THE BULLETIN • THURSDAY, MARCH 18, 2021 A7
SPORTS BRIEFING
DEAR ABBY
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Dear Abby: My fiancee
and I have been together for
four years. I have lost A LOT
of people in my life, so I am
used to death.
She, on the other hand,
didn’t experience it until two
years ago, when she lost her
grandfather. The next year,
her mother passed, and last
year we lost a child — her
oldest — my stepson.
Abby, she is so lost. She’s
no longer the same person
she once was, and I totally
understand that.
I’m sad and depressed, too,
but she’s bad.
I love this woman like I
have never loved any other.
I can’t picture life without
her, but lately I have begun to
wonder how it would affect
me, her and the kids if I left.
I’m not equipped to deal
with someone else’s depres-
sion on top of my own. I have
been trying, but I’m find-
ing myself getting more and
more angry. What should I
do?
— Torn in the East
Dear Torn: You mentioned
that you, too, suffer from de-
pression. Are you receiving
treatment for it? If you are
seeing a psychologist (and
being medicated), discuss
this with the person who is
working with you. You may
need a change in your med-
ication.
It isn’t surprising that with
so much loss all at once in
her life, your fiancee is griev-
ing and depressed. Frankly,
while I might suggest she join
a support group for help in
coping with the loss of her
child, she may also need help
from a licensed mental health
professional.
Although you are tempted,
I don’t think now is the time
to abandon your fiancee and
her children. Once she is sta-
bilized, you may not want to
leave at all.
Dear Abby: My 13-, al-
most 14-year-old daughter,
“Gabbi,” is a shining star of
responsibility and being self-
driven. She also likes nice
things.
Gabbi has been babysit-
ting for my sister for several
months and has saved almost
every penny, which amounts
to hundreds of dollars. I’m
proud of her discipline. How-
ever, I think she should start
buying some of her “frivolous
wants” herself.
I’m willing to buy her and
my other children gifts when
I can and on special occa-
sions on my single income,
but Gabbi often asks me for
$10 here and $10 there.
Because it’s more than I
can afford, I have to say no
and see her silent disappoint-
ment.
I know the simple answer
is to not give in, but I want
my daughter to learn that it’s
OK to spend a little on herself
here and there.
I’m not sure what words to
use to convince her. Can you
help?
— Mom on a Budget
Dear Mom: Your daugh-
ter is old enough for an hon-
est conversation with her
mom. Start by telling her how
proud of her you are that she
has shown how disciplined
and responsible she is be-
cause those traits will serve
her well in years to come.
Tell her you feel bad about
disappointing her when you
refuse her requests, but now
that she’s nearly 14, she’s ma-
ture enough to understand
you are the sole wage earner,
money is tight and her fre-
quent requests put a strain on
the budget.
Then point out that she has
saved quite a bit of income
from her babysitting, and she
should direct some of it to-
ward the items she’s asking
you for.
BASKETBALL
Basketball writers name Ducks’ Duarte to All-Amer-
ica 3rd team — Oregon’s Chris Duarte earned his second
All-America honor. The Ducks senior guard was named a third
team All-American by the U.S. Basketball Writers Association on
Wednesday, matching the honor he received from the Associated
Press on Tuesday. Should Duarte earn the same distinction from
By Madalyn Aslan
Stars show the kind of day you’ll have
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR THURSDAY, MARCH 18, 2021:
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greatest support system. This year, you can strengthen all relationships
and fix those that may have been broken. Think outside the box and
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Soccer
Continued from A5
“It’s been so cool to be part
of building this. It’s just been a
dream come true being part of
this group and watching them
improve every single year, and
being able to contribute some-
thing to that.”
Harris — who had 20 goals
in 2019 and has seven this
season — said the Redmond
program has basically been in
rebuilding mode since the ar-
rival of Ridgeview, which has
been the cream of the Class 5A
Intermountain Conference the
last few years.
The arrival of seven fresh-
men to the Panthers (3-1) this
season has brought new life to
the program.
Two of those freshmen
stepped up to score goals in
Tuesday night’s historic vic-
tory.
Late in the first half, Jillian
Bremont took a long pass in
the box from Rory Eldridge,
and booted the ball into the
back of the net to break a 1-1
tie. It would prove to be the
winning goal, as the teams
went scoreless in the second
half.
