The BulleTin • SaTurday, april 3, 2021 A7
DEAR ABBY
Write to Dear Abby online at dearabby.com
or by mail at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069
Dear Abby: I have been
married to my husband for
seven years. We are in our
60s. He refuses to make a
will. He tells me what he
“would” put in his will and
asks me if I am OK with his
wishes.
He has an adult child from
his first marriage and would
like to include her in the will.
I’m fine with what he wants.
This conversation has been
going on for more than five
years, but he never acts on it.
I am very hurt and frustrated.
The house is in his name,
and my name isn’t even on
his checking accounts. I re-
sent him for this. There are
times when I want to get a di-
vorce because I feel if some-
thing should happen to him,
I will have no security. I also
think he is being selfish and
unloving to me and his adult
child to leave us in a situation
where we would have to go
through the probate process.
Please help me to get through
to him.
— Resentful in Maine
Dear Resentful: Your hus-
band may be afraid to face
the idea of his own mortality.
He wouldn’t be the first.
The two of you need to
make an appointment with
an attorney who special-
izes in wills and estates. If he
doesn’t put his wishes in writ-
ing, the assets he has worked
so hard for may be seriously
diminished when the state
decides “for him” and takes
a sizable chunk out of the es-
tate.
While you are talking with
the lawyer, there should also
be a discussion of end-of-
life planning. Does he want
hospice? Palliative care? Do
you know what his wishes
are in the event he is unable
to speak for himself? Those
wishes should be in writing
and so should YOURS. (This
subject should also be raised
with your doctor(s).)
Most people want to keep
what they have worked for
and decide for themselves
what will happen when they
die. Death is a fact of life, and
hiding from it won’t make it
go away.
Dear Abby: I send out lots
of greeting cards every year
for birthdays, anniversaries
and Christmas. I keep a large
number of them on hand so I
am prepared.
I received a Christmas
card this year from an elderly
family member that said:
“Thank you for the insulting
anniversary card.” “Insulting”
was underlined twice. I was
dismayed. Their anniversary
was last August. I have no
idea which card I sent since I
keep so many on hand. I am
guessing it may have been
a humorous card that they
didn’t find funny, but I’m not
sure.
Both are very alert and
oriented. What is the proper
thing to do here? Do I call
them and apologize when
I have no idea what it said?
Should I not send an anni-
versary card next year or
send a very generic one? I
have been very upset that my
good wishes were so poorly
received.
Any advice you can give
would be appreciated. Thank
you.
— Confused in the Midwest
Dear Confused: Call the
couple and ASK what it was
about the card that upset
them. Explain that it wasn’t
your intention to offend
them, and apologize. DO
send an anniversary card
when the time comes, but
when you do, make abso-
lutely certain the message in-
side is appropriate.
YOUR HOROSCOPE
By Madalyn Aslan
Stars show the kind of day you’ll have
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR SATURDAY, APRIL 3, 2021: Perky,
outgoing and headstrong, take advantage of all life has to offer. This year,
you accept professional challenges that transform you into a successful
team player. Travel looms large in planned activities with friends and family.
Avoid spending on credit, and your monetary situation will stabilize and
even increase. If single, accept invitations to parties and networking events.
If attached, listen to what your partner has to say. SAGITTARIUS provides
adventure.
ARIES (March 21-April 19)
Reorganize your home office or the room where you use your
devices. Filing is a good place to start. Complete a group project that fell by
the wayside. Contact everyone involved. Pick up where you left off. Tonight:
Romance awaits.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
Look up a recent news story that piqued your curiosity. This may lead
to pursuing an interest in international relations or travel. Discover a meet-up
group, book club or lecture that deals with that same topic. Tonight: Dinner
invitation.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
Today brings an unexpected opportunity, so take time to think it
over. Keep an open mind since you may have to rearrange your schedule. A
family meeting may be in order. Outdoor activities are still on the agenda.
Tonight: Video games.
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
Passion may be ignited at the drop of a hat. Memories stir up mixed
emotions. Express your feelings to someone who understands you deeply.
