THE BULLETIN • TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 9, 2021 A7
OSAA
DEAR ABBY
Write to Dear Abby online at dearabby.com
or by mail at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069
Dear Abby: Because my
fiance and I had bad experi-
ences in the past, we settled
on just living together for the
last 17 years. He has been
like a husband to me and
faithful all these years. Re-
cently, however, I caught him
in an online affair.
I checked his phone one
day out of the blue — some-
thing I have never done be-
fore because we respect each
other’s privacy. The emails
were daily, back and forth,
with only one mentioning a
sexual encounter at the be-
ginning.
He confessed that he had
made a big mistake once and
refused to see her again in
person but had kept up the
correspondence. He begged
me to forgive him and I
agreed, since we were to-
gether for so long.
The problem is, now we
argue about his phone. He
still expects the same privacy
with it. I don’t feel comfort-
able with that now. Does he
still deserve the same pri-
vacy?
— Hung Up in Ohio
Dear Hung Up: No, he
does not. What he deserves
is the chance to rebuild your
trust, and that involves ac-
countability on his part,
which includes allowing you
access to his phone if you feel
insecure.
After 17 years together,
both of you have a large
emotional investment in
this relationship. Because of
that, it might be beneficial to
schedule some sessions with
a licensed relationship coun-
selor to figure out where it
went off the rails.
Dear Abby: I read your
column every day. I know
sometimes you suggest peo-
ple see a doctor, either med-
ical or psychological. What
do you do if you are terrified
of doctors?
I have asthma and consult
my doctor via a computer,
but some doctors (like den-
tists) can’t do that. I have
horrible panic attacks and
anxiety. Then my asthma
kicks in, I can’t breathe, and
I cry uncontrollably. I don’t
want to take medications be-
cause they make me sleepy.
Because I’m so doped up,
someone has to come with
me to the doctor to drive me
home and watch me be an
uncontrollable mess. Also,
missing a whole day of work
for a one-hour doctor ap-
pointment is, in my opinion,
ridiculous. I think I’d rather
be sick than go to the doctor.
My family insists it’s all in
my head and I should just
get over it, but because of
many horrible experiences
at doctors’ offices, which I
believe caused my fear, I just
can’t. The current situation
with the worldwide COVID
epidemic has made my anxi-
ety worse. Your thoughts?
— Terrified to Go There
Dear Terrified: My
thought is that you need to
ask your doctor or your in-
surance company for a refer-
ral to a licensed psychologist
who specializes in phobias
and panic attacks. Many
of them consult with their
patients online these days.
Once you finally get a han-
dle on that problem, the rest
will be easier. While few peo-
ple relish the idea of going to
the doctor or dentist, NOT
doing what is necessary to
protect your health can be
dangerous.
YOUR HOROSCOPE
By Madalyn Aslan
Stars show the kind of day you’ll have
õeõeõeõeõ DYNAMIC | õeõeõeõ POSITIVE | õeõeõe AVERAGE | õeõeSO-SO | õ DIFFICULT
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR TUESDAY, FEB. 9, 2021: Exciting, col-
orful and productive, you serve many people of all directions. Enthusiastical-
ly, you initiate new projects, always ready to add a different perspective. This
year, you do much reflection, and later in the year, you present life-changing
ideas. If single, it is a year of introspection and love possibilities. If attached,
love will go well and you will find a deepening in your communication. VIR-
GO cheers you up.
ARIES (March 21-April 19)
õõõ eIt9s a good day for public work, career and your Dharma. Later in the
day, community organizations will call your attention. It is an excellent day
for starting a healing path for yourself. Tonight: You have excellent communi-
ty and career opportunities.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
õõõõ eThe morning finds you in deep spiritual reflection and considering a
Continued from A5
Those who cannot: Volley-
ball and football are still wait-
ing for more state guidelines to
fully return.
