
than the Where. She wants
precise data on Arrival and
Departure Time, plus minute-
b y-m i n u t e countdowns on
what's planned. These are
areas which Helen can't fill in
ahead of time, and which, in
the interests of a good time.
it's more fun to work out as
the evening progresses.
Helen, on the other hand,
glad to have conscientious
parents who care about what
happens to her, despite her
groans and complaints about
the question period. But she
craves evidence of trust in her
good sense, and Tespect for
her feelings in front of her
contemporaries.
How then, can each meet
me aemanas tor respect as
well as peace of mind? Mrs
R. must find a middle ground
between supervising Helen
and giving her some freedom
to use her judgment. It's good
mat tnis mother keeps a close
watch on her daughter, but it
needn't be an imprisoning
one. As long as Helen has her
permission to attend a social
gathering and a reasonable
curfew is agreed upon. Drob-
ing should be kept to a mini
mum.
The goal must clearly be
Helen's safety. The "inquisi
tion must never look like
mere show of power on Mrs.
R.'s part, and a confound-the
enemy tactic on Helen's. In
fact, with each demonstration
that the young girl behaves
maturely, her mother must re
member to address her on
more adult terms.
It would ease tensions in
this home for Helen to realize
that her mother's worried.
nagging remarks must be
translated. All they mean is,
we love you. We can't help
thinking of the dangers out
side. We try to reduce them
for you."
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APPOINTEES TESTIFY - Two Administration appointees
are shown as they appeared before the Senate Foreign Rela
tions Committee. Christian A. Herter, left. President Ken
nedy's new trade negotiator, told the group, which Is con
sidering the nominations of the two, that progress might be
slow in working out better relations with Common Market
nations regarding tariffs on American agriculture products,
Foreign Aid Chief David E. Bell, right, said he found that a
"not clear enough assignment of responsibility between
Washington and the field was hampering the foreign aid
program when he took over recently. (UPI)
Workshop Students
Elect Two Officers
Ashland - Roger Kelsoe,
Medford, has been elected by
Southern Oregon college ra
dio-television worksh p stu
dents to the position of broad
cast manager, and Al Sher
man, Douglas, Ariz., has re
ceived an appointment as de
bate manager.
Dr. Harold Barrett, adviser.
said the broadcast manager
will assume overall super
vision of production details
not ordinarily handled by the
instructor in the preparation
of weekly broadcasts on area
radio stations.
Sherman's duties will in
volve the scheduling of meet
ings and events, handling fi
nances, and giving general as
sistance to the forensics di
rector. I
Recreation Department
To Sponsor Dance
The city of Medford Rec
reation department will spon
sor a dance for high school
students in the area at the
Armory Friday, Jan. 25, be
tween 8 and 11:30 p.m.
Music will be furnished by
"The Frescos, and a small
admission fee will be charged.
KILLED BY ARROW
Chattanooga, Tenn. - (UPI -
Authorities said Wednesday
that a man first believed to
have been stabbed to death
actually was killed by an ar
row .probably fired from a
45 pound crossbow: An autop
sy revealed a black arrowhead
in the chest near the heart of
Dillman Thrasher, police said.
A feathered shaft was found
later In the vicinity of where
Thrasher was slain. '
Acts of Heroism
Gain Recognition
By Carnegie Fund
Pittsburgh - (UPD - Three
men who rescued a man trap
ped in an ore mine cave-in In
Canada and a carnival con
cessionaire burned severely
when he tried to save a boy
from fiery death were among
25 persons cited Wednesday
by the Carnegie Hero Fund
Commission.
Nine of the awards were
posthumous. California and
Washington led the states in
acts of valor with five each.
Two silver medals and 23
bronze medals were granted
by the commission, establish
ed in 1940 by Andrew Car
negie, Pittsburgh steel mag
nate and philanthropist.
Arm Pinned by Timber
Heinrich W. Wenzel, 44,
was trapped in a sitting posi
tion, his arm pinned by a
timber when 2,000 tons of
rock fell in an ore mine In
Brittania Beach, B.C., on Nov.
1, 1960.
