THE BULLETIN • TUESDAY, MARCH 2, 2021 A7
Lewis
DEAR ABBY
Write to Dear Abby online at dearabby.com
or by mail at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069
Dear Abby: I have been
married for 26 years. Five
years ago, my husband gave
a young lady $5,000 through
credit card charges over a
six-month period. We are
not wealthy. When I found
the charges in our credit re-
port, he took a second job to
pay it off.
I don’t think their rela-
tionship was sexual because
he is impotent. It was hurt-
ful. While he was taking this
young lady shopping, he told
me he was at work.
Recently, I (accidentally)
caught him going to another
young lady’s apartment to
help her with things like
hanging a TV. I don’t care if
he helps people. What I DO
care about is his sneaking
around to do it. I have tried
talking to him about why he
feels he needs to sneak. He
has no answer. What makes
men sneak?
— Deceived in Kentucky
Dear Deceived: Your hus-
band may fear your disap-
proval of his relationships —
however platonic they may
be — with these younger
women. What makes peo-
ple of both genders sneak,
by the way, is usually a sense
of guilt.
Dear Abby: My boyfriend,
my 33-year-old son, his girl-
friend and their 4-year-old
son all live with me. They are
expecting their second child.
I own the home and pay all
the bills (utilities, phone,
food, etc.).
The problem is, my kids
don’t like my boyfriend. His
grandkids call me Grandma,
so I would like my grandkids
to call him Grandpa. My son
and his girlfriend won’t allow
their son to do it. They insist
on calling him by his first
name.
I asked for a compro-
mise and to call him Uncle.
They refuse and say he didn’t
“earn” that name. I said it’s
just teaching the children to
respect their elders. When I
grew up and when I raised
my son, we called older peo-
ple Aunty and Uncle. I’m not
sure what to do because we
all live in the same house,
and I would like all of us to
get along.
— Wishing for Respect
in Hawaii
Dear Wishing: You may
have taught your son to re-
spect his elders when he was
growing up, but it appears he
has had a serious memory
lapse. Shame on him.
Because you foot all of the
bills for the roof over his and
his family’s heads as well as
the food in their mouths, re-
mind him that you are the
head of that household, and
you will not have anyone
with whom you are involved
disrespected. As it stands,
you and your boyfriend are
being disrespected, so as
head of the household, please
assert yourself.
Dear Abby: Our son, “Jus-
tin,” is getting married. He
told his dad the other day
that his fiancee would like for
my husband to go with Justin
to his salon to get his hair cut
and beard trimmed for the
wedding. My husband is up-
set about it because he feels
his soon-to-be daughter-
in-law is implying that his
haircut isn’t good enough.
As the wife and future moth-
er-in-law, I’m unsure how to
handle this situation. Help,
please.
— Grooming Groom’s
Dad in Georgia
Dear G.G.D.I.G: Try to
get your offended spouse
to laugh about it. Point out
that EVERYONE looks bet-
ter with a fresh haircut and a
trim. Even you and me. Most
people want to spruce up and
make themselves more pre-
sentable for a special event.
Why should your husband
be any different?
Continued from A5
The near extermination of
the buffalo accelerated in the
years after the Civil War. Settle-
ment, railroads, market hunt-
ing and disease, coincident
with military policy, took its
toll; the great northern herd
seemed to vanish first.
A few names are legend,
the saviors of the great beasts:
Samuel Walking Coyote,
Charles Allard, Michel Pablo,
Buffalo Jones and Charles
Goodnight, who founded
small private herds from or-
phaned calves. By 1902, the
Yellowstone herd was started
with 18 bison.
Today there are close to
500,000 bison on the hoof in
the United States and Can-
ada. Herds in various states
and provinces ensure the sur-
vivability of the species. Even
today a handful of men and
women preserve bison on res-
ervations, refuges and ranches.
In the tradition of Good-
night, Jones and Walking Coy-
ote, is John Howell, a former
NFL safety who played for the
Tampa Bay Buccaneers and
the Seattle Seahawks. When
his football career was over, he
went back to his hometown in
the Sand Hills, back to the Dis-
mal River.
For 25 years, Howell’s bison,
close to 200 animals, have had
the run of a preserve on the
banks of the Dismal River. To
keep from exceeding the carry-
ing capacity of the land, a few
bison are harvested each year.
When we spotted a small
group of animals silhouetted
on the spine of a ridge, we
parked the truck out of sight.
It was the first of several stalks.
My friend Tracy Wilson car-
ried a bolt-action 33 Nosler
and on the third stalk we iden-
tified a large bull on the edge of
the herd.
