The BulleTin • Sunday, June 13, 2021 C3
DEAR ABBY
Write to Dear Abby online at dearabby.com
or by mail at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069
Dear Abby: I have been in
a relationship with a married
man for 2 1/2 years. I know
it’s wrong, but there’s just
something there between us.
We live five hours apart, but
he’s a trucker, so I see him
often. He makes me all these
promises — that if I uproot
my life and move to his city
he would be able to be with
me more, his wife is sick and
he can’t leave her that way,
and he has never loved some-
one the way he loves me. We
also have a 30-year age dif-
ference.
I love him but I see so
many red flags. Does he re-
ally love me, or am I just the
icing on his cake? Please give
me some advice because I’m
truly lost. I don’t know if I’m
wasting my life on a man
who really can’t promise me
anything.
— On the Side in Indiana
Dear On the Side: Pay at-
tention to those red flags
you are seeing. Your last
sentence says it all. You may
love this man, but you have
already devoted 2 1/2 years
to a relationship that’s going
nowhere. I’m willing to bet
that he not only HAS loved
women “the way he loves
you,” but when you start tak-
ing care of yourself and end
this charade, he will continue
to love MORE women the
way he loves you. Try this:
Imagine for a moment that
you were his wife — would
you want a husband who
sleeps around while he’s on
the road or while you are
unwell? But for the grace of
God, this could be YOU!
Dear Abby: My adult
daughter and I had a big ar-
gument while she was visit-
ing me. Sadly, we both used
words that were hurtful. Af-
terward, I wrote her a note
telling her I loved her and
would like to hear from her.
She replied in an email that
she received my letter, but
she is still hurt by the things
I said.
I wanted to be the adult in
this situation, but I was also
hurt by her words and ac-
tions, and feel angry that I
have to be the one to apolo-
gize. I told her I hope that we
can put this behind us. Must
I apologize even though I
told her I am sorry that she is
still hurt?
— Wounded in Ohio
Dear Wounded: I see noth-
ing positive to be gained by
allowing this to fester any
longer. You ARE the parent
in this situation, so if you’d
like a resolution, apologize
again.
Dear Abby: I’m a florist.
Would you please appeal to
your readers who are com-
posing obituaries for loved
ones to think first before
adding “in lieu of flowers ...”?
People can then donate to the
designated or favorite organi-
zations OR purchase flowers.
The choice would be theirs.
This would be a blessing for
flower growers, truckers,
wholesalers and folks like me.
Many of our businesses are
small, multigeneration estab-
lishments. A possible sugges-
tion for wording is, “Flow-
ers are welcomed, and those
wishing to make a donation
in his/her name may do so to
_____.” Thanks, Abby.
— Grateful Mom/Pop
Flower Shop Owner
Dear Grateful: While fam-
ilies in the throes of grieving
may forget to include it in
their loved ones’ obituaries,
as our economy slowly recov-
ers, your suggestion is cer-
tainly worth noting. Thank
you for sending it.
YOUR HOROSCOPE
By Georgia Nicols
Stars show the kind of day you’ll have
DYNAMIC | POSITIVE | AVERAGE | SO-SO | DIFFICULT
MOON ALERT: Avoid shopping or making important decisions from
7 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. EDT today (4 a.m. to 11:30 a.m. PDT). After that, the Moon
moves from Cancer into Leo.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR SUNDAY, JUNE 13, 2021: You are
bright, clever, fun-loving and spontaneous. You like to plan ahead; neverthe-
less, you are excellent at adapting to change. You live by your own, unique
moral code. This year, your idealism will be aroused, which is why you might
work on behalf of a charitable organization or do something to help society.
This is the year to work hard!
ARIES (March 21-April 19)
Be aware that this is a loosey-goosey day. The Sun is at odds with fuzzy
Neptune, and yet, this afternoon the Moon is lined up with fiery Mars. This
means you might think you know what you know, but do you really? Tonight:
Be safe.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
When it comes to financial matters today, be extra careful, because
some kind of confusion is present. It could be worse than confusion. There
might be deceit. (Whaaat?) Don’t believe everything you see or hear. Tonight:
Double-check everything.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
Today the Sun is in your sign at odds with fuzzy Neptune, which will
drain your energy. You might feel discouraged or beaten down by the world.
These feelings of inadequacy are a fleeting dark cloud on the horizon. Relax.
Tonight: Take it easy.
