The BulleTin • Thursday, OcTOBer 13, 2022 A7
DEAR ABBY
Write to Dear Abby online at dearabby.com
or by mail at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069
Dear Abby: We recently
found out my 19-year-old
daughter is pregnant. This is
her first boyfriend, and she is
absolutely smitten with him.
He has asked her to marry
him, and we are excited and
happy for her, but there is
one thing we are having a
hard time with: I am almost
certain he is cheating on her.
They live with us, so I can
see the signs — he says he’s
working late, and several
times even told her he had
to work all night. He’s always
on his phone, and he never
allows her to see it. He keeps
it on silent and face down.
When he gets a text message
(which is often), he immedi-
ately says he has to go to the
bathroom. Then he stays in
there for about a half-hour.
I’ve tried talking to her
about what I’m seeing, but
she gets mad at me. She says
she trusts him and insists he
would never cheat on her. It’s
painful to watch this happen-
ing to her, and I don’t know
how to handle it. Should I
continue bringing it up or let
her find out on her own?
— Knows All Too Well
Dear Knows: You have
already brought it up. Your
daughter should not rush
into marriage just because
she is pregnant, if that’s her
intention. Because her boy-
friend is living with you, he’s
likely not mature or finan-
cially stable enough to be
married to anyone. (What do
his parents think about this?)
I was tempted to advise
you to hire a private investi-
gator to find out if the young
man is really working late
or all night, but I’m not sure
you need to go to that ex-
pense. The truth will even-
tually reveal itself. In the
meantime, give your daugh-
ter plenty of emotional sup-
port because she is going to
need it, and probably more.
Dear Abby: I married my
high school sweetheart in
1967. In 1979, after 12 years
of marriage, we refinanced
our mortgage so we could
add a room. During the credit
check, it was brought to my at-
tention that my wife had bor-
rowed $14,000 and opened a
secret mailbox in a different
town to hide it from me.
The problem was, and still
is, that she has refused for 52
years to tell me what it was
for. Needless to say, my trust
in her was shaken. She had no
drinking, gambling or drug
problems. I must have asked
her a thousand times what she
needed the money for, and
still no answer. Our marriage
went downhill, I had an affair,
and we separated.
In 1990, we got back to-
gether, but it wasn’t the same.
The kids were grown, so four
years later we divorced. I’m
75 now, remarried 20 years
ago, and I still can’t figure
out why she couldn’t tell me
the truth to save our mar-
riage. (Abortion keeps pop-
ping into my mind.) A day
does not go by that it doesn’t
enter my mind even all these
years later. My kids are es-
tranged because all they
know is that I had an affair. I
suppose I will be wondering
until my dying day. Advice?
— Still In The Dark
Dear Still: What your ex-
wife needed that money for
is anybody’s guess. She may
have used it to bail out a
friend who was in trouble.
She also could have been
paying off a blackmailer.
The possibilities are so var-
ied that guessing her motive
could be a parlor game.
My advice to you is to fi-
nally let the past stay in the
past and quit upsetting your-
self over something you will
never get a straight answer
about. There are few more
effective ways to diminish
the joys of the present than
to do what you are doing.
YOUR HOROSCOPE
By Georgia Nicols
Stars show the kind of day you’ll have
dynaMic | POsiTiVe | aVeraGe | sO-sO | diFFiculT
MOON ALERT: after 1:15 a.m. edT today, there are no restrictions to
shopping or important decisions. The Moon is in Gemini.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR THURSDAY, OCT. 13, 2022: you are
hardworking and intelligent, and you have strong opinions. Justice and fair
play are important to you. you are also witty and entertaining! This year is
slower paced. it will give you a chance to rejuvenate your energies. Focus
on business and personal relationships to discover what makes you happy.
