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THE BULLETIN • WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 14, 2022 A7 DEAR ABBY Write to Dear Abby online at dearabby.com or by mail at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069 Dear Abby: My ex-wife, “Jenny,” and I were together seven years, married for al- most five of them. We have a young child together. We have been divorced for eight months. I have been trying to reconcile with her because she is the love of my life and I want our family to be to- gether. The problem is, since we separated, she has been seeing my ex-best friend, “Mack,” who was the best man at our wedding. I was crushed when I found out. I have tried to show Jenny that Mack is a manipulator and a liar and that he hasn’t been honest with her during their time together. I know that I am clearly the best man for Jenny, our son and our family. However, she continues to see Mack even after his true colors have been shown and after I have done everything to make things right with us and win her back. How should I pro- ceed, knowing she’s making the wrong decision? — Righting A Wrong Dear Righting: Please ac- cept my sympathy because it’s obvious you are hurting. You can’t save your marriage all by yourself. It takes two. Your ex is unwilling to accept that Mack hasn’t been hon- est, and sometimes people must learn the hard way. As much as you’d like to “save” Jenny, she’s going to have to make her own mistakes. Stay close so you can buffer your son if there are stormy seas ahead. If Mack is as bad as you say, their romance likely will not last. Dear Abby: My husband and I have two adult sons, 22 and 20. We helped them become independent by teaching them as teenagers to cook, do their laundry, scrub their bathrooms, vacuum, do dishes, etc. Our oldest moved out a year ago and rented an apart- ment with his 28-year-old girlfriend. A month after he moved, we were invited to their place for dinner. The apartment was a mess. We let our son know they need to spend 15 to 30 minutes every day picking up after them- selves so their days off won’t be spent cleaning. They both work crazy hours. Neither one thinks clean- ing their apartment is im- portant! We have bought them cleaning supplies, a vacuum, a mop, etc., to help them maintain their apart- ment, but they sit unused. Their place is now a total disaster. It pains me to see them live like this. This isn’t how our son was raised. By the way, she is the mother of a 5-year-old who stays with her three days a week. Part of me wants to call CPS because no child should live in these conditions, but I’m hesitant because of my son. He loves her and enjoys living with her. I desperately need advice on how to best handle this. — Fastidious In Washington Dear Fastidious: I under- stand that you are disgusted, but the “best way to handle this” would be to step back and stay out of it. This is how your son has chosen to live — for now. If he is bothered by the mess, he’s capable of stepping in to rectify it. You shouldn’t call CPS unless the child is in imminent danger. YOUR HOROSCOPE By Georgia Nicols Stars show the kind of day you’ll have DYNAMIC | POSITIVE | AVERAGE | SO-SO | DIFFICULT MOON ALERT: After 1 a.m. PST today, there are no restrictions to shop- ping or important decisions. The Moon is in Virgo. HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR WEDNESDAY, DEC. 14, 2022: You are enthusiastic and curious, and you love change. You need to be stimulated! You are also very playful! This is a year of change for you, which means you need to be flexible. Let go of anything that holds you back. Seek out new opportunities and trust your intuition. ARIES (March 21-April 19) Do not get sucked into someone else’s agenda or their persuasive propaganda today, especially regarding politics, religion or racial issues. Think for yourself . It’s easy to be seduced by someone who is convincing but who might be completely out to lunch. Trust yourself. Tonight: Listen. TAURUS (April 20-May 20) Don’t make important decisions today about inheritances, shared property or debt, because there’s an element of confusion. Postpone these decisions for another day. This is a great day to schmooze and have fun with others, especially people who are “different.” Tonight: Learn something. GEMINI (May 21-June 20) Tread carefully today, because you might feel confused about what to do. For example, you might get mixed messages from parents, bosses, partners or close friends. That’s because there is genuine confusion happen- ing . But it’s a great day to socialize at home. Tonight: Check your finances. CANCER (June 21-July 22) If you have doubts about something at work — especially if it’s related to instructions from a supervisor or a boss — then do nothing. Wait until this can be cleared up later . Avoid making a mistake. Your better choice is to have a fun conversation with someone. Tonight: Cooperate. