A6 The BulleTin • Friday, May 7, 2021
DEAR ABBY
Write to Dear Abby online at dearabby.com
or by mail at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069
Dear Abby: Six months
ago, my husband, “Lee,” met
his long-lost sister, his father’s
daughter from a previous
marriage. Lee’s father passed
away when he was 6; he is
now 30.
Since he and his four sib-
lings met their half-sister, she
has become obsessive over
him. She calls and keeps him
on the phone for hours, three
or four times a week. I didn’t
mind at first, but it has gotten
out of control, and she con-
stantly texts him.
If Lee doesn’t respond, she
texts him asking if he’s an-
gry. She expresses how “in
love” she is with him and how
happy she is to have met him.
(She doesn’t say these things
to the others.) When I re-
cently expressed my concern,
he got offended.
How should I cope with
this? She also says unflatter-
ing things about me to him
and tries to turn him against
me. I know, because I heard
the whole conversation.
— Put Off in New Jersey
Dear Put Off: Your husband
may be flattered by the atten-
tion he’s receiving from this
newfound sibling, but I agree
that what she’s doing seems
excessive. Your husband, how-
ever, is playing into it by being
receptive and constantly avail-
able for these extended con-
versations and texts.
While you can’t control
who he talks to, you can ex-
press that you feel her behav-
ior is out of line, that you are
concerned that she’s trying to
undermine your marriage,
and suggest it may be time to
step on the brakes with Sissy.
Dear Abby: I am attend-
ing my hubby’s 50th class
reunion, where I will not
know a soul. Can you give
me suggestions on topics to
talk about? We grew up in
different areas of the country.
We live on a small farm in the
countryside and have kids
and grandkids. Thank you.
— Prepping for a Good Time
Dear Prepping: Go and
enjoy yourself. Don’t be ner-
vous. Bring pictures of your
farm, your children and the
grandkids. View photos of
your husband’s classmates’
families and say something
complimentary. (“Aren’t they
adorable?”) Ask what your
husband was like when he
was their classmate. People
love to talk, so be a good lis-
tener. Discuss things that in-
terest you and inquire about
their interests and activities.
The only topics to avoid are
religion and politics.
Dear Abby: At 67, I’m an
attractive woman. I always
have been, but I have been
out of the dating scene for
several years. Now two men
are interested in me.
One is someone I know
from work. I have known
him a year. He told me he
always had a crush but was
afraid to make a move. The
second guy is someone I just
met on a dating site. I haven’t
had a problem like this for 20
years! What to do?
— Dilemma in Massachusetts
Dear Dilemma: You don’t
have to make an immediate
choice. Keep things casual
and get to know them both
better, assuming you haven’t
had a personal relationship
with your co-worker. Take
your time, let the relation-
ships evolve. The answers will
become apparent, and you
won’t have to ask me what (if
anything) to do.
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A customer Thursday walks into the Bend post office at 2300 NE Fourth St.
Postal
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The Postal Service is not
planning to lay off any staff,
and more staff may be needed
in Bend if the facility becomes
a package processing center,
Frum said.
“These mail moves will re-
quire that we will allocate more
staff to support package pro-
cessing given the increase in
package volume, and allocate
fewer staff to mail processing
given the large decline in mail,”
Frum said.
Since April 2013, all mail
originating in Bend or Central
Oregon has been trucked to
Portland for initial sorting, ac-
cording to The Bulletin’s previ-
ous reporting.
A letter sent from a Central
Oregon address to another
Central Oregon address then
returns to the Bend process-
ing facility, where it’s sorted a
second time and given to the
correct mail carrier. Shutting
down the Bend processing fa-
cility means the second stage of
sorting would also take place
in Portland.
Repurposing the mail facil-
ities is part of the Postal Ser-
vice’s 10-year plan to become
financially stable after several
years of declining revenues.
The plan includes $20 billion
to invest in new equipment
and facilities to improve pack-
age processing operations,
Frum said.
The service hopes its 10-
year plan avoids a projected
$160 billion in losses by 2030.
“It’s no secret the Postal
Service is facing financial dif-
ficulties,” Frum said. “The in-
vestment for the mail moves is
one piece of the 10-year plan
to achieve financial sustain-
ability.”
Bend’s mail processing fa-
cility was scheduled to close in
2015, but the Postal Service
changed course and decided to
keep it open.
Frum said turning the Bend
location into a package pro-
cessing center is a good oppor-
tunity for the Postal Service
to streamline its services. The
service wants to consolidate its
centers for letters and standard
mail, while expanding its pack-
age processing in places like
Bend, Frum said.
“Letter mail is declining,
and package volumes are in-
creasing,” Frum said. “It makes
good business sense to realign
the mail processing operations
from multiple facilities into
one facility and provide ex-
panded package sorting capa-
bilities.”
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Reporter: 541-617-7820,
kspurr@bendbulletin.com
PORTLAND
3rd teen sentenced for 2019 murder of man
YOUR HOROSCOPE
By Georgia Nicols
Stars show the kind of day you’ll have
DYNAMIC | POSITIVE | AVERAGE | SO-SO | DIFFICULT
MOON ALERT: Avoid shopping or making important decisions from
3:30 a.m. to 8 a.m. EDT today (12:30 a.m. to 5 a.m. PDT). After that, the Moon
moves from Pisces into Aries.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR FRIDAY, MAY 7, 2021: You are practical,
patient and empathetic with others. You follow your intuition because you
believe in destiny. As your new personal year begins, you will see the rewards
of your past efforts. This is now your time of harvest! Furthermore, you will
earn the respect of others, especially your peers. You might get a promotion
or a leadership role.