Freshman Charrisse Wed-
ding scored first for Redmond,
corralling a high ball in front of
the goal and planting it past the
Ridgeview goalie for a 1-0 lead
in the eighth minute.
“The last few years, we’ve
had one, two or three freshmen
join our program each year,”
Oregon State
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YOUR HOROSCOPE
the National Association of Basketball Coaches he will become
Oregon’s 12th consensus All-American. It is the fourth time an
Oregon player has been recognized as a USBWA All-American
and the third in five years, joining Dillon Brooks and Payton
Pritchard, who were both second-team honorees. The AP Pac-12
Player of the Year, Duarte helped lead the Ducks to back-to-back
Pac-12 regular season titles.
“We’ve got seven seniors that
may not be with us. So you
want to make the most of your
opportunities.”
USC, which hasn’t been to
the tournament since 2017,
is seeded sixth in the West
and set to play the winner of
the preliminary round game
between Drake and Wichita
State. Seventh-seeded Oregon
plays No. 10 VCU on Saturday
in the West.
Coach Tinkle’s son, Tres,
who held up the No. 12 at the
title game, graduated last year
as Oregon State’s all-time lead-
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Ridgeview’s Lily Gallentine (23) holds off Redmond’s Dagne Harris (left)
and Trista Johnson (right) during a girls soccer match at Ridgeview
High School in Redmond on Tuesday night.
said Redmond coach Mar-
tha Segura. “It’s really tough
to build a program when you
don’t have the freshmen com-
ing in every year. This is the
first time that I’ve had a strong
group of freshmen, and it’s
pushing us to be better. We’ve
got seven freshmen who are
very good. It’s pushing all of
our girls to work harder and be
better.”
That includes Harris, the
team leader.
“I am so confident in this
group,” Harris said. “These
freshmen have just brought
new excitement and new en-
ergy into our team and pro-
gram, and I am so pumped for
what we’re going to bring to
this season and next season.
They just brought something
completely different to the ta-
ble. It’s just so much more of a
team than the last two years. It
feels really good.”
Ridgeview’s Kensey Gault
tied the game 1-1 on a break-
away goal in the 21st minute.
But Bremont broke that tie just
15 minutes later, and the Pan-
ing scorer and most recently
played for the Raptors 905 of
the NBA G-League. Last year,
the Beavers were set to play
Oregon in the Pac-12 tourna-
ment quarterfinals when the
season was shut down by the
coronavirus.
Wayne Tinkle said he was
disappointed he wasn’t able to
coach a tournament game with
Tres on the court.
The younger Tinkle was on
the 2016 Beavers team that
went to the NCAAs, but was
injured.
So the coach dedicated the
Pac-12 championship to his
son.
“Tres worked so hard to try
to lead us back to a place we
hadn’t been in a while. And it
just seemed like things didn’t
go his way. Obviously, this is
this year’s team and we’ve done
some incredible things, but I
really wanted to share that with
him,” he said.
Under Tinkle, the Beavers
are all about family. Ethan
Thompson, who leads the Bea-
vers with an average of 15.3
points a game, is the son of as-
sistant coach Stephen Thomp-
son. Stephen Thompson Jr.,
who now plays professionally
in Europe, also played for the
Beavers.
After the big win over Colo-
rado on Saturday, players cele-
thers clung to their lead in the
second half as the Ravens (0-4)
battled for the equalizer until
the final horn. They came ex-
tremely close to scoring off a
corner kick with less than 10
seconds remaining.
Redmond goalkeeper Alyssa
McConnell finished with six
saves.
The Panthers’ turnaround
was apparent last Friday, when
they defeated Mountain View
4-0. Segura said they had not
beaten the Cougars in at least
eight years, and in those eight
years, Redmond netted only
three goals against them. That
victory was a springboard
to their emotional win over
Ridgeview.
“We’ve had all the confi-
dence in the world in our girls,”
Segura said. “It was about them
putting it together on the field.
We knew they could do it, and
they finally did it, and I don’t
want them to look back. I want
them to run with this confi-
dence.”
While there will be no state
playoffs this season due to
COVID-19, Segura said the In-
termountain Conference plans
to hold a postseason tourna-
ment the second week of April,
and the Panthers’ goal is to
earn the top seed and win the
tournament.