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22) Romance might be disappointing today. Ask yourself if you were clear about what you wanted. Unexpressed expectations almost always lead to disappointment. Fortunately, you might find comfort with a co-worker. A sympathetic ear is helpful. Tonight: Work. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) This is a lovely day to relax and enjoy the company of others in social situations. Accept invitations to go out or meet people for coffee, a drink or happy hour. However, family discussions, especially with parents, might be confusing. Do nothing if you’re unsure about what to do. Tonight: Socialize. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22) Keep a low profile today, because mixed messages might confuse you. Nevertheless, you have a strong need to talk to someone. Be aware that your mind will indulge in fantasies and daydreams. You might even misread a situation. Postpone important decisions. Tonight: Cocoon. SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21) This is a poor day to make important financial decisions, because you might be confused — you might even be deceived. Perhaps you don’t have all the facts. Or perhaps the information you have is erroneous. The thing is, you don’t know. A conversation with a friend will help you. Tonight: Stay busy. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21) This is the perfect day to play hooky, because your energy level is lower. Yes, you need the day off. It’s also easy to feel discouraged or beaten down by situations happening around you. Fortunately, a boss or parent might reassure you. Take it easy today. Pamper yourself. Tonight: Check your money. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) You might feel full of self-doubt today or question what you’re doing. Take this seriously. We all have days like this. Meanwhile, you can enjoy a lovely conversation with someone from another culture or someone who is “different.” Trust your intuition. Tonight: Conversations. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18) If talking to friends and groups today, avoid making a financial commitment, which you will be tempted to do. Don’t do it. There’s a lot of fuzzy thinking going on today. And for your sign, it could impact you finan- cially. Instead, relax and converse with someone about your ideas. Do not commit. Tonight: Do research. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20) It’s easy to get mixed signals or misread what bosses, parents or people in authority want from you today. Since this is the case, don’t vol- unteer for anything. Don’t agree to anything important. Remember: What the large print giveth, the small print taketh away. Enjoy schmoozing with a friend. Tonight: Relax. TODAY IN HISTORY By The Associated Press Today is Wednesday, Dec. 14, the 348th day of 2022. There are 17 days left in the year. Today’s Highlight in History: On Dec. 14, 2020, the Electoral College confirmed Joe Biden as the nation’s next president, rat- ifying his November victory in a state-by-state repudiation of Pres- ident Donald Trump’s refusal to concede he had lost; electors gave Biden 306 votes to Trump’s 232. In 1799, the first president of the United States, George Washing- ton, died at his Mount Vernon, Va., home at age 67. In 1819, Alabama joined the Union as the 22nd state. In 1861, Prince Albert, husband of Queen Victoria, died at Windsor Castle at age 42. In 1911, Norwegian explorer Roald Amundsen and his team became the first men to reach the South Pole, beating out a British expedi- tion led by Robert F. Scott. In 1939, the Soviet Union was ex- pelled from the League of Nations for invading Finland. In 1961, a school bus was hit by a passenger train at a crossing near Greeley, Colo., killing 20 students. In 1964, the U.S. Supreme Court, in Heart of Atlanta Motel v. United States, ruled that Congress was within its authority to enforce the Civil Rights Act of 1964 against ra- cial discrimination by private busi- nesses (in this case, a motel that refused to cater to Blacks). In 1981, Israel annexed the Golan Heights, which it had seized from Syria in 1967. In 1985, former New York Yankees outfielder Roger Maris, who’d hit 61 home runs during the 1961 sea- son, died in Houston at age 51. In 1986, the experimental aircraft Voyager, piloted by Dick Rutan and Jeana Yeager, took off from Edwards Air Force Base in Califor- nia on the first non-stop, non-refu- eled flight around the world. In 2006, a British police inquiry concluded that the deaths of Prin- cess Diana