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DEAR ABBY
Write to Dear Abby online at dearabby.com
or by mail at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069
Dear Abby: My husband
and I are newlyweds and
share an apartment with an-
other couple because we ran
into financial difficulties, and
this was our only option. The
problem is the other couple
has two dogs they expect us
to take care of while they’re
at work.
My husband and I get
home two hours earlier than
they do in the evening, and
they have become accus-
tomed to our generosity in
occasionally taking the dogs
out and walking them. They
now expect us to do it every
day, and get angry and nasty
if we don’t. Please help.
— In the Doghouse in Georgia
Dear In the Doghouse:
You and your roommates ap-
pear to have a communica-
tion problem. Speak up. Tell
them you dislike their palm-
ing off the responsibility for
walking their animals and
you won’t be doing it any-
more.
Then remind them that
while you were willing to do
an occasional favor, you do
not appreciate their attitude
of entitlement. You are not
their built-in dog walkers.
You only have to occupy the
“doghouse” if you allow your-
self to be put in one.
Dear Abby: I have never
told anyone about this. I was
molested by my pastor when
I was 8, and again when I was
14. I see a doctor because of
depression and PTSD. My
doctor doesn’t know, and
I don’t want my family to
know. I don’t even know if
the pastor is still alive. Should
I tell my doctor or just let it
go? I have heard about priests
doing this, but I was going to
a Pentecostal church.
— Male Reader in Kentucky
Dear Male Reader: It is
very important for your men-
tal health that you tell your
doctor everything you have
disclosed to me, because
what happened to you is
likely the cause of your de-
pression and PTSD. Do this,
not only for yourself, but also
because it may help other
young people who belong
to that church and who also
may have been molested by
that predator.
Dear Abby: Is it appropri-
ate to use dental floss in pub-
lic? When my mom eats out,
she uses dental floss while
she is still at the table or while
walking out of the restaurant.
She thinks she’s being dis-
creet, but what she’s doing is
obvious.
When I ask her to stop, she
says she can’t stand having
food in her teeth. I tell her to
go into the restroom or do it
outside, but she does neither
and continues to floss. I’m
hoping she’ll listen to you and
that you will back me up.
— Ellen in the USA
Dear Ellen: I agree that
flossing one’s teeth in public
is unsightly and something
that should be done in pri-
vate. If it becomes necessary,
it should be done in the re-
stroom.
Need I add that if there
is mouth-rinsing, the sink
should be cleaned afterward
and any detritus stuck to the
mirror removed?
YOUR HOROSCOPE
By Georgia Nicols
Ryan Brennecke/The Bulletin
Vehicles park in the vacant lot for sale at the corner of Shevlin Hixon Drive and SW Columbia Street in Bend.
Riverbend
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“It may seem like a small
variance change, but it is huge
to all of Bend’s residents who
love and cherish the river
amenities that give Bend it’s
charm,” said Lois Ross, a Bend
resident, in an email to the city.
“That charm and desirability
is fading with each variance
issued for larger and larger
buildings.”
In a letter submitted to the
city, Jonathan Wardle, of Brigh-
ton Development, argued the
need for a higher height limit.
“The 55+ age restricted re-
quirement will have less in-
frastructure impacts, such as
transportation and schools,
as compared to conventional
MOON ALERT: There are no restrictions to shopping or important deci-
sions today. The Moon is in Aquarius.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR SATURDAY, JULY 24, 2021: You have
a dreamy, whimsical quality, and yet you are a logical, practical planner who
is concerned about security. People enjoy your company and often ask for
your advice. You are in a year of learning and teaching. Grab every opportuni-
ty to learn in a formal way or through travel, because whatever you learn will
enrich your life.
ARIES (March 21-April 19)
Today you might have pie-in-the-sky plans for something to do with
your home or your family. Or, perhaps, you will have a heart-to-heart con-
versation with a family member. Whatever happens, you will want to help
others today. Tonight: A friend will surprise you.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
You might spend a lot of time daydreaming and not getting much
these units come onto the de-
sign table,” LaBuda said.