Ahead of me, Wilson and
Howell sprawled on the edge
Ducks
Continued from A5
YOUR HOROSCOPE
By Madalyn Aslan
Stars show the kind of day you’ll have
õ õ õ õ õ DYNAMIC | õ õ õ õ POSITIVE | õ õ õ AVERAGE | õ õ SO-SO | õ DIFFICULT
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR TUESDAY, MARCH 2, 2021: Loyal,
fanciful and persevering, you mustn9t neglect your own needs and develop-
ment. This year, you devote yourself to your work and block everything else
out, and succeed brilliantly. You might win an award. If single, beware of an
obsession this year. Next year, you9ll be clearer in thought. Wait until 2022
to make any personal decisions. If attached, you9re glued at the hip. GEMINI
reminds you to have fun.
ARIES (March 21-April 19)
õõõõõ Today brings a sensitive and sentimental mood to love. Show
appreciation for the creations and accomplishments of a loved one. Make
a special effort to communicate clearly and listen carefully. Tonight: A shift
regarding loyalties and commitments to a family member.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
õõõ Be alert to routine safety concerns. Create a comfortable environment.
Some time and energy is dedicated to the health needs of a loved one. When
this occurs, remember to rest and regroup. Tonight: A quiet evening before
an early bedtime if possible.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
õõõõõ Recreational activities that inspire thinking and learning will bring
you happiness today. Perhaps you might join a book club to find a new
friend. Encourage a potential love interest to talk. Listen. Tonight: Children
will be a source of comfort and joy.
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
õõõõ Today generates a feeling of freedom and well-being. Examine ways
to make housing as comfy and hospitable as possible. Dreams and hunches
about domestic matters should be heeded. Tonight: It9s a wonderful time for
completing old business. You will feel relief.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)
õõõ Keep a sense of humor if a neighbor is difficult or eccentric. Remember,
the world would be dull if we were all the same. Transportation arrange-
ments will have to be revamped. You will be on your way again soon. To-
night: Catch up with old friends.
“Holland I like the cover
ability and the versatility,”
Kiper said. “Like to see a little
bit more of tenacity there but
overall probably a second or
third-round pick for Holland,
would probably be more third
round now.”
Graham also opted out of
last season after posting 64
tackles with five for loss, 10
pass breakups, two intercep-
tions and a forced fumble in
2019. He attended the Senior
Bowl in January.
“He had moments where he
looked good, he was beaten a
couple of times,” Kiper said.
“But overall I’d say solid late
Day 2 early Day 3. I’d say he
gets into the third, possibly no
later than the fourth.”
Kiper has fifth-sixth round
grades on Breeze and Lenoir.
The 2020 Rose Bowl defen-
sive MVP, Breeze had a ca-
reer-high 62 tackles, two inter-
ceptions, three fumble returns
including a touchdown, three
pass breakups and a forced
fumble in 2019. He opted out
of the 2020 season.
Lenoir opted out in the
summer but returned when
UO’s season was restored and
had 30 tackles and an intercep-
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
õõõ Check provisions and supplies. Restock shelves and larders. Use that
bit of extra cash you9ve been hoarding to make a purchase that will give you
pleasure. Offer thanks for all that you have. Tonight: Let the magic take hold.
Preps
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
Continued from A5
õõõõ To achieve happiness, you must first resolve extreme emotions.
Today brings a vision of your year to come, and a time of growth and oppor-
tunity commences. Select goals. Tonight: Commitments made will stick, so
be cautious if considering a promise that could entangle.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)
õõõ Suddenly, discretion is more important than usual. You9ll cherish your
privacy. Quiet, good deeds generate positive karma. You9ll be aware of the
secret needs and worries of others. There are opportunities now to be help-
ful. Tonight: You9ll feel like a guardian angel.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
õõõ People from the past call or visit. You9ll feel haunted by an old wish or
goal that proved elusive. Be very realistic if you9re tempted to give it another
try. Practical guidelines provide the best route to success just now. Tonight:
Online networking.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)
õõõõ You9ll be considered an authority and role model today. This is sat-
isfying but also promises added responsibility. Your success will be affected
by the amount of effort you expend. You will be honored and appreciated.
Tonight: Give yourself a decent break.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)
õõõõ Note current events. Gather books and other reference materials
online. There is much to learn. Foreign language skills come easily today.
Creative word usage will impart a special power to magical workings. You9ll
be amazed. Tonight: Drifting away on a daydream.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
õõõõ Today can bring an important new partnership. Keep perspective
if love and emotional issues grow complex. There9s a sense of fate in the air.
Adapt to circumstances. Valuable insights come from close associates. To-
night: Your creativity is enhanced and impels you.
“We had some really good
chances,” said first-year La
Pine coach Mark Trapp.
“They just weren’t confident
with the ball. We have to learn
to finish. We will take care of
that.”