and her boyfriend, Dodi Fayed, in a 1997 Paris car crash were a “tragic accident.” Atlantic Records founder Ahmet Ertegun died in New York at age 83. In 2020, the largest vaccination campaign in U.S. history began with health workers getting shots on the same day the nation’s COVID-19 death toll hit 300,000. Ten years ago: A gunman with a semi-automatic rifle killed 20 first-graders and six educators at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Conn., then took his own life as police arrived; the 20-year-old had also fatally shot his mother at their home before carrying out the attack on the school. Five years ago: The Federal Communications Commission voted to repeal the Obama-era “net neutrality” rules, a move that gave internet service providers a free hand to slow or block specific websites and apps as they see fit, or charge more for faster speeds. The most serious charge against James Alex Fields, accused of driv- ing into a crowd protesting a white nationalist rally in Charlottesville, Virginia, in August, was upgraded to first-degree murder; a 32-year- old woman, Heather Heyer, died and dozens were injured. One year ago: The House voted to hold former White House chief of staff Mark Meadows in con- tempt of Congress after he ceased to cooperate with the Jan. 6 com- mittee investigating the Capitol insurrection. A federal judge dis- missed a lawsuit that was brought by former President Donald Trump in his attempt to block congres- sional lawmakers from obtaining his tax returns. The U.S. death toll from COVID-19 topped 800,000, according to the count kept by Johns Hopkins University. Golden State Warriors’ Stephen Curry set a new NBA career 3-point record; he hit his 2,974th against the New York Knicks at Madison Square Garden. Authorities in South Car- olina said an autopsy found un- usually severe brain disease in the frontal lobe of Phillip Adams, a for- mer NFL player accused of fatally shooting six people in South Caro- lina before killing himself in April. Today’s Birthdays: Singer-actor Abbe Lane is 90. Actor Hal Wil- liams is 84. Actor-singer Jane Bir- kin is 76. Pop singer Joyce Vincent Wilson is 76. Entertainment execu- tive Michael Ovitz is 76. Actor Dee Wallace is 74. Rock musician Cliff Williams is 73. R&B singer Ronnie McNeir is 71. Rock singer-musician Mike Scott is 64. Singer-musician Peter “Spider” Stacy is 64. Actor Cynthia Gibb is 59. Actor Nancy Valen is 57. Actor Archie Kao is 53. Actor Natascha McElhone is 53. Ac- tor-comedian Michaela Watkins is 51. Actor-comedian Miranda Hart is 50. R&B singer Brian Dalyrimple is 47. Actor KaDee Strickland is 47. Actor Tammy Blanchard is 46. Ac- tor Sophie Monk is 43. Actor-sing- er-musician Jackson Rathbone is 38. Actor Vanessa Hudgens is 34. Rock/R&B singer Tori Kelly is 30. SOCCER | WORLD CUP Moroccan ‘dream’ faces huge test vs. France BY STEVE DOUGLAS Associated Press DOHA, Qatar — Morocco’s improbable, history-making run at the World Cup is about to get its ultimate test. Africa’s first World Cup semifinalist is playing defend- ing champion France and striker Kylian Mbappé, the leader of a new wave of soccer superstars coming out of an era dominated by Lionel Messi and Cristiano Ronaldo. Wednesday’s match has cul- tural and political connota- tions — Morocco was under French rule from 1912-56 — and the outcome is far from the foregone conclusion many would presume by looking at the names of the players and the rankings of the teams. Morocco has exceeded all expectations in Qatar by beat- ing second-ranked Belgium in the group stage and then eliminating European power- houses Spain and Portugal in the knockout phase to reach the semifinals. No African or Arab nation has ever gotten this far. It is one of the biggest sto- ries in the World Cup’s 92-year history and Morocco is not done yet. “I was asked if we can win the World Cup and I said, ‘Why not? We can dream, it doesn’t cost you anything to have dreams,’” said Walid Re- gragui, Morocco’s French-born coach. Defending champions France has just passed its own big test by coming through a tough quarterfinal match Leach Continued from A5 News of him falling gravely ill swept through college foot- ball the past few days and left many who knew him stunned, hoping and praying for Leach’s recovery under grim circum- stances. His impact on all levels of football — from high school to the NFL — over the last two decades runs deep and will continue for years to come. “Mike’s keen intellect and unvarnished candor made him one of the nation’s true coach- ing legends,” Mississippi State President Mark Keenum said. Leach was known for his pass-happy offense, wide-ranging interests — he wrote a book about Native American leader Geronimo, had a passion for pirates and taught a