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DEAR ABBY
Write to Dear Abby online at dearabby.com
or by mail at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069
Dear Abby: My daughter is
separated from her husband,
who rents a room from me.
Recently, without telling her,
he dropped her from his in-
surance. Now she wants me
to kick him out and she’s mad
at me because I refuse to do it.
She says it shows I approve of
his behavior. She tells me that
he’s no good, he used her and
he hit on her girlfriend. She’s
threatening that if I let him
stay, we won’t be close any-
more.
He pays me on time, and I
hardly ever see him because
he works at night. I need the
rent money, and we have al-
ways gotten along great. I say
this is my house and I should
decide if he leaves. What do
you think?
— In the Middle in Florida
Dear In the Middle: You
need to explain to your daugh-
ter that the reason her hus-
band is living with you is be-
cause you need the income.
Even if you wanted, you might
not be able to kick him out
right away because of what-
ever eviction laws may exist in
your state. This is your house,
and the decision whether to
evict him should be yours.
However, if you continue al-
lowing him to rent from you,
it may cause a breach with
your daughter that could be
permanent.
Dear Abby: I often feel left
out. This past weekend on
Facebook I saw two co-work-
ers and a former co-worker
went on a weekend getaway. I
wasn’t invited. Should I retali-
ate, or must I act like it doesn’t
bother me? This isn’t the first
time friends and co-workers
have done things like this. I’ll
comment on their post —
“looks like fun” — but never
get invited. How should I feel
about this and what should
I do?
— Overlooked in Minnesota
Dear Overlooked: What
you should “do” is recognize
that your co-workers are not
obligated to include you in
anything outside of work.
They may have mutual inter-
ests that bring them together,
or chemistry that they don’t
have with you. Instead of fum-
ing and fantasizing about “re-
taliating” (which would be
uncalled for and inappropri-
ate), form relationships out-
side this circle of co-workers
and friends, and do things on
weekends for yourself that are
satisfying. If you do, you will
be less dependent upon these
individuals and less disap-
pointed if your relationships
with them aren’t as close as
you wish they were.
Dear Abby: I have been
reading your column for many
years, but haven’t seen this
question before. I’m a senior
citizen with a do-not-resus-
citate order. I am concerned
that if something were to hap-
pen to me and I was taken to a
nearby hospital, they wouldn’t
know I have one on file with
my health care provider. Is
there a way to let first respond-
ers know? Thank you for the
continual service you provide.
— Last Request in California
Dear Last Request: Many
individuals accomplish this
by posting a notice near their
bed, on the refrigerator or in
their cellphone contact list
designated as ICE (In Case of
Emergency). There are also
cards that can be carried in the
wallet to alert the EMTs about
the patient’s wishes. Your
health care provider can tell
you how to get one.
YOUR HOROSCOPE
By Georgia Nicols
Stars show the kind of day you’ll have
DYNAMIC | POSITIVE | AVERAGE | SO-SO | DIFFICULT
MOON ALERT: After 9 a.m. EDT today (6 a.m. PDT), there are no restric-
tions to shopping or important decisions. The Moon is in Sagittarius.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR TUESDAY, JUNE 22, 2021: You are a
determined perfectionist. You have enormous dedication and perseverance
in whatever you do. You are also charming, warm and sensitive. This year you
must be responsible because you are reacting to a change that has recently
happened. Be wise and practice self-discipline to handle things efficiently.
Take care of yourself so you can take care of others.
ARIES (March 21-April 19)
Mercury retrograde ends today, which means silly errors and confused
communications, plus transportation delays, will reduce. Glory hallelujah!
Nevertheless, if buying any form of ground transportation, computer or cell-
phone, wait until July 8. Tonight: Travel appeals.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
Because of Mercury retrograde, financial matters have been delayed
or are subject to reversals, loss or confusion. Aaggh! Good news — this will
greatly reduce starting today. (If you’re buying a car or computer, be smart
and wait until July 8.) Tonight: Money talks.
Rahm finds perspective to go
with passion, wins a U.S. Open
BY DOUG FERGUSON
AP Golf Writer
SAN DIEGO — Jon Rahm’s
road to becoming a U.S. Open
champion might have started
with a pair of bogeys.
It ended with a pair of bird-
ies at Torrey Pines that will be
far more memorable. In the
previous 120 editions of the
U.S. Open, no one had ever
birdied the last two holes for a
one-shot victory.
The result was pure eupho-
ria for Rahm, a 26-year-old
Spaniard known for power
and passion, and it’s the latter
that always got more attention.