Due to the state’s current in-
door restrictions, the start of
the volleyball season could start
on time, or some teams could
elect to move their seasons to
later in the year when their re-
spective counties could move
below the extreme-risk level.
As of now, with new county
risk levels set to be released
this week, roughly 50 schools
have the option of starting on
time due to being in a lower-,
moderate- or high-risk county.
Those in extreme-risk counties
may have to play later in the
spring. The board approved
“change-of-season request
forms” for volleyball.
Football teams began official
non-contact practices Monday,
but it is still uncertain if tackle
football will be allowed in the
next couple of weeks.
Contact sports — football,
basketball and wrestling —
have been prohibited, thus
making it impossible to play
under the current guidelines.
“None of (kids I’ve talked to) are interested in doing
7-on-7 or flag. I’m not trying to win a 7-on-7 state
championship or a flag football state championship.”
— Bo DeForest, La Pine football coach
During Monday’s meeting,
the OSAA made it clear that
the OHA would be releasing
new, more lenient guidelines
that could give contact sports a
chance at returning.
“They can’t prohibit (the
contact sports) any more (than
they already are),” Weber said.
Football cannot be moved
to a different season like vol-
leyball and played past May 1
because that is too close to the
start of the 2021 fall season.
And given the uncertainty of
the upcoming OHA guidelines,
there is the possibility that
parts of the state play non-con-
tact 7-on-7 football while oth-
ers play tackle, Weber said.
The OSAA has been provid-
ing information to the OHA
showing how other states who
did not play football in the fall
— such as Illinois, New York
and New Mexico — are ap-
proaching their plan to restart
football safely. Still, the decision
is left in the hands of the OHA
and the Governor’s office.
“I think this is better than
not having any football at all,”
said Curt Shelley, the 4A rep-
resentative on the executive
board and superintendent of
the Tillamook School District.
The mantra in football cir-
cles the past several months
has been “we will take what
we can get” in regards to the
sports’ return. But at La Pine
High School, the possible tran-
sition to 7-on-7 football is not
a popular one.
“None of (kids I’ve talked to)
are interested in doing 7-on-7
or flag,” said La Pine football
coach Bo DeForest. “I’m not
trying to win a 7-on-7 state
championship or a flag football
state championship.”
The non-contact version
of football, 7-on-7 passing
leagues have continued to grow
in popularity as an off-season
alternative to tackle football.
But for programs who rely on
running the football, like many
of the schools in lower clas-
sifications that do not always
have a deep quarterback pool,
7-on-7 is not enticing.
“It is just not something
that benefits us,” said DeFor-
est. “Our nuts and bolts are
old school. That is the way we
played and that’s the way we
will coach.”
The OSAA approved virtual
linemen challenges and a vir-
tual combine, which Central
Oregon teams participated in
during the fall, because line-
men do not play in 7-on-7
football.
Yet, during those contents,
teams were separated, and
while the 7-on-7 games were
played under the lights, the
linemen had their challenges in
the dark. Over time, the line-
men challenges petered out.
“Kids want to play together,
they want to work together,
they don’t want to be sepa-
rated,” DeForest said. “They
can’t cheer on each other. That
is the number one problem,
the social dynamic. Kids are
losing that.”
e e
Reporter: 541-383-0307,
brathbone@bendbulletin.com
Bucs
Continued from A5
“Hopefully we can keep the
band together, have an offsea-
son and actually know what
we’re doing (entering next sea-
son), “ Arians said. “I think the
sky’s the limit for this group.”
Brady, who won his fifth
Super Bowl MPV award, was
asked Sunday night and again
Monday where his first title
with Tampa Bay ranks with the
six he won with the Patriots. He
said every season is different
and poses different challenges,
though he finally conceded
there was something special
about what the Bucs were able
to accomplish playing through
a pandemic.
“It’s great. That’s where I rank
it. It’s been a great year, incred-
ibly fun. I think in a unique
way it was kind of like, with the
coronavirus situation and all the
protocols, it really was like foot-
ball for junkies. There was not
really a lot of other things to do
other than show up to work and
play football,” Brady said.
