THE BULLETIN • WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 27, 2021 A7
DEAR ABBY
GARDENING CORNER
Write to Dear Abby online at dearabby.com
or by mail at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069
Dear Abby: My husband
and I have been close friends
with a woman named “Lou-
ise” for five years. Recently,
we were all hanging out, and
Louise got very drunk and
tried to massage lotion into
my husband’s hands. She also
hugged him and wouldn’t let
go, although he put his hands
at his side and his whole body
stiffened.
My husband has expressed
to me that these situations
made him very uncomfort-
able, and they do the same
to me. We talked about let-
ting Louise know, but he felt
it would only make her feel
awkward around us.
It has been a month, and I
can’t seem to let it go. I don’t
want to text her, and I’m
finding excuses to avoid her.
Should I continue trying to let
this go or is a conversation in
order?
— Taken Aback in New York
Dear Taken Aback: If you
“let it go,” it will probably hap-
pen again and the friendship
will be over. A conversation
with Louise is overdue. She
needs to know she must be
more careful about her drink-
ing, because the last time she
became very drunk, she em-
barrassed not only your hus-
band, but also you.
Dear Abby: I am childless,
but I have a niece I’ve given
lots of money to over the
years. She’s in her mid-40s
with a young child and a hus-
band who has a low-paying
job.
Although she has sev-
eral degrees, she has worked
mostly as a waitress. They
live in a tiny apartment and
during these rough times, I
have been paying their rent.
She rarely acknowledges it. I
have never discussed it with
her parents, and I have no
idea how much they have (or
have not) helped her.
TRUE DEFINITIONS
I’m conflicted about helping
her/them because this is such
a tough time. I can’t see how
they’re going to make their
lives better without help. I’m
wondering if you have some
advice on how I can best assist
them or if I should stop.
— Losing Faith in Colorado
Dear Losing Faith: You ha-
ven’t spoken to your niece’s
parents about what you have
been doing. Why not? If you
do, it may give you a clearer
picture of her situation. I wish
you had been more forthcom-
ing about why she isn’t using
any of the college degrees she
has earned. If her parents are
helping her, you may need to
be doing less.
Your niece should research
to find out whether govern-
ment assistance is available.
If it isn’t, and you can afford
it, consider continuing the fi-
nancial assistance until the
COVID-19 situation is under
control. Then your niece and
her husband can get back on
their feet, and you can stop
being treated like an ATM.
Dear Abby: I have a male
best friend I adore. When I tell
other men about my bestie,
they feel intimidated because
he has a key to my apartment.
We are not dating; we just
have sex sometimes, and ev-
eryone that I try to be with
knows about him. Must I give
up on my bestie to be with the
man I love even though Bestie
and I promised each other
that we will never break our
bond for anyone?
— Complicated in Tennessee
Dear Complicated: If you
hadn’t been having sex some-
times with your bestie, the
“man you love” might have
been able to accept him. The
answer to your question is
yes, you WILL have to make
a choice. Now, the question I
have for you is, which man do
you think is the keeper?
YOUR HOROSCOPE
for the avid gardener
BY LIZ DOUVILLE
For The Bulletin
he seed orders that were
placed the first week in Janu-
ary have been received with
one exception of a tomato
variety that was sold out in mid-De-
cember. Now I fear I may be labeled
as The Wicked Witch of the West for
calling the seed company as many
times as I have for an update on the
restocking date. I asked to be put on
list to be notified but they said no to
that idea.
Next on the list is to organize the
tax file. That season is upon us al-
ready. With this chore I am easily
distracted and chose instead to go to
the book shelf and pull out one of my
favorites “A Gardeners Dictionary
(A Dictionary for Weedpullers, Slug-
crushers, & Backyard Botanists)” by
Henry Beard and Roy McKie. Over
the years I have quoted parts of the
book. The quotes never get old and
always bring a chuckle.
Artichoke — The only vegetable as
troublesome to eat as it is to grow.
Beech — Nurseryman’s technical
term for either: 1. A very difficult
landscaping job or 2. A woman su-
pervising such a job.
Birch — The list of the 10 most
common ornaments in American
front yards is headed by the canoe
birch, whose dazzling white bark is
much prized. The rest of the list: blue
spruce, dwarf red Japanese maple,
Lombardy poplar, animal figurines,
religious statuettes, gnomes, shiny
globes on pedestals and yucca plants.
Broccoli — Member of the cabbage
family grown chiefly as receptacle for
hollandaise sauce.
Brochures & Catalogs — Forms
of entertaining fiction published by
nurseries, seedsmen, and tool man-
ufactures.
Bud Union — An organization of
flower lovers.
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Cold Frame — Elaborate display
case for showing off a gardener’s col-
lection of freeze-dried specimens.
Dividing — The assignment of
separate garden sections to each
member of the family.
Forcing — The process of extract-
ing work from teen-agers.
Furrow — Horizontal line on fore-
head of gardener. See Harrowing
Garden — One of the vast number
of free outdoor restaurants operated
by charity-minded amateurs in an
effort to provide healthful, balanced
meals for insects, birds and animals.
Gin — 1. Remarkable agricultural
aid developed in the 19th century by
Yankee tinkerers. 2. Remarkable ag-
ricultural aid developed in the 18th
century by British distillers.
Green Thumb — Common condi-
tion suffered by gardeners in which
the skin of the thumb develops a
greenish hue as a result of handling
large amounts of currency at nurs-
eries.
