of modern living, we've forgotten how.
T ver since Americans began to wor
ship the businessman as a sort
of demigod, the philosophy of the
gi-getter has been thrust at us with
increasing intensity. The fundamental
premise is that business success is the
highest achievement, that every effort
should bend in this direction and to
heck with everything else!.
As a result, you can find thousands
of admonitions like the following, culled
from recent go-getter literature:
Don't be a social climber or a
joiner or a civic crusader during your
Pi-ogress years. These things take a lot
of time that you can't afford."
"Taking the kids to school, putting
up the storm windows, meeting your
wife for lunch, or being a glorified
family errand boy should be avoided.
This adamant attitude makes for larger
pay checks."
"A really successful person has sus
tained drive to a very large degree. To
the most successful salesman I ever
knew, nothing in life was important
except making a sale. A wealthy man
from his efforts, he could have coasted,
taken it easy. But until the last day,
his one passion was to sell, sell, sell."
Probably a sizable percentage of the
men who live by this philosophy wind
up with substantial incomes but no
one ever asked them if they were
happy. And apparently no one ever
asked the son of one of these super
lative go-getters whether he would
trade the family's second car for a few
hours a week with his dad; or asked
the widow (for that's virtually what
she is) if she would enjoy an occasional
lunch downtown with "her husband,
or at your place of business, don't just
perform your tasks methodically but
give real service, loyalty, honest effort,
helpfulness, intelligence.
Don't look on your family life as a
means of having a home, three meals
a day, and a reasonable amount of
security. Rather, recognize your family
as an opportunity to give of your time,
love, experience, understanding, sym
pathy, and guidance.
And among your friends, there's a
wealth of satisfaction in giving cheer
fulness, assistance, advice when it is
sought, and uninhibited and unrestrict
ed friendship.
Giving such things takes nothing
away from you; it doesn't deplete your
store of these wonderful commodities.
In fact, it enriches the ground in which
they grow and brings you an ever
larger harvest.
I know a girl who yearned to be
married and raise a family. Yet she
couldn't seem to hold beaus for any
length of time. Although she was attrac
tive and personable, it became progres
sively more difficult for her to find
companionship and she grew terribly
depressed. At last, in desperation, she
asked one of her former friends what
was wrong with her.
In a burst of unexpected frankness,
he told her: "You're trying too hard to
get a husband."
The girl went home and thought about
this. It was true. Her every thought
was centered on getting a man, getting
a home, getting a family all for herself.
Almost overnight she reversed her
attitude. She began giving of her
affection, her interest, time, warmth,
kindness, all the fine qualities which'
had been buried beneath her urgency to
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-even if she had to pay for it out of her
grocery allowance.
a hat are some of the things you can
V" give easily and constantly?
You can give encouragement,
kindness, affection, time, understand
ing, knowledge, comfort, counsel, atten
tion, peace of mind. You can dispense
these things in every phase of your
daily life if you'll just condition your
self to the idea of giving rather than
getting. For example:
In church, don't attend just for what
you can derive from the sermon but for
what you can give in devotion, atten
tion, sincerity, and consecration.
In your work, whether it be at home,
get a husband. The effect on her new
friends was remarkable, and it wasn't
long before she found the things she
was seeking, including a husband.
Of course, there's nothing wrong with
business success or wealth. They are
desirable goals, and the efforts of
talented and able Americans to achieve
them have been largely responsible for
the pre-eminence of our nation.
The difficulty arises in placing wealth
and success before everything else, in
making them gods to be worshipped at
the expense of basic human values.
This is where the go-getter philosophy
is likely to run wild. And this is why
we need to consider the advantages of
being a go-giver instead of a go-getter!
Family Weekly, November 24, 1957 5
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