BY KALE WILLIAMS
The Oregonian
The third and final suspect
convicted in a 2019 fatal shoot-
ing of a man collecting cans in
North Portland was sentenced
to 20 years in prison, court of-
ficials said Wednesday, though
under current law the teen will
be out of jail by his 25th birth-
day.
Aaron Criswell admitted
to his role in killing Ricky
Malone Sr. and later taking the
man’s car. Criswell was 15 at
the time.
Two other teens, Eugene
Woodruff and Richard Rand
IV, who were 14 and 15, re-
spectively, at the time of the
shooting, admitted to their
roles in the shooting last year
and were sentenced to 20 years
each. Because of juvenile sen-
tencing laws, none of the three
will serve their full sentences.
The convictions stem from
a string of crimes that began
early on the morning of Oct.
14, 2019. About 4 a.m., the
three teens approached Ricky
Malone Sr., 65, near North Mo-
hawk Avenue and Columbia
Boulevard. Malone had been
collecting refundable cans and
bottles.
The teens demanded
Malone give up his car, a Toy-
ota Avalon. When he refused,
Criswell shot him in the chest
with a 12-gauge shotgun, ac-
cording to accounts given by
Criswell and Woodruff to the
police and outlined in court
documents.
Investigators say before en-
countering Malone, the teens,
one of them wearing a clown
mask, had attempted to bur-
glarize a home but ran away
when the person who lived
there yelled at them.
ARIES (March 21-April 19)
Today the Moon is in your sign, which happens for two days every
month, and when it does, it will always make you more emotional than usual.
However, it will also slightly improve your good luck! (That’s a bonus.) Why
not test it by asking the universe for a favor?
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
Today you will feel more comfortable working alone or behind the
scenes. You’re not being antisocial; you just want some peace and quiet and
a chance to enjoy your own solitude. It’s been a social time for you with the
Sun and Venus in your sign, and now you need a breather.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
An interaction with a female acquaintance might be significant today.
In fact, you might want to share your hopes and dreams for the future with
this person because his or her feedback can help you. Why not speak up and
find out?
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
Today personal details about your private life are made public for some
reason. People are talking about you. They notice you more than usual. Be
aware of this in case you have to do some damage control. You might even
use this to your advantage.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)
You want a change of pace today. You want to run away and join the
circus or do something deliciously different. This is because you want adven-
ture and a chance to learn something new! Go someplace you’ve never been
before.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
Today, you might have a reaction to issues related to shared property,
inheritances, taxes, debt or anything to do with the wealth of someone else.
Suddenly, these issues matter. They’re black and white. Likewise, your per-
sonal passions are also heightened.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
Today, the Moon is in the sign that is opposite your sign. This happens for
two days every month, and when it does, it means you have to go more than
halfway when dealing with others. Hey, no biggie. It simply requires cooper-
ation and courtesy (qualities you have in abundance).
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)
Today, you will have to put your own emotional considerations second
to those of someone else. You’re not being a martyr; it’s just what’s neces-
sary. You will realize “It’s a joy to labor for those you love.” When we’re kind to
others, we like ourselves more.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
This is a playful, lighthearted day! You want to have fun! You have a need
to be just who you are without pretense. You also might feel protective and nur-
turing to children or to a friend. You will enjoy playful activities with children.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)
Today you will be happy to cocoon at home and enjoy your privacy
among familiar surroundings. You also might have a significant talk with a
female family member. If you have a chance to think about things, you will
see how much habits control your life. So say we all.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)
Today your personal communications with others matter. You want
the nitty-gritty. You don’t want to waste time on polite, superficial chitchat
about the weather. This is why you might be bold when talking to a friend
today, especially with pointed questions.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
You identify with what you own today. (It’s easy to do; we all do this.)
However, this is why you won’t lend something to anyone. In fact, you will
feel happiest if you are surrounded by familiar objects that have meaning for
you. “It’s mine. All mine.”
Duflo
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She allegedly attempted to
render the child unconscious
by using over-the-counter
drugs before having Seibert
engage in sex acts with the vic-
tim, according to a statement
from the U.S. attorney’s office.
When the investigation
into Duflo began, she was liv-
ing in Redmond. Local police
searched her home and phone,
and she was questioned and
allegedly made incriminating
statements, according to court
documents.
Duflo’s former local at-
torney, Joel Wirtz, wrote in
court filings that Seibert had
“groomed” her, and waited for
the opportunity to coerce her
into engaging in horrible be-
havior.
Duflo and Seibert met in a
video game chat room. Duflo
soon identified that she’d suf-
fered a history of sexual and
physical abuse, Wirtz wrote in
court documents. Wirtz called
Seibert a pedophile who had
pursued Duflo because she was
a vulnerable mother of a young
girl.
Duflo was in an abusive rela-
tionship at the time and Seib-
ert offered her money to help
leave the relationship, Wirtz
wrote. Seibert coerced her
into sending him photos of
her driver’s license and Social
Security card. His requests be-
came more and more “nefari-
ous,” her lawyer wrote.
In March, 2020, Seibert
pleaded guilty to producing
child pornography, traveling to
engage in illicit sex and using a
facility of commerce to induce
a minor to engage in criminal
sexual activity.
He was sentenced in Janu-
ary to more than 24 years in
prison, the Associated Press
Duflo and Seibert met in
a video game chat room.
Duflo soon identified that
she’d suffered a history
of sexual and physical
abuse, Wirtz wrote in court
documents. Wirtz called
Seibert a pedophile who had
pursued Duflo because she
was a vulnerable mother of
a young girl.
reported.
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Reporter: 541-383-0325,
gandrews@bendbulletin.com
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