That’s what took him back
to a month ago at Kiawah Is-
land. He struck the ball as well
as ever and got nothing out of
it. He finished the third round
of the PGA Championship
with back-to-back bogeys and
Rahm was fuming when he
was asked to meet with the
media.
He was short. He was angry.
And he’d had enough of being
both.
His emotions helped as
much as they hurt in leading
him to 11 victories worldwide.
But he was a new father, and
he felt a greater responsibility.
“I know I can perform at
my best without showing my
frustration so much. I made
that deal with myself after
the third round of the PGA,”
Rahm said Sunday. “I wasn’t
happy with how I ended, and
I could have handled it better.
And I vowed to myself to be a
better role model for my son.
He won’t remember any of this
because he’s only 10 weeks old.
But I do.”
Nothing was sweeter than
seeing Rahm take infant
son Kepa into his arms as he
walked off the 18th green Sun-
day after an 18-foot birdie putt
that made him a major cham-
pion and added a chapter to
the short history of the U.S.
Open at Torrey Pines.
It wasn’t as big as Tiger
Woods making a 12-foot
birdie to force a playoff in
2008. It won’t be forgotten, ei-
ther.
“Little man, you have no
idea what this means right
now,” Rahm said to his son on
the practice range when his
one-shot victory over Louis
Oosthuizen was secure.
There was wonderment in
Marcio Jose Sanchez/AP
Jon Rahm holds the champions trophy for photographers as he stands with his wife, Kelley Rahm, and kisses
their child, Kepa Rahm, 11 weeks old, after the final round of the U.S. Open Golf Championship on Sunday at
Torrey Pines Golf Course in San Diego.
his voice.
It was that change in per-
spective at Kiawah Island that
he feels led to a closing 68 in
the PGA, and an unprompted
apology when he signed his
card.
“It’s OK to be upset, and I’m
never going to judge myself for
being upset,” Rahm said that
day. “But I will judge myself if I
don’t conduct myself properly.”
He thrives on emotions, and
they were in full view when he
made the 25-foot birdie putt
on the 17th hole to tie for the
lead and the winning putt on
the 18th.
But what he carried across
the South Course was a posi-
tive outlook.
It’s what he had at the Me-
morial when he was building
a six-shot lead after 54 holes,
and when it was taken away
from him by two men wearing
masks behind the 18th green
as they told him he had a pos-
itive COVID-19 test and was
out of the tournament.
The statement he posted
that night sounded scripted
at the time. It was closer to
raw truth with that shiny U.S.
Open trophy at his side: “This
is one of those things that hap-
pen in life, one of those mo-
ments where how we respond
to a setback defines us as peo-
ple.”
He even watched the final
round of the Memorial on TV.
“He’s won two tournaments
in a row. I don’t care what any-
one says. He had that title,”
Rory McIlroy said.
Rahm never looked at it that
way. He has lived with the risk
of COVID-19 for more than
a year, and lost a friend, Jose
Manual Cortizas, a sports re-
porter from Bilbao, Spain, who
fell in love with golf while cov-
ering Rahm.
“This is the power of posi-
tive thinking,” Rahm said. “I
was never resentful for one
second for what happened.
And I don’t blame anybody. It’s
been a difficult year, and un-
fortunately COVID is a reality
in this world, and it’s affected a
lot of people.”
McIlroy was among several
contenders who lost their way
on the back nine Sunday, and
one of four players who made
double bogeys that cleared the
stage for Rahm and Oosthui-
zen.
McIlroy was quick to point
out that someone would have
to be in a good place mentally
to bounce back from such a
setback.
“But he obviously knew his
game was there,” McIlroy said.
“And he just had to go out and
play the way he knows he can.”
With passion. With pur-
pose. With birdies.
Two major champions
helped along the way. Rahm
said Padraig Harrington and
Nick Faldo reached out after
his positive test to share their
stories.
Harrington once had a five-
shot lead on the European
Tour in 2000 and was disquali-
fied when someone discovered
he never signed his scorecard
in the first round. Faldo had
a six-shot lead with six holes
to play in the 1994 in Indone-
sia when someone realized he
had removed a stone from a
bunker the day before. He was
disqualified for an incorrect
scorecard.
“I believed from the big-
gest setbacks we can get some
of the biggest breakthroughs,
and that’s why I stay so posi-
tive,” Rahm said. “That’s why I
kept telling (wife) Kelley when
she was devastated about what
happened ... something good
is going to come.
“I don’t know what, but
something good is going to
come,” he said. “And I felt it
today out there on the golf
course.”