Hardening Off — The process
the Central Oregon gardeners go
through over the years as they be-
come resigned to the possibility of
frosts in June, hail in July, frosts in
August and the killing frost in Sep-
tember that wipes out what wasn’t
wiped out in previous events. (Con-
fession: This definition is mine.)
Hardy — A plant is said to be
hardy if it remains alive in a nursery
long enough to be sold.
Harrowing — Type of gardening
experience that produces furrows.
Honesty — Very attractive tra-
ditional plant with sweet-smelling
purple and white flowers and papery
seedpods. Some new varieties of this
garden favorite are now available,
including “Deniability,” “Point-in-
Time,” “Best Recollection,” and “lim-
ited Immunity.”
Memorial Day Weekend — Tradi-
tional planting time in many parts of
the country.
Monday After the Memorial Day
Weekend — Traditional time to dig
up and dispose of plants killed by
unexpected hard frost the previous
night.
Pest — Any creature that eats
green vegetables without being com-
pelled to.
Pinching — Pruning method de-
veloped in Italian gardens
Rot — Gardening advice.
Wrest — Violent method of re-
moving weeds, often confused with
the forms of inactivity which proceed
and follow it.
Yard — 1. (Penology) Dusty open
area where hard labor is performed.
2. (Horticulture) Dusty open area
where hard labor is performed.
The coffee cup is empty, we’ve
taken time to pause and have a few
giggles, now it’s time to get organized.
By Madalyn Aslan
Stars show the kind of day you’ll have
õ õ õ õ õ DYNAMIC | õ õ õ õ POSITIVE | õ õ õ AVERAGE | õ õ SO-SO | õ DIFFICULT
Boss
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR WEDNESDAY, JAN. 27, 2021: Preco-
Continued from A5
cious, quick and playful, your talents manifest at an early age. You may have
had to grow up too quickly. This year, accepting more responsibilities, hard as
it is, assures your success. If single, you sweep others off their feet, but it takes
until 2022 to find your true soul mate. If attached, you can play Peter Pan all
you want and experience pure bliss. GEMINI is the most fun.
ARIES (March 21-April 19)
õõõõ This winter isn9t the best time for travel. Today brings substance to
long-range plans. Goals are more reachable and clearly defined. The com-
pany of the very old and the very young cheers and comforts you. Tonight:
Friendship spans the generation gap gracefully.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
õõõõõ Pursue writing. Return calls and emails. You9re more cheerful and
will be led to important sources of information, enabling you to find answers
to burning questions. Ask a blessing on goals you want to accomplish during
the year ahead. Tonight: Catch up with a neighbor.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
õõõ Today relates strongly to financial matters. Be aware of how current
trends and new conditions can impact your earning ability. Resist the temp-
tation to overspend. A relative or business associate affects your financial
situation. Tonight: Talk it over with an elderly female family member.
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
õõõõõ Always tender and sensitive, you will feel the need to be protected
from career stresses and demanding individuals and, today, harmony re-
turns. Your cherished beliefs are supported, and you create success around
your most important goals. Tonight: In wonderment.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)
õõõ Background research and testing of techniques lead to success. Devel-
op depth of concentration. Being alone will seem more enjoyable. You can
create your own bliss or misery with the power of thought. Tonight: Keep a
positive state of mind.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
õõõõõ Today makes it easy for you to promote beliefs and causes that are
meaningful to you. Team spirit is strong, and you enlist the help of associates
in realizing goals. It9s easier to make the right choices. Tonight: Communica-
tion with those you care for improves.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
õõõõ Today underscores ambition and the need for accomplishment.
Much will be expected of you. You will make plans regarding your career and
revamp an existing job or seek a new one. Steady effort and patience lead to
success. Tonight: Don9t rely on quick solutions.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)
õõõõ Your acting ability and flamboyance will be expressed in your con-
versations and emails today. Don9t adhere too closely to old habits and ideas.
New information brings a different viewpoint to the fore. Tonight: Don9t
resist the new order coming into your life.
“Walking off that field that
night I still remember one of
my football coaches put his arm
around me and said, ‘You know
what Kevin, I don’t think this
will be your last football game.’”
Boss landed on Western Or-
egon’s football and basketball
teams. After a redshirt freshman
season, Boss found himself in
the starting lineup at tight end.
The next step to the NFL was
not a sure thing.
That was until a scout was
watching film in the Western
Oregon tight end room evaluat-
ing another player on a different
team and saw flashes from No.
11 playing for the Wolves.
“It was happenstance that he
decided to watch the film in our
tight end meeting room,” Boss
recalled. “Long story short, he
is watching the film while (the
tight ends) are having a meet-
ing on the side. I remember he
turned around, looked at me
and he goes, ‘Is that you out
there, No. 11?’ And I was like
‘Yah.’ And he said: ‘You are go-
ing to play in the NFL.’”
Also discussed on Bulletin
Sports Talk was the importance
of being a multisport athlete in
a world of sports specialization
and the time he was fined by
Tom Coughlin for not wearing
thigh pads at practice during his
rookie season with the Giants.
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õõõ Put spiritual values above the practical today. Ask questions and do
research to resolve confusion. Inspirational ideas about your career path can
set you apart from the crowd at work. Don9t be upset, though, if others have
trouble understanding you. Tonight: Be very honest.
õõõõõ Today an existing relationship develops new depths of beauty and
tenderness, or you attract a new admirer. There is an end in sight to problems
that have demanded your time and attention for the past couple of years.
Tonight: Dinner with a loved one.
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AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)
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õõõõõ A new opportunity for a child makes you happy. Your creative
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