George J.' Preissler, 29
Cadillac, Mich., a fellow
worker, and John Johnson,
49, Brittania Beach, a mine
shift boss, excavated a tunnel
under a level to reach Wen
zel. Preissler wiggled through
an 18-inch hole in the debris
to reach Wenzel who was in
agonizing pain. Preissler
squirmed back - through the
debris, reported conditions to
other workers and returned to
Wenzel with water and a pain
killing drug.
Brought Doctor
Preissler returned with Dr.
Barrie G. Flather, 28, Surrey,
B.C., a physician, who volun
teered to give medical aid to
Wenzel. Johnson cleared the
way for the doctor and at one
point nearly became stuck in
the passage.
When Flather finally reach
ed Wenzel, the trapped man
begged him to amputate his
arm. The doctor quickly per
formed the amputation and
reported to others that the
stricken man was ready to be
led out. ,
Again, Preissler pushed his
way through the debris and
with difficulty urged Wenzel
to squeeze his way back.
Preissler was awarded a
silver medal and $500. John
son and Flather each received
a bronze medal and $500.
Gas Tank Bunts
A tank of butane gas burst
at a carnival popcorn stand
in Odessa, Wash., on Aug. 27,
1961, spraying fire on the
woman owner and Robert C.
Palmer, 2, his mother and
two brothers.
Glenn E. Dry, 26, Poplar
Bluff, Mo., was at his stand
15 feet away. He was shower
ed with flames from head to
foot but ran to Robert, whose
clothing was afire, and car
ried him to safety.
Robert, his mother and one
of his brothers and the wom
an in the popcorn stand died.
Dry was hospitalized for 10
weeks and his burns perma
nently stiffened his hands.
Dry was awarded a silver
medal and $1,000.
Medford Man Named
Prudential Agent
Wilson H. Smith, 3135 Con
nell ave., Medford, has been
named agent here for the
Medford district office of the
Prudential Insurance torn
pany, Staff Manager Dewie
N. Turner has reported.
Smith was born in Muncie,
Ind but attended Oregon
public schools and Oregon
State university .
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Lumber Industry's
Problems Holed
At Ashland Lunch
Ashland-Amerlca's lumber
-Industry must be allowed to
.use foreign vessels for ship
ping if it is to stay healthy,
Ben Evans, sales manager for
Alley Brothers lumber mill,
Phoenix, told members of the
Ashland Chamber of Com
merce Tuesday.
Evans said that U.S. lum-
'bcr producers are gradually
losing their markets to Cana
dian firms, because a load of
lumber that costs a U.S. firm
$71 to produce and deliver
to the cast can be purchased
from a Canadian firm for
-between $62 and $65.
The speaker urge repeal
of the Jones act, which he
said requires U.S. lumber
firms to use American ships
for sending their product by
sea. By using less expensive
foreign vessels' services,
' American lumber firms could
compete with Canadian firms
more effectively, he felt.
Would Hurt Industry
Evans admitted that repeal
of the Jones act would prob-
ably hurt the American' mari
.time Industry. But he stated
.that the lumber industry af
fects mote employee . than
does the maritime industry.
"The lumber Industry Is im
portant to Oregon," Evans
added, "as every fifth tree
in the United btalcs grows
' here. '
Evans also urged that the
-reciprocal trade agreement be
tween the United States and
Canada be made more recipro
cal by boosting U.S. tariffs
on imports from Canada.
Asked if such a move would
nut jeopardize other Indus
tries that export large num
bers of goods to Canada,
Evans said he realized ' was
looking at the situation strict
ly from the lumber i.idiiFtry's
point of view, but added,
"Something has to be done."
"We don't want federal sub
sidies," lie said, "we just want
. a fair and even chance to
, compete with our friends to
the north."
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Dr. Sampson Serves as
'. Consultant at Meeting
. AshlHiid-Dr. Bill Sampson,
chairman of the Southern
Oregon college education di-
. vision, served as a consultant
at the Lane county meeting
of Ihc Teacher Education and
Professional Standards organ-
. Ization in Springfield re
cently. Serving with Dr. Sampson
a co-consultant on the subject
nf "Professional Ethics" was
' Richard Bursa of the Oregon
' Education Association Ethics
: commission.
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