Partners and friends save the day and keep you in check. Tonight: Prepare a
gourmet meal.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)
Don’t get sidetracked with errands and chores. Take a walk in a park or
garden where you can smell the spring flowers. The more active you are by
day, the more relaxed you are later. Tonight: Accept a friendly invitation.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
Talk to someone who shares your taste in art or music. Arrange a
date to attend a concert or visit a museum together. Step up your fitness rou-
tine a notch. Remember to drink lots of water. Tonight: Get out the munchies.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
Today is for hanging around the house. Catch up on reading, gar-
dening or any activity you can do at home. Connect with relatives you miss
seeing. Prepare a family dinner. Experiment with exotic flavors and spices.
Tonight: Old movies and popcorn.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)
Don’t let setbacks throw you. Take minor annoyances in stride. A
positive attitude can change your approach to the day. Neighbors are friend-
lier than usual. Share a funny story with someone who will crack a smile.
Tonight: Care for an animal.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
It is never too early to save for a vacation. Frugality is not your style, but
wise budgeting comes in handy. Visualize a few destinations and research
online specials. Aromatic fragrances brighten your home and mood. Tonight:
Sample aromatherapy.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)
Pamper yourself and take time to look your best. Ask someone for
a favor. Speak from your heart and it won’t sound like a demand. Show your
appreciation with a meaningful gift that has sentimental value. Tonight:
Family game night.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)
Use downtime to clear mental clutter. If you feel misunderstood, be
patient. Make an effort to speak with clarity. Write down your dreams since
they may reveal the answer you’ve been looking for. Tonight: Own up to a
mistake.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
Take a break from large groups. A close friend will introduce you
to someone with whom you have an instant connection. Take time to get to
know each other better and explore common interests. Tonight: Organize a
sing along.
Ryan Brennecke/The Bulletin
Deschutes County is considering renovations to Bill Worrell Wayside Park located near the Deschutes County administration building that include
more parking and better wheelchair access.
Worrell Park
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Though there are no for-
mal plans to do so in the near
future, the expansion of the
courthouse will require the
county to provide more park-
ing spaces within 1,000 feet of
the courthouse, according to
city of Bend code.
The courthouse sits across
the street from the county’s
downtown campus.
Between the possible fu-
ture expansion and a parking
study, which showed in 2019
the downtown campus parking
area of 654 spaces was consis-
Programs
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“We’ve spent the last year
responding to crisis after cri-
sis. As our state continues to
recover from the many chal-
lenges 2020 brought, this fund-
ing package will make urgent
investments to help Orego-
nians who are truly hurting.”
Included in the summer
package are these programs:
• For high school students
behind on their credits for the
past two academic years be-
cause of the coronavirus pan-
demic, $71.9 million, with
school districts putting up a
25% match from federal pan-
demic aid they will get sep-
arately. Districts qualify for
money if half of high school
students participate.
• For students from kinder-
garten through fifth grade,
$93.7 million, with school dis-
tricts putting up a 25% match,
for academic or other enrich-
ment programs. Districts will
get money based on the dis-
tribution formula for regular
state aid, but more weight will
be given to students at the pov-
erty level. Assuming a cost of
$1,800 per student, the state es-
timates that up to 70,000 chil-
dren could benefit.
• For child care, $30 mil-
lion, plus $10 million in federal
funds.
• For preschool programs,
$12 million, plus $11.2 million
in federal funds, for one-time
activities this summer.
• For summer recreation
activities, $40 million that the
Oregon Community Foun-
dation will award in grants to
public agencies and nonprofit
groups, such as the YMCA and
Boys and Girls Clubs.
• For parents whose children
have disabilities, suffer from
trauma or are at risk of place-
ment into the child welfare
system, $1.2 million. The state
estimates this program could
support about 600 parents.
Money not spent by Jan. 1
will return to state coffers.
Kotek said she expects as
much as $75 million in fed-
eral funds from districts and
the Employment-Related Day
Care program to match the
$250 million.
The $250 million package is
attached to a larger bill that en-
ables lawmakers to rebalance
the budgets of state agencies
before the close of the two-year
state budget cycle on June 30.
Some of the proposed spend-
ing for summer programs will
carry over into the next cycle,
which starts July 1.
Reading stalls vote
The votes on three budget
bills were stalled in a dispute
between majority Democrats
tently at 95% capacity during
the work week, Randall said
the county is trying to prepare
for future parking needs.