Building more senior hous-
ing adds these kinds of options
to the housing stock, and could
possibly encourage people who
are otherwise staying in their
homes due to a lack of options
to move, which frees up that
housing for other residents, La-
Buda said.
“You need to be thinking
about the housing stock as you
build your community moving
forward,” she said. “If you can
manage to do that for seniors, it
will be accommodating for all.”
The public comment pe-
riod for the height variance is
closed. City staff will review
the application and make a de-
cision in the next 30 to 45 days,
said Russ Grayson, the city’s
community development di-
rector.
The city considers factors
like whether the location and
size of the proposed structure
will have an impact on prop-
erty values and the livability
of the surrounding area, or
whether it would be “harmo-
nious” with the natural envi-
ronment and existing develop-
ment, according to the Bend
development code.
Whether the height devia-
tion is necessary, and whether
it impacts views, also gets con-
sidered.
Once the variance is either
approved or denied, then the
applicant would need to sub-
mit a site plan, Grayson said.
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Reporter: 541-633-2160,
bvisser@bendbulletin.com
Drownings underscore Sandy River dangers
Stars show the kind of day you’ll have
DYNAMIC | POSITIVE | AVERAGE | SO-SO | DIFFICULT
multi-family,” the letter stated.
“This is an appropriate loca-
tion for high density residential
given the concentration of em-
ployment, services, entertain-
ment and recreation.”
Denise LaBuda, the direc-
tor of communications at the
Council on Aging of Central
Oregon, said she understands
people’s concerns about height.
But the need for senior liv-
ing spaces in Central Oregon
is big, she said, and proposed
projects like this could help.
One of the challenges of
finding housing for seniors is
that most homes are not de-
signed to accommodate their
needs, like wider bathroom
doors or lower countertops,
she said.
‘We are very excited to see
BY JACK FORREST
The Oregonian
The Sandy River is a
near-perfect getaway not 20
miles from downtown Port-
land. Hundreds of people
make the trek past Troutdale
to cool off in the river’s milky
waters and relax on its sandy
beaches.
But that indulgence has
proven deadly.
Four Sandy River swim-
mers have drowned in the last
month, including a seven-year-
old girl and her father who
died Tuesday night.
Jenni Fernandez-Suarez, 7,
and Erislandy Fernandez-San-
chez, 42, were near Dabney
State Recreation Area when
the girl’s tube flipped and her
father tried to save her, accord-
ing to the Multnomah County
Sheriff’s Office.
Deputies tried to revive the
father and daughter, who were
rushed to a hospital and pro-
nounced dead, deputies said.
“This weighs heavy on all of
us,” Sheriff Mike Reese said in
a statement. “Losing a child, let
(alone) two family members in
a moment, is unimaginable.”
Jose Pascual, 21, also
drowned near Dabney State
Recreation Area on June 29,
and Jose Marcelino Castil-
lo-Pacheco, 33, drowned at
Oxbow Park on July 10.
Authorities said none of the
drowning victims were wear-
ing life jackets when they were
found.
Rivers throughout the region
present dangers to swimmers.
But the glacier-fed Sandy River
has colder-than-average tem-
peratures, a rocky bottom and
fast waters that make the river
more dangerous than some
others, sheriff’s office spokes-
person Chris Liedle said.
At least one person drowned
in the river last year, and at
least two drowned in 2019. An
Oregonian/OregonLive analy-
sis of summer drownings from
2006 to 2017 includes 12 more
such deaths.
American Medical Response
lifeguards stationed at Glenn
Otto Park near Troutdale have
already helped over 150 people
at risk of drowning this year,
said lifeguard Reid Stubbs.
“Everybody should be in a
life jacket on the river,” Stubbs
said.
“Nobody goes into the river
thinking that they’re going to
be a drowning victim.”
done today. Don’t worry, because we all need days like this. Because your
imagination will be stimulated, you might come up with some creative ideas.
