The BulleTin • Sunday, May 23, 2021 C3
DEAR ABBY
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Dear Abby: My daughter
and son-in-law have been
married for seven years and
have two young daughters.
We get along well and spend
a lot of time together. Our
daughter is an only child, and
I have noticed over time that
my son-in-law is very selfish
and puts his needs before the
family’s. Because he works
hard, he seems to feel it en-
titles him to do whatever he
wants. My daughter works
hard too, and she constantly
puts the family’s needs and
his needs ahead of her own.
I know she’s not happy
about his spending habits.
Recently, over her objections,
he bought an $80,000 car.
While they can afford it, I
believe she resents the bulk
of the family expenses fall-
ing on her while he gets what
she calls his “boy toys.” Their
earnings are very disparate.
My daughter, a doctor, makes
three times his salary as a po-
lice officer. They have been
in counseling, but it seems to
have had minimal impact.
How can I support my
daughter in dealing with this?
I worry about her happiness.
I have a good relationship
with my son-in-law, but we
don’t discuss difficult issues.
So, while I want to support
their family, it will have to be
through my daughter. Any
suggestions for me?
— Helpful Mom in Maryland
Dear Mom: Resist the
urge to involve yourself in
this. Your daughter is edu-
cated, successful and intel-
ligent enough to do some-
thing about it when she’s had
enough. Because counseling
didn’t help her and her hus-
band communicate more ef-
fectively on the subject of his
spending, she may eventually
have to make some decisions
about her and her children’s
futures. Let her know you
love and support her, but do
not stir the pot. Say little, if
anything, on this subject and
only if you are asked.
Dear Abby: My wife and
I have been invited to a sur-
prise engagement party hon-
oring a distant relative I’ll
call “Elizabeth.” The invita-
tion states, “Shhhh ... This is
a surprise! Elizabeth doesn’t
know about the impending
proposal.”
Is this something new?
What if she says no?! Does
everyone go home or stay
and endure an uncomfort-
able meal? Should we take
a gift? Isn’t this beyond
awkward and over the top?
What’s next?
— Behind the Times
Dear B.T.T.: I agree that
marriage proposals should be
private and intimate, rather
than a Hollywood produc-
tion. (If only because there’s
always a risk that the person
being proposed to might feel
trapped, embarrassed or re-
fuse.) However, you and I
should not assume we speak
for everyone.
Over the last decade or so,
marriage proposals, invita-
tions to senior proms, etc.
have taken on a life of their
own. And, if it makes people
happy — and hurts no one
— who are we to judge? As
to whether to bring a gift to
this event, it might be more
prudent to bring one to the
bridal shower rather than the
surprise engagement party.
YOUR HOROSCOPE
By Georgia Nicols
Stars show the kind of day you’ll have
DYNAMIC | POSITIVE | AVERAGE | SO-SO | DIFFICULT
MOON ALERT: Avoid shopping or making important decisions from
5:30 p.m. to 11 p.m. EDT today (2:30 p.m. to 8 p.m. PDT). After that, the Moon
moves from Libra into Scorpio.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR SUNDAY, MAY 23, 2021: You are lively,
witty and well spoken. You think fast and you move fast. You love to learn
and gather information, which, in turn, you then share with others. You will
be forever youthful. Following a recent change, this year is one of fitting in
and letting the dust settle. It will be a more social, easygoing year.
ARIES (March 21-April 19)
Be careful with others today, because you have to go more than half-
way when dealing with them. Be cooperative. Nevertheless, you might have
a power struggle this afternoon. Tonight: Romance is hot!
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
Once the Moon Alert begins, you might experience shortages and be
less efficient. Be patient with co-workers to avoid power struggles. Tonight:
Good times with partners and friends.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
Parents must be patient with their kids today, and romantic partners
must be patient with each other. Fortunately, this is a wonderful, creative
day! Tonight: You can boost your health. Enjoy time with a pet.
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
You might have an important discussion with a family member today.
Perhaps you will choose to seek out solitude and cocoon at home. Tonight:
Socialize and enjoy relaxing.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)
You need to communicate today! This is all well and good; however, as
the Moon Alert begins today (see above), you might find yourself trying to
prove something to someone. Tonight: Family relations are supportive.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
Be careful handling your money today. During the Moon Alert today,
restrict spending to food and gas. Tonight: Conversations with family and
neighbors are upbeat.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
Today the Moon is in your sign until after the Moon Alert is over. Until
then, you might feel more emotional. Avoid arguments. Stay chill. Tonight:
Respect your moneymaking ideas.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)
Today you will prefer to work alone or behind the scenes because you
want to escape from all the busyness around you. (Good choice.) During the
Moon Alert, avoid important decisions and spending money on anything
except food. Tonight: A pleasant, friendly evening!
