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DEAR ABBY
Write to Dear Abby online at dearabby.com
or by mail at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069
Dear Abby: My wife has
been away for a while car-
ing for her ill parents. Be-
cause I was alone, I decided
to experiment with wearing
women’s clothes and found
that I really enjoyed wear-
ing leggings. They make
very comfortable pajamas. I
also found that sports bras
not only provide compres-
sion that feels good, but also
serve a purpose because I
have rather enlarged breasts.
Should I hide everything and
put away my leggings and
bras, or should I let her in on
some of my secrets?
— Dressed Up In California
Dear Dressed Up: I’m not
sure what other “secrets” you
have been hiding, but if they
involve cross-dressing, you’re
not the only man who has
discovered he enjoys wearing
women’s clothes. Your rea-
sons for wanting to wear a
sports bra and leggings seem
practical. I see no reason to
try to hide it from your wife.
Dear Abby: I’m a widow. I
totaled my car four months
ago and asked a friend,
“Stan,” for the type of help
my husband would have pro-
vided. Stan was great and did
so much. I felt bad he refused
my offer of money, so one
day I took him out to lunch.
A few weeks later, he in-
vited me to dinner and took
me to my favorite steakhouse.
He and his longtime girlfriend
were parting ways because
she was selling her home and
moving to live with her son.
We started going out to eat
once or twice a week.
Abby, after two months,
he disappeared! I think I fell
in love with him without
even realizing it. Now he’s
gone every weekend, and I’m
in so much pain. How could
I fall in love so easily?
— Wasn’t Expecting That
Dear Wasn’t Expecting:
You were vulnerable, and
Stan was there and seemed
willing to step in and fill the
void left by your husband’s
death. That’s how you fell in
love with someone who was,
I assume, a longtime trusted
friend.
Stan may have met some-
one, have other commit-
ments or felt unready to
make one with you. That
he hasn’t given you a reason
for his disappearance is dis-
appointing, but it happens.
Please don’t beat yourself up
over this. You did nothing
wrong. These disappoint-
ments are a part of life.
Dear Abby: I’ve been
married to a verbally abu-
sive woman for 49 years. To
the outside world she seems
perfect, but behind closed
doors she’s nasty. She over-
reacts angrily to the tiniest
problem and jumps down
my throat when I ask her the
simplest question. She com-
plains about my poor mem-
ory and hearing. I am 75 and
in good shape except for a
belly, which she often makes
fun of. I have recommended
couples therapy, but she re-
fuses to go. Please help me.
— Exhausted In Arizona
Dear Exhausted: Therapy
would be a good idea. Be-
cause your wife refuses to go,
it might benefit you to talk to
a mental health professional.
While it won’t solve her prob-
lems, it could help you get to
the bottom of yours. Chief
among them would be figur-
ing out the reason you have
tolerated your wife’s abuse for
nearly half a century, and de-
ciding what, if anything, to do
about it. Please don’t wait.
YOUR HOROSCOPE
By Georgia Nicols
Stars show the kind of day you’ll have
dynamiC | pOsiTiVe | aVeraGe | sO-sO | diFFiCulT
MOON ALERT: There are no restrictions to shopping or important deci-
sions today. The moon is in leo.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR WEDNESDAY, SEPT. 21, 2022: you
love the thrill of sensations. you are fascinated by things that are unusual,
exotic and sometimes dark because you like the stimulus. This year is the
last year of a nine-year cycle for you, which means it’s time to take stock. let
go of whatever holds you back.
ARIES (March 21-April 19)
This is a wonderful day for a date or any kind of romantic connec-
tion. it’s a fantastic day to socialize and enjoy playful activities with kids.
artists will be productive because they have visionary ideas plus the energy
to follow through on what they see. Tonight: enjoy!
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
you have two choices today: you can hunker down and enjoy your-
self in a very pleasant way at home. you also might get busy with home
improvements. Or you can choose to entertain at home and have the gang
over. it’s a great day for a meeting at your home or any kind or congrega-
tion. Tonight: Good vibes.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
This is a powerful day for those of you who sell, market, teach, act or
write, because you are enthusiastic and upbeat, and you have lots of mental
energy. you’ll have no trouble convincing others to go along with your ideas.
you will enjoy entertaining at home as well. Tonight: upbeat conversations.
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
This is an excellent day for business and commerce because you
are confident about financial matters. Furthermore, you feel bold and
adventurous about entertaining new opportunities. Think before you act,
because there’s a tendency to go overboard. nevertheless, you’re in the
groove! Tonight: money plans.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)
Today the moon is in your sign dancing beautifully with fiery
mars and lucky Jupiter. Things couldn’t get better! This astro combo makes
you feel energetic, proactive, friendly and upbeat with everyone you meet.
people want to be in your presence! Tonight: you shine!
