THE BULLETIN • THURSDAY, JANUARY 7, 2021 A7
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DEAR ABBY
Write to Dear Abby online at dearabby.com
or by mail at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069
Dear Abby: I came to this
country 30 years ago, at 16.
My parents were very abusive
and neglectful, so my uncle
in the U.S. took me in. I have
worked with therapists, and
my mind is clear about my
past.
I now have a 14-year-old
daughter. I do not speak to
her in my native language. It
is not very good at express-
ing love and caring, and has
more emphasis on strict hier-
archy and obedience.
There are many things I
cannot convey in my native
language. One must under-
stand the huge cultural dif-
ference between my native
country and the U.S. In ad-
dition, I do not want to force
my daughter to learn some-
thing because someone other
than her insisted. I prefer to
spend my resources helping
her learn something she is in-
terested in.
If she says she wants to
learn my native language,
I’ll teach her. So far, she has
shown no interest. My friends
criticize me for not teaching
it to her.
I’m bothered by their in-
sistence that I’m robbing
my daughter of the oppor-
tunity to learn it. How do I
tell them it is none of their
business?
— Reader in Hawaii
Dear Reader: Your daugh-
ter may not have asked to
learn your native language
because it hasn’t occurred to
her that it might one day be a
valuable asset. I do think you
should offer to teach it to her
if she’s interested in knowing
more about the culture that
shaped her mother, because
her answer might surprise
you.
That said, because your
friends’ comments bother
you, tell them that because
you don’t tell them how to
raise their children, you pre-
fer they not tell you how to
raise yours.
Dear Abby: I have a unique
problem, and if it isn’t re-
solved, I’m afraid my mar-
riage is going to end in di-
vorce.
Ten years ago, at my broth-
er-in-law’s wedding, I was
left in charge of the bar. I got
drunk and made a fool of
myself.
This included overtly flirt-
ing with one of the brides-
maids. I’m incredibly sorry
about the embarrassment it
caused my wife.
Fast-forward to today: My
wife has accused me of inap-
propriate behavior and hun-
dreds of affairs that never
happened. I have been faith-
ful to her since we started
dating.
She goes through my busi-
ness phone and accuses me
and my professional contacts
of sexual behavior. I have
offered to take a polygraph
exam, but she continues to
accuse me of infidelity.
I’m at my wits’ end, and
marriage counseling isn’t an
option.
— Not Fooling Around in Maine
Dear Not Fooling: Mar-
riage counseling may not be
an option for you and your
wife, but YOU should defi-
nitely consult a licensed psy-
chotherapist. Something is
not right with your wife. Is
it possible that the wedding
incident so severely unbal-
anced her that she has never
recovered?
What you have described is
a miserable existence for both
of you. That it has gone unre-
solved for a decade is tragic.
Where you need to go from
here I cannot decide for you,
but a therapist may be able to
guide you.
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR THURSDAY, JAN. 7, 2021: Unusual,
sensitive and ironic, you have a piercing insight that you use to tremendous
success this year. You see much that escapes others and your idiosyncratic
approach assures a project’s longevity. If single, expect interesting turns,
twists and revelations. You meet your mate in September. If attached, you
should have a stable love life, shared with one who appreciates your unique
imagination. LEO inspires you to new interests and adventures.
ARIES (March 21-April 19)
õõõõõ It is going to be a mysterious day, emphasizing the need to be dis-
creet and to do research. A touch of secrecy at the right time assures success.
There’s a new intensity to your desires and feelings. Tonight: Read or watch a
romantic drama.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
õõõõ Others shower you with attention and involve you in their future
plans. Express enthusiasm and team spirit to assure success. Legal matters
will work in your favor. Tell your partner how much he or she means to you.
Tonight: Keep it light and funny.
Can Oregon earn its first win at Colorado?
Next up
BY JAMES CREPEA
The Oregonian
EUGENE — Oregon returns
to its least welcoming road
venue Thursday afternoon
to take on a Colorado team it
simply can’t beat on the road.
The No. 17 Ducks (8-1, 3-0
Pac-12) have never won at the
CU Events Center in seven
trips since the Buffaloes joined
the Pac-12 and in nine trips to
Boulder all-time.
Colorado (7-3, 1-2) usually
has one of the best home court
advantages in college basket-
ball and while it still holds true
this season, the 11,064-seat
arena will be empty Thursday
(2 p.m., FS1) and take a typi-
cally raucous crowd out of the
equation.
“Let’s put it this way, it can’t
hurt us,” Oregon coach Dana
Altman said. “We’re 0 for 7 try-
ing it with a crowd, let’s try it
without.”
Regardless of circumstance,
Oregon has struggled at Col-
orado.
Two seasons ago, the Ducks
had a horrific shooting perfor-
mance. Last season, then-No.