class about insurgent warfare — and rambling, off- the-cuff news conferences. An interview with Leach was as likely to veer off into politics, wedding planning or hypothetical mascot fights as it was to stick to football. He considered Donald Trump a friend before the billionaire businessman ran for president and then campaigned for him in 2016. He traveled all over the world and his curiosity knew no bounds. He most appreci- ated those who stepped out- side of their expertise. “One of the biggest things I admire about Michael Jordan, Martin Meissner /AP Morocco’s players celebrate after a World Cup quarterfinal match against Portugal, at Al Thumama Stadium in Doha, Qatar, on Saturday. against England, on a rare oc- casion when Mbappé was kept quiet. No player has scored more than his five goals in Qatar and it won’t be easy for Mbappé to add to that tally against Mo- rocco, which has yet to con- cede a goal to an opposition player at this World Cup — or indeed in its nine games since Regragui was hired in August. The only goal allowed was an own-goal by defender Nayef Aguerd against Canada in the group stage. Morocco might have some injuries now but Regragui’s game plan relies on team shape and discipline more than any specific individual. “We recovered well. We have good doctors and every day we get good news. No one is ruled out and no one is for certain,” Regragui said Tuesday. “We’ll use the best team possible.” The Morocco coach said his team is ready to “change the mentality” of Africa, and he’s told his players not to settle for anything less than the top prize. “We’re going to fight to move on, for the African nations, for the Arab world,” he said. The key to winning the game, the coach said, will be Morocco’s “team spirit” and the support of the crowd at Al Bayt Stadium, where French President Emmanuel Macron is set to be in attendance along with tens of thousands of green-and-red-clad Morocco fans. It will feel like a home game for Morocco’s players, which might level things up even more. “We have the best fans in the world along with Argentines and Brazilians. They’re peo- ple who come from anywhere in the world to support their country,” Regragui said. “We’re going to play like being at home and that’s the most im- portant thing in the world.” he got condemned a lot for playing baseball. I completely admired that,” Leach told The Associated Press last spring. Leach’s teams were con- sistent winners at programs where success did not come easy. And his quarterbacks put up massive passing statistics, running a relatively simple of- fense called the Air Raid that he did not invent but certainly mastered. As much as Leach enjoyed digging into topics other than football, he was excellent at the X’s and O’s. Six of the 20 best passing seasons in major college foot- ball history were by quarter- backs who played for Leach, including four of the top six. Calling plays from a folded piece of paper smaller than an index card, Leach turned pass- ers such as B.J. Symons (448.7 yards per game), Graham Har- rell (438.8), Connor Halliday (430.3) and Anthony Gordon (429.2) into record-setters and Heisman Trophy contenders. Leach also had a penchant for butting heads with author- ity, and he wasn’t shy about criticizing players he felt were not playing with enough toughness. A convergence of those traits cost Leach his first head coaching job. He went 84-43 with the Red Raiders, never having a losing season at the Big 12 school and reaching No. 2 in the country in 2008 with a team that went 11-2 and matched a school record for victories. But he was fired by Texas Tech in December 2009 after being accused of mistreating a player, Adam Jones — the son of former ESPN announcer and NFL player Craig James — who had suffered a concus- sion. He clashed with his bosses instead of apologizing for the conflict, and eventually sued Texas Tech for wrongful ter- mination. The school was pro- tected by state law, but Leach never stopped trying to fight that case. He also filed a law- suit against ESPN and Craig James that was later dismissed. Leach was out of coaching for two seasons. He and his wife, Sharon, bought a home in Key West, Florida, where he spent time riding his bike around town and knocking back drinks at the local bars. He returned to coaching but never gave up that beloved home in the Keys. Leach landed in the Pac-12 at Washington State in 2012. After three losing seasons, the Cougars soon looked very much like his Texas Tech teams. In 2018, Washing- ton State went 11-2, setting a school record for victories, and was ranked as high as No. 7 in the country. Leach moved to the South- eastern Conference in 2020, taking over at Mississippi State. 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