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
This is a strong day with the sun and fair Venus in your sign.
(actually, it’s an excellent day to buy wardrobe items for yourself.) you will
enjoy schmoozing with others or, alternatively, you will also enjoy some
quiet solitude to contemplate your navel. Tonight: solitude.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
enjoy schmoozing with friends, members of groups and organiza-
tions, because this is a lovely day to socialize. Very likely, you are ready to greet
people from your past — old friends as well as ex-partners. you’re willing to
entertain ambitious ideas because you feel confident. Tonight: set goals.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)
you look mahvellous dahling! everyone is impressed with you
because you exude confidence and positive energy. meanwhile, you’re en-
joying an excellent rapport with friends, especially creative, artistic people.
Why not share your hopes and dreams for the future with someone to get
their feedback? Tonight: you are noticed.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
you are the traveler of the zodiac, and today is an excellent day to
either travel or make plans to travel in the future. (all the things you love to
do.) you might find that a partner or close friend is keen on your ideas. per-
haps even a group will jump on board for a future holiday. Tonight: explore!
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)
Travel for pleasure appeals to you now; however, today, you might
be wise to deal with issues related to shared property, inheritances, insur-
ance disputes or the wealth of someone else. This is because you will be
lucky in these dealings. you’ll come out smelling like a rose! Tonight: Check
your finances.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)
you are a networker extraordinaire, and today your ability to inter-
act with members of the general public is tops! relations with children will
be excellent. you also will enjoy schmoozing, because you inspire people
today! Tonight: Cooperate.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
This is a productive day for you, because no matter what you do,
people will be supportive of you. in fact, whatever you do might indirectly
boost your earnings or lead to increased wealth in the future. you will enjoy
helping someone who needs it. Tonight: Work.
San Francisco
49ers
defensive
end Samson
Ebukam (56)
and defensive
end Kerry
Hyder Jr.
(92) pressure
Seattle
Seahawks
quarterback
Geno Smith
(7) Sunday in
Santa Clara,
California.
TODAY
IN HISTORY
By The Associated Press
Today is Wednesday, sept. 21, the
264th day of 2022. There are 101
days left in the year.
Today’s Highlights in History:
On Sept. 21, 1981, the senate
unanimously confirmed the nom-
ination of sandra day O’Connor
to become the first female justice
on the supreme Court.
in 1792, the French national
Convention voted to abolish the
monarchy.
in 1937, “The hobbit,” by J.r.r.
Tolkien, was first published by
George allen & unwin, ltd. of
london.
in 1938, a hurricane struck parts
of new york and new england,
causing widespread damage and
claiming some 700 lives.
in 1957, the legal mystery-drama
“perry mason,” starring raymond
Burr, premiered on CBs-TV.
in 1961, the first Boeing Ch-47
Chinook military helicopter made
its first hovering flight.
in 1973, the u.s. senate con-
firmed henry Kissinger to be sec-
retary of state.
in 1982, nFl players began a 57-
day strike, their first regular-sea-
son walkout ever.
in 1985, in north Korea and
south Korea, family members
who had been separated for de-
cades were allowed to visit each
other as both countries opened
their borders in an unprece-
dented family-reunion program.
in 1989, hurricane hugo crashed
into Charleston, south Carolina.
Twenty-one students in alton,
Texas, died when their school bus,
hit by a soft-drink delivery truck,
careened into a water-filled pit.
in 1996, president Bill Clinton
signed the defense of marriage
act denying federal recognition
of same-sex marriages, a day af-
ter saying the law should not be
used as an excuse for discrimi-
nation, violence or intimidation
against gays and lesbians. (al-
though never formally repealed,
doma was effectively overturned
by u.s. supreme Court decisions
in 2013 and 2015.)
in 2001, Congress again opened
the federal coffers to those
harmed by terrorism, providing
$15 billion to the airline industry,
which was suffering mounting
economic losses since the sept.
11 attacks.
in 2011, Josh Fattal and shane
Bauer, two americans jailed in
iran as spies, left Tehran for the
Gulf state of Oman, closing a
high-profile drama that brought
more than two years of hope and
heartbreak for their families. The
state of Texas executed lawrence
russell Brewer for his role in the
gruesome dragging death of
James Byrd Jr.
Ten years ago: a man was bitten
multiple times after leaping from
a monorail into a tiger exhibit at
the Bronx Zoo in new york.