4 UO lost 74-65 as Payton
Pritchard was called upon to
do it all for a lineup that was
No. 17 Oregon
at Colorado
When: 2 p.m.
Thursday
TV: FS1
Andy Nelson/AP
Oregon guard Chris Duarte (5) shoots a 3-pointer against Stanford
Saturday in Eugene. Duarte will square off with star Buffaloes guard
McKinley Wright IV on Thursday.
the healthiest it had been all
season yet was ineffective.
The same has been true
when Colorado visits Eugene,
where it’s 1-6.
“We’ve had some battles,”
Colorado coach Tad Boyle
said. “I remember Nate Tom-
linson, his first year in the
league (2011-12) he had to
make a runner at the buzzer
that was kind of a controver-
sial call. I remember Dana not
being too happy with it. That
was a one-possession game,
could’ve gone either way. We’ve
had some battles in Eugene as
well like that. But for the most
part they’ve man-handled us in
Eugene, we’ve done the same
way here. I don’t know why.”
Thursday’s game will fea-
ture two of the better individ-
ual matchups the Pac-12 will
offer this season as Colora-
do’s McKinley Wright IV and
Oregon’s Chris Duarte will be
head-to-head at guard and Eu-
gene Omoruyi and Evan Battey
should be a physical duel in the
“We want to do things
to help make change, be
on the right side of the
fight, continue to fight, not
be in any way, shape or
form distracted or slowed
or moved in the wrong
direction.”
Protest
Continued from A5
The joint Heat-Celtics state-
ment said, in part: “2021 is a
new year, but some things have
not changed. We play tonight’s
game with a heavy heart after
yesterday’s decision in Keno-
sha, and knowing that protest-
ers in our nation’s capital are
treated differently by political
leaders depending on what side
of certain issues they are on.”
The Celtics discussed the
Blake decision earlier in the
day, before the events from the
Capitol unfolded. The Celtics
then met again as a team after
arriving at the arena in Miami,
where many televisions in the
locker room areas — normally
on sports channels — were on
the news.
“They’ve operated in a win-
at-all-costs attitude,” Celtics
coach Brad Stevens said of
Trump’s administration. “I
don’t know, our sports world is
a lot less important, obviously.
But I’ve always thought if you
operated with a win-at-all-costs
attitude, it’s going to be a pretty
unfulfilling ending. And in this
situation, a disgraceful ending.
So, I’m looking forward to two
weeks from now, as I know a
lot of other people are, too.”
Biden will be inaugurated
two weeks from Wednesday,
on Jan. 20.
The Bucks won the opening
tap of their game, and instead
posts.
Wright (15.5 points, 5.2 as-
sists, 4.5 rebounds) is one of
the best players in the Pac-12
and a mainstay in the series
who is well aware of the home
team’s dominance.
Oregon’s roster is over-
whelmingly newer players to
the program, who haven’t nec-
essarily been on the losing end
of the hallway in Boulder mul-
tiple times.
“The guys that are in the
Oregon uniforms, they prob-
ably know it because Coach
Altman’s probably told them
about it and challenged them
with it, but they don’t really
care what’s happened three,
four, five or six years ago,”
Boyle said. “Quite frankly, our
guys know about it, but it has
no bearing on this year’s game I
can tell you that. Because who-
ever plays the best on Thursday
… is going to win. Whoever
battles and executes and does
the things it takes to win.”
— Mike Budenholzer, coach of
the Milwaukee Bucks
of running a play two-time
reigning NBA MVP Giannis
Antetokounmpo simply held
the ball as all players knelt.
That resulted in a turnover, as
did the ensuing Detroit posses-
sion when Blake Griffin held
the ball and players took a knee
again.
“We want to do things to
help make change, be on the
right side of the fight, continue
to fight, not be in any way,
shape or form distracted or
slowed or moved in the wrong
direction,” Bucks coach Mike
Budenholzer said. “We need
to keep moving forward in all
ways, shapes and forms.”
Meanwhile, a men’s college
basketball game scheduled to
be played in Washington on
Wednesday night was post-
poned after a city curfew was
imposed in response to the
mob’s actions at the Capitol.
The Atlantic 10 Conference
game between George Wash-
ington and UMass will be re-
scheduled by the league.
There were 11 games on
Wednesday’s NBA schedule.
“It feels a little odd to play
a game tonight, to be honest,”
Charlotte coach James Borrego
said before his club played in
Atlanta.
Philadelphia coach Doc
Rivers, who is Black, spoke of
the stark difference between
rallies across America last
summer that often included
violent skirmishes between
protesters and police and what
he watched at the Capitol on
Wednesday.
“The symbolism of storm-
ing the Capitol without force
done to them, if you’re a Black
American, it definitely touches
you in a different way,” Rivers
said. “This is not a Black thing.
