A8 The BulleTin • Friday, March 26, 2021
DEAR ABBY
Write to Dear Abby online at dearabby.com
or by mail at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069
Dear Abby: I used to be a
successful working woman
until I lost my husband of 30
years. After I became home-
less, I met “Tom.” We’ve been
good friends for the last five
years, hanging out in the
woods, sometimes getting
hotel rooms. It’s a platonic
relationship, but we rely on
each other.
I receive Social Security
survivor benefits now, and
I want to move on and get
my own place. He says he’s
fine with it, but I feel terribly
guilty. He gets a small disabil-
ity check but is not wise with
money. How can I comfort
him?
— Guilty in Florida
Dear Guilty: Tom has told
you he is fine with you up-
grading your living situation.
I presume that you don’t in-
tend to desert him. Believe
him and stop flogging your-
self for your good fortune.
Help him when you can and
encourage him to contact an
agency that helps the home-
less so he can get his life back
on track, too.
Dear Abby: I’m in a same-
sex relationship with a
woman I love and admire.
But five months in, sex is be-
coming impossible because I
think I’m heterosexual. Leav-
ing this relationship scares
me because I can’t imagine a
life without her.
I told her I didn’t know if,
for several reasons, sex would
be a part of our relation-
ship, but that I do love her.
She doesn’t seem to mind at
all. I’m not sure what to do.
Please help.
— Loving in Louisiana
Dear Loving: What you
need to do is be honest with
your partner. It is possible
that you are bisexual and
need to explore relationships
with men before making up
your mind about any perma-
nent relationship. If sex is im-
portant to you, then the per-
son you wind up with may
not be this woman you love
and admire, but someone else
entirely.
Dear Abby: My grandson
died by suicide in 2019. My
daughter, who lives in an-
other state, hasn’t spoken to
me since. Why? Because we
did not call her on the phone.
We were texting her, and she
was texting us back. When I
did try to call, she wouldn’t
answer the phone.
It has been more than a
year now. She won’t respond
to other family members, ei-
ther. Please advise me what to
do in this sad situation.
Technical issues delay rental
assistance for Oregon landlords
BY JAMIE GOLDBERG
The Oregonian
Oregon will give landlords
who applied for assistance
earlier this month until March
30 to finish submitting nec-
essary documentation after
a faulty state website made it
impossible for some to com-
plete their applications on
time.
The state opened applica-
tions for its new Landlord
Compensation Fund on Feb.
17, nearly two months after
lawmakers allocated $150 mil-
lion to seed the program to
help landlords whose residen-
tial tenants had fallen behind
on rent during the COVID-19
pandemic. Landlords immedi-
ately began complaining that
the state website was distorting
data or failing to allow them to
upload necessary documen-
tation.
That prompted Oregon
Housing and Community Ser-
vices, the state agency admin-
istering the program, to extend
the deadline to apply until
early March before promising
to work individually with ap-
plicants after the deadline to
ensure their applications were
completed.
It could now take until May
for those landlords to start re-
ceiving the much-needed as-
sistance due to delays caused
by the faulty website.
Kate Gonsalves, a spokes-
person for the state agency,
said landlords approved for
the funding are likely to start
seeing money show up in
their accounts approximately
30 days after awards are an-
nounced, which will happen
sometime after the applica-
tion process closes on March
30.
It could take even longer for
that money to reach landlords
if local public housing author-
ities responsible for delivering
the money run into any prob-
Carbon
Continued from A7
— Wounded Grandma in Texas
Dear Grandma: Not know-
ing your daughter, I am hesi-
tant to guess why she has iso-
lated herself from everyone.
She may have felt she was en-
titled to more support from
you all and didn’t receive it.
As many people have
pointed out in my column,
while texts may be efficient,
they are a poor substitute for
a human voice.
Because she refuses your
calls, write her a letter telling
her you love her and apolo-
gize for letting her down af-
ter the tragedy of losing her
son. Whether it will help, I
can’t guess — but at least the
olive branch will have been
offered.
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YOUR HOROSCOPE
By Madalyn Aslan
This satellite image shows the cargo ship MV Ever Given stuck in the Suez Canal Thursday,. The skyscrap-
er-sized cargo ship wedged across Egypt’s Suez Canal further imperiled global shipping Thursday as at
least 150 other vessels needing to pass through the crucial waterway idled waiting for the obstruction to
clear, authorities said.