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
This is a challenging day because it’s easy to have self-doubts about
something. And yet, with the Moon lined up with Mars in your Money House,
you might charge forward shopping. Tonight: Know what you’re doing.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)
You are a natural leader. This afternoon, the Moon will be in your sign
lined up with Mars also in your sign, making you feisty and aggressive! Mean-
while, today is rife with confusion, and yet you’re keen to act. Tonight: Be on
guard.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
No matter what you’re doing today, be very sure about what bosses
and parents expect from you. Not only during the Moon Alert, but all day
long, there’s an element of confusion. Be clear about what authority figures
want. Tonight: Be alert.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
Mixed-up communications and confusion related to travel are classic
today. Therefore, if you are travelling, double-check all your facts. Be wise
and give yourself extra time to have wiggle room. Tonight: Check all details.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)
You might make a mistake about a financial matter, especially some-
thing to do with shared property, taxes, debt, the government or insurance
issues. Make no assumptions. Forewarned is forearmed. Tonight: Dou-
ble-check everything.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
You’re excited about travel plans, or politics, religion or perhaps a racial
issue. You feel there is something at stake. Meanwhile, conversations with
partners and close friends are confusing. Tonight: Don’t go out on a limb.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)
You hate to lose money out of foolishness or carelessness. Therefore, be
careful today, because you might have definite ideas about something, and
yet you might not have all the facts. Tonight: Tread carefully.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)
Be patient with others today, because Mars is lined up with the Moon
opposite your sign. Meanwhile, confusion about kids, social occasions, sports
events and romance might occur. Is this an argument waiting to happen?
Tonight: Listen to others.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
Something related to your health or perhaps a pet might get you
excited today and trigger confused communications with a parent or family
member. Be aware that all these things are possible. Tonight: Go gently.
Step inside Wyrd Hall
Portland’s medieval
fantasy-themed
mead tavern
BY SAMANTHA SWINDLER
The Oregonian
A pirate, an elf and a Viking
walk into a bar.
No joke. That’s just a typical
Saturday night at Wyrd Leather
and Mead, which has opened a
new medieval fantasy-themed
tavern in SE Portland.
At Wyrd Hall, visitors can
dine on Nordic-inspired stews,
purchase drinking horns or
handmade leather goods, and
try Wyrd’s selection of meads
made onsite with locally
sourced honey.
Cosplay garb is encouraged
but not required.
The place is something of a
childhood dream for co-own-
ers Travis Sigler and Tay-
ler Toll, who have been best
friends since middle school.
They’ve also brought on a third
business partner, Doug Win-
gate, who co-founded Mac
Mead Hall in McMinnville.
“I grew up in high school
reading medieval fantasy, Tolk-
ien, and wishing that I could go
to somewhere like that,” Sigler
said. “I’ve been to New Zea-
land. I’ve been to all the ‘Lord
of the Rings’ filming sites, and
they’re amazing. But if you’re
in Portland and you can’t get
Mark Graves/The Oregonian
Patrons stand outside Wyrd Leatherworks and Meadery located at
4515 SE 41st Ave. in Portland on May 29.
to Middle-earth, coming down
out of the real world, walking
into our door takes you into a
whole other realm.”
The tavern is only the latest
project of Wyrd Leather and
Mead, a company that started
in 2017 by selling leather
goods and bottled mead in
Milwaukie. Sigler, the leather
worker, specializes in custom
armor pieces for fantasy and
medieval cosplay.
The business takes its name
from the Web of Wyrd – pro-
nounced “weird” – in Norse
mythology. The web represents
time, destiny and the intercon-
nectedness of the past, present
and future.
“So past – growing up with
medieval fantasy, mead and
friendship,” Sigler said. “In the
present, we’re trying to create
something that we hadn’t really
done before, something that’s
unique to Portland, and this is
our future.”
Last fall, Wyrd was looking
for a larger location to make
its mead – a process that re-
quires large vats and months
of cool storage. Mead is not
quite a wine, though Ore-
gon regulates it like one. It’s
made by fermenting honey
and water rather than grapes
and is considered the oldest
alcoholic beverage developed
by humans. Mead can range
from sweet like a fruity wine
to dry like a cider, and it can
be infused with any number of
fruits or herbs.
At first, Sigler and Toll were
looking only at the commis-
sary kitchen in the space that
had been home to the colo-
nial-themed Ye Olde Towne
Crier restaurant for more than
40 years. But when they toured
the building, they also asked to
see the basement, which hadn’t
been listed for lease.
In the stone fireplace,
wood-paneled walls and log-
lined bar of the restaurant’s
basement, they saw potential.
With just a few changes, it was
the perfect space for a medie-
val tavern.
On a recent Saturday night,
Sveinn Kjartansson sat in the
corner of Wyrd Hall, draw-
ing runes and sipping from
his handmade drinking horn.
Wyrd sells a number of prod-
ucts from local artisans, in-
cluding Kjartansson’s drinking
vessels made from cow and
buffalo horns.
“I just like drinking from
something that’s considered
mine,” Kjartansson said. “It’s
kind of like having your own
personal mug.”
Dave Goodman, in full hob-
bit attire, posed in front of the
fireplace with a long-stemmed
churchwarden pipe, which he
had retrofitted into a vape pen.
“This place is just amazing,”
he said. “I love the look of it,
the sound of it. It feels like I’m
someplace else and someone
else.”