Tonight: Be patient with authority figures.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
Be careful about major purchases today, because you might be influ-
enced by subconscious fantasies. For example, you might buy something ex-
travagantly luxurious and later regret it. Or you might have unrealistic plans
about how to make money. Tonight: Travel plans change.
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
Today Mercury is in your sign dancing with fuzzy Neptune, which
heightens your sympathy for others. It’s easy for you to put yourself in their
place and know exactly how they feel in a particular situation. This is actually
a good thing. Compassion and kindness are so important. Tonight: Check
your finances.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)
Your sympathy for someone today might be so strong that you feel
you will do whatever you can to help them because you are truly selfless. In
other words, you’re prepared to make a sacrifice on behalf of someone else.
Sometimes this is the noble thing to do. Sometimes not. Tonight: Expect a
surprise.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
Today you might idealize a friend, especially someone younger.
Possibly, you will join forces with a charitable group and do what you can to
benefit others who need help. You also might hang out with a friend and just
relax in a dreamy way. Tonight: Protect your pet.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
A discussion with a parent, boss or someone in authority might include
your concern to try to help people who are less fortunate. That’s because you
feel sympathy for others, and you will use your influence or the influence of
someone else if you can to help make a situation better. Tonight: Caution: It’s
an accident-prone time for your kids.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)
Today you might be interested in psyche subjects or anything to
do with the occult. This is because your imagination is heightened and you
are more interested in dreamy fantasies and unusual ideas. Tonight: Explore
something new.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
Documentary
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The event will also feature
live music by Seattle musician
Dain Norman, who will tell his
story of being homeless, and a
panel discussion before Rae-
byne’s film is shown when it
gets dark.
People experiencing home-
lessness in Bend are encour-
aged to attend.
Raebyne’s film follows the
progress of the Seattle camp as
residents and supporters try to
find secure and safe living con-
ditions.
“Everybody in the film has
since moved on from the camp
for various reasons, whether it’s
shelter, getting more long term
help or finding a job,” Raebyne
said.
Raebyne sees similar efforts
forming in Bend.
“I’m really taken aback in a
good way by Bend’s heart, and
that it’s a community of people
coming together and saying
how do we become the solu-
tion,” Raebyne said.
It takes local government of-
Be careful, because Mercury is in one of your Money Houses today, and
yet, because it is dancing with Neptune, it will make you feel great sympathy
for others. You might want to use your money or encourage others to use
theirs to help a third party. Tonight: Guard against accidents.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)
Today you will excel at any kind of work that requires imagination.
You also might become involved in working with animals or pets today,
especially if you can alleviate their suffering. For those of you at work, you
might become a sympathetic ear for a co-worker. Tonight: Stay calm.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
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Your creative abilities are heightened today simply because your
imagination is in overdrive. This means you will excel at any kind of artistic
work or creative efforts that require an appreciation of fantasy and design.
Tonight: You’re in the zone!
ficials, organizations and input
from homeless people to create
any solution, Raebyne said.
“You have to have all those
people coming together to en-
sure that there is a successful
plan in place to support the
survival and the thriving of the
unhoused,” Raebyne said.
541.480.8130
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)
A conversation with a partner or close friend will be mutually sympa-
thetic today because it’s easy for you to appreciate where this other person is
coming from. You will want to be of benefit to them. You will certainly want
to help them if they need help. Tonight: Watch your money.
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A still from the 2019 documentary, “Stories of Us: Camp Second Chance,” shows a woman in a homeless camp
in Seattle.
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Prior to the film, the panel
will discuss current and up-
coming solutions for homeless-
ness in Bend and ways for the
public to get involved.
Panelists include Rae-
byne, Stacey Witte, the exec-
utive director of the homeless
nonprofit REACH; Colleen
Thomas, homeless outreach
coordinator for Deschutes
County and member of the
Homeless Leadership Coali-
tion; and Carolyn Eagan, direc-
tor of economic development
for the city of Bend.
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Reporter: 541-617-7820,
kspurr@bendbulletin.com