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR FRIDAY, MARCH 26, 2021: Coura-
geous, adventurous and original, the path forward involves being true to
yourself while respecting the beliefs of others. This year, you can retain your
independence and still be respected as a team player. Be discriminating
when letting people into your inner circle. If single, be patient and the right
fit will come along soon enough. If attached, let go of negative feelings and
your love will endure. GEMINI makes you laugh.
ARIES (March 21-April 19)
Fresh air and exercise will serve you well today. Start a sensible and
healthy eating plan. Prepare fresh salads and a fruit platter to munch on. You
will feel lighter and more energetic. Tonight: Enjoy dinner with close friends.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
Speak your mind, but be sensitive to the opinions of others. Tact will
go a long way. Follow through on a promise you made to someone you love.
They will be touched that you remembered. Tonight: Story time with kids.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
Make your home warm and cozy. Get a house plant that is easy to
care for. Be positive and patient when talking to parents and in-laws. This is
not the time to bring up past frustrations. Tonight: Be creative with leftovers.
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
Strong opinions could get you in trouble. Play it safe and let a col-
league have the last word. Siblings may have news to share. Get in touch
even if it has been a while. Tonight: Snack, but not too much.
Stuck
Continued from A7
The vessel remained stuck
as of Thursday night despite
“continuous” efforts to refloat
it, according to canal service
provider Leth Agencies.
Canal service provider
Leth Agencies said at least
150 ships were waiting for the
Ever Given to be cleared, in-
cluding vessels near Port Said
on the Mediterranean Sea,
Port Suez on the Red Sea and
those already stuck in the ca-
nal system on Egypt’s Great
Bitter Lake.
Cargo ships already behind
the Ever Given in the canal
will be reversed south back to
Port Suez to free the channel,
Leth Agencies said. Author-
ities hope to do the same to
the Ever Given when they can
free it.
But many more ships al-
ready are en route to the ca-
nal.
Using data from Automatic
Identification System track-
ers on ships at sea, data firm
Refinitiv shared an analysis
with the AP showing over 300
ships remained on the way to
the waterway over the next
two weeks.
Some vessels could still
change course, but the crush
of ships listing the Suez Canal
as their destination shows an
even-greater backlog looms
for shippers already under
pressure amid the coronavi-
rus pandemic.
“Blocking something like
the Suez Canal really sets in
motion a number of dominos
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)
Paying bills could alter a harmonious mood. Find a money-making
project that could evolve into a profitable business. Be generous with those
you love, but stay within your budget. Plan an entertaining evening on a
shoestring budget. Tonight: Update your calendar.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
Get a makeover that includes a dramatic haircut. You may be
surprised at compliments that come your way. Be prepared to present your
ideas at a meeting. Review answers to challenging questions, and you’ll do
just fine. Tonight: Ice cream.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
Working at home looks more and more tempting. Do it if you can.
Find a quiet place, free from distractions. Your family will appreciate you
being around. Finish your day’s work before giving them your full attention.
Tonight: Talk things over.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)
People you know may be surprised at your strong public speaking
skills. Think about taking a leadership role in an organization where you vol-
unteer. Your ability to lead will emerge when faced with a meaningful cause.
Tonight: Take time alone.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
Wrap up unexpected problems, even if it means working overtime.
A promotion or bonus may be in the offing. Plan the right moment to bring
it up. Show your loved ones how much they mean to you. Tonight: Unwind
and relax.
Debt
Continued from A7
That order remains in effect
during the COVID-19 emer-
gency period, which Brown
has extended until May.
However, Brown said in
April that her order did not
prevent money being seized
because of criminal actions
requiring restitution or civil
judgments based on a criminal
conviction. Past-due child sup-
port can also be deducted from
the payments before they are
deposited in bank accounts.
Brown announced in April
that she was issuing the or-
der to correct an “oversight in
the federal legislation, ensur-
ing that Oregonians can use
the funds for their intended
purpose: covering the costs
of essential needs during the
COVID-19 public health cri-
sis.”
Liz Merah, a spokesperson
for Brown, confirmed Wednes-
day that the state continues to
bar debt collectors from seiz-
ing the latest round of stimulus
payments for Oregonians.