This is an American thing.”
I expect Portland will still
win games in spurts this sea-
son. The Blazers won’t be bor-
ing, but also they aren’t a true
threat to win big. Any good
GM might consider shaking up
the roster with a shape-shifting
trade, but that would mean Ol-
shey admitting he was wrong
about some of his prized draft
picks and off-season signings.
Any other coach wouldn’t first
point a finger at the locker
room, but that’s what Stotts es-
sentially did.
Allen bought the Blazers
in 1988 and stuck with coach
Mike Dunleavy through 296
games. He gave Maurice
Cheeks 301 before firing him.
Nate McMillan got 535 games
to try to win. Stotts is now on
game No. 648 — and counting.
Stotts’ playoff record in Port-
land: 20-36. Same record for
Olshey. I’d like to see some-
thing else soon enough. Maybe
it’s just me but I left Tuesday
night’s game thinking, “What
would Paul do?” Because his
old basketball franchise has
gone stale and that starts with
the coach and GM.
Marta Lavandier/AP
The Boston Celtics team kneels during the playing of the national an-
them before Wednesday night’s game against the Miami Heat in Miami.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
õõõ You might find that a nagging worry was just a false alarm. New faces
appear and long-time associates are ready to move on. Be cautious with
changes in health care and your fitness regime. Allow yourself plenty of rest.
Tonight: Taking it easy.
Blazers
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
Continued from A5
õõõõ An important involvement reaches a turning point today. There
He desperately wants to be
known as a draft-day guru.
He hit a home run on Lillard,
who the franchise had already
scouted and identified before
Olshey was even hired. But his
marginal picks and misfires of-
ten get too much patience, too
many minutes, and too much
money. Olshey’s vanity has
hamstrung the overall effort.
Team president Chris
McGowan is a keeper. He’s
shrewd, smart and respected.
That he’s been promoted to
CEO of Vulcan Sports came as
no surprise to anyone who has
worked closely with him. But
the business side of the Blaz-
ers has better energy and ideas
than the basketball side.
Where is the Blazers’ fran-
chise going?
That’s become a fair question
for fans to raise. Lillard turns 31
this summer. His salary jumps
from $31.6 million this season
to $43.8 million next season.
McCollum will make $30.8
million next season. There’s a
hefty bill coming due and just
qualifying for the playoffs isn’t
good enough anymore.
When Olshey ran back Enes
Kanter, Jusuf Nurkic and Car-
melo Anthony this season, it
felt as if it was stuck on repeat.
Stotts has a good offensive
mind, but the Blazers allowed
the Bulls to score 66 points
in the second half on Tues-
day. Worst of all, nobody was
shocked by it.
could be an upbeat, whirlwind quality to romance. A cherished bond grows
and matures. An old love is rekindled, but for good or ill the same patterns
repeat in a relationship. Tonight: Pondering.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)
õõõõõ Your family life and residence are a focus. Examine options and
make final decisions today about your home and living arrangements. You
will be aware of how family life has evolved over the past year. Tonight: A
childhood trauma is put to rest.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
õõõõõ Today generates marvelous growth. You will be able to analyze
your surroundings and improve your life in practical ways. Casual conversa-
tions or news stories could be a catalyst for a new opportunity. You sense a
time of rebirth and renewal. Tonight: React quickly to assure success.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
õõ You’ll want to resolve your monies and complete financial planning. It
is not a good time to encourage communion with the spirit world. Ignore
ghost stories. Dwell on the tangible. Tonight: Relax with a good book, by the
fire if you can.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)
õõõõõ You are dynamic and at the center of activity. Winter sports and
innovations in your approach to work will be in focus. Success comes your
way if you combine a friendly charm with professional expertise. Tonight:
The personal touch carries you a long way.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
õõõõ Your day opens with an elusive and enchanting mood. Psychic sensi-
tivities are opening. A creative outlet is healthy. Honesty is a must. It’s a good
day to investigate myths and magic. You might find something profitable for
yourself. Tonight: Early beddie-byes.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)
õõõõõ You feel drawn into community life and service organizations. Your
world widens, promising tremendous growth. Reflect upon the developing
potential. Pursue future travel opportunities for when it is safe to travel. To-
night: You will bask in your joyful accomplishments.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)
õõ Today brings changing dynamics regarding professional aspirations.
A touch of humor and tolerance helps you make the best of complex situ-
ations. Diplomacy is a must in coping with complex social situations. This
softens tensions and dissolves a problem. Tonight: Relax.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
õõõõõ Today accents awareness of how the world situation impacts you
personally. Analyze how shifting economic trends and social issues can best
be adapted to your own priorities. You clarify goals and attract associates
who are catalysts for advancement. Tonight: Celebrate.