OPINION READER’S FORUM Founded in 1906 WEDNESDAY, JUNE 2, 2021 A4 EDITOR’S DESK After graduation, go forth with confi dence D ear graduating seniors, Congratulations on reach- ing this milestone. Your class has faced a tough road through the end of your high school journey, and you should feel proud of what you’ve accomplished despite those setbacks. As per tradition, I would like to off er you some advice as you set off on your next adven- Jade ture, whatever that may McDowell be. NEWS EDITOR My fi rst advice would be to believe in yourself. That may sound cheesy, but I know that when I graduated from both high school and college, I felt intimidated by the thought of all the people I would be trying to measure up to in the future. I envisioned college and the work- force as an army of people smarter and more accomplished than I was, who had expensive tutors and attended fancy private schools in big cities and spent their summers build- ing schools in Africa. It’s true that in going from a school with a graduating class of less than 200 to a university with more than 30,000 students, I had more competition. I was rarely — if ever — the smartest person in the room. But I learned a lot, graduated in four years and landed a job in my chosen fi eld, and not once did any potential employers ask me if I graduated at the top of my class (I didn’t). Believing in yourself doesn’t have to mean feeling sure that you Ben Lonergan/Hermiston Herald Hermiston High School graduates walk down Southwest Seventh Street in Hermiston during the school’s Honor Walk on Thursday, May 27, 2021. will someday be the best basketball player or rapper or Instagram infl u- encer in the whole world. Sometimes it just means believing that you’re going to be successful and happy — even if it turns out you’re not the best in the world at anything. I promise you that if you are hard working, dependable and respectful, you will already be more qualifi ed for the jobs you apply for than some of the applicants. I’ll even let you in on a lit- tle secret: Job postings are often a description of the employer’s ideal candidate, not a list of absolute necessities. And when employers struggle to fi nd anyone who checks all of the boxes, they will some- times settle for someone who is only 75% of the way there but seems like a hard worker who could be trained. The real answer to the age- old conundrum, “How do I get expe- rience when all the jobs that would give me experience require expe- rience?” is often simply, “I applied anyway and they still hired me.” A second piece of advice I would give you is to take time while you’re young to make memories and build relationships. The older you get, the more everyone tends to become entangled in responsibilities — being in a management role at work, rais- ing children, caring for elderly par- ents, volunteering. When people get to that point, they often look back at their 20s and wish they had spent more time travel- ing, or taking other opportunities that now involve much more pre-plan- ning to be able to make work. It can also be more diffi cult to make friends when you’ve passed the age where Friday nights involve a bunch of peo- ple spontaneously piling into cars and hanging out at a bonfi re until 2 a.m. So don’t get so caught up in the stress of fi guring out what you’re doing with your life that you forget to have fun. Go to that bonfi re on Fri- day night and then wake up Monday morning ready to do something that will set you up for success. Life is about balance. Each generation has its own chal- lenges — I graduated into a deep recession that my generation has never fully recovered from fi nan- cially, and some of my ancestors didn’t get a chance to graduate at all before being shipped off to war. Your generation will be working to shape the world in the wake of a pandemic that feels like it turned everything upside-down. That brings with it opportunity. The future may seem daunting now, but it’s full of possibilities. Go make it your own. COLUMN LETTER TO THE EDITOR Asking questions is the pathway to comprehension U nderstanding the world around us is the goal we want all our children to achieve. We want them to understand and explain what they see, hear, and read. It should be really simple. You see it, you talk about it, and you can write about it when you’re older. For some reason, it just doesn’t work that way for every- one. Problem solving is a natural ability humans can accomplish. Yet, many people need a little nurturing to become a master at the skill of understanding (comprehend- ing) and problem solving (vocal, written, or demonstration). One method for develop- ing problem-solving skills in children is through using questioning. Questioning activates the part of the brain used for problem solving. It doesn’t Scott matter what age, whether the Smith child is 2 or 22, using ques- tioning strategies aids in fostering every- one’s ability to problem-solve when hav- ing to face a situation they need to resolve on their own. Example: Which do you eat faster with, a fork or spoon? This type of questioning asks the brain to use existing information to respond to a new problem. Sounds simple, but it’s harder than you think! Living in a fast-moving world, it sometimes feels like we have to get things done quickly. Therefore we often tell or give the child resolutions to issues so we are able to move on. We do the prob- lem solving for the child, therefore they quickly learn that in order to get the infor- mation they need, they simply ask. Frus- tration hits when a child has not had prac- tice, is asked a question and expected to respond orally or written, and is at a loss for what to do. Hurried adults become frustrated and often give a response some- thing like, “Just fi gure it out!” Have you provided the opportunities for your child to know how to fi gure things out or have you assumed they should know? The child is showing they have not developed their problem-solving abil- ity and without prior practice, everyone becomes frustrated. The teaching moment is now. Use questions to help them draw their own conclusions, right or wrong, and learn from the experience. Starting with giving the child a simple choice is best. Remember it is okay if they choose something diff erent than what you think is best. Many times they will but this is where learning takes place. So if they have a choice of pop or ice cream and they choose pop, but others have ice cream, they may change their mind after everyone gets their treat. You just have to remind them that it was their choice for the pop, and next time they might be able to choose ice cream. I can almost guarantee there may be a tantrum but remember, don’t solve it for them. Don’t off er to trade. Now, if they ask you to trade, they are starting to use their own problem-solving, and it becomes your choice whether to trade or not. This method works no matter the child’s age. Asking questions like, “Do you think that’s the best choice?” or “Which do you think would go faster?” or “What would you do with all that money?” forces them to trigger the thinking process and go into problem-solving. The struggle comes in guiding them with questions in order to draw their con- clusions. The world all of a sudden moves into slow motion, and the child is faced with questions. The number one thing the child is fearing is making the incorrect decision. Thus, we move into the child’s world of decision making using questions help- ing them make their decision or draw their own conclusions. When given more and more opportunities to allow them to nur- ture the skill of problem solving, they will get quicker. If you have a child you notice is strug- gling with problem solving, choose a time to work with them. Trying to have a teaching moment when the whole fam- ily is waiting might be diffi cult for every- one. Seek out a time you are able to spend time with them and guide them in devel- oping their problem-solving skills. You might consider starting with one situation each day, allowing them to make their own decision. Start asking questions, and you’ll see your child’s ability to problem-solve, dis- cuss, and even write about situations make remarkable growth and their ability to answer school questions as well. ——— Dr. Scott Smith is a 40+-year Umatilla County educator and serves on the Decoding Dyslexia-OR board as their parent/teacher liaison. CORRECTIONS Printed on recycled newsprint VOLUME 114 • NUMBER 21 Andrew Cutler | Publisher • acutler@eomediagroup.com • 541-278-2673 Jade McDowell | News Editor • jmcdowell@eastoregonian.com • 541-564-4536 Kelly Schwirse | Multi-Media consultant • kschwirse@hermistonherald.com • 541-564-4531 Audra Workman | Multi-Media consultant • aworkman@eastoregonian.com • 541-564-4538 To contact the Hermiston Herald for news, advertising or subscription information: • call 541-567-6457 • e-mail info@hermistonherald.com • stop by our offi ces at 333 E. 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