But Commissioner Patti
Adair opposed moving for-
ward with the project, mostly
because she objected to the esti-
mated project cost of $2.5 mil-
lion to add only 68 more spots.
Adair also said she was fond
of the park the way it is now,
despite its steep terrain, and
objected to the idea of cutting
down two of the five mature
ponderosa pines at the site,
which is suggested in this con-
ceptual plan.
“We’re spending a lot of
money, and what are we really
getting?” Adair said.
Chang encouraged Adair
in the meeting to see the esti-
mated $2.5 million price tag
as the cost for not just parking
spaces, but for an improved
park that would actually be us-
able by the community.
Despite working in the
building, all of the commis-
sioners said Monday they had
never gone to even eat their
lunch out in the park because it
was too hard to access.
“I do like the idea of the
park being used more actively,”
Chang said.
However, the reality of the
parking situation at the down-
town campus has changed
since the survey was done two
years ago. Due to more people
working remotely because of
the pandemic, the demand for
parking has gone down, Ran-
dall said Thursday.
This could influence how
the park is redesigned, and
how parking is prioritized.
“I don’t know to what ex-
tent that will impact decisions
about parking spaces,” Randall
said. “It certainly will be a con-
sideration because it’s the real-
ity we are all living in.”
and minority Republicans,
who sought to slow down the
lawmaking process by declin-
ing to waive the constitutional
requirement of every bill be-
ing read aloud before a final
vote. Republicans have insisted
on the House limiting itself to
budgets and legislation with a
“bipartisan consensus.”
The reading aloud of House
Bill 2111 — a bill that simply
renames the Oregon Liquor
Control Commission as the
Oregon Liquor and Canna-
bis Commission, but was 170
pages long — took the better
part of three days. Kotek al-
lowed the chief clerk’s office to
use computer software, rather
than the human staff, to read
the text. The marathon reading
ended at 7:30 p.m. Thursday.
That bill passed on a 54-1 vote
with little discussion.
“This is the kind of focused
work that Oregonians need
from us right now,” House
Republican Leader Chris-
tine Drazan of Canby said in
a statement before Thursday
night’s session. “We will con-
tinue to find ways to collab-
orate on priority issues like a
balanced budget.”
Rep. Dan Rayfield, a Dem-
ocrat from Corvallis and the
House’s chief budget writer,
said the budget rebalancing bill
— which is normally routine —
was different this time because
of millions in federal and other
funds that the state needed to
cope with the pandemic and
the Labor Day wildfires.
The main bill will save $21.5
million in the tax-supported
general fund, but add $567.8
million in federal funds and
$898.2 million in other funds.
Other bills adjust lottery pro-
ceeds, which have bounced
back from reduced projections
during the pandemic, and
spending on capital projects.
approved in Measure 110 last
year. Senate Bill 846, which the
House has not yet considered,
would set the start date for the
new centers on Jan. 1, instead of
Oct. 1 as stated in Measure 110.
• $2.9 million to the Oregon
Food Bank to enable it to make
emergency food purchases.
The food bank and its network
of 20 regional banks received
$2.9 million in December to
cover emergency purchases for
the first three months of this
year.
• $15.7 million in federal
funds from the National Guard
Bureau for construction of a
third barracks and associated
buildings at Camp Umatilla, an
Oregon National Guard train-
ing center in Hermiston. The
original federal grant for two
barracks was $11.3 million.
The Senate already has
passed bills to implement pro-
gram changes, including the
new deadlines for actions un-
der Measure 110, and extend
spending authority to state
agencies that do not have 2021-
23 budgets approved by the
start of the new cycle on July
1. The House has yet to act on
those bills.
Other spending
Other items of note:
• $3.7 million total in grants
to 11 local governments, in-
cluding $220,000 to the city of
Estacada, for repair of Labor
Day wildfire damage.
• $20 million total in grants
to seven local governments, in-
cluding $2.5 million for the city
of Bend, for navigation centers
that help people find housing
and other services.
• $20 million from mari-
juana sales taxes during this
budget cycle for the Oregon
Health Authority to start work
on the new addiction recov-
ery centers that Oregon voters
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