ARIES (March 21-April 19)
This is a great day to take a short trip, because you will enjoy seeing
your surroundings. Whatever you do will probably expand your experience
of the world. Tonight: serious discussions.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
This is an excellent day for business and commerce, because you
might boost your earnings or you might buy something that you like that
increases your assets. it’s a good day to ask for a raise. Tonight: Work hard.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
Today the Moon is in your sign dancing with lucky Jupiter, which
makes you optimistic and upbeat! you will enjoy hanging out with friends
as well as members of clubs. romance with someone older or more estab-
lished might begin. Make fun plans. Tonight: socialize!
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
Family discussions with someone older or in a position of authority
will benefit you today. Perhaps you will get approval for a loan or a mort-
gage. something related to the wealth of others (including a bank) can
benefit your home or your real estate. Tonight: entertain at home.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)
This is a good day to talk to older people or people in authority, be-
cause this discussion will go well and you might get what you need — per-
haps advice or practical or financial assistance. in fact, a friend or a group is
ready to support you now. (sounds good.) Tonight: serious plans.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
you impress people because not only do you appear to be success-
ful and affluent, you’re approachable. Meanwhile, this is a solid financial
day for you. negotiations will go well, especially for the long-term future. a
mentor at work might help you. Tonight: sensible financial decisions.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
Travel if you can, because you want a change of scenery. you want
to feel that you’re doing something to expand your world and make your
life more exciting. This is a good day for important discussions about ro-
mance or your kids. Tonight: Practical ideas.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)
do your homework and work behind the scenes, because it will ben-
efit you, especially in terms of family or home issues. indeed, the support
you need from others — whether it’s a partner, close friend or a financial in-
stitution — will be forthcoming. Get your ducks in a row! Tonight: solitude.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
you will enjoy the company of others today, especially someone
older or more serious. This person might have advice for you, especially
about your long-term goals for the future. Their advice also might benefit
your kids. They might help you regarding a vacation. Tonight: Get advice.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)
your reputation is important to you. respect is important to you.
Today you have this. in fact, you look so good to bosses and ViPs that some
of you will strike up a romance with someone in a position of authority.
Meanwhile, this is a favorable day at work, especially for working in groups
or work-related travel. Tonight: you impress others.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)
This is an excellent day to make future travel plans. you will be realistic
about what is possible and affordable. This same practical approach can help
you in medical, legal and educational matters. Tonight: Make social plans.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
This is a good day to deal with red-tape issues like wills, inheritances,
shared property and insurance issues, because you are in a solid, realistic
frame of mind. Furthermore, you won’t overlook details. Family will be sup-
portive. Tonight: Finances benefit you.
Ranking
TODAY
IN HISTORY
Continued from A5
By The Associated Press
Today is Thursday, Oct. 13, the
286th day of 2022. There are 79
days left in the year.
Today’s Highlight in History:
On Oct. 13, 2010, rescuers in chile
using a missile-like escape capsule
pulled 33 men one by one to fresh
air and freedom 69 days after they
were trapped in a collapsed mine
a half-mile underground.
in 1775, the united states navy
had its origins as the continental
congress ordered the construc-
tion of a naval fleet.
in 1792, the cornerstone of the
executive mansion, later known
as the White house, was laid by
President George Washington
during a ceremony in the district
of columbia.
in 1932, President herbert hoover
and chief Justice charles evans
hughes laid the cornerstone for
the u.s. supreme court building
in Washington.
in 1943, italy declared war on Ger-
many, its one-time axis partner.
in 1960, the Pittsburgh Pirates
won the World series, defeating
the new york yankees in Game 7,
10-9, with a home run hit by Bill
Mazeroski.
in 1972, a uruguayan chartered
flight carrying 45 people crashed
in the andes; survivors resorted to
feeding off the remains of some of
the dead in order to stay alive until
they were rescued more than two
months later.
in 1974, longtime television host
ed sullivan died in new york city
at age 73.
in 1999, in Boulder, colorado,
the JonBenet ramsey grand jury
was dismissed after 13 months
of work with prosecutors saying
there wasn’t enough evidence to
charge anyone in the 6-year-old
beauty queen’s slaying.