Although it was not the
outcome the Hawks had
hoped for, Trapp could see
in his players’ faces that joy
of being back on the field in
competition for the first time
since October 2019.
“This was a win right there
because of everything they
have been through — being
away from their field, school
online, that was difficult,”
Trapp said. “They would stay
after and just talk because
they couldn’t see each other at
school.”
The Hawks will travel to
face Santiam Christian in
Corvallis on Saturday.
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Maldonado’s BH Casino Royale, courtesy Rainy’s Flies.
Fly-tying corner
Most anglers don9t fish their nymphs deep enough. The beadhead
and copper wire body helps this one get down fast.
The Casino Royale, a creation of fly designer Robert Maldonado, is
a combination of the Prince Nymph and the Copper John, combining
the effectiveness of the contrasting biots with the copper sparkle. It9s
a hybrid mayfly nymph that can fish year-round and comes in three
colors: red, copper and chartreuse.
Fish this pattern dead-drift beneath a foam-bodied dry or use it
in tandem with another beadhead nymph, high-sticking, watch the
leader. Buy it or tie it, the Casino Royale will most likely outfish Pheas-
ant Tails and Prince Nymphs, especially in hard-fished waters.
Tie this one on a No. 8-14 nymph hook. Slide a tungsten or black
nickel bead up against the eye. Tie in two ginger goose biots for the
tail. For the body, use peacock herl separated by red wire. Craft the
underwing with two white biots (tied in under the peacock herl). Fin-
ish with two white biots for the wing.
—Gary Lewis, for The Bulletin
of a buffalo wallow and Wilson
made a rest for the rifle out of a
backpack. The wind blew at 25
mph. The distance to the big
bull, 125 yards. The animals
were close. When a calf cleared
the bull, the animal turned
and gave Wilson the shot he
needed.
Up on the ridge, a zephyr
blew my hat off. “This is the
place where wind is born,”
Howell said.
Buffalo pay their way on
Howell’s ranch. For most of
the year they are left alone, but
in the winter when their coats
are rich, when the meat can
be harvested without spoilage,
Howell guides a few hunters in
the chase and the stalk.
For a few minutes we mar-
veled at the animal that lay
before us and then the work
began. For the rest of the af-
ternoon, the outfitter and his
guides skinned and prepared
the meat for butchering.
In the morning we returned
with a Choctaw warrior on
his first bison hunt. Tray Ar-
dese grew up in Oklahoma and
spent 25 years in the Marine
Corps. This veteran of seven
combat tours said his lifelong
dream was to harvest a bison.
We crossed the Dismal on
a frosty morning, and found
a herd on a bench between
groves of cedars.
On our bellies, we slith-
ered through coarse grass and
prickly pear on hands and
knees, down into the shade of
tion in seven games. He had 47
tackles with 2.5 for loss, seven
pass breakups, an interception,
forced fumble and fumble re-
covery in 2019.
Sewell, Holland, Graham,
Breeze and Lenoir will be
among the players at Oregon’s
a cedar. Several stalks showed
glimpses of young bulls and dry
cows, but with no shot oppor-
tunities where the target animal
was not screened away by a calf.
When 58 pairs of eyes
turned on four two-leggers,
they bunched up, milled
around then lined out for the
horizon.
Two hours later we stalked
the herd again, down through
a narrow canyon, to a patch of
cedars and cottonwoods. The
bison began to stream uphill
along an ancient trail.
Ardese cocked an ear to his
guide, a former NFL great. In
our huddle, Howell called the
play.
“There, that’s a good young
bull. No, he has a calf in front
of him now. Shift. That one, at
the back of the herd, it doesn’t
have a calf. That one.” And the
crack of the rifle was in the
wind and one animal lifted its
tail and made its final run.
Howell recalled tripping
over a stone in the middle of a
buffalo wallow. He dug out an
ancient tool, blunt on one side
and pointed on the other, with
a groove for a leather strap to
hold the head to a chunk of
cottonwood.
“There are no stones here in
the Sand Hills,” Howell said,
“unless they were brought
here.”
Back at the ranch, he un-
wrapped the smoothed and
shaped stone. I traced the
worked groove with a fin-
gertip, imagined its heft on a
shaft. Rather than a war club,
it was probably used to crack
buffalo bones for the marrow.
Someone, Ogalalla, Cheyenne
or Arapaho, had carried that
thing from a long way off —
out here to the Sand Hills to
the place where wind is born.
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Gary Lewis is the host of “Frontier
Unlimited TV” and author of “Fishing
Central Oregon,” “Fishing Mount
Hood Country,” “Hunting Oregon” and
other titles. Contact Gary at www.
GaryLewisOutdoors.com
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