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Your Mental Health Time lnRement nnd Fn 8,ress
The Heppner Gazette-Times. Heppner. Oregon, Thursday, Mav 20, 1982-THREE
(Editors note: The following
article is the third of a series
of four, to be published in the
Gazette-Times consecutively,
throughout the month of
May. )
By Terrel Temptemann, Ph.D
Believe it or not, farming is
now ranked in the top ten high
stress occupations.
Farm stress workshops have
begun to appear in the
midwest to prevent the effects
of stress. I would like to
address a particular kind of
farm stress in this article,
which typically strains farm
marriages.
Many farmers and ranchers
tend to be task-oriented. That
is, they decide what needs to
be done in a day and they work
until it gets done, regardless
of how long it takes. It is of
course necessary to be task
oriented in agricultural work
at certain times of the vear.
The opposite
of the task-oriented person is
the time-oriented person.,
These people typically allot
for themselves just so much
time for each of the activities
they want to do in a day. '
Conflicts on the farm may
arise with a task-oriented man
is married to a time-oriented
woman. The farm wife who is
time-oriented may resent her
husband being late to supper if
it happens very often or be
even more upsei with him if he
makes her late for something
she has planned. She may
begin to feel that she and the
children rate a distant second
behind the wheat or cattle. She
may respond to such feelings
by planning activities for her
self or the family without the
husband's participation. This
creates distance between both
persons and makes it more
difficult for them to talk to one
another and eventually makes
the problem worse.
The farmer who is overly
task-oriented may ironically
feel deserted by his wife or
children when he finally has
the time to be with them. He
may also resent the lack of
support from his wife after
36wling news
Thursday Night Ladies
Final Statistics
First place team - Gateway
Toyota. Second place team -Kinzua
Corporation, high av
erage - Phyllis Cole -157, high
series scratch - Phyllis Cole -'
571. high game scratch - June
Bellenbrock and Alvina Pad
berg - 225, high series with
handicap - Bobbi Childers -633.
high game with handicap -Bonnie
Palmateer - 241, most
improved bowler - Marilyn
Childers - average went up 17
pins over last year's average.
High team series scratch -Gateway
- 2372. high team
series with handicap : Buck
nums - 2837, high team game
scratch - M & R Floor Cover
ing - 866, high team game with
handicap - Columbia Basin
Electric Coop - 1008.
Koffee Kup Keglers
May 1.1
Final winners: first place
team: Gutter Dusters - Kay v
Wilson. Billie Doherty and
Judy Rickert.
Second place team: Weary
Wives - Betty Brown, Betty
Snow and Iris Campbell.
High game: scratch - Betty
Snow - 222.
High game: handicap - Zoe
Watts - 249.
High series: scratch - Judy
Rickert - 554.
High series: handicap -Josie
Kindsfather - 616.
High average for the year:
Linda Schultz - 160.
Most improved bowler -Billie
Doherty.
Koffee Kup Keglers
May A
Won Lost
Weary Wives 43 25
Gutter Dusters 43 25
Hi Ho's 37 31
Dregs 35 33
Newcomers 33 35
Pytts 33 35
Three Holers 25 43
Three L's 23 45
High game: Zoe Watts - 209
High series: Alvina Pad
berg - 523
High game: Pytts - 600
High series: Three L's -1.696.
Splits: Roxie Lovgren, 3-10;
Linda Schultz. 2-7: Maude
Hughes. 5-10: and Betty Snow.
2-10.
putting in all those long hours
to keep the farm going. As he
feels less appreciation at
home he may begin to spend
more time away from home,
creating even more distance
between himself and his wife.
It may get so bad that the
couple begins to feel that they
are married in name only.
Both the task-oriented per
son and the time-oriented per
son are prone to worry and
stress, but they worry about
different things. The task
oriented husband may worry
that the job that he is doing
will not be done properly or
completely. He may lose sleep
over something he forgot to do
the day before or something
he is supposed to do the next
day. His time-oriented wife on
the other hand may worry that
she will not get her job done on
time or that there will not be
enough time in the day for all
the things she wants to do. As
she sees time for family or
quiet time with her husband
alone squeezed out of the day,
she may begin to feel helpless
in her situation and even
depressed.
As I mentioned above, farm
life itself demands a certain
amount of task-orientation.
One way of handling the stress
that it produces is for couples
to collaborate on planning the
activities of the day. This
requires talking to each other,
which takes time, but it need
not take inordinate amounts of
time. For example, early in
the day when both persons are
sitting down to breakfast, is a
good time perhaps to discuss
what each will be doing during
the day. whether there will be
time enough for everything
planned, or whether it is
reasonable to assume that
each will be home at a given
time. Even a brief sharing of
plans and activities early in
the day can prevent much
second guessing and distress
later in the day. Communicat
ing with each other during the
day about changes in plans or
delays is also helpful. With the
advent of the CB radio, such a
communication on the farm is
easier now than it used to be.
Finally, if you are a task
oriented person it may be
better once in a while to
actually stop what you are
doing before you may have it
done and pick it up again
tomorrow, rather than work
ing all night on it. For the time
oriented person, it may be
better sometimes to allow
time to enjoy what time is
available for certain activities
even if it is not always as
much as you would like.
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