in 2003, the u.n. security council
approved a resolution expanding
the naTO-led peacekeeping force
in afghanistan.
in 2007, secretary of state con-
doleezza rice, after meeting with
human-rights activists in Mos-
cow, told reporters the russian
government under Vladimir Putin
had amassed so much central au-
thority that the power-grab could
undermine its commitment to
democracy.
in 2011, raj rajaratnam (rahj rah-
juh-ruhT’-nuhm), the hedge fund
billionaire at the center of one of
the biggest insider-trading cases
in u.s. history, was sentenced by
a federal judge in new york to 11
years behind bars.
in 2016, Bob dylan was named
winner of the nobel prize in lit-
erature.
Ten years ago: republicans Mitt
romney and Paul ryan rallied
college students in all corners
of all-important Ohio and ham-
mered at President Barack Obama
for going easy on china over un-
fair trade practices; Obama took
precious time off the campaign
trail to practice for the next de-
bate against his GOP rival. actor
and TV host Gary collins, 74, died
in Biloxi, Mississippi.
Five years ago: President donald
Trump accused iran of violating
the 2015 nuclear accord, but did
not pull the u.s. out of the deal
or re-impose nuclear sanctions.
(Trump would pull the u.s. out of
the deal the following May and re-
store harsh sanctions.)
One year ago: u.s. officials said
they would reopen land borders
to nonessential travel starting in
november, ending a 19-month
freeze. The government reported
that another jump in consumer
prices in september sent inflation
up 5.4% from where it was a year
earlier, as tangled global supply
lines continue to create havoc.
Today’s Birthdays: Gospel singer
shirley caesar is 85. actor Me-
linda dillon is 83. singer-musician
Paul simon is 81. Musician robert
lamm (chicago) is 78. country
singer lacy J. dalton is 76. sing-
er-musician sammy hagar is 75.
Model Beverly Johnson is 70. ac-
tor and former nBa star reggie
Theus is 65. sen. Maria cantwell,
d-Wash., is 64. r&B singer cher-
relle is 63. singer/TV personality
Marie Osmond is 63. rock singer
Joey Belladonna is 62. nBa coach
doc rivers is 61. college and Pro
Football hall of Famer Jerry rice
is 60. actor christopher Judge is
58. actor Matt Walsh is 58. ac-
tor Kate Walsh is 55. actor Tisha
campbell-Martin is 54. Olympic
figure skater nancy Kerrigan is 53.
country singer rhett akins is 53.
TV personality Billy Bush is 51. ac-
tor sacha Baron cohen is 51. r&B
singers Brandon and Brian casey
(Jagged edge) are 47. actor Kiele
sanchez is 46. Former nBa all-
star Paul Pierce is 45. dJ Vice is 44.
singer ashanti is 42. r&B singer
lumidee is 42. christian rock
singer Jon Micah sumrall (Kut-
less) is 42. Olympic gold medal
swimmer ian Thorpe is 40. rep.
alexandria Ocasio-cortez, d-n.y.,
is 33. actor caleb Mclaughlin (TV:
“stranger Things”) is 21.
dean Guernsey/The Bulletin
Mountain View’s Hailey Corrigan (21) and Bend’s Charlotte Martin
(34) compete for control during Tuesday’s soccer match in Bend.
Soccer
Continued from A5
That made the Cougars’
win over the Lava Bears all
the more important. The
victory moved them into
sole possession of third place
with three games remaining.
Had they lost, all four teams
would have had the same 2-5
conference record.
With a 1-0 lead at halftime
after a Wigle penalty kick in
the closing minutes of the
first half, the Cougars dis-
cussed how crucial it was to
close out the match.
“We didn’t want to let
them back into the game,”
Erickson said. “It is the same
thing with the playoff race
— don’t let anyone take what
we believe is ours.”
In the second half, Moun-
tain View continued to build
its lead.