“If you love football this was
the year to be a player in the
NFL because that’s all it was,”
Brady added. “It was football
camp with all your buddies
year round. I really enjoyed that
part.”
Arians, 68, came out of re-
tirement two years ago, inherit-
ing a team that hadn’t made the
Gregory Bull/AP
Kansas City Chiefs quarterback Patrick Mahomes, center, is tackled by Tampa Bay Buccaneers inside linebacker
Devin White (45) and outside linebacker Jason Pierre-Paul, right, during Super Bowl 55 on Sunday.
playoffs in more than a decade.
The Bucs went 7-9 in his first
season, then hit the jackpot in
free agency when Brady de-
cided to leave New England.
Life hasn’t been the same
since.
“This was a very talented
football team last year, but we
really didn’t know how to win.
And when you bring a winner
in, and he’s running the ship, it
makes a total difference in your
locker room and every time we
step on the field,” Arians said.
“I think the leadership that
Tom brings and his attitude of
let’s go play, it’s never over till
it’s over and we’re going to win
this thing somehow, some way,
it permeated the locker room,”
the coach added. “His belief
that we’re going to do this, and
knowing he had been there and
done it, our guys believed it.
It changed our entire football
team.”
Brady said Arians, who also
has two Super Bowl rings as an
assistant coach, deserves credit,
too.
“B.A. had confidence in
us from the moment we got
started. And even when we hit
a rough patch, he never lost his
poise, he never doubted what
we could accomplish. He just
kept believing we could do it,”
the quarterback said.
“When the coach believes it,”
Brady added, “the players be-
lieve it, too.”
that she lost (seven of those
against Serena, part of the most
remarkable sibling rivalry in
sports history).
Someone who has won four
Olympic gold medals. Some-
one who has been ranked No. 1
(and currently is No. 81).
And so on and so forth.
Plus, someone who years
ago needed to learn to live with
an energy-sapping auto-im-
mune disease.
“She’s such an inspiration,
because she never gets frus-
trated about her situation,
health-wise. She’s always look-
ing on the bright side,” Serena
said after her own lopsided
first-round win at Melbourne
Park on Monday.
“Then she works so hard.
Yeah, she’s been great. We were
hitting partners for the first
two weeks, 2½ weeks, since we
were here in Australia. It was
so good to train with her. It
was so good every day,” Serena
added. “It’s also very inspiring
because she still pushes me
on a level that no one’s able to
push me, so it was incredibly
helpful.”
When the older Williams
met with the media, the sec-
ond question she received was
about whether her age is “front
of mind” for her while compet-
ing these days.
Williams volleyed right
back, creating this exchange:
“Would it be front of mind
for you, if you were playing a
professional tennis match?”
“Not necessarily.”
“There you go.”
Another well-played riposte
from Williams.
sacred journey. The afternoon will be the time to work on your career. Con-
nect with colleagues from your work and other friends. Hopes and wishes
flourish. Tonight: Special plans for spiritual retreat.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
õõõõ eIn the morning you will feel the connection to the ancestors, as well
as deep reflection within. Work on your heart, mind and soul in the after-
noon, for you9ll be spiritually inclined. You will also have a good time with the
mystery. Tonight: Spiritual reflection.