She said individuals who
believe their payments have
been garnished in error should
reach out to the Oregon De-
partment of Revenue.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)
Continue to upgrade your professional skills, including learning new
technology. Use this opportunity to gain more confidence in your abilities.
The time may come when you seek out a new position and go on interviews.
Tonight: Attend a new meeting.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)
Review the fine print of a contract or document. Take your time, even
if someone pressures you to sign right away. A joint financial arrangement
will start to bear fruit. Trust in its growth potential. Tonight: Make a journal
entry.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
Someone close may ask you to mediate a dispute. Be openminded and
diplomatic. You do not want to upset those you love. Make this a teachable
moment. Remind everyone to talk things through and open their hearts.
Tonight: Early to bed.
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toppling each other over,”
said Lars Jensen, chief ex-
ecutive of Denmark-based
SeaIntelligence Consult-
ing. “The effect is not only
going to be the simple, imme-
diate one with cargo being
delayed over the next few
weeks, but will actually
have repercussions several
months down the line for
the supply chain.”
IRIE
“Confronting the challenge of
climate change and building a
lower-carbon future will require
a combination of government
policies, industry initiatives and
continuous innovation,” Amer-
ican Petroleum Institute Presi-
dent and CEO Mike Sommers
said in a statement.
The reversal comes as Presi-
dent Joe Biden has made tack-
ling climate change a top pri-
ority, moving in his first days
in office to suspend oil and gas
lease sales from federal lands
and waters and canceling the
contentious Keystone XL oil
sands pipeline from Canada.
While industry critics ex-
pressed suspicions over the sin-
cerity of the move, Sommers
emphasized that oil companies
want “market-based solutions”
such as a carbon tax or a cap-
and-trade policy, rather than
“heavy-handed government
regulation.” The oil industry
played a key role in the defeat
of proposed cap-and-trade leg-
islation in the Senate a decade
ago, and its endorsement of a
carbon price and other federal
action marks a turnaround af-
ter years of opposition to fed-
eral legislation to address cli-
mate change.
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OBITUARY
Owen Smith
October 6, 1943 - January 8, 2021
Owen Smith (78) passed away on January 8, 2021
in Bend, Oregon. Owen was born in Glendale,
California, and moved to Oregon in 1979. He
loved camping and fl y fi shing as well as working in
Sport Fishing in San Diego. He worked on the ship
‘Bett yLou’ and worked for Frito-Lay in both San
Diego and Bend. His love of anti ques led to owning
a restorati on business in Baker City and Bend. He
is survived by his partner Jan Curry and her family,
his ex-wife Jane and their two wonderful children,
Laura McClain and Jeremy Smith, as well as his
two grandchildren, Jack and May.
David L. Hanson
of Redmond, OR
Nancy (Hazelwood)
Lee Ariail of Bend, OR
March 31, 1949 - March
18, 2021
Arrangements:
Arrangement entrusted
to Redmond Memorial
Chapel. 541-548-3219.
Please leave condolences
at redmondmemorial.com
Services:
Services will be held at a
later date.
Contributions may be
made to:
Redmond Band of Brothers
May 16, 1945 - March 21,
2021
Arrangements:
Baird Funeral Home of
Bend is honored to serve
the Ariail family. Please
visit our website, www.
bairdfh.com, to share
condolences and sign our
online guest book.
Services:
A service will be held later
in the summer for friends
and family
Contributions may be
made to:
Meissner Nordic
https://meissnernordic.org/
donate/
PO Box 2032 Bend, OR
97709-2032 Phone: 541-
316-0831
Elaine M. York
of Redmond, OR
T E XT
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lems distributing the funds.
Those delays could create
added stress for struggling
landlords and tenants alike.
Landlords who are approved
for relief through the state pro-
gram will receive assistance
to cover 80% of the rent they
are owed by residential ten-
ants dating back to April 2020
if they agree to forgive 20% of
unpaid rent. Tenants whose
landlords win approval will
have their unpaid rent bills for-
given for the months the land-
lord receives funding, helping
them stay in their homes after
the state lifts its ban on evic-
tions.
Jan 29, 1926 - March 16,
2021
Arrangements:
Arrangements Entrusted
To: Redmond Memorial
Chapel www.redmondme-
morial.com ; 541.548.3219
Services:
Private Burial Services
Contributions may be
made to:
Local Charity of Choice
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