After the game was score-
less through the first 30 min-
utes of the second half, soph-
omore Kelsea Bomke scored
on a counter-attack to give
the Cougars a 2-0 lead and a
little breathing room in the
72nd minute.
Mountain View put the
game away minutes later
when Wigle scored her sec-
ond goal of the game off
an assist from sophomore
Grace Romero to put the
Mariners
Cougars up 3-0 with less
than five minutes remaining
in the match.
“I was trying to hit it to
the left side of the goal be-
cause the goalkeeper was on
the right side and I didn’t
want to kick it right at her,”
Wigle said.
It did not seem to matter
where the Lava Bears were
aiming the ball at the goal,
as Mountain View’s senior
goalkeeper Rylee Todd was
there to make several out-
standing saves to keep a
clean sheet.
Erickson called Todd the
best goalkeeper in the con-
ference, while Todd credited
her defense for making her
job fairly easy on Tuesday.
“My defense does most of
the work,” Todd said. “I just
get the hard ones that they
can’t get.”
While the road to a play-
off spot might be challeng-
ing for Bend, it still has three
games remaining against
Ridgeview, Summit and
Redmond to close out the
season.
As for Mountain View,
it has a rather challeng-
ing end to the season with
IMC-leading Summit and
Caldera before finishing off
against Ridgeview.
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nity of his major-league ca-
reer.
Continued from A5
“Robbie never should
The Mariners have been
have gone out there. That’s
a team of extremes this sea- my job,” Sewald said. “That’s
son, rallying for one un-
what I’ve been doing really
likely win after another.
well all season, and to not do
Saturday’s series-clinching,
it was disappointing. I felt
wild-card victory at Toronto like I let down the team. Just
is the best example of that.
got to shake it and get back
But they’ve also been
to work.”
on the wrong side of these
These Mariners have em-
heartbreaking comebacks
braced the idea that they’re
— see the stunning 13-12
a team that never gives up,
loss at Kansas City on Sept.
and they tried to lean on that
25 — and Tuesday’s late
idea in the moments after
collapse will only serve to
the gut punch that was Alva-
heighten concerns about a
rez’s walkoff homer off Ray
Seattle bullpen that appears at Minute Maid Park.
to be running on fumes.
“It stings. It hurts. I think
Andres Munoz, untouch- the main thing about this
able for most of the second
team is we don’t quit,” Gil-
half of the season, allowed a bert said. “We have a ton
two-run home run to Alex
of fight. That’s who we are.
Bregman in the eighth in-
That’s our identity. We’ve
ning, cut-
proven that all
ting the
year, so why
“To
be
honest,
it’
s
all
Mariners’
stop now?
about turning the page We’re going to
lead to 7-5.
In the
keep going. It’s
and coming back on
bottom of
a long series. It
the ninth,
Thursday ready to go.” does hurt, but
Sewald got
we’ll bounce
— Mitch Haniger,
Houston’s
back.”
right fielder
first hitter,
It is a five-
Christian
game series,
Vazquez, to ground out for
and the Mariners do have
the first out. One of Sewald’s their ace, Luis Castillo, ready
biggest mistakes of the in-
and fully rested to start
ning was hitting rookie
Game 2 here Thursday.
David Hensley, pinch-hit-
“Just gotta move on. That’s
ting in the No. 9 spot, with
all you can do,” first base-
an inside fastball on a 3-2
man Ty France said. “It’s over
count.
with. That’s a good baseball
Sewald was able to strike
team over there. On to the
out Jose Altuve on a high
next.”
fastball but then allowed a
After a good day against
single to Jeremy Pena on
Justin Verlander, that was a
a 1-2 slider on the outside
sentiment shared by many
corner. That put two run-
of the Mariners hitters after-
ners on base for Yordan Al-
ward.
varez, one of baseball’s most
“To be honest, it’s all about
imposing sluggers.
turning the page and coming
“I had Pena two strikes,”
back on Thursday ready to
Sewald said, “and didn’t
go,” right fielder Mitch Han-
make the pitch.”
iger said. “It’s not gonna be
That was the last pitch
easy. It’s gonna be tough. But
Sewald threw. Manager Scott we were confident in here
Servais called on Ray, the
we can get the job done. …
veteran left-handed starter. It We know we can beat them.
was Ray’s first relief appear-
We’re right there. We’ll
ance of any kind in two years come back on Thursday
and the first save opportu-
ready to play.”