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
õõõõ eThere are deep discussions with loved ones in the morning. Hopeful
and loving times. There will be a time to reflect on ancestors and people who
have gone on. It will be an inward time as well. Tonight: Sweet, loving time
with your favorite ancestor.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)
õõõ eGo to the gym, dance or take a long walk. Improve your health by add-
ing a daily supplement or healthy herbs. Also, it9s a good time for working
with your employees and working at your job. Tonight: A loving time with
your partner and loved ones.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
õõõ eYour morning is spent on your creative path. Romance is brewing. Let
your inner child play! The afternoon will be the best time to go to the gym or
take a good walk. Tonight: Perfect for light healthy food and contemplating
your work situation.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
õõõ eThe day begins with a focus on projects in your home and or sitting
in self-reflection. The afternoon is for utilizing crafting energies, as well as
for enjoying family. Tonight: A good time to spend time with art, children or
romance.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)
õõõõõ eIt9s a good day to say what you9ve been meaning to say. The truth
is revealed. The afternoon is a very pleasant time at home and you can get
some domestic things done. Cook something good. Tonight: Sweet, with
delicious neighbor time.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
õõõõõ eThis is an excellent time to work on finances and all things that sup-
port you. You will receive great information, connection and communication
from out of town. Tonight: Adventurous, take a little trip across town for an
exotic dinner and socially distanced conversation.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)
õõõõõ eAfter some in-depth reflection, it9s time to come out and be your-
self and have the best of times. The afternoon will be a good time to work
with your finances. Tonight: Go out for dinner or get take-out and make a list
of your financial priorities.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)
õõõõ eJournal your insightful dreams from last night. Meditate and pray
this deep, receptive morning. New ideas come on strong. The afternoon is a
fun time to do something good for yourself, like paint a room or buy an out-
fit. Tonight: Get organized for the next day.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
õõõõ eYour morning time is superior for community work, friends and em-
phasizing your hopes and wishes. In the afternoon, spend time with yourself
in spiritual reflection and write your own mission statement. There will be
true psychic insights and pathfinders. Tonight: Intense daydreams.
e e
e e
Looking for local events or want to add your own? Go to bendbulletin.com/events
Questions? Call 541-383-0304 or email go@bendbulletin.com.
Venus
Continued from A5
“I’m trying to get better ev-
ery day. I think that, no matter
what happens to you in life,
you always hold your head up
high. You give a hundred, mil-
lion percent,” Williams said af-
ter compiling 10 break points
and facing merely one against
Flipkens. “That’s what I do
every single day. That’s some-
thing that I can be proud of.”
Williams went out on court
with wide strips of beige ath-
letic tape on her left knee, pro-
tection that looked something
like an asterisk.
Asked about it by a TV re-
porter afterward, Williams
deflected the query with a
joke about “decoration” and a
smile. She looked just fine in
the match, those long strides
carrying her along the base-
line, just as they have against so
many opponents over so many
years.
“I feel like whenever I see
her, it’s really amazing just to
watch, like, how much she
loves tennis. I see her smiling
so much nowadays, so it’s re-
ally nice to see. She just has this
aura of loving the sport and
this infectious energy,” three-
time Grand Slam champion
Naomi Osaka said. “I hope that
I can learn a lot from her.”
Truth be told, anyone could.
About perspective. About per-
severance. About grace.
Williams is someone who
owns seven Grand Slam titles
in singles — five at Wimble-
don, two at the U.S. Open —
and another 14 in doubles with
her sister Serena.
She’s someone who reached
nine other major singles finals
D
LIMITE
TIME
ONLY!
SAVE 25%
AT PINE TAVERN
ONLY AT
WH
SUPP ILE
L
LAST IES
!
C ENTRAL O REGON D EALS . COM
Pine Tavern has been serving up memories,
along with savory lunches and dinners,
riverside ambiance and a deep-rooted tradition
hospit
of hospitality,
since their doors opened in 1936.
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THIS 25%
OFF DEAL AND MAKE A LITTLE
HISTORY OF YOUR OWN.
Pine Tavern is currently open for outdoor dining or takeout.
$50 GIFT CARDS - JUST $37.50
ONLY 26 AVAILABLE
$100 GIFT CARDS - JUST $75
ONLY 12 AVAILABLE
THIS DEAL IS AVAILABLE EXCLUSIVELY AT
CentralOregonDeals.com
This is not a coupon. Central Oregon Deals can only be
purchased online. Gift cards will be shipped to your
address after purchase. See site for details.