Five years ago: millions on
puerto rico faced the prospect of
weeks or months without power
in the aftermath of hurricane
maria. president donald Trump
and Japanese prime minister
shinzo abe met on the sidelines
of the u.n. General assembly to
discuss the ongoing crisis involv-
ing north Korea. Facebook said
it would provide congressional
investigators with the contents of
3,000 ads that had been bought
by a russian agency; it had al-
ready released the ads to federal
authorities investigating russian
interference in the u.s. presiden-
tial election.
One year ago: a coroner con-
firmed that human remains
found in remote northern Wyo-
ming were those of Gabby petito,
a 22-year-old who disappeared
while on a cross-country road trip
with a boyfriend, Brian laundrie.
(laundrie’s body would be found
in a Florida swamp in October;
the FBi later said he had admitted
killing petito in a notebook that
was discovered hear his body.)
Today’s Birthdays: author-co-
median Fannie Flagg is 81. pro-
ducer Jerry Bruckheimer is 79.
musician don Felder is 75. author
stephen King is 75. Basketball
hall of Famer artis Gilmore is 73.
actor-comedian Bill murray is 72.
movie producer-writer ethan Coen
is 65. actor-comedian dave Cou-
lier is 63. actor david James elliott
is 62. actor serena scott Thomas
is 61. actor nancy Travis is 61. ac-
tor rob morrow is 60. actor an-
gus macfadyen is 59. retired mlB
all-star Cecil Fielder is 59. actor
Cheryl hines is 57. Country singer
Faith hill is 55. rock musician Tyler
stewart (Barenaked ladies) is 55.
Country singer ronna reeves is 54.
actor-talk show host ricki lake is
54. rapper dave (de la soul) is 54.
actor Billy porter is 53. actor al-
fonso ribeiro is 51. actor luke Wil-
son is 51. actor paulo Costanzo is
44. actor Bradford anderson is 43.
actor autumn reeser is 42. TV per-
sonality nicole richie is 41. actor
maggie Grace is 39. actor Joseph
mazzello is 39. actor ryan Guzman
is 35. actor nikolas Brino is 24.
scot Tucker/ap
NFL
Offense worries Seahawks
after 6 quarters of failure
BY TIM BOOTH
associated press
RENTON, Wash. — The concerns about the
Seattle Seahawks going into the season centered
on the offense.
Sunday provided an example of why those
worries were legitimate. The Seahawks’ strug-
gles continued after an unproductive second
half during their season-opening win over
Denver.
Seattle’s 27-7 loss to San Francisco proba-
bly should have been expected. Coming off
the emotional high of beating the Broncos and
Russell Wilson in his return to Seattle, a let-
down was probable.
No matter Seattle’s emotional state, the of-
fense has clear problems. Seattle hasn’t scored
an offensive point since the second quarter of
the opener. Its run game is mostly nonexistent.
Geno Smith’s performance at quarterback has
been serviceable, but also lacking the big plays
the Seahawks relied upon in the Wilson era.
And when Seattle finally put together a sus-
tained drive in the second quarter against the
49ers, the baffling decision to call a pass by
running back DeeJay Dallas blew up on the Se-
ahawks and ended with a deflating end-zone
interception.
“There’s some real solid things, but we’ve
got to get the running game a more active part
of the game, and in this game we needed to
take what they were giving us more so,” Seattle
coach Pete Carroll said Monday.
Carroll said his team should have let Smith
throw more often with the 49ers focused on
stopping the run. He said there was concern
about how rookie offensive tackles Charles
Cross and Abraham Lucas would hold up
against the 49ers’ pass rush.
“We didn’t want to open it up and expose
the tackles any more than we had to. So that all
kind of fit together,” Carroll said. “But they’re
holding up. They did a nice job in general. Ge-
Harrison
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Smith thought the finish to
the Fresno State game, cou-
pled with a determined week
of practice working on elim-
inating dropped passes, paid
off against Montana State.
“There was an emphasis all
week, getting locked in with
our eyes, catching the ball,”
Smith said. “He played really
well on Saturday. Obviously,
the end of the Fresno game
when he made a couple plays,
I think that helped his confi-
dence.”
no’s in command of what’s going on, he’s real
accurate with his decision-making. I think it’s
just more freely taking advantage of what’s go-
ing on rather than being concerned about our
ability to hold up.”
What’s working
The Seahawks’ red-zone and goal-line defense
has been exceptional. San Francisco was 2 of 5
on red-zone trips on Sunday and 2 of 4 inside
the Seattle 10. In the opener, the Seahawks held
Denver to 0 for 4 in the red zone and 0 for 3 in-
side the 10. That’s still a lot of scoring chances Se-
attle is surrendering, but it is an early positive.
What needs help
Stopping the run has been a problem. Den-
ver rushed for 103 yards in Week 1 and the
49ers followed up with 189 yards rushing on
Sunday. Dating to last season, the Seahawks are
4-8 in games when opponents have rushed for
at least 100 yards.