These guys knew what they
were getting when they signed
up: money. If they thought
world ranking points would
come easily — or even quickly
— that would be the same mis-
guided thinking as Norman
texting Sergio Garcia in Febru-
ary that the PGA Tour couldn’t
ban players “for one day let
alone life.”
PGA Tour suspensions,
backed preliminarily by a fed-
eral court, are in their fourth
month.
As much as Norman talks
about wanting to be part of
golf’s ecosystem, LIV Golf
doesn’t look like the other tours
the OWGR tries to measure.
LIV Golf has only 48-man
fields that play 54 holes with
no cut and with a guarantee of
$120,000 for finishing in last
place (roughly the equivalent of
18th place in Las Vegas). There
is a team element, and whether
that affects a player’s perfor-
mance when he’s out of conten-
tion is irrelevant. No other tour
has that.
“We’ve hit every mark in
their criteria, so for us not to
get points is kind of crazy,”
Bryson DeChambeau said last
week. Remarkably, or maybe
not, no one challenged his
statement because LIV Golf
misses more marks than it hits.
The six main tours that are
part of the OWGR’s technical
committee — which ultimately
will review the LIV Golf appli-
cation — all have primarily 72-
hole events.
There is room for 54-hole
events, but that typically is for
developmental tours, like the
Mena Tour, which few peo-
ple knew existed until last
week. Even when the previous
OWGR formula was used and
such tours awarded minimal
points (four) to the winner, the
minimum was raised slightly
when it was a 72-hole event.
Why it has to be 72 holes is
a separate debate, though the
British Open has been that way
since 1892 and the U.S. Open
since 1898. Some might call
that precedent.
However, it’s worth noting
that since 1983 — when the
PGA Tour was able to keep
complete records — players
who had at least a share of the
54-hole lead went on to win
39% of the time. The same per-
centage applies to majors.
Norman, of all people,
would not be surprised by that.
And so the question be-
comes: Is it equitable to treat
LIV Golf the same way the
OWGR measures all the other
tours that predominantly have
72-hole events with a cut?
This is what should take
time — maybe not a year, but
certainly not overnight.
Norman isn’t doing him-
self any favors with a not-so-
clever attempt to expedite the
process by aligning with the
Mena Tour (an acronym for
Middle East and North Africa).
The Mena Tour entered the
OWGR family in 2016 as a de-
velopmental tour with 54-hole
events. It’s so far down the lad-
der that its leading players now
have access to the Asian Devel-
opment Tour.
Norman gave the players
an update in August in which
he claimed the OWGR is in-
accurate without including
LIV Golf. He had the players
sign a letter in September to
the OWGR saying that for it to
maintain trust, it should award
points retroactively.
And in October, the LIV
golfers became official mem-
bers of the Mena Tour. Nor-
man thought they should get
world ranking points immedi-
ately. The OWGR said it would
need more than a 48-hour no-
tice.
“When they keep holding it
back, they’re going to just keep
playing a waiting game where
we’re going to keep dropping
down in the rankings to where
our points won’t ever matter,”
DeChambeau said.
That much is true. There
could be as few as six LIV Golf
players left in the top 50 by the
end of the year, and the num-
ber will shrink when it starts
up its 14-event schedule in
2023. Still to be determined is if
LIV Golf will adjust its format
(perhaps by introducing a cut).
Even then, the new formula
is not favorable to smaller
fields. The PGA Tour not only
has most of the top players, it
has depth. LIV Golf players will
still be at a disadvantage when
it gets world ranking points.