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
For several weeks now, your ruler Mercury has been retrograde in
your sign, causing misplaced items, missed appointments, confusion and
mistakes! Fortunately, starting today all of this will be greatly reduced. How-
ever, if buying a car or computer, wait until July 8 for the shadow to be gone.
Tonight: Lively discussions!
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
This continues to be a powerful time for you with the Sun and fair
Venus in your sign. (It’s a great time to buy wardrobe goodies.) This is likely
because Mars in your Money House urges you to shop! If you’re buying a car
or computer, wait until July 8. Tonight: Get organized.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)
The planets are sending you two messages now: The Sun and Venus
want you to enjoy solitude, while fiery Mars wants you to get out there and
fly your colors! Meanwhile, Mercury retrograde ends today. Yay! Tonight:
Socialize! Enjoy romance and sports.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
Mercury retrograde might have recently put you in touch with bosses,
parents and important people from your past. As of today, Mercury retro-
grade is over. However, its shadow will last until July 8. If shopping for cars,
computers or cellphones, wait until then. Tonight: Meaningful domestic
discussions.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
Because Mercury retrograde is over today, you will start to feel more
freedom to travel to new places, explore new ideas and meet new people,
especially from other cultures. Meanwhile, you are admired because the
Sun is at the top of your chart. Looking swell! Tonight: You want to talk to
someone.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)
Feel free to go forward with new projects or issues related to shared
property, estates, wills and inheritances, because as of today, Mercury retro-
grade is over. Some of you will want to make travel plans or plans related to
publishing, the media and higher education. Tonight: Focus on cash flow and
spending.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
Today the Moon is in your sign, which means things will tend to go
your way even though you are a bit more emotionally charged. If you want to
test this, why not ask the universe for a favor? See what happens. Meanwhile,
good news! Mercury retrograde is over. Tonight: Guard against too much
emotion. Easy does it.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)
You will want to be low key today because the Moon is “hiding” in
your chart. Nevertheless, you will be happy to hear that Mercury retrograde
is over, which means you will have fewer errors or goofy mistakes related to
your job. Thank heavens! Things are looking up! Tonight: Enjoy quiet time.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)
An important conversation with a female friend could be significant
today. You might want to discuss future goals. Meanwhile, Mercury retro-
grade is over as of today, which means old flames might fade from the pic-
ture. Tonight: Listen to someone’s opinion.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
Life is good because lucky Jupiter is in your sign. Furthermore, the
Sun and Venus are in the most fun, social, lighthearted part of your chart.
Plus, Mercury retrograde ends today. This is cause for a celebration! Tonight:
You are high-viz.
Basketball
Continued from A5
Two former WNBA MVPs
who didn’t make the ros-
ter were Elena Delle Donne
and Nneka Ogwumike. Delle
Donne hasn’t played all sea-
son as she’s recovering from
back surgery. Ogwumike has
been sidelined with a left knee
sprained suffered earlier this
month. She was expected to
return around the WNBA’s
Olympic break next month.
Both players were on the
World Championship team
that won gold in 2018 and Og-
wmuike has been to nearly
every U.S. training camp over
the last few years. She’s the only
former WNBA MVP not to
make an Olympic roster.
“Breaks my heart that Nneka
isn’t on this team,” Staley said.
“Having to make a decision
today, if we had to make a de-
cision a month from now I’m
sure she’d be healthy. This was
one of the things she wanted to
do. ... She’s been a great voice
in our training camp and prac-
tices. We’re going to definitely
miss Nneka.”
The Americans have won
the last six consecutive gold
medals, not dropping a game
at the Olympics since 1992.
Staley has been a part of five of
those teams, three as a player
and two as an assistant. She
was honored to be the first
Black coach to lead the U.S.
“I think is is something to be
proud of. It also allows other
doors to be open and opportu-
nities for other Black coaches
to hold these positions,” Staley
said. “So there’s a lot of pres-
sure to to win gold because of
it. And I look forward to that
challenge, as always.”
The Americans, who are
heavy favorites to win again,
are in a pool with France, Ja-
pan and Nigeria, which the
U.S. opens up against on July
27. The Americans face Ja-
pan on July 30 and France on
Aug. 2.
The U.S. team will get to-
gether in Las Vegas in July to
train for a week as well as play
an All-Star Game against a se-
lection of WNBA players. The
Americans will also play games
against Australia and Nigeria.
United States’
Diana Taurasi
celebrates af-
ter making a
three-point
basket during
the gold medal
basketball
game against
Spain at the
2016 Summer
Olympics in Rio
de Janeiro, Bra-
zil. Charlie Neiber-
gall/AP file
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