Stock up
Rookie cornerback Tariq Woolen looks like
the next top defensive back to come through
Seattle. Woolen appeared to allow only one
catch in coverage against the 49ers, cleaned up
the penalty issues he had in the first week of the
season and blocked a field goal that Michael
Jackson returned for a touchdown.
Stock down
Offensive coordinator Shane Waldron
seemed to make all the right calls for the first 30
minutes of the season opener against Denver.
In the 90 minutes since, Seattle’s offense been
a mess. In the second half against Denver and
both halves against San Francisco on Sunday,
the Seahawks have gained a total of 250 yards
on 68 plays, a 3.7-yard average. Seattle has held
the ball for barely 30 minutes over those six
quarters.
“There was an emphasis
all week, getting locked in
with our eyes, catching the
ball. (Tre’Shaun Harrison)
played really well on
Saturday. Obviously, the
end of the Fresno game
when he made a couple
plays, I think that helped
his confidence.”
shown prominently to the
team during Sunday’s video
session.
“It’s 21-14, fourth-and-1
and we’re going. If we don’t
get that, it could have been
a whole lot different,” Smith
said. “There’s always play
calls. You could have done
this, or that. I think we scored
almost every time we had the
ball in the game, so I didn’t
give (offensive coordinator
Brian) Lindgren that hard of
a time.”
— Oregon State head coach
Jonathan Smith
Back to college
This week marks the return
of students to Oregon State for
fall quarter. It’s always an in-
teresting week for the football
team, which has settled into a
routine since early August of
nothing but football. Now it’s
time to mix classes with foot-
ball practice. One adjustment
is starting practice about an
hour earlier, to adjust for after-
noon class schedules.
In talking to the team this
week about the transition to
school, Smith used his own
experience as student-athlete
at Oregon State.
“Way back my first week of
school, there was a lot going
on Wednesday night, Thurs-
day night, Friday night,” Smith
said, smiling. “We addressed
that a little bit. I think we’ve
got a very mature group that
knows we’re keeping the main
thing, the main thing.”
Fourth-and-oh-no
It’s become somewhat auto-
matic for Oregon State. Fourth
and short, and into the game
comes Jack Colletto to get the
first down. Which was the
case Saturday against Mon-
tana State during a fourth-
and-1 situation during the sec-
ond quarter.
Colletto lined up at fullback
for the play. Instead of the ball
going to Colletto, quarter-
back Chance Nolan took one
step to his right and pitched
to running back Damien
Martinez. The freshman bob-
bled the pitch, but a fortunate
bounce put the ball immedi-
ately back into his hands, re-
sulting in a 17-yard gain.
Smith said the play was
Briefly
Oregon State will wear or-
ange uniforms against USC
on Saturday. … OSU is selling
500 standing room tickets for
the USC game. They’re on sale
at the school’s website, osub-
eavers.com. … The 68-28 win
over Montana State allowed
Oregon State to liberally use
backups. Among those who
caught Smith’s eye were re-
ceivers John Dunmore Jr. and
Jimmy Valsin, quarterback
Ben Gulbranson and offen-
sive lineman Tanner Miller.
… Smith said he probably
won’t be reliving many of the
USC hits from Oregon State’s
past, namely the upset wins of
2006 and 2008. He says play-
ers are aware of what’s hap-
pened through social media.
“They understand that it really
comes down to 60 minutes on
this Saturday. That’s what re-
ally we’re focused on,” Smith
said.
France
kind of just direction with my
hands.”
After being bothered by
nagging injuries coming out
of the All-Star break, sapping
his production, France has
felt out of sorts at times at the
plate in recent weeks. He hit a
two-run homer in the opening
game of the series but had just
a .154/.170/.327 slash line with
only eight hits — three singles,
three doubles, two homers —
in his last 53 plate appearances
coming into Monday with no
walks and eight strikeouts.
With Eugenio Suarez on
the 10-day injured list with a
broken index finger and Julio
Rodriguez and Mitch Haniger
fighting through back sore-
ness, the Mariners need France
to return to his All-Star form.
“I thought his at-bats were
really good,” manager Scott
Servais said. “It was great to
see.”
France is nearing his own
kind of 20-20 club. He now
has 20 homers and has also
been hit by pitches 19 times
this season.
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He took it into the game
and could feel the difference
not just in the pitches that he
hit but in the pitches out of
the zone that he didn’t chase,
which had been a problem of
late.
“When I’m barreling fast-
balls and when I’m laying off
like good pitcher’s pitches, if
I’m able to take those then
I’m usually synced up and
on time,” he said. “The rest is