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
A conversation with a female companion might be important today.
Naturally, this doesn’t have to happen if you maintain your cool. Tonight:
You’ll enjoy private time alone.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)
Steer clear of power struggles with bosses, parents, teachers and the
police. Wait until the Moon Alert is over to volunteer for anything. Tonight:
Time with friends and groups will be rewarding.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)
Avoid arguments about politics, religion and racial issues, which might
easily arise today. These quarrels will accomplish nothing. Meanwhile, don’t
agree to anything important during the Moon Alert! Tonight: People are
impressed with you!
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
Squabbles about shared property, taxes, debt or shared responsibilities
might occur today. Remember: Patience is the antidote to anger. Therefore,
if you are patient, you’re Teflon. Tonight: It will please you to learn something
new.
Find it all online
bendbulletin.com
New Holiday Inn comes
to Pendleton in 2022
BY ANTONIO SIERRA
East Oregonian
A Tri-Cities hotelier is
readying development on a
new Holiday Inn in Pendle-
ton, with an exact location to
be determined.
In an interview, Parn Singh
said he and his family’s com-
pany, the Richland, Wash-
ington-based Eternal Hotels,
first bought into Pendleton’s
hotel market in 2015 and
now own both the current
Holiday Inn Express and the
Best Western Inn next door.
Singh said the Pendleton
market has been good enough
to his company that it’s now
looking to construct a new
building to house its Holiday
Inn property. Construction is
set to start later this year with
a grand opening in 2022.
“It will be a lot more mod-
ern and stick out more in
Pendleton,” he said.
Like all other Pendleton
hotels, Singh said his prop-
erties took a hit during the
COVID-19 pandemic. The
2020 cancelation of events,
such as Round-Up and the
Pendleton Whisky Music Fest,
meant Singh’s hotels lost out
on the kind of weeklong rev-
enue that could equal their
whole month of December.
But he added that local
event organizers did a good
job of holding small events
when they could. Combined
with the guests drawn in
from the steady traffic trav-
eling through Pendleton on
Interstate 84, Eternal is ready
to build a new hotel as the
country begins to emerge
from the pandemic.
Featuring several hotel
chains, including Motel 6,
Super 8, the Red Lion Hotel
and the Hampton Inn, Nye’s
close proximity to I-84 has
made it a hub for overnight
stays. Singh said Eternal has
already purchased two pieces
of land where the hotel could
be located.
One of the locations is bare
land where the city’s Bi-Mart
used to be. Singh said an
electrical company is leasing
the property but will vacate
the land before construction
starts. The company is also
looking at another vacant lo-
cation by Super 8.
The final location under
consideration is a spot some-
where in downtown Pendle-
ton, although Singh declined
to identify a specific address
while the property is under
negotiation.
Once the new Holiday Inn
is complete, Singh said the
building with the current
Holiday Inn designation will
rebrand to a Choice Hotels
International affiliate. As a
part of the shuffling, Eternal
will also renovate all of its
current hotel properties.
ANNIVERSARY
Submitted photo
Jim and Marion Harrison
Jim and Marion Harrison, of
Bend, will celebrate their 50th
wedding anniversary in June
with a “written reception.” The
couple’s children are compiling
a memory book of photos and
stories from friends and family
in lieu of a party.
The couple were married
June 12, 1971, in Santa Mon-
ica, California, where a brides-
maid and a groomsman met
and eventually married as well.
The Harrison’s have two chil-
dren, Laurel Fooks (and Paul),
of Springfield, and Crista Ha-
gan (and David) of Vancouver,
Washington; six grandchil-
dren.
Mr. Harrison was a band,
computer programing, math
and aviation teacher at Sisters
High School from 1992 un-
til retiring in 2006. He is the
owner of a Model-A Ford and
a member of the local club
and enjoys square dancing (of
which he is also a member of
the club member and grange
hall council) and is an avid
reader.
Mrs. Harrison was a high
school business teacher and
middle school reading spe-
cialist for the Sisters School
District before retiring in 2006
and started the Schoolhouse
Bed & Breakfast. She also en-
joys square dancing, spending
time with her daughters and
grandchildren and is a quilter
who makes blankets and other
handmade gifts for charities
such as the Ronald McDonald
House. She is a cancer survivor
and has been in remission 20
years.
The couple snowbirds in
Mesa, Arizona, and has lived in
Central Oregon 29 years.