MAIL TRIBUNE. MriforJ, Or. 0
Tuesday, My 12, 1959 '
Family
Council
Bernice. R-I don't want to
live close to my in-lawi.
Leonard R-We have no in
law problem.
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Bernice R.-I am at a loss
aa to how to handle my in
law TrrvVil pm
We have been married nine
and have three chil-
'Armn nnrinff all of those years
I rarely have my husband
home more than two or three
night a week. He oes over
tn. inim na rents nearly every
evening. The children want to
wait until he comes bade, but
it is usually so late they can t.
I sit watching TV all by my-
T.n av that if we took an
apartment in his parent's
house, he would just stop in
in sat hello and then come
back down again. This might
Yl vettr arrangements, but
I don't like the idea of living
m close to mv in-laws. They
have never been particularly
nice to me altnougn.i nave
tried my best to be nice to
them.
Leonard R.-I can't see that
we have anv in-law problem
at all. The whole thing is in
Bernice's mind. My parents
have been very nice to her,
but she has never warmed
im to them. My mother often
aks why she is so cold and
standoffish.
I feel that my parents are
old and God knows how much
longer I'll have them. While
thev are alive I can t leave
them to just rot away. They
look forward to my visits. I
am the closest to them be
cause I am the oldest of three
sons.
Bernice always points out
that she doesn't see her par
ents more' than about twice a
month, but her parents live
quite far from us and it takes
a day's trip to get there. Be
sides it's different for a wom
an. The parents realize that
' she's got enough repsonsibility
taking care of her own chil
dren.
The Council: We agree with
Leonard that this isn't axactly
an in-law problem. It is really
more of a hubsand problem,
Yes, it is natural for par
ents to want to see a lot of
their children. Sometimes,
when the children are adults,
they may want to see more
of them than is good for every-
one concerned. ,
; But "children" like Leonard
', who believe that their parents
can't get along without them
and who feel that their par
ents would "just rot away"
without them have placed
themselves in emotional
chains.
Essentially, Leonard refuses
to face the fact that "he is
-grown up. The fact thai he
'says his parents need him
rather than that he needs
them is just a thin disguise.
; If he were in the habit of be
ing senstitive to the needs of
r others he would recognize that
- his wife and children need
him far more than his parents
do. He does not appear to rec
ognize that he is as responsi-
I ble for his children as his
wife is.
Sure these parents would
' now be disappointed if Leon
ard were to cut down on his
visits. But if; they were un-
selfish parents they would re
: joice that their son has at last
shown the maturity to know
; where he belongs.
? We certainly don't think
, Bernice would improve things
for herself by moving to an
4 apartment . in her in-law's
1 house. The only thing that
.'will improve her situation is
her husband's recongition that
. he is robbing her and his chil
dren of years that can't be re
placed. If he feels unable to
: free himself from this exces
I sive attachment to his par-
ents, he should seek profes
sional help through a family
' service organization.
(Copyright 1959,
General Features Corp.)
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