“With this group, we have
the energy and the confidence,”
Harris said, “and I’m really ex-
cited to take it all the way.”
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brated in their hotel by singing
the team’s theme song “Ain’t
no Mountain High Enough,”
before leaving for Indianapolis
the next day.
“For years I’ve had a tradi-
tion,” Tinkle said, “whenever
we‘ve won on the road, we’ve
played ’Ain’t No Mountain
High Enough’ on the bus, and
the team has to sing it.”
Perhaps they’ll sing it on Fri-
day night, too.
“It’s just incredible that we
have gotten to this level, and
we know why we have, but it’s
a pretty neat deal,” the coach
said. “But we’re going to keep
this thing rolling. Orange Ex-
press is back, baby.”
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shopping. Try on a few outfits that fit your budget. Admire but do not touch
what you cannot afford. Tonight: Put your feet up.
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hair done. Put your stamp on a project that involves helping someone in
need. No need to be humble. Enjoy the kudos but show gratitude. Tonight:
Celebrate your success.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
õõõõ Express yourself through a creative medium. Use your imagination
and try something you have never done before. Balance your private and
public time. Family will support whatever you decide to do in your spare
time. Tonight: Bubble bath and aromatherapy.
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
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your day. Prepare to offer heartfelt advice and a listening ear. Be pleased
that you could help a friend with your point of view. Tonight: Share exciting
ideas.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)
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volunteer. Aim high, and it may not be as daunting as it seems. You may get a
promotion, raise or leadership opportunity. Tonight: Relax just a little.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
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Instead, use your imagination to travel the world. Learn a language. Sample
international cuisine. Watch cooking shows and foreign films. Tonight: Take
the remote and browse your shows.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
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perfect time will make itself known soon enough. Get your juices flowing
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SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
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and remember to slow down and take a few deep breaths. Yoga positions
work wonders. If you have a pet, give it extra attention. Tonight: Lots of
laughter.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)
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comfortable in front of the TV. Good friends and a cup of hot chocolate make
your day complete. Tonight: Plan a day to take off work.
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putes cause tension, so quell them the moment they begin. Start researching
genealogical roots. Once you start you won9t be able to stop. Tonight: Clear
the air with someone.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
õõõõ You may get invited to a party where new contacts await you. Don9t
hide in the corner. Strut your stuff, and an opportunity may come your way.
Try your hand at writing something you can publish. Tonight: Prepare a fab-
ulous meal.
Golf
Continued from A5
Momentum isn’t everything
at the Masters, though the
green jacket is rarely slipped
over the shoulders of someone
who had spent too much time
searching in the months lead-
ing to Augusta.
Johnson was coming off a
runner-up finish when he won
the Masters last year. Tiger
Woods was one putt away from
the semifinals at Match Play in
the last event before he won a
fifth green jacket. Patrick Reed
was coming off three straight
top 10s when he won the Mas-
ters.
Sergio Garcia and Danny
Willett had each won in the
Middle East the year of their
Masters victories. Jordan Spi-
eth had won, finished second
and lost in a playoff in the three
events before he went wire-to-
wire at Augusta.
Johnson says he’s close, and
there’s reason to believe him. It’s
easier to clean up a mess than
to produce birdies, and the lat-
ter was not in short supply at
Sawgrass. He made 17 birdies
and an eagle. He finished at
1-under par.
“I just made a lot of mistakes,
a lot of mental mistakes, just a
little bit of everything,” John-
son said.
McIlroy sounded as though
he had a lot of work to do.
He conceded he got “sucked
into that stuff” of trying in-
crease his swing speed after
watching how DeChambeau at-
tacked Winged Foot in the U.S.
Open. McIlroy says of his own
game at Winged Foot, “I would
be pretty happy with that again.”
“And then after Winged Foot
I had a few weeks before we
went to the West Coast and I
started to try to hit the ball a bit
harder, hit a lot of drivers, get
a bit more speed, and I felt like
that was sort of the infancy of
where these swing problems
have come from,” McIlroy said.
“So it’s just a matter of trying to
get back out of it.”
For some, the Masters can’t
get here soon enough. For
others, their